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so at school i am very shy with my boyfriend but i will kind of talk to him, but as soon as i try to talk to him on thee phone i cant so i just never pick up his calls. i feel absolutely horrible but how do i make myself more confident for being able to talk on the phone? thank you!
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I used to be like this, I hated it.
Now, with my current boyfriend, you can't shut us up. He lets me be myself, he doesn't care if I say something stupid, we laugh it off. So make sure your comfortable with the guy, make sure you know things about him (likes, dislikes, etc)
When your walking with him, imagine its your brother or just another guy friend, this helped me ALOT. If you don't know what to say, ask him how his parents are doing or something simple like asking what his favorite color. This should get conversations rolling.
As for the phone, pick it up. Take a few slow breaths and just relax. Sit down and just concentrate on the conversation. If theres a silence, ask him something simple again, like whats his favorite sports team. Once again, this should get things rolling. Show him your willing to open up to him, maybe by telling him a small secret. (Don't load things on him, that might freak him out) Or, tell him a joke, bust out crazy dancing if thats the kind of person you are, tell him you like his shirt, sing a song, ANYTHING, just show him your outgoing and confident, guys love that, and it'll help you two both open up.
Good luck <3 :)
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instead of thinking your talking to your boyfriend think its just one of your friends. youll probably be able to talk a lot more freely that way (but dont talk too freely like dont say peersonal stuff youd say with ur friends) and this should help you loosen up. i hope i helped. if you need anything else ask!!
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Just explain to him whenever you guys are on the phone you're not that great at making conversation over the phone. And just make a joke of it. Be like,"Hhaha, I feel I need to warn you. I'm not the best talker over the phone, so if it gets quiet, I'm sorry." But just talk to him like you would talk to him in school or just think of you talking to one of your friends and talk to him about anything you can think of. I hope I helped.
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Just pick it up and answer it. :)
He will help make conversation. If it gets quiet just say, "I'm sorry, I really am terrible at talking on the phone". That will probably start a whole new conversation. Give it a try, you don't want him to call someone else!
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