hey im molly (duh.. the headline thingy) lol anyways im a hardcore swimming.. those of you who know me know that.. i play guitar.. i love my friends TO DEATH! i couldnt live without um. i like to give advice so any question youve got.. ill answere!!!!
-- molly
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So I'm really really shy when it come to guys. I'm fifteen and there's this guy I like and I think he might like me too. I was going to ask him to Sadie Hawkins.
Any ideas for how to do this without being a dork? (link)
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theres no special way you really can do it and don't worry you wont look like a dork. be confident and just go up to him and be like hey want to go to the dance with me? and do it before its too late or else someone else might ask him
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so at school i am very shy with my boyfriend but i will kind of talk to him, but as soon as i try to talk to him on thee phone i cant so i just never pick up his calls. i feel absolutely horrible but how do i make myself more confident for being able to talk on the phone? thank you! (link)
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instead of thinking your talking to your boyfriend think its just one of your friends. youll probably be able to talk a lot more freely that way (but dont talk too freely like dont say peersonal stuff youd say with ur friends) and this should help you loosen up. i hope i helped. if you need anything else ask!!
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i have a fish tank (a 10 gallon with little fish like guppies and goldfish and kissing fish)
so, i was wondering, could turtles live in there or not? (link)
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i have a fish tank with one fish and a turtle so yes turtles can. i sugges a little baby turtle but remember turtles get to be bigger so maybe take the turtle to a lake when it gets to big and let it go. unless you get a smaller turtle. if you want a turtle in there then get a ledge at the pet store for turtles. it has suction cups on it so it sticks to the fish tanks wall. hope i helpes =]
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ok now that you didnt answer my question, its getting pretty serious now.im like really into my pregnancy and its like weiighing me down like i keep tilting and falling on my face which prolly isnt good for the baby.my parestn dont acexpt the fact that im pregant becase they think its impossible for a guy to get pregnantso taht doesnt help..but i think i might cuz my stomach off to make it go away. is that good? what do you think i should do??? please answer asap or else i might do something stupdi ahh HELP! (link)
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well since your a guy you wont be able to have the baby so i dont know what to tell you. maybe have the baby taken out when its time to give birth. i dont no do they do that???? good luck!!
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ok so i took a pregnancy test and it sad i was pregnant. did i mention im a 15 year- old guy?! i dont no how it happened cuz ive never had sex before... please help... ive always been an "inshape" guy but now... im FAT! like huge!!! and i never knew that pregnancy is this hard!!!! plz help!! my stomach is like bigger than my head. soooo...what do i do? should i like cut off my stomach? HELP!! (link)
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i love amy and kayla!!!
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Okay well i have this friend who iv been friends with a really long time but last year she started acting really different then the usual her. I figured it would go away and it did but then a guy asked her out and she said yes. Now she almost never hangs out around us and is always talking about him. One of his friends told usd that he said he only likes here for her looks and doesnt care about her, we told her but she didnt belive us. Plus all of her friends including me hate him and were begining to think of her less and less as a true friend. I tried to talk to her but she just gets mad me and my friends want to get together and have a group conversation but we all know she will think were ganging up on her. One day she told me that all of us were bugging her and she wanted to figure it out and talk. well i thougt great we can finally all sit down and talk about but then she said but u vccant tell anyone or ill be really mad and we cant sit down as a group because ill get mad and yell. i tried to convince her to let me try to tell my other friends but she thought it would be gossip the next day. I really used to love this friend but if she doesnt change i dont know if well still be friends. (link)
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okay seriously people you have so say what your question is!!!! future referance!! geezy, okay well i dont no what to say since there was no question asked so comment again with a question thank you =]
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this summer I'm supposed to go see this music producer guy so I could sing for him. The biggest of my worries is that I have a MAJOR problem with stagefright. Once in kindergarten I was standing on the stage in the auditorium doing a play. When I was walking off the stage, I tripped and fell flat on my face and all I could hear was everyone laughing at me. Ever since then I've been terrified to do anything in front of people that aren't my family. Can you please help me? (link)
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oaky, im so sorry that that happened, but that was a LONG time ago so you have to try to let it go. what helped me with stagefright was just performing infront of people, it doesnt necesarly have to be singing it could be like acting or dancing. this will help you, because i know for a fact, it helped me, because in my theater class we had to perform infront of the class a lot and at the beginning of the year i was TERRIFIED! but then towards the end i wasnt even scared (except for a little nerves but thats totally natural for EVERYONE)! so yeah just try that. i hope i helped and good luck!!
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ok well i have all these bumps all over the back of my thighs and on my but i dont no why they are there but i dont like it ,,how can i get rid of them?
i rate 5s (link)
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this could be exema, i think i spelled that right, and there is medicine for it, but it might not be, you should see a doctor, its nothing to worry about, but still see a dermotologist,, hope i helped
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well i likked this guy...lets say joesph and my friend liked him 2...lets say her name is jessica...so..joesph asked me out and i said yes..jessica is just a mean ass...excuse my language...and she got all pissed cause i said yes...anyways like...2 weeks later jessica went so low she toldd joesph that i didnt like him!! but i was absouloutly in LOVE with him!! so...as gullabul as he is he believed her and dumped me 2 go out with her!!!And then...u know wut she does?? she dumps him like 3 weeks later!! should i still be friends with jessica after wut sh did?
thanks!! (link)
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if your questioning your friendsship then im not sure, because that wasnt very nice of her to do, maybe if you can work it out then if she seams like a very good friend that you would be sad to lose than maybe you should fight for her but if she has been mean before then id say just maybe tell her how it made you feel.. also if she says what the heck then i dont think its going to work out hunn sorry
i hope it works out for you and ask more questions if you have them!! love you..
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ok, so i have this really good friend. we'll call her suzy. and suzy always wants attention, so she like acts all loud and stuff and thats just how she is. but this time i feel like she went over the line. today we were all hanging out at a friends house, and our guy friends were there two, one of them i kinda like. so like i was wearing a thong and she knew i was wearing one because im wearing gouchos and your supposed to wear a thong with gouchos so theres no underwear line, ya know? and so she pantsed me in front of all the guys and their jaws just dropped and i turned bright red and pulled up my pants and ran away as fast as i could and sat there in a corner for 3 hours. i couldnt show my face to them. i felt so humiliated and i wanted to cry, but i wouldnt let myself. so then she didnt even talk to my for the rest of the night and she just gave me dirty looks like i did something wrong.and now i dont know, should i just act like nothing happened and move on? im in a fight with her rght now online, and she keeps on being like "it was a joke, why are you getting all mad?" and all my other girl friends are on my side. what should i do? (link)
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personally this *suzy* girl to me doesnt sound like friend material. no true friend would do that. im so sorry about that happening because i know that i would just feel terrible. but if all of your other friends are on your side i dont know, do you still want to be friends with *suzy*? because if not then stop your friendship but if you want to fight for her friendship then do. but make sure if you remain friends to tell her how you felt and maybe she'll understand. and tell her never to do the things she did to you again because they can hurt. and tell her if she doesnt get that then maybe you shouldnt be friends. or if you really hate her you could pants her in a public place while she has gouchos on, jk because thats mean. so i hope i helped, tell me how it all works out and ask me if you need any more advice. -- molly
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next month, i have a dance rehersal, and i have stage fright. last week we had a rehersal, and i was nervous even with just people from my dance studio, and most of them were even younger than me. how am i gunna perform in front of a ton of people when im nervous just doing that?? any ideas?
thanks xo (link)
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okay well i used to have stage fright to but in my theater class we did a lot of things where we had to perform infront of eachother. i was just like you, i was afraid to even go infront of a few people. but by the end of the semester i was over my stage frights so what i suggest you do is perform (sing/act/dance) infront of people constantly, it could be infront of friends, family, or people in your dance class. trust me after a little while you will be rid of your stage fright, hope i helped! love ya
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I shaved my legs the other day and they were smooth and nothing was wrong. About an hour later, when i was at the pool, i noticed there was razor bump looking things on my legs.
They are red and itchy. I don't know what they are or how i can get rid of them. What dooo i do? (link)
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okay its simple you just got razor burn, so next time you shave make sure (this is critical) that you put a lotion like vaseline intensive care (works good for me) on your legs after you shave. you can probably get it at any drugstore/k-mart/target but most likely the drugstore so try that. im sorry you had to go through that it isnt fun at all and it hurts. so make sure to put lotion on next time! hope i helped!
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Okay. So my two best friends, well, aren't anymore. Let's just call them Jess & Sara. So me & Sara had been best friends since kdg. and me & Jess had been friends since 6th grade or something so it was a few years. This year, the three of us started hanging out a lot and pretty soon Jess was always picking Sara over me, like I was invisible whenever I was around the two of them. So I wrote Jess a note saying how I felt and how yeah, so then Jess wrote back this really mean nasty note saying how she didn't wanna be my friend anymore, blah blah blah. So then Sara took Jess's side even though I wasn't made at Sara for anything, and we didn't talk for a few weeks. Then Sara instant messaged me saying she wants to be my friend and stuff & I said that No I dont think it's going to work, like you just don't throw away that many years of friendship. Then a week or two later, she instant messaged me again saying how she was 'sick of being in the middle between friends and not friends' when I had clearly told her that I didn't want to be. I told her that it was up to her because it was her decision whether she could make things work with both her & Jess and both me & her. She said 'oh yeah i know i can make it work!!' and I said 'fine whatever then we'll try'. So now she's been instant messaging me all the time and I dont really want a relationship with her. She's so fake and I can't stand it. Also, shes had this pothead boyfriend for a few months and hes just crazy. He's liked me for a really long time and any chance he gets he'll either kiss me on the cheek or say how he wants to do me or just I dont know random things like that but there would be no point in telling her because she'd refuse to believe it because shes ""In Love"" and I've tried before, but he just denies it and says im crazy,.....
Everything is just incredibly dumb and me & Jess haven't talked since the fight a month or two ago and it's like everyday she'll see me in the hall and give me this dirty looks and it's really dumb how immature she's being
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okay, you didnt ask a question so i need you to send me another message with a question in it if you want adice. but ill say something since i want to help somehow, maybe try giving sara a chance becasue she obviously wants you back and you have to give her credit for trying so yeah, i dont know what else to say because that wasnt a question reallly so yeah just ask a question next time, thanks, molly
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ookayy this is very long but here goes..ive liked the same guy since third grade (im in 8th now) and he liked me in 5th then we went out in 6th then he dumped me and after he did we didnt talk at all after that (i liked him a lot at this point) and so then 7th grade came &we had no classes and we werent friends any more. then 8th grade came and i had a lot of classes with him (thank god) and he gained our friendship back! okay this guy is not like any other guy. hes perfect. to me at least. well anyway, there was a party (big one) that we both went to. he made out with this other girl which made me heart broken!! at that point i realized i loved him and believe me i know what love is now. so i was going to tell him how i felt about him, but my friend was like hey *** (him) come here so then she took me to the stairs and we talked then i started crying (hard) so then hes like whats wrong! then i was about to tell him but i cudnt do it so i ran away crying (ughh regret). then he said he hated me after that which proved to me that hes not the guy i should like but at that point i cudnt let go cz i loved him. wheww so then we got in a fight and dint talk ne more then we started to again then we became good friends then we went to a party together and i was dared to kiss him...(=])so then he started liking this other girl so he asked her out n i cried again because i cudnt get over him n crap then he got mad at me.but then were friends again. (a lot of fights) but this all happened in 8th grade since the 1st party. so i still love him. then today i found out he has a gf when i was gunna ask him to the dance on friday. what should i do?!! i cant tell him how i feel because the same thing will happen. (might loose our friendship&i dont want that) and how do i get over him?! (link)
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wow that is long! but its okay i read it all, and sorry it took so long for me to answer ive just been really busy but im answering now! yay, anyways, wow i dont no what to say im so sorry, but yes i think ur right if you want to stay friends then dont tell him how you feel. being friends is a lot more important at this age than going out, because it sounds like he prolly wont ask you out anyways because he has a gf and ur better off as friends.. and your not getting married anytime soon so maybe its not love its just a head over heels feeling because you, well i dont no how to explain it but umm do you know what i mean? just like a feeling people get when they really like someone and it lasts a little while but in your case i guess its lasted a LONG time. anywayy, ways to get over him, lets think, think of all of his flaws and the ways he has treated you, that isnt just fair to you is it? and try and find a new guy to like and focus all your attention on him and try not to even think about the guy you like now.. anywayys, if there is anything else you need just ask me and ill help you as soon as i can! love ya, molly
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okay so I'm 10 and my name is Sondra, I had to ask a question to someone and you gave really good advice to this one girl so i thought I'd ask you. Yesterday I had a soccer game and it was fun and all until well i started my period in the middle of the game! It dripped down my leg and everybody starded laughing! It was so embaressing! So I called for my coach to take me out but he said NO! (he's really strict) I pointed to my leg and the blood and he just shrugged and mouthed deal with it. So than the ball came to me and when i kicked it blood went every where! Well not every where but every one stopped and screamed and yelled EWWW! It was so embaressing! So what I need help with is on how to get back at my coach. I thought of some ways like kidnapping his 2-year-old son and than maybe locking him in the basement, but it wouldn't work. But maybe I couls light a fire in his tree that sits really close to his house! Do you have any ideas? (link)
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hahaha this is so one of my friends, nice... kidnapped his kids? im so sorry that didnt work out.. anyway ur craazy
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12 female.....ok so this year (6th grade) i met this girl. I were becomgng best friends with this girl (lets call her tori) well me and tori always were together. we ate lunch together and we were in almost all eachothers classes, we would alway pick eachother to be partners and we would hang out a lot! This year this new girl came to our school (lets call her becky) tori is really nice so she will go up to practiclly anyone and just say hello or hi for fun. while when she said it to becky i guess it created a friendship. Everything was going great until tori picked becky for her partner and i had to be with this person i never talked to. that day i got a feeling that tori was likeing becky more. From then on they would always talk about things they did and stuff and laugh but i was never there when they hung out so i never got any of there jokes. Track just started and they were always running next to eachother and im not the fastest runner but im pretty good but they would always go ahead and i was always left behind. I was getting really annoyed and sad cuase i was like losing my best friend.i guess i was getting jelous:( So that night i called tori and talked to her for a little bit and then brought up why she wasn't including me in anything anymore. She was getting really mad and defensive. She said that she was trying to include me but becky didn't like me and that becky always pulled her away. I don't know what to do. Im not that "popular" of a girl so i don't know a lot of people cuase on weekends i would always hang out with tori! I need help on how to get my best friend back or what i should do!!!
thanks a bunch!!!!!!!
:( sry for the long letter!! (link)
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okay well just put yourself out there and invite both tori* and becky* over and start to get to know becky better and if she has a problem with it just talk to her and be like tori is my best friend and im not gonna lose her so you either accept me or or.. something i dont no yet but im sure u can come up with that. but if tori* is your best friend she wouldnt be letting becky* take her away shed actually go back and get you. so hunni if things still arent working out maybe tori* isnt the right friend for you so maybe find another really nice group of friends to hang out.. dont worry this same thing happened to me and it all turned out okay.i hope i helped.. give me an update on how its going and if you need anymore help!!
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hey... so ok i like this guy a lot and hes sooo hot! i hang out with him all of the time because hes kinda in my "circle of friends" i guess you could say. i tend to be more quiet around him and the other guys when we hang out and eat lunch and suff like that... so i dont think he notices me very much. i wanna be louder and flirt more with him so that he will notice me. any suggestions to how i do this? thanks! (link)
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okay just talk to him more and like joke around in a cute giggly way but not like annoyingly because if your too loud and you pay too much attention to him it can be annoying. ask him like what kinda music he likes and things like that.. if he has IM then IM him and talk a lot.hope i helped=]
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Theres this guy at school and i really really like him. its just i asked him out last year and he said no. A bunch of people i no are trying to get me to go out with him but i dont want to be embaresed if he says no again. What should i do?!?!?!?! (link)
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okay sorry lovey buttons but girls usually dont ask guys out.. it kinda looks desperate so maybe get your friends to talk to him or his friends and find out if he would go out with you and then try to get them to convince him to go out with you..
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Okay so I recently left a team. I got super close with the people on it, and I miss everyone like crazy even though I was only with them for 7 months or so. I dont like the fact that I'm losing contact with people & that theyre at least a half hour away so hanging out is hard & I miss knowing what's going on in peoples lives and it kills (link)
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okay well i dont know what your asking.. but if you miss them than call them.. if you have aim talk to them on there.. living far away isnt an excuse to not see them so maybe on the weekend have a bunch of them over or something or meet like halfway at the movies or mall or something! =]
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ok, so i recently quit a sport that i had done for like a really long time. i quit for a lot of reasons but one was mostly because i was fed up with being the slowest one out of my group of friends even though i had been on the team way longer than any of them. (dont get my wrong, i love all of those friends to death!) but i also quit because i felt like that sport was taking up my life and like i wanted to be able to hang out with my friends more and i hated going to practices and all that. but now that ive quit ive been going to the gym every day and trying to eat healthier, but my mom especially keeps on pointing out that ive gained wait and she keeps on making comments about it and shes making me feel really self-consious. ive tried telling her to stop but she keeps on saying that i should go back to the sport. but even if i wanted to go back to the sport i feel like things wouldnt be the same between me and my friends, or me and my coach. i also feel like im losing all of my friends that i had on that team, because i never see them any more and a lot of those girls were some of my best friends. so basically, i dont want to go back to the team, but i do want to maintain my weight and keep my friends! any suggestions? (sorry, this was really long) (link)
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hunni.. dont worry your friends on the team wouldnt be mad at you if thats what your thinking and if you did go back they would probably be really happy and it wont be akward and your coach.. well he cant get mad at you for coming back! but if thats not what you want to do then maybe try running every day and excersize a lot and if your not satisfied then maybe you should join your team again but no pressure.. lol... anyways just sit your mom down or something and just be like "MOM i love you its just that... (then just tell her everything your feeling)" she should understand. about your friends from the team.. instead of just talking about hanging out actually take ACTIONS! maybe have a party or im pretty certain thatt one of your friends will be having a party sinse summer is coming and that is the PARTY season.. lol.. and maybe if there arent any partys coming up invite one of your friends over and go to the mall or movies and actually set a date and time.. so it will actually be happening and it wont just be put off and never really thought about except occasionally.. i hope i helped and if you need any more advice then just leave a question. =] love you
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