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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

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my school starts soon. Luckily my mothers case is not a big one so it wasn't on the news or anything. I told one of my friends but haven't told two others. If I invite them over they will probably notice my mom not there. Do you think if people find out they will be all cruel or teasing like you usually see on television shows or understandable and just mind their own business? I am optimistic and believe they will be understandable and won't act in the way you usually see like on TV

It's nobody's business what your mother is going through so you don't need to feel obligated to tell them if you aren't comfortable with it. If they ask you where your mom is you can just avoid the question or tell them "she's not here right now". If they are your true friends they'll understand regardless of whether or not you tell them. If they push the subject and you feel uncomfortable just politely tell them that you would prefer not to talk about it and change the topic. They won't be cruel if they are your true friends, just make sure you don't say anything insulting about your mom and I'm sure they won't feel enticed to say anything back about her either. Just stay positive it's okay you can still have fun with your friends and not have to worry about that.

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my computer is acting gay so sorry but my catgory was suppost to be love... anyways lemme start of ; soo this is wat happened; i met this guy lets call him (c)& we started talking & i liked him alot & he sed he liked me.. we went too different schools but he wuld cum too my sschool too see me. & i was telling him tht i heard his bestfriend lets call him (p) had raped a girl & i told him not too say anyting & he sed he wuldnt.. then like 2 weeks later all of a sudden he stopped talking too me ( this happened on a thursday) then he got a girlfirend that sunday... like wtf ??? i got soo mad... then like 1 week & a half later (p) i/m'ed me saying wtf you believe i raped a girl ?? thats a lie wow i cnt believe you believe tht.. & i was like i dont believe it cause the person who sed it is mad fake who told you tht anyways ?? & he goes (c) soo then i i/m (c) & im like wtf you told (p) tht i believed he raped a girl ?? when i told you not to saya nytin & then (c) goes he knew before... & i was like wow w,e bye im in schoool & hes like okay.. & then i chedk my phone 2nd period & i saw an i/m from (c) that said " i

first off, please dont use the term "gay" as an insult. thats completely wrong. and second of all, I tried to read your post, but its barely understandable. There are tons of symbols and shortened words such as w,e, (C) and nah and -_____- that make your post very hard to read. please consider revising it, and I would love to help you.

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I have this guy friend that I've had a crush on for forever. I finally told him two or three weeks ago and he handled it surprisingly well. I figured that we would get past it and nothing more would really be said about it since he wasn't interested in me back like that.

Well, the end of last week got really weird. He has been calling me a little more lately but last week he started to sound more and more, well, sexual to me. I mean, he started making comments to me about my body and how I take care of my figure. He even went as far as to say how he had...er...dreams of me sometimes.

I didn't want him to not be my friend any more so I just shrugged the comments off like they didn't effect me at all. Today though was a different story and I can't really just ignore it. I see that my harmless, "I have a huge crush on you!" confession is being taken as a hook-up request.

Today he calls and says he's been thinking and that we could really be great in a friends with benefits type of relationship. He started to tell me how I would be really happy and fulfilled and he would be happy to please me. It got really creepy and I just kind of lied and said my mom needed me and to call me later and I hung up.

How do I tell him that I just don't want to be friends with benefits? I'm not that type of girl. Yes, I like him but I don't want to be used, you know? I feel like I made a huge mistake and have ruined what a great friendship we had simply because I told him I had a crush on him. What do I do? Can my friendship be salvaged? Do I just tell him to lay off with the sexual stuff because I am not interested in that? Ugh, I feel so stupid...

Dont feel stupid at all, I know how you feel, Im not that kind of girl either. All you have to say to him is something like:

"Youre really cute and all but Im saving up for that special guy (laugh) :-) "

or


"Thats really sweet that you compliment me and think Im cute but Im not really into the benefits thing, we should just stay friends. :-) "

it will work dont worry, just keep using those terms (modified to your style talking) and he will let go. Guys will respect you so much more if they know they cant just use you, good decision! Im proud of you and I dont even know you that well :-)

Good Luck!!!

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My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.

I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.

Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.

Its not an easy thing for someone who is gay to come out. The fact that she trusts you enough to confide in you and tell you that, says alot. Its wrong of you to not want to be someones friend because of the gender they are attracted to, and its unfair to them. People like you are part of the reason that the world is so against homosexuals, and why it is so hard for gays to come out and be comfortable in their own bodies. If you were gay, you would want your friend to support you. True friends don't judge their friends by how they look or who they are, which is exactaly what you are doing.


She doesn't need you as a friend right now, or ever.

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i dont really know how to explain myself.
i feel im rude to people.
when im not trying to be,
it could be cause im jsut having a crappy day, but its hurting other peoples feelings.
im very confused at this whole situation and the rest of my life.
please help.

Sometimes things happen, if you find yourself in a situation where you feel like you were rude, tell the person you were rude too that your sorry because your having a bad day. It happens to the best of us, dont worry. :-)
Good luck!

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Sunday is my best friend's daughter's birthday party. I'm her daughter's godmother, so she invited me & my boyfriend. I'd love to go, but the only problem is her boyfriend might be there. We used to be good friends with him, but there was a bunch of drama a while back so now me & my boyfriend really don't get along with him.

Do you think we should go to the party, or should we stay home to avoid any possible drama?

Dont let anyone ruin you fun! This party isn't for him, or about him, so don't worry about it at all. Be classy about it, if he looks at you smile, if he goes up to you say hi, casually say bye, and there will be a fun, drama free night for everyone. Just act as if he isnt there, and he will do the same :-). If he causes drama, then be the mature ones, your friend will be mad that she invited him, not you or your boyfriend.
Good luck!!!!
have fun at the party! :-)
p.s if you are having a group conversation, and he joins in, dont feel pressured to leave the circle.

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okay well. i keep making excuses for a guy that wants to come over.
i think he has a girlfriend.
i dont think he should come over if he has a girlfriend.
but im nervous if he doesnt have one.
help!
i cant keep making up excuses.
its makin me feel really bad.

Just ask him if he has a girlfriend. Its okay, and if he does then he would come over your house as a friend, nothing more :-) its fine. If he does have a girlfriend, then he should ask her first if it would be okay for you guys to chill, because she might not be okay with it. Do what you are comfortable with, dont feel like you have to make excuses. Just say, "yeah you can come over that would be fun, but is your girlfriend going to be okay with it?" if he has a girlfriend then he will tell you, if he doesnt he will say, I dont have a girlfriend. then you can say, oh you dont? I was always under the impression that you did have a girlfriend :-)
It will all work out dont worry
Good luck!!!

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18/f 18/m
Okayy so i met michael on Myspace and we talked for a while. So about two weeks later we actually met face to face and that same nighht he asked if i got sneak him in so i did. We had sex about three times with a condom but the 4th time we didnt use one and he got scared that i might get pregnant so he bought me the "plan b". And we never spoke to each other again.
So now 5 months later he texted saying he wanted to see me and me being so stupid i said yes and we had sex again and he told me he loved mee but that he didnt wanna be with me because he's leaving to the marines and i said i'd wait for him and all he said was that it wasn't gonna work out that wayy and walked out the door:(

what do i do to make him realize we're right for each other and that it'll work out when he leaves...
PLEASE HELP ME!!!

If he doesnt feel like youre worth it, then why is he? If you really want to see if it will work out, then take it slow, when he comes back, hang out with each other to see if the chemestry is still there. But remember that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Maybe stay on break and hang out with other guys while he is away to see if anything works out. If not, you can always see him again when he returns.
Good luck!

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Um okay I got these friends whO I've known since third grade there's names are Kayla, Tawnae, and Kozi well anyways Kayla is Tawnaes bff Tawnae is Kozi bff and Kozi is Kaylas bff but Kozi and Tawnae is my bffs [so where does that leave me?] anways... since we all went to highschool [were n 10th grade now] we kinda drifted apart like I hate Kayla not hate but I dnt like her and Tawnae is sometymey w| me nOw... anywho Kayla and Tawnae gO to the same school i dnt think there bff's anymore tho and me and Kozi live in they same neighborhood but its still kinda far to get to her house... im still try 2hold onto our frendshyp but I think its only hurtn me like I love these girls [no homo] should I let go or like do you haVe another way? O ps. I've tried to get us all to go to the movies but ppl are always busy or dnt wanna go or dnt wanna see that movie
HELP ME PLEASE !!!!

-Kidd Star

Sometimes friends get distant, that doesnt mean you have to dislike each other. If you guys can all hang out thats great, maybe if you could even hang out with one of them or two that would be good too. You dont have to let go. As for planning events, you could all meet up at a local park or store or mall if its easier, this way you can socialize more anyway. And dont worry about who is friends with who, try to worry about who you are friends with. There will always be room for you to be friends with them. :-)

good luck!

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Ok there is this friend were ONE minute...they are so nice...and next they are mean and snotty...i also hear from other people that they are talking bad about me and making fun of me...idk what to do...should i just never talk to them again?..HELP

well it seems as thought there is alot of drama going on right now. how liable is your source that is telling you other people are talking about you behind your back? could they be lying? The best thing to do, is not become total enemies with these girls, but distance yourself. Limit how much information you give them about personal things and gossip, if it is true that they are talking about you behind your back, talking behind theirs is just adding fuel to the fire.
Good luck!! if you need any more help or advice, inbox me at my column, xosodapopx3

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okay so my best friend [ he's a guy ] is leaving in a week to go to an early summer program for college then starting college.. i want to get him something either just for him or for his dorm.. he already has picture frames and stuff and i dont want it to be cheesy... help?

here are some ideas:
a blanket
ipod/accessories
food for his dorm
a scooter (if its a big campus)
cloths
shoes-flip flops come in handy for gross showers
some magnets of where he is going (ex, rutgers)
school materials such as paper and pens
itunes gift cards
a watch to be on time to classes
some signed or not signed posters
a wallet
key chains
hats
toiletries, like shower soap and shampoo
books
umbrellas
rain boots
ipod docks
webcams
shoulder bags
portable electronics charger
mini safe to put valuables in
calendar
alarm clock
a planner, (like an agenda)
pillows
plants (some people like them...)

i hope this list helps you!
xosodapopx3

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Hi im thirteen & i have these two guy friends that are older then me like one 16 and the others 17 . And they wanna hang out with me . But im not sure if i wanna hangout with them cause im younger and + my mom probally wouldnt aprove of me hanging out with them once she heres there ageses . Everytime they ask me to hangout with them i always have to make up an excuse that i cant that im grounded or something like that ... & there both nice . But i don't know what to do . ?
should i lie and hangout with them and sneak around or should i just keep putting them off . Please help ! Im in a giant state of confusion & id apreciate it greatley .

- torii babiiee *

If they are nice girls then I wouldnt worry about it too much, just ask your mom nicely. Its not like you are going to a huge party with them, and if your mom says anything about it, just re-assure her that its not an every-day thing. Just make sure you can handle yourself under peer pressure, if those girls ask you to do drugs or drink or anything, do NOT say yes, you do NOT have to do anything you dont want to, that does not make you cool. Im sure you have heard that a gazillion times but never forget it, and now you have heard it a gazillion and one :-) Good Luck! ps.
If your mom says no, ask her what to say to them next time they ask you, this way you dont have to make up any excuses, :-)

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One of my friends wants myself and 2 other girls to go to a concert this weekend for her birthday. However, there is a Christmas party at one of my mom's friends house that i go to every year the same day as this concert. I did not make a commitment to go to the christmas party but it was kind of a given that I would go considering i go every year. My best friend says she can't go to the concert without me because she has a curefew and would have no where to stay after if I didn't go ( the plan was to let all the girls stay at my house if I decide to go). I don't have a big interest in going to the concert however i feel the need to go now because if i don't go, my best friend will not be allowed to go and they all need a place to stay. I know i will not have a good time.. i'm just in one of those depressed moods i guess. Any advice on how to make it fun? I have not even heard of the band or the bands playing with the main one.

I know its hard, but if you truely feel you will not have fun, why buy the tickets? You need to have a serious conversation with your friend. You can tell her that as much as you want to help her out with the concert, you can't because it would be wrong for you to miss the party. You go every year as a tradition, and it's a nice thing to do to spend time with your friends and family. If the party and concert work out with timing, you can always ask your friend to take a taxi with her friend to your house after the concert, and you can all stay at ur house afterwards. This way you get to go to your party and they go to their concert. Also, talk to your mom about it if you can, what does she feel about the situation? It might make her feel a little left out that your not going to be there. You will have the most fun doing what you want to do. And sometimes you have to think, would your friend do the same for you if you were in her shoes? ask your friend if she could get a ride to her other friends house for the night instead. Good luck!!! please let me know how this works out :-) and if there is anything else I can help you out with, then let me know, I'm happy to help! Happy holidays

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I'm 21 and go to University the girl is the same. I've known a girl at my university for about 3 years. I have mixed feelings about her, and sometimes I wonder what it would be like if we were more then friends. I'm not sure if I should go for a romantic relationship, or if I should keep her as a friend. I'm positive that she likes me, and I know that she would probably have a relationship if I asked. I don't want to ruin a friendship though if things don't work out. I've gotten mixed reviews from friends of mine, some saying they don't understand why I don't go out with her, and others agree with me and say that since I've known her so long it might be better to just be friends. I was curious if anyone might have similar experience in this sort of situation, and could help me out. I think un-bias advice coming from someone that I don't know personally would help me. Any advice would be great.
I appreciate it, Thanks.

I can see your dilema, but, you have to look at what YOU want. Don't let anyone influence you except yourself. Unfortunetly, Nobody can tell you whether or not asking her out and trying things out with her will be a good decision or bad, but would you rather take a risk in life? This could end up being the best decision you have ever made in your life, and if not, then you move on and it will be okay. There are plenty of fish in the sea as I like to put it. As far as the whole staying friends goes, you can always talk to her about it; instead of just straight-forward coming out and saying "will you go out with me?" maybe you could tell her how you feel about your friendship, and if its a mutual feeling between you two, you guys could try being a couple. Tell her you definetly consider her an amazing friend, and you don't want any akwardness. Make sure you both take it slow. I wish you luck, remember, don't feel pressured, in the end you are the one living with your decision. Be sure to update me on how this goes, adn if you have any personal questions/updates, feel free to contact me on my advice site!
hope I helped :-)

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