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my best best best friend is moving to eather London or Dubai! im really upset and most days of the week i end up crying at night. theres absolutaly nothing i can do about it. its a definate and i only have one more month with her. who knew our 7 year friend ship would come to a end. im so upset. please help

Aww im sorry. I know how hard it is. My best friend moved about a year ago too. Your friend ship wont come to an end. My friend has been gone for a year and it seems like she never left. Just keep in touch. Try to vist maybe once a year. I know its hard but while she is here you have to be strong around her. It is just as hard for her and if she sees you crying and being upst she will too. Just dont worry. Atleast you had a great 7 years and great memories.

Jess

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Im 13/female and in school, im not really one of the popular people and i really want to be. What are some things i can do to get them to accepted me???

DO you really wanna be in the popular crowd? Are you gonna leave all of your other friends just to be with them? You should probably think about it all before you go and ne baest friends with the "popular" kids. I mean you can do whever you want nobody is holding you back. But one you loose old friends there hard to get back. Most of the "popular" people really arent that nice (no offence) but they get into lots of drama and do you really wanna deal with al that? I would say just be yourself. Pople should like you for you. Sorry that wasnt much advise to you question but that what i had to say.

xoxJess

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I am having this after party after my school dance and a lot of people are coming. Except this one girl, she has been so rude and mean and bitchy to me and she NEVER talks to me. But now she expects to be invited. Her two freinds who were invited, (who i'm freinds with) won't come unless she is invited, and I want them to come. My question is, should I invite this girl and be the bigger person? Or not invite her?

If you dont want her there dont invite her. IF the other two grils arent gonna go because she isnt going then who cares. They will regret it later when there sittin at homee bored and your having a partyyyy!

xoxJess

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i'm really shy and i have been for like ever.

i'm always known as just the "shy one" and i'm really sick of it. im not shy in front of people im comfortable around and people that im frends with, but im shy around big groups of people and just cant get over it!

i really wana b outgoing and everything even in front of people i dont really know and in front of large groups, but how?

please helpp!!!

Well Normaly the reason people are shy is because they are scared of what other people will think about them. So just dont care. Let free and just act like you would if nobodty is watching. Unfortanatly advice cant change how shy you are you have to just do it.

xoxJess

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Ok so I have this friend, let's call her Sammy ok? So Sammy recently has started like leaving me and kinda ignoring me. Today she even started hanging out with my enemy! Like 2 weeks ago we started hanging out with a girl named Natasha and ever since she has been doing all these things. Oh and I already talked to her a billion times. It's like she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. Should I just start hanging out with different people?

Yea you might just wanna stop being friends. She probaly just doesnt want to be your friend but she doent wanna be really mean baout it so she is tryin to just give hints and hope you relize it. It might hurt but sometimes you have to let poeple go.

xoxJess

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I've decided to have a good sized party at the end of the year, but I stink at knowing exactly who to invite. I mean, I know my best friend and my other really close friends but here are some questions...

Do I invite the guy I like? We are pretty good friends but he's not really part of the group.

Do I invite my friend who only like seven people in our group don't make fun of?

Do I invite this girl I hate but is in my group? If I don't, I feel bad because I'm inviting all of her friends.

Well for the guy you like, if you really want him to go maybe say he could bring one of his friends so he wont be totaly alone. Or just dont invite him at all, unless he is comfortable being with everyone else.

Your friend, yea invite her. Not everyone gets along with everyone. Just tell your other friedns if you dont like her just ignore her, dont make a big scene about it.

The girl you dont like. If she knows you dont like her then she shouldnt be exspecting to go. If you are just pretending to like her to be nice then you dont have to.

Its really all up to you so just do whatever your comfortable with.

xoxJess

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About 3 years ago a girl that I thought was a close friend of mine did something quite mean to me. She uninvited me to her sons first birthday party and told me over a nasty email. She claimed that the last time I was over at her appartment I laughed and thought my behavior was "extremely rude". She also told me she didnt' want to be my friend anymore. I was really upset and sent an emailing apologizing (although I wasnt sure what for). She never responded. I was really hurt at first because I had been a good friend to her.
Well that was 3 years ago and I've moved on and have new friends and a new job now.
Yesterday when I was at work in the shoe aisle at the superstore I work in she was walking down the aisle with her son in a cart. I ignored her because I thought she still hated me. I thought she'd ignore me to but she actually said hi to me. I said hi back and she introduced me to her son. Then she asked if I liked my job. I said yes and then she said she'd see me around. But the thing is I don't think she was sincere because she had a scowl on her face when she first started talking to me.
Does anyone have any idea as to what her intentions are? I don't trust her after what she did and am scared to be her friend again. Why would she start being nice to me again after being so mean 3 years ago? If anyone had any advice I'd really appreciate it. Thanks!

Well maybe she was just being nice. Like she doesnt want to live with never talking to you ever again, but she doesnt want to be in a fight with you if you know what i mean. Maybe you shoud talk to her again just to straighten it all out and then whatever happens, happens.

xoxJess

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female-14 ok so im friends with two different cliques.. all of my friends are nice to me.. but one of my friendsis different for.. me and this friends have ben best friends forever!! we do everything together, and shes the one i always come to to talk to.. but it feels now that we're in middle school shes getting into being cool.. she has to be cool, and latley she hasnt been hanging around with me at school anymore.. she will at my house but not at school....... please help me!! i dont no what to do.. i feel like im loosing a friend

Well sometimes that is just what happens. When i got into highschool i lost alot of friends. Some of them moved some of them went to differnt schools and some we just lost interset in each other. Its really hard, iknow. Just invite her over some day and talk to her about it. Tell her that you want to be friedns but feel like yout loosing each other. If she is really all about being popular then you might just have to give up. jsut keep being you and you will find plently of other good friends.

xoxJess

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ok... my friends ALWAYS do things during the weekends but NEVER invite meh, and i`m sitting here crying rite now because my friends are out right now and i`m home BOREd! this is the 4th weekend in a row that they`ve done this to meh...... WHAT DO I DO??

make plans with them before they get a chance to make plans with someone else.

xoxjess

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I guess I got myself mixed in the wrong crowd. I want to make friends with new people but I feel I dont fit in with them. How can I slowly fit in with them?

If you feel awkard around then then dont be friends with them .Yea its hard to make new friedns but you dont wanna be being someone your not just to fit in with people.

xoxJess

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ok... yea.. i have this friend that i like alot and he knows that i do adn i was told that he said that he dont like anyone at the moment but when ever we go out to lunch and stuff cuz z group of friends and me go out to lunch from school, he like sits next to me and it seems like he flirts with me and stuff.... adn i like him alot but i dont know if he likes me and i want to go out with him.. so what should i do??? by the way im 16 adn female

Just because he doesnt "like' anyone doesnt mean he wont go out with someone. Just aks to hang out alone sometime. Then start to show more of how you really feel tward him.

xoxJess

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all my friends are annoying me - they're not different or anything. They're not mean. But for some reason, I suddenly hate them all. I don't want to hang out with them, I hate talking to them. I do everything to avoid them. All of them. I hate my school. Yet I hate being at home. I just hate everything. I hate people. does that sound weird? Like PEOPLE annoy me. I don't want to be alone, but I just really don't want to be with anyone I knwo right now. What can I do to get rid of this feeling? Iäve had it for about 1 month and its pushing all my friends away..

It probably just phase or somthing. I know how you feel. Sometimes i just wanna sit back and not have to deal with people. Its okay. Just take a break from all the stuff going on right now. Youll get over it son and go backto being your normall self again. Then you can just explain to your friedns what was going on and they should understand.

xoxJess

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Is it wrong that I never tell my "best friends" anything anymore?


Whenever I do tell them something, they end up telling their other really good friend who tells someone else, who then tells other people and the next thing I know, I'm walking into Best Buy and the guy at the register asks me about what I did with who at what party a few weekends ago. True story..that really did happen. Kinda funny but I was pissed as a mofo.


Now that I don't talk to them about anything serious, they get all mad. But why should I tell them things when the rest of the world is just going to find out about it?


I don't want to loose them as friends because they're still fun and everything so I just figured okay, I'll still hang out with them but not tell them anything that I would rather keep between us. But, turns out that they don't like that.


What should I do? Just ditch them?

Tell tham whatever you wantor dont want. You dont have to tell them stuff just cause there your best friend. Some things are better kept to themselfs. I dont think you should ditch them. Just stop telling them stuff that you dont want them to know. If they get mad at your for that there not very good friends anyway.

xoxJess

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ok so me and my "bestfriend" ashley have been friends for a couple years now and we grew apart so much but she told my friend jen that she doesnt think we grew apart at all but i dont no what to do to let her no that i dont think we should be friends anymore its not that shes mean or i want to pick a fight i just dont have fun with her anymore i get so bored when im at her house so i need to find out how to not hurt her feelings or get in a fight and ill rate 5s as long as you dont say talk to her cause that will hurt her feelings

Just like start to not be as friendly with her/. LIke dont be mean but dont e-mail her or call her or hang out stuff like that. Then she will probably come to you and be like do you not wanna be friends. And then just explain to her.

xoxJess

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Should i tell my bestfriend about my period? I'm not sure. We tell each pther every one of our secrets

If your comfortable tellin herthen go ahead. It totaly normall cuase every girl gets it.

-xoxJess

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My 2 best friends [who arent even that good of friends with each other] went out last night with a few guys and this girl who are considered cool. My friend invited me to go, but I didnt want to because i wasnt exactly invited by the others. So my best friend went and asked my other friend, and they went and had a BLAST. they then had a sleepover afterwards and couldnt stop repeating how FUN it was. It got me pretty pissed, and they left a message on my fone saying that they didnt think we could be friends anymore because we get in to many fights? Im not sure if they were kidding but I dont know what to do. My friend is really not that social, but over AIM last nite she basically told me that she was sooo cool becuase she is friends with them and im not. what do i do. i need advice.

Get over them. They are not that good of friends if they are gonna lwave you just so they can be "cool". Friends arent about being cool. Sooner or later they will probably relize that there "cool" friends arent that "cool" to them. Sometimes it tough to loose friends but it happens. There are plenty more better people then the kind that strop being friends so they can be cool.

-xoxJess

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14/f. jonathon, my best guy friend, has been acting like a jerk to me the past few weeks. i got mad about it, and we kind of stayed away from each other for a few days. he and i were really close before then and told each other everything. as soon as jonathon and i quit talking for awhile, sarah, my other best friend, started hanging around him and he apparently "replaced" me with her in the sense that he began to tell her everything and stuff (his "depressing" life story and the big part that i played in it). so last night jonathon and i resolved our issues, and he told me that there's no excuse for the way he's been treating me, but the only reason that he's been weird is that he has a major crush on me and kind of doesn't know how to act around me right now because he likes me but doesn't want to scare me off (we had talked about not dating anybody until high school, so even if we like each other we kind of vowed to just stay friends). so now things are kind of how they used to be (after we were "cool" again, he asked me to this big banquet for next year as friends and i said okay). now i'm hoping that things are going to be just the way they were before. but, i'm worried that he's replaced me with sarah as somebody to talk to. do y'all think that i'm overreacting? by the way, i don't like him in that way, he's just my best friend. do you think that maybe he started hanging around sarah more to make me jealous or something?

He probably just needed sarah at that time becuase he didnt have you to talk to. Im sure it will be all fine again now that your friens. You could just ask him what was up wiht that and if it wil go back to the way it use to be.

-xoxJess

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if you like someone but have a bf/gf is it considered cheating? jw.

no not unless you like kiss them or do stuff like that.

-xoxJess

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So this is a last minute kind of deal, but I have a friend who is supposed to come over. My mom went out for a while, but i have no idea when she is coming back, or any way of calling her. Last time I talked to my mom she said if my friend comes over she'll have to get a ride. My friend found a ride, but I don't know whether I should tell her to come over or not. My mom DID say she could come over.

I say have her over. Your mom never said you couldnt. All she said was she needed a ride.

-xoxJess

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so my friends having a party and he invited all of my friends, except me..what should i do? should i confront him? or just leave it go?

PS.
it made me mad to know he did this but w/e

Just go up and be like I was just wondering why i didnt get invited to the party. Dont mad though.

-Jess

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