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Should my friend, be a girlfriend
I'm 21 and go to University the girl is the same. I've known a girl at my university for about 3 years. I have mixed feelings about her, and sometimes I wonder what it would be like if we were more then friends. I'm not sure if I should go for a romantic relationship, or if I should keep her as a friend. I'm positive that she likes me, and I know that she would probably have a relationship if I asked. I don't want to ruin a friendship though if things don't work out. I've gotten mixed reviews from friends of mine, some saying they don't understand why I don't go out with her, and others agree with me and say that since I've known her so long it might be better to just be friends. I was curious if anyone might have similar experience in this sort of situation, and could help me out. I think un-bias advice coming from someone that I don't know personally would help me. Any advice would be great.
I appreciate it, Thanks.
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Personally,
If you ask out a friend, yet alone anyone. It is a risk you take. It's either meant to be nor not meant to be. Only you know your true feelings, If you feel that it is what you shall do to ask her out then let it lead its way, if not then you might miss out on something that could of been great. I've been in a simular situation infact that is how I ended up where I am now. My guy friend and I had feelings for each other and we gave it a shot we both cared for each other deeply and what do you know...I'm yet to be married in a few years. Heck, I'd say go for it! ;) I wish you all the best of luck!
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BahaiMa22
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I can see your dilema, but, you have to look at what YOU want. Don't let anyone influence you except yourself. Unfortunetly, Nobody can tell you whether or not asking her out and trying things out with her will be a good decision or bad, but would you rather take a risk in life? This could end up being the best decision you have ever made in your life, and if not, then you move on and it will be okay. There are plenty of fish in the sea as I like to put it. As far as the whole staying friends goes, you can always talk to her about it; instead of just straight-forward coming out and saying "will you go out with me?" maybe you could tell her how you feel about your friendship, and if its a mutual feeling between you two, you guys could try being a couple. Tell her you definetly consider her an amazing friend, and you don't want any akwardness. Make sure you both take it slow. I wish you luck, remember, don't feel pressured, in the end you are the one living with your decision. Be sure to update me on how this goes, adn if you have any personal questions/updates, feel free to contact me on my advice site!
hope I helped :-)
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