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Friends who think they are cool.
My 2 best friends [who arent even that good of friends with each other] went out last night with a few guys and this girl who are considered cool. My friend invited me to go, but I didnt want to because i wasnt exactly invited by the others. So my best friend went and asked my other friend, and they went and had a BLAST. they then had a sleepover afterwards and couldnt stop repeating how FUN it was. It got me pretty pissed, and they left a message on my fone saying that they didnt think we could be friends anymore because we get in to many fights? Im not sure if they were kidding but I dont know what to do. My friend is really not that social, but over AIM last nite she basically told me that she was sooo cool becuase she is friends with them and im not. what do i do. i need advice.
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those girls are mean and superficial. they're getting big heads because they think they hung out with "cool people". if you really can't bear the thought of losing them, i would talk to them. but it sounds liek they're just being rude & mean and if i were you, iwould start to find other friends that i could hang out with more. that message on your phone.. if it wasn't a joke, and even if it was, that is so rude. really, i think you should try and develop better friendships w/ other people. they're getting big heads because they hung out w/ "cool people" which is superficial and dumb. and dont worry, what goes around comes around and pretty soon maybe those "cool people" will dump your friends. basically, just distance yourself from them and try to develop better relationships w/ other friends. <3 good luck.
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Well ohkay the thing is i have friends who can never be happy for me when i tell them good things, and when i dont they get pissed. they always put me down and brag about everything they do. if this sounds like your freinds i suggest you make new ones..i cant get out of my situation an di am miserable. they want to make me jelous but it doesnt really work it just makes me feel like they dont care about me..they also take advangtage of me..i would give it some time and dont talk to them maybe let them no in a type of way that your hurting becasue of what they said. find a new group of people to hang out with at least for a while you may find you like them alot better...
dont end up like me i have no real yfriends and everyone i hang out with is completely rude...and i have depression dont let this happen to you
Tawny
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You were invited and didn't go... I understand why you didnt.
If you friend isn't very social, obviously she is in shock from hanging out with people far cooler than she. She'll get over it. Just don't be rude to her, take it. Or, just hang out next time with them.
**EDIT** No. Not because they're 'cool'. Cool is merely the recognition of a status. Anyone can view their own way. I said to do that because it sounded like you might have wanted to.
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They seem REALLY mean first off. And if I was you I would quickly make new friends. And kind of ignore those two. I def. wouldnt start fighting w/ them and i wouldnt make it seem like you didnt want to me friends w/ them anymore, because by the way they seem they'd prob just make a huge deal out of nothing & turn it in to some un-needed drama. But make new friends. I dont know what grade your in, but coolness doesnt last very long in school for the most part. Dont let them know that they got to you tho, thats what they wanted when they left that mean message on your phone. But yeah your in a hard situation, you obviously dont wanna start anything but you dont wanna just take it. BUT WHATEVER YOU DO, once you get other friends.. and when they wanna be friends w/ you again, dont go back. Their not worth it, and they dont seem like the kind of friends that would stay by your side and be there for you. Well good luck :]
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Get over them. They are not that good of friends if they are gonna lwave you just so they can be "cool". Friends arent about being cool. Sooner or later they will probably relize that there "cool" friends arent that "cool" to them. Sometimes it tough to loose friends but it happens. There are plenty more better people then the kind that strop being friends so they can be cool.
-xoxJess
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