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Okay ... my friend and I started cutting at practicaly the same time. Well ... my mom found out about my cutting and I swore I would stop (witht the exception of the other day ...) But my friend keeps doing it! It really scares me ... and she told me not to tell ANYBODY about it ... and I promised her I wouldnt ...
But Im so worried for her! Im afraid that she'll end up in the hospital or wind up going to counseling...
Should I tell somebody and loose a best friend, or not tell anybody ... and loose a girl whose a sister to me?

Definetly tell somebody! I mean it's better loosing a friend now for just a few months or years or whatever rather than loosing her forever because she might accidently kill herself. If you're really her friend, you'll worry more about her safety than loosing her temporarily. Sooner or later she's going to thank you for saving her.

♥ Maria

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okay my friend i will call her malina has a boyfriend but her boyfriend asked my other frined out!!! and she said yes and malina wants to know why her boyfriend is never home should i tell her or keep it a secert? and also i am mad at my other friend for going out with malina's boyfriend is that right to be mad at her?
Thank you in advance

You should definetly tell her! If you don't, then that makes you just as bad as the other friend! And I would be mad at the other girl if I were you.

♥ Always,
Maria

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is it okay if my dog ate some cheerios? will she be alrite? please answer asap it was a bout a handle of cheerios

It's perfectly fine. Unless for some reason they were chocolate covered Cheerios! (=

♥ Always,
Maria

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Hey Ya'll,
First off Im male and 15. I've kinda got a problem... There is this girl that is pretty much one of my best friends I guess you'd say. But we hang out alot or atleast when we can. And for the last few(2) months I started liking her as more than a friend. But the problem is that I don't know if she likes me as more than a BFF. I mean some days she really seems to like me as more than a friend in my opinion and some days it just seems like were just like best friends. I really don't know what to do cause i dont want to hurt our friendship if she doesnt feel that way... Because I love hangn with this girl shes so awsome!

I was thinking of asking her to prom (my schools screwed up and small so I can go to prom if I pay) because I know she'll make it a fun time even if she doesnt like me that way because she just makes me have a great time hangn with her... Should I ask her?

You should definetly ask her! Tell her you think it would be more fun if you two went together! But I think if you tell her that you like her as more that a friend, then I don't think you'd get rejected right off the bat. Every girl thinks what things would be like if she were dating one of her guy friends. One time or another it crosses her mind. So most likely she's thought about you like that. I think at prom night if you two slow dance, you could tell her then. I think it would be very cute!

♥ Always,
Maria

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my friend is depressed. she always tells me her problems and itold her to get therapy bcuz it helps and ive been through it. but after i tell her this she always says "see thats why i cant count on you. you never help me with my problems" she always makes me feel so guilty. How can i help her?

Don't tell her that she needs to get professional help. It'll just make her feel like she's crazy. Really be there for her and talk to her. Have deep conversations with her. Be a friend to her and not a parent!

♥ Always,
Maria

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okay, so i have this friend, and she cuts herself. it really scares me, because one time she cut so deep that it wouldnt stop for a while. her dad abuses her, and she doesnt get along with her mom very well. her boyfriend went away for spring break and she misses him a lot. she cut herself again because she thinks her life is so fucked up, and she thinks she should die. i really want to help her, but i dont know what to do. please help!!!

Talk to her. Let her know you will always be there for her through thick and thin. All she really needs is someone to be there for her. But if doesn't work no matter how hard you try, try telling an adult who won't make such a big fuss of the situation and won't make her feel like they're ordering her around.

♥ Always,
Maria

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i just became friends with a girl again and she used to be mean and when we gave her a second chance she started to be mean again.im worried she will be like that again what should i believe?

I think people only deserve second chances. I think you could try to be friends with her but don't put your hopes up and don't put so much trust in her!

♥ Always,
Maria

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I am a thirteen year old girl and I have a close male friend. We usually get on quite well and we are always talking and hugging. We used to be attracted to each other and he on/off still is to me but I don't feel that way about him. Everyone says we act like we're a couple and that we should get together but I honestly don't want to. We are very close but are we too close? I admit I hug him more than my other friends but I don't have any feelings for him. So is it wrong to be this close to him if we're not in a relationship?

Nope, I don't see anything wrong with it. I do the same thing. But be careful that you just wanting to be friends with him doesn't hurt his feelings and he doesn't feel like your being a tease.

♥ Always,
Maria

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one group of my friends drink a lot and i dont really care that much about it. im not against it or anything. my only concern is that i know sometime i will be involved in a situation where i will be asked if i want a drink... the thing is, i have never drank before, i don't want to say no, but i don't want to get the reputation that i always do that stuff. whats your advice?

oooOOhhH PeeER PreSSuuure... lol

Well just drink with some of your close friends!

♥ ALways,
Maria

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I'm really bad at starting conversations with people. I've been rejected by SO many guys because I'm "to quiet". I know i should be myself but the thing is that I don't want to be the girl that keeps her mouth shut all the time. If you could give me some good ways to start good conversations with people (Boys mostly) that would be great. Thanks!

I used to be the same way. But now I never want to shut up! Just say something totally random and off subject! Think outloud. You'd definetly be able to start a conversation with someone that way. It always starts a conversation for me. Hmm, but sorry if I didn't help much! But I think you'll eventually grow out of it! I think everyone has their shy stages!

♥ Always,
Maria

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My friend ((We'll call her M)) is a total sl**. She knows it and is proud of it. She stabs people in the back and screws you over. She turns on you and talks crap on you behind your back. My 2 best friends and i ditched her because we knew she wasn't a good friend to have. Now she is friends with lots of girls... at least she thinks she is. They all hate her, but they won't tell her! I wouldn't mind becoming friends with her again, but how can i learn to trust her and believe what she tells me if she did all this stuff to me the first time around?

A person like her won't change right away. It'll take some big loss of hers for her to change. She needs something be taken away from her or something like that to make her realize that her attitude needs to be changed before she loses anything else. I would leave things the way they are. When she realizes she misses you and promises to be there for you, I would try to trust her little by little. Good luck!

♥ Always,
Maria

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OK well here is this grl I h8 and she is probably reading this because she copied me doing this! She comes over EVERY FRIKIN DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is so annoying wut in the world do I frikin do?
Signed,
Annoyed!

Um tell her. That's the only logical thing I can think of. Or don't answer the door or anything.

♥ Always,
Maria

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I'm a 14-year-old girl. As I was leaving school the other day, I was walking with a casual male friend. As we were talking, he developed a
very large, very obvious erection. I was so embarrassed for him! I pretended not to notice, and didn't say anything, but he seemed
mortified, and left in a hurry. What should I have done?

You couldn't really have done anything. But I don't think you should bring it up in a conversation until a few more years to where he can laugh about it. If you don't, then you might make him feel emabrrassed and shy around you!

♥ Always,
Maria

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i have this friend and we are really good friends. I am a 15 year old guy and she is a 14 year old girl. She wants me but i feel if we go out and something happens between us that we might not be friends afterwards. I dont want that to happen. How can i tell her this without hurting her feelings?

I wouldn't tell her anything. I would just act differently around her..more friendly rather than touchy touchy..ya know? Physical contact is what normally makes a girl think that you like her. Even being too friendly! And if you like her but you're just scared that you might ruin a friendship, then just know that you won't ruin this friendship unless you truly hurt her like cheat on her or break up with her for another girl!

♥ Always,
Maria

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my frend been acting like a totel cow the last few weeks in school just leaving us and dropping us,talking bout us behind our back.i had a go at her and she just turned on the tears and made the people who she was hangng round her go against me now i dont know what i can do cos when her mate hugged her when she was crying she smirked at me.what can i do.?plse reply swn xx

Stop talking to her! She's not worth talking to!!!

♥ Always,
Maria

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Okay well i have a friend and she makes me do EVERYTHING 4 her well at lunch like she will be like here is 50 cents go buy me a cookie and i do it! i dont want to but i do anyways. and i through her trash away 4 her and she pays me a dime and i dont want to do that either i just feel like i can tsay no and when i do i feel like she will be mad at me but whp cares right i cant do stuff 4 her right? well i dont know what do to please help!

You're going to have to say no to her no matter what if you really want this to end! You have to show her that you're not the kind of person to be taken advantage. Next time she tells you to go buy her a cookie and gives you the fifty cents, just give it right back to her. Next time she makes you throw away her trash, just put it back on the table. If she gets mad at you and doesn't understand where you're comming from, then I wouldn't call her a true friend. But good luck and I sure hope she understands!

♥ Always,
Maria

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i have this friend that talks about me to my best friend nd my best friend tells me everything she says..my friend isnt the nicest person and she really hurts me but im afraid to confront her wat should i do? thanx a bunch!

Maybe just slip little hints to her when you see her. When she tries to talk to you, kind of just brush her off and leave. She'll get the hint. Sooner or later she's going to realize why you've been ignoring her. And when she confronts you about it, then you should tell her that you've heard that she's been talking behind your back. Good luck!

♥ Always,
Maria

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Okay, one of my friends who used to be a really good friend of mine is mad at me. She says I follow her every-where, and do every-thing like her. But I don't, I wish we could just be friends again, but she won't even talk to me. I don't know what to do, I'm so confuzed! Please help! I rate!!

Thanks, a desperate friend!

Maybe the two of you just need some time apart. Maybe like a week or two. Not that much though! It sounds like you two need some room to breathe to do your own thing. It's not always a bad thing. And if you don't think you two need this break, then I'm sure she does. Just give her room to breathe and let her do what she wants. Eventually things will get back to the way it was before.

♥ Always,
Maria

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okay my best friend is going out with my recent ex and we went to the movies with a grroup of people but his girl friend could not go and we ended up sitting next to each other and in the middle of the show we started holding hands and yesterday his girlfriend found out and wont talk to me or him what should i do? cause he likes me and i like him...

signed CONFUSED

Wait and see what happens. If he likes you and since you put it out there that you like him, then he should ask you out unless he thinks he can have two girls at once. And it wasn't right of your best friend to go out with a recent ex of yours. So if you do wreck their relationship, I wouldn't feel too bad.

♥ Always,
Maria

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