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Too close?
I am a thirteen year old girl and I have a close male friend. We usually get on quite well and we are always talking and hugging. We used to be attracted to each other and he on/off still is to me but I don't feel that way about him. Everyone says we act like we're a couple and that we should get together but I honestly don't want to. We are very close but are we too close? I admit I hug him more than my other friends but I don't have any feelings for him. So is it wrong to be this close to him if we're not in a relationship?
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I think its totally fine but keep your story stiaght for all your firnds, i've have been in the same exact situation
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Well if you are always huggig him it may be some what misleading. I can understand having a very good male friend, but maybe you are a little too close. On the other hand, of course it is always good to have a male view especially when it comes to other guys. You also said that you explained to him that you are not interested in that kind of relationship but was your delivery forthcoming and believable. Sometimes guy friends that want to be more than friends will take what you say as a joke and think it is flirtacious. My advice to you is to either sit him down ans tell him straight you are friends and nothing more or be less "lovey-dovey" around him.
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Depends on how old the guy is, if hes way older than you, like 16, then I won't help you, girls shouldn't be bonding with way older guys.
-TheTeenGirl
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No It's not wrong to be this close. You don't have to love a boy (if your a girl)to be his friend.Think of it this way, you have friends that are girls and you don't like-like them.
Krazi Kenzi
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its good to have a close friendship with someone that is a different gender. if you dont want to be in a relationship with him you shouldnt have to. nobody can make you like him in that way, and maybe you should make it clear to everyone else that you just want to be friends with him.
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well it is totaly normal he is a close person in your life it sounds like you don't have to have a relitionship you so just don't listen to them listen to your heart and it is good you told him from the start how you fell so ther is no mixed feelings
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If you have made it clear to him that you are not intersted in having a relationship with him and he knows this and you know that he definitely knows it there isnt really any harm that i can see! However if you think that he has feelings for you then maybe you shouldn't be hugging him all the time as he wont know where he stands. If it turns out that you're both just good friends and thats all theres no harm in being physically close to each other even if everyone says that you should be a couple!
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I dont think there is anything wrong with being close best friends, especially if you both know that you arent intrested in a relationship. I have to good friends (a girl and a guy) who are best friends and really close. My other friends and I are always saying that they should really just go out, because they are so close. But I understand that even when people act close that doesnt nessacarily mean they are attracted to each other. If you being physically close, just shows how comfortable you are with him and that you are really close friends. I dont think there is anything wrong with being close, and just being friends. Good Friendships and relationships between guys and girls are often mistaken for each other, but if you know the difference, it's fine! Hope I helped you!
~Kayla
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Okay, I'm going to get right to answering your question. I don't think it is wrong to hug a guy friend, its not bad at all. As long as you don't do it too much, and don't go too far beyond that (like kissing)I think you're fine. It's okay to be close to a guy friend. If you've made it clear to him that you don't want anything but the what seems like very good friendship, then it's okay. hope i helped.
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no, your just really good friends
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Don't mind what other people say. Follow your heart, if you want to be with him, you will, and if you don't, that's your own choice. Don't let other's opinions affect what you do. Hope I helped and good luck! -RiLeY
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Thats perfectly fine!! I hug my female friends all the time, even in front of their BF's, who soundly know that we're just friends and we're not attracted in anyway... hugging just shows that you are close, good, almost brother/sister friends. Theres nothing wrong with it in any way ^^ <3 EJ
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no .. not at all! most of my friends are guys and i hug them all hte time. Most people say that me adn this guy name murphy flirt all the time and they think we go out. But hes just a really close friend. So i think it is just fine to hug him and be close to him. And if you dont like him as a boyfriend, then dont get pressured into going out with him! hope this helped. lemme know how it goes
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I don't think you are to close.There is no law that say's all your friends have to be girls.I think it's great! continue as you are.
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Well, I have a friend thats that way .. The only reason i think that they are to close is because I like the guy .. So my advice is that you make sure that none of your friends like him .. And just explain to him how you feel .. Good Luck !!
Hope I Helped
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I think is great you have such a close friend and shouldent spoil it. You just need to tell him how you feel if he is such a good friend then he should understand. Good luck em x
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Nope, I don't see anything wrong with it. I do the same thing. But be careful that you just wanting to be friends with him doesn't hurt his feelings and he doesn't feel like your being a tease.
♥ Always,
Maria
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sometimes girls and guys form a bind that is very strong. others get confused why these two people of the oppisite sex are so close! but focusing on what others think isnt what is important right now. its not wrong at all to be that close with him as long as you feel comfortable. its good that you have a friendship with a male because its awesome to have that male contact without all the sexual and relationship mess! stay friends with him if you really like him and dont let anyone tell you otherwise!
good luck!
shianne
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its not wrong, since you clearly told him that this is just a friendship thing. So yeah, thats fine...but ake sure your not really leading him on! :)
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Well, being a guy, my first response to that is that you may be leading him on. By giving him so much attention (hugs,etc.) he may be thinking that you are attracted to him; I know I would think that. So, in answer to your question, maybe you are too close to him; it's best not to lead him on if you're just in it to be friends. Friendly advice from Caleb.
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