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drinking
one group of my friends drink a lot and i dont really care that much about it. im not against it or anything. my only concern is that i know sometime i will be involved in a situation where i will be asked if i want a drink... the thing is, i have never drank before, i don't want to say no, but i don't want to get the reputation that i always do that stuff. whats your advice?
oooOOhhH PeeER PreSSuuure... lol
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dont feel that you have to drink, trust me if they are your friends they will understand. one of my friends doesnt like to drink and me and the rest do but we dont forse her to, we simply ask if she wants any and if she says no we dont nag her about it. trust me if you really dont want to drink dont start because it is not very fun, if they get mad then they arent your friends. i hope you make the right choice for yourself. good luck!!!
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Just tell them like you did in your letter.
Theres nothing wrong with not drinking.Just tell them you prefer to be in control.
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If you dont want to drink with them then thats fine just say no and get a soda or something. If they are peer pressuring you into doing it just tell them to back off. Drinking isnt soo soo bad but if you want you could take a little bit. You wont have a bad reputation of drinking and doing it all the time trust me. Only your friends will know. Do what you think is smart and whats best for you. x0 ` __
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Don't get pulled in to peer pressure crap.
If you don't want to drink then don't. Just say no. If they make fun of you for not wanting to drink then they can't be true friends can they?
Just try not to get pulled in to all the peer pressure stuff because if the next thing they're trying is drugs and you decide to just 'try' that too and get addicted or whatever other shit then you're fucked.
♥Em
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Drinking is no big deal its really a lot of fun! Just do it just dont drink a ton your first time you get real tipsy real quik! And people wontgive you the REP unless you really do do it all the time ! in that case you deserve the Rep
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Never ever be influenced by peer pressure. Figure out if you want to try drinking or if you dont. Then act accordingly (note: I am assuming you are an adult... if you are say 14 just dont do it). Now, dont take this the wrong way, but there is one thing that I think is a bit troubling about your question. Note how on the one hand you speak of the pressure of being asked to drink, while on the other you mention "the reputation that I always do that stuff". Correct me if Im wrong but both are cases of what others will think, not what you want. Be careful about focusing too much on what is expected/ wanted of you, on the one hand it can get you in trouble, on the other hand you will end up doing stuff you dont care for.
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ive never encountered peer pressure of that kind, but i would have to say always turn alcohol down. it can only lead to bad things and if your friends are being dumb with it, oyu shouldnt be involved. plus, once you start driving (if your not already) things can be a lot more serious
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ha. um... well, do you really want to drink? if you do, there's nothing i could do about it, but i would advise you not to. of course, if you really don't, there's nothing wrong with saying no. it's really not that hard. if someone asked you " hey do you want to drink this horrible tasting stuff that might get you a bad rep and get you sick to your stomach?", you would say no, wouldn't you? this is pretty much the same. abou the " i don't want to get the reputation that i always do that stuff" part, you probably won't get the reputation that you ALWAYS do that, but it might spread. plus, if people hear about it, they might think that since you did it once, you'll probably want to do it again. then they'll try to pressure you into it more, and it'll be easier for them, too. think about it. GOOD LUCK!! and make the RIGHT choice! *MaRi*
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Thats the same with me. I have a group of friends and yes, they drink. When i say no to a drink, they don't think anything about it. If perhaps once you want to drink, then i'm sure they will be fine with it. Then the next time you don't, thats fine too. you can still have fun w/o being drunk!
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haha, well.. my advice is you should try and stay away from those situations as much as you can. Know that you have the choice to say 'no' your friends don't control your actions, and if they are good friends they will respect your morals. :)
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if you want to, just do it, if not dont. my friends dont find it a big deal when i rarely drink, and its never a lot. its not like its a bad thing if you dont, just do what you think is best.
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anonymous -
If you get asked to drink in the future, only agree to it if you want to. Saying no is no biggie, people won't go judging you just cuz you turned down the offer. If they want a reason, just say my face tends to get red when I drink and my parents will know. Usually drinkers faces get red :)
But if you are willing to drink, drink sparingly. Don't be chugging on bongs or take shot after shot. If you drink sociably say a beer or two, you're fine, just don't overdo it. You won't get a rep of always drinking unless you get really wasted or hungover.
I hope this helps!
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dont drink if u dont feel like you should.... dont do something just because your friends tell you to... if theyre good friends they wont care if you dont want to drink.
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Well just drink with some of your close friends!
♥ ALways,
Maria
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Why would anyone think less of you for turning down a drink? If you don't want to drink, don't drink. If you do, then weigh out how why you do with the consequences involved with drinking.
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