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I have this friend who cant go to the mall alone. I offered my BFF and her to go to the mall, but she said that she would go if her mom with us! I can tell I cant be myself or buy the things I would regularly buy with her mom around. UGHH! How can I tell her I dont want her freakin mom to come to the mall with us! (link)
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Hello.
Wait, I'm a little confused. Is she not allowed to go to the mall without her mom or does she not WANT to go without her mom? I think you should just be upfront about this. Tell her that, though her mom is cool, you'd like to just hang out with her. You can bring up something about age differences or play it off like you're embarrassed. Tell her that you want to talk about cute boys without her mom there, because it's embarrassing (lol)!! (That's just an example. Other excuses would work) Worse case scenario, your friend, or her mom's rules, will continue to be difficult. You could always just find other "mall" friends and hang out with this one friend for different occasions (like say a movie, or dinner). Also, maybe she would want to (or be able to) hang out without her mom if you brought a bigger group of friends with you. Instead of three girls, you could hang out with 6, for example.
I know this can be frustrating, but sometimes parents are a little overprotective. You can't really change it, but you can work around it. Try to have a lot of close friends so that you never feel bummed about not being able to hang out with one of them. Also, it might not be such a bad thing to hang out with this girl and her mom every once in a while. Eventually, things may change.
Good luck and take care.
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I really like my best friend. He's funny, smart, cute, nice, everything! But I'm not really sure how to tell him. I'm not really a person that likes her feelings out in the open, and I definitely don't like talking about them! So how am I supposed to let him know, or how to ask him out? (link)
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Hello.
Well if you want to tell him, then you're going to have to get over not wanting your feelings out there. It's tough, I know, but once you take the plunge, then it'll be over. It's strange: we put all this effort into a crush that seems to drag on forever and are constantly wondering if the feelings are reciprocated. The most obvious solution would be to just say "hey, I like you." It's really really scary and nerve wracking to say those words, but it's much better to put all the effort that you spend crushing, on admitting your feelings. No matter what happens, you'll finally have your response. Sure, it might be a little strange and maybe even embarrassing, but that feeling will pass. The feeling that won't pass, is the feeling of regret for allowing this opportunity to pass you by.
Get your best friend alone (shouldn't be too hard since you're super close) and tell him that you have something to tell him. Tell him that you don't want it to affect your friendship. And then just tell him, or if you prefer, ask him if he would like to hang out sometime on a "date." It really doesn't matter how you say it, but only that you do say it. You'll feel much better afterward! It's very liberating to not have to bear the secret any longer! :)
Best of luck to you & take care.
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I'm 17 yrs a guy. Lately this year my friends ditch me for one another or talk as if I don't exist, I've been trying to get a girls attention by being really nice to her, she keeps flaking on me then I introduced my friend to her and 2 days later their hanging out already, people don't give me respect I give them. I said to some other friends that we should throw a group date together and they said no, then I find out they planned one with out me the next week, also alot of friends left me at my school and went to a new one so I have hardly anyone to talk to. I've been depressed for about a month now to where it and stress are giving me headaches and makin me dizzy. I don't know where to turn to could you help me out please? Sorry for the long statement.
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Hello.
I'm sorry about all of this :/. But honestly you need to stay away from these people. I know it hurts to admit this to yourself, but these people DO NOT care about you. Instead of spending your time trying to figure out why they are acting so rude or how to fix the situation, you should find new friends. I know that finding friends in the middle of high school is difficult to do because I've had to do it, but it is rewarding. The best idea I can think of for finding new friends is for you to join some clubs that you are interested in or to try out for some sport/team. Or maybe you already have some cool acquaintances in some of your classes. Try to be outgoing and ask some people that you know if they want to hang out sometime.
As for the girl that you like, I'm not sure if you could "win her back" so to speak. Do you know if she likes you? The most direct way would be to just ask her out on a date. If she says no, then I think that you should attempt to forget about her as well.
Like I said, I'm really sorry that all of this is happening to you. Sometimes high school really sucks, but just remember that this is just one rough patch in your life. When I was in 9th and in 10th grade I had a really lousy time but then my life turned around. I'm sure that you find some nice people in no time. Don't lose hope. Do your best to be optimistic and act happy even if you don't feel it. People like being around happy people. And don't feel badly that your old friends have treated you so horribly. They really don't deserve to even talk to you. That kind of behavior is inexcusable. Take care of yourself! And also, being somewhat friendless is sometimes a good thing because it allows you to focus your energy on you schoolwork (probably not what you want to hear, but don't neglect school.)
Take care and all the best.
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How early is it to send out someone a birthday card? I sent someone a birthday a card this week, but their birthday is not until the end of this month and the person probably wont be getting it until next week. Any advice on this would be great, thanks.
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Hello.
I don't personally see a problem here. It is better that the card arrived early than late, right? Maybe the card will be a nice reminder that it will be that person's birthday soon, thus making them more excited and anxious for their birthday. As long as you aren't sending the card months in advance then all is well.
Take care
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I have a friend who is really close to me. But she thinks that only one girl is her GREATEST friend or...very AWESOME. And my friend really misses her really badly. When my friend went to a tournament, she hugged that girl but not me. She talks to her and says good things about her. But I don't see what's good about that girl. Now, I feel like I'm loosing my close friend. :( I really wish my close friend would like me more than her. Well, I know it's her choice on whom she choose to like. But that girl moved from where me and my close friend lives! So why does she have to brag about how GREAT she is. It's really annoying. And again, I would like her to like me. (link)
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Hey.
I used to have a really close friend at one point. I had known her a very long time and we sort of grew up together to the point where we knew everything about eachother. To me, no one will ever replace her.
But that's why you shouldn't compare your friendship to theirs! You two are different people and it doesn't mean that she likes you any less. I have close friends that I absolutely love right now! Just because she talks about that person to you a lot doesn't mean she likes her better. Maybe when your friend hangs out with another friend she talks about you all the time. She loves you. If she didn't, she wouldn't be your friend.
I know it sounds annoying how she talks about her all the time, but she really does miss her, so she may need your help to make her feel better. Be as supportive as possible and try not to take it personally. I'm sure your friend likes you.
Take care
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17/f my friend really wants a car any kind of car if it runs it's good. And her mom said msybe how can she talk her into getting one?? (link)
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Well.
There are many reasons to get a car. For one, you save your parents a lot of time that they would spend driving you around. With your own car, you no longer need to rely on your parents for rides. Also, it's good to get driving experience and an old car is a great way to start. As long as your friend has taken a license test then this should be a good idea. And also, she should tell her mom that her friends can help pay for gas if she has to go pick them up or something.
Good luck to your friend.
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16/f
i have a best friend who is now seventeen years old. we were boyfriend & girlfriend a year ago.. but we lasted about three months. but the thing is that i only saw him as a best friend than a boyfriend, including the fact that i rarely got to see him. and apparently he didn't get over me for a couple of months, but later on he did. he didn't like anybody for a while, only a little crush here and there. he's been single for almost a month now, but i've had a couple of boyfriends after him. i am now in a relationship with my current boyfriend for seven months. and me and my best friend still talks alot like usual. once school had ended, and summer started. i went on vacation, out of the country... and didn't have a computer or any of type of phone, and my best friend went off to new york. but he came back before i did... and ever since, he wasn't interested in anybody. for his seventeenth birthday, i surprised him at the bowling ally. he was happy and everything, and we started to hang out alot more, and talk on the phone more. and did what we always did.
but lately, now when i talk to him, he always says "i hate my life" or "fml" and i always ask him why does he say that, and he says that he's a loser. i asked why, but he said he always looses things. yesterday, i told him to tell me what was wrong cause i had to deal with that for the longest time ever. but he said "i'll tell you when i'm ready, and right now i'm not ready" which made no sense, because he didn't show any clues that he liked me again or anything, he makes fun of me and etc. and when he liked me before, he was always polite and throwing compliments at me. and later on, i kept asking him why wouldn't he tell me what was wrong.. and he said "if you were me, you wouldn't be ready to tell you either... it's harder than you think it is.. plus, it would probably effect everything. what if it involved a special person?" and today, he came over to my house.. i went through his messages cause him and my best friend was talking about something, and he said "did you tell mary (me) anything?" and my friend said "no, why?" so i don't know.
i suck at reading clues... help?! (link)
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Aww..
I think he does like you. It would all make sense. He is happy when he is able to spend time with you. But at the same time he probably feels at least a little depressed that you already have a boyfriend. Maybe he isn't ready to tell you because he is afraid of your reaction. Obviously, he wouldn't want to be heartbroken. I know it's probably going to bug you why he is hiding this (or whatever he is hiding from you). But he said that he isn't ready to tell you yet, so perhaps you should just wait it out. Maybe he is hoping to tell you if and when you and your current boyfriend break up.
You never mentioned once whether or not you have feelings for your best friend. You also didn't mention what your feelings are for your current boyfriend. So I'm not really sure what you want in this case, but if you want to be with your boyfriend then you should try to forget about this thing with your best friend. Still be best friends obviously. But if you are having feelings for your best friend, then that is a different case. Really think about this one. I hope that everything works out for the best. If you need any more help just ask me. :) Take care.
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my best friend is not half as social as i am. i love to spend most of my time with her. but when im not with her i enjoy hanging out with other people. which is completely normal! but the problem is that she doesn't really have any other friends besides me. and i always feel bad when i want to spend the night out or attend a party of another friends without her because she isn't invited. or if she does tag along i fear she feels like a 3rd wheel. but than again i feel its not really my fault she doesn't have anyone besides me. don't get me wrong i love this girl to death. but i cant hangout with her 24/7! what do u think i should do? (link)
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Hmm.
I get what you are saying. Is she not very social or something? I'm thinking that the problem is that maybe she hasn't really met too many people to be friends with. Maybe she is a little shy, but hey that's okay. I think you should try to introduce her to more of your friends. Maybe she'll find someone she really clicks with and have more friends. Or maybe you've already tried this. well if you haven't then you should. I've made a lot of good friends with people I have been introduced to. It's easiest for her to hang out with you because she will obviously feel comfortable. Sometimes being with people we don't know makes us feel awkward. If you do invite her with your other friends do the best you can to not make her feel like a third wheel. Include her in the conversation as much as possible and try to get her talking with the other people. If she isn't invited to a party then really, what can you do? It isn't your fault. Anyways I hope I've helped you out. Good luck!
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alright. im basically goin to give you some background information to kind of understand my problem. i pretty much have a group of 5 best friends and myself. we're known as 'the girls' and weve all been friends for a while.
ill call them L & S, my bestest friends, B & R, two that im super close to in the group... and then there is P.
P is the most flirtacious, bitchy girl but somehow shes manipulative enough to get everyone on her side. i used to be pretty good friends with her, i thought. but then i started noticin that she flirts with my boyfriend, gives head for rides, has soo many 'friends with benefits', i think you get the point.
ive heard from L & M that shes all like 'T (me) means nothin to me because she ditched us for her boyfriend.' which i havent, ive just had some problems with chillin at L's house all the time. (all we do is party there) and shes just like 'ughh T' whenever someone brings me up. L & M say the stick up for me.
L & S are the only ones who share the same view on P as i do. but we dont want to disrupt the group by startin stuff with her. but i cant take it anymore ! she makes me want to choke her everytime i see her. but she acts so nice to me to my face so i just return it to, once again, not disrupt anythin.
i know that i should confront her, but id have to see her a lot still and get shit from her all the time through my real friends.
what do i do !?! thanks sooo much. (link)
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I think you need to ask her what her problem is with you exactly. Maybe if you just took her aside one day and talked to her about the situation, then you could find some common ground. I know you don't want to cause problems, but there are ways to confront her without being mean or rude. You should tell her politely (without mentioning any names) that you know that she has a problem with you and you would like to know why. Or maybe tell her that you feel like she doesn't really like you and is only pretending to. Something along those lines. She might deny it in which case I would just let it go or she might actually admit to it. Communication is the best way to fix any problem. And you probably should communicate before you get any more violent urges to choke her, haha. I hope it goes well. Good Luck!
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15/f
I'm usually pretty quiet. I have a small group of "closer" friends, maybe 8 or so. Then I don't really have any other people I would consider "friends". More like "acquantices"[sp?].
In school, I'm really shy and I probably just appear unapproachable because I'm not really social. At home, I LOVE it. My dad is amazing and he's really involved in my life. If I had to choose between him or my friends, it would definitely be him. Well, most of my friends are pretty social. They have a lot of friends and hang out with people every weekend. I'm always invited to stuff, but I always make up excuses not to go... but any time I DO end up going to the mall with my friends, I have fun. However, I'm always a bit reluctant to make plans with people. I just feel better staying at home and watching tv or reading or something then I do hanging out with my friends. I can't really understand why I'm so reluctant to have fun with my friends, but when my dad wants to take me some place, I really want to go. Isn't it usually the other way around with teenagers? You know, they want to spend as much time away from their parents? I don't know, I just feel really antisocial. Like, I don't have as many friends as some other people... I don't want to miss out on the highschool experience because I'm off spending time with dear old dad...but I just have more fun. Sorry, I got a little off track, but how can I become more social? Like make some new friends, hang out with them more and stuff?
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I know how you feel. I'm kind of the same way because I have only a few close friends, but that's okay. I enjoy spending time at home too, and don't always want to go places. There is really no need to compare yourself to everyone else. You live your life the way it makes you the happiest. :) So, it's okay to not want to go out, you want some solo time. However, since you do like being at home maybe you can invite a friend over sometime and watch movies. Sleepovers are fun. Going to the mall is fun too, or bowling! (I did that last week) :)
It is hard to be really social at school sometimes but you don't have to be super talkative. Just make an effort to speak up and talk to kids around you in class. You can ask them what they did last weekend or maybe tell them a funny story or something. I'm sure that you are an interesting person who can carry a conversation. If you open up more people will naturally gravitate towards you and pretty soon you'll find that you are a lot more social. I hope I've helped. No worries, you'll have more friends in no time.
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14/f
I've been friends with this boy since I was in kindergarten and we were really best friends all the way up to 6th grade. Last year, naturally, we weren't as close but we remained good friends. Now, I understand that because I’m a girl he doesn't feel completely comfortable being "best" friends like in kindergarten due to horny 14 yr old boy issues, but I still believe we can be friends. He's into this blond (the hottest girl in school) and has ditched me to spend time with her. He knows he's not going to date her; he just hangs around her because she's hot. He knows she's a (in his own words) "a dumbass". She's also unpleasant and arrogant. Not to mention slightly narcissistic. So anyway, he’s ditched me. He doesn’t talk to me. He doesn’t even look at me when I say “hi”. He’s made me almost non-existent. I can understand him not wanting to spend time with another girl and ditching her for “the blond” but what about a friend? He barely ever even considered me a girl before anyway. He always thought I was a lesbo, and a total guy. (Ugh, I’m not getting to the point.) So here’s the question. He didn’t ditch his guy friends for the blond but he ditches me. I’m hurt and miss him. Why did he ditch me and not any of his other friends? Is it because I’m a girl? I can’t think of any other reason and I know for a fact it’s not because he’s tired of me as a friend. During our school trip to Monterey, he sat next to me constantly for hours on the bus, on the plane, during meals, ect. We talked, laughed, flirted, ect. For hours! So why does he choose to ditch me? I really don’t understand and feel very hurt by being pushed aside.
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Hey.
Well what he's doing is honestly kind of stupid and unnecessary. I would be hurt too if I were you. But you should also know that you are better than this. I'm sure you have other friends, possibly girls, that you can hang out with. If he wants to keep hanging out with that other girl and with his guy friends, then all the best to him. I know it's not easy to be given the cold shoulder like that, because I myself have been in a similar situation. I tried to keep being that person's friend, but they weren't putting in any effort. So, what I would do is simply let him live his life. He will most likely come to you eventually. So, in the meantime, try not to give it too much thought, because it'll just make you miserable. Try to make the best of this and not let it bring you down. Middle and high school is a time when people are confused and all over the place. A lot of us don't even know what we want. So just give him time to figure it out on his own. Good luck.
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Im a 14f if it helps.. So recently I've started to like this guy again. I've known him for three years ablnd am just getting to know him the end of last year (school time so around April). I have a ton of crazy friends and he is definately one of them. We flirt. Every time I get a chance to see him actually :) He is hilarious and likes to joke around and whatnot. We have some things in common like football, music, ect. Sunday (27th) my best guy friend michael had a bowling party. ( he is the class clown and still manages to get straight a's and student of the year) Ofcourse he was invited and we got to bowl in the same lane and stuff. What I like about him is that if he's good at something he doesn't show off like an idiot. He's 14 too. Okay so the real problem is that lately he is all I can think about. Everything seems to remind me of him. Especially when me and my bestfriend went bowling again with some other guys and she ended up with a date. I'm happy for her because this is what she has been waiting for for months. He used to like me... Anyway last night made me realize that I'm tired of waiting for the guy to be a gentleman and not do anything until they're sure u like them. I thought I should tell him how I really feel. This would be m first bf and I'm scared of regection. How the heck am I supposed to so this? And what's not an akward way to tell him? Also I need help standing out and I want him to notice me. I'm already outgoing and do crazy stuff but when is it going overboard and does he really notice me ? (sorry it's so long, I needed some background) thanks for any help (link)
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Well if you want this guy so badly, then I say you go for it. :) Yes, there is a chance that he will reject you, but that's life. I, however, am a firm believer in getting what you want. So, I say when you guys hang out again and it comes time to say goodbye you can either tell him, or you can just kiss him on the cheek right after you hug him goodbye. But if you kiss him, don't just walk away. You should wait to see how he reacts. If neither of these methods appeal to you, you could also just keep flirting but more aggressively such as; telling him he's hot, hugging him a lot, sitting really close to him, ect. Make it obvious. Some guys are just really shy about making a move so you have to do it instead. Anyways, best of luck to ya! And if for whatever reason he doesn't like you like that, just tell him it's cool and that you can still be friends. Life goes on and on so you'll be fine. Peace
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My friend, who never talks to anyone about his feelings and is very hard to get to open up, has just told me that he's feeling ignored by everyone. He seems really down, (and usually he is pretty happy) and like he feels like no one cares about him.
He keeps saying that he'll just leave it, try to forget about it and let it sort itself out. But I know these things don't work, you have to sort them out.
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You need to talk to him. And by that I mean have a real long deep conversation about what is bothering him. The best way to find answers is to first find the core of a problem. On the surface, problems are usually feeling upset, bored with life, angry for no reason, anxious, ect. But the real problems are harder to figure out, especially if you don't want people to judge you. In my own experience, I've always had self esteem issues but I would show it as extreme anxiety whenever talking to people and sometimes I would feel lonely and like I had no one to turn to. But I didn't know why, basically I just felt confused. However, my good friend told me that I had a problem. It wasn't easy to hear, because I don't like showing people that I'm weak. I used to pride myself on trying to be the perfect person. But then I found out how wrong I was. It turns out that ignoring the problem doesn't solve it, so you are right to want to help him. I hope that you can be there for him the way my friend was for me. It really does help so much when you know that someone understands you and cares about you. You should definitely try to work with him and try to find out the issues that are really bothering him, and then try to find solutions which he can use to gradually correct the problem. The most important thing when you are feeling down, is just to love yourself and to love life. When you look at life all together and see how beautiful it is, nothing else seems to matter anymore. I hope I helped you. :)
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so for the first time in a long time, i really feel like all my friends have moved on from me. they either got bored, or found someone better. i am usually very confident and happy, i'm just shy with new people. i'm not sure what to do with myself anymore. also, i'm drifting from all my best friends; especially one that i've had for 11 years. (i'm 15 , shes 17). i feel like i can't relate to anyone anymore, many of my friend's changed. if anyone has gone through this, what did you do to cope? any help on this would be appreciated, thankyou so much (link)
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I understand how you feel to some extent. Last year I switched schools from all of my close friends and felt like i had absolutely no one. And I think my sadness made me kind of isolate myself from everyone else. Like I feel like they only saw that sad alone part of me rather than the real happy fun person that I know I truly am. For nearly a year I did nothing about it. But that was a huge mistake, think of all the stuff I missed out on! So I thought to myself, "I have to show people the real me. I have to forget the mistakes I've made because I can't change them anymore. I have to accept that I am no one else bu myself, and I have to be the best version of myself as possible."
So when I started school again, I talked to everyone in my classes. I tried to get more involved in clubs that really interested me and took electives that I thought would be fun. Suddenly I go from hating school to looking forward to each new day. Now, I still don't have super tight friends, but I am working on it. It's only been a week, after all. But I am trying to show people who I am, not who I think they want me to be. It took me so long to figure that out and now that I have I can honestly say that I have found happiness in myself. I hope you can do the same. The key is to do what you love and show everyone who you are. Being shy isn't really an option. Try to initiate conversations and make new friends. It will take a while, but at least know that you aren't alone, because I'll be doing it too.
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Okay, i've known this girl christie for so long that i can call her my sister. I've known her since 6th grade, and since then we've hung out basically every weekend and every day during the summer. I'm apart of her family.
then this girl casey comes along [i introduced them, i was friends with casey first before christie] and she ruins our friendship/sisterhood.
well, im best friends with christie again, but not with casey. christie is having her sweet16 in december. shes putting casey on her candles BEFORE ME. that really pissed me off and i just wanted to LEAVE her house. casey is candle 7, im number 8. I told her that it pissed me off and she said suck it up. I told my sister and she said its not a big deal, but deep inside it hurts me to death that she thinks about casey before me. and her and casey havent been hanging out as much. casey is going into 9th grade, and christie and i are going into 10th. Don't you find that annoying? Imagine if your best friend dedicated a candle to someone you introduced to them first.
Is it okay that im feeling this way? jealous.. i think thats what i would call it. i told her that i should be before casey, but she just ignored me. and my friend bekki was also over and she said she doesnt know what christies deal was for that, and she found it bitchy too.
i need alot of help. i was thinking about leaving after the 6th candle goes up for the bathroom so i dont kill the girl. and come back intime for me to be called up for the 8th.
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I have personal experience with a really similar situation and I want to tell you that this is completely natural. I have two best friends that I introduced and I remember feeling just as you do right now. I even told my other friend and she would tell me that it wasn't cool that they were always together and that it was messed up. I never told them how I felt though because I was embarrassed. I think that jealousy comes from fear, fear that something is wrong with us that is making the other person want to hang out with someone who is better. It's insecurity. It probably isn't great hearing that you might be insecure but I hope you don't take this the wrong way. I honestly think that your friends care deeply about you. But you have to try to let go of the thought that she thinks about Casey more than you. You owe it to your friends to not be mad at them for unintentionally hurting your feelings. Once you get rid of the jealousy you'll find that you will be much happier and feel closer to your friends. I wish you the best.
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14/f
I have this friend and we're going into high school and she just made out hooked up with whatever you want to call it with this soon to be senior at soccer camp. She's only had 3 boyfriends and only kissed 1 of them. I feel like she's taking it way to far way to fast she only just met the guy! Plus before it was like she never used to talk to guys now she hangs out with her sister's high school friends and likes older guys!
I mean it's fine to like older guys and stuff but i think she's taking it to fast and trusting people more then she should. What if she does something with her body that she doesn't want to do?
I don't know how you can help me but explain to me why she is doing this and am i loosing her as a friend? Is this some kind of cry for help!?
THANKS :) (link)
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This isn't a cry for help. It is most likely her tired of not having talked to guys for most of her life and she feels like she's missing out on adventure so, naturally, she goes insane all of a sudden. I've seen this happen, actually it happened to me a while back. The important thing to remember here is that we are teenagers. Hook ups happen. And yes sometimes they go a little too far too fast, but I think the only thing you can do to help your friend is talk to her about how you don't want her to get hurt or do something she isn't ready for. Be there for her now and always. This is just her living a stage of her life and I promise you it will pass. Guys should never replace friends but if you ever feel her growing distant from you, just remember that she is going through a confusing time. High school can be fun or complicated-and I'm talking about clean fun here, not pot smoking and alcohol. Anyways I hope you have a great time in high school and make tons of friends this year. Take care.
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17/F My friend is a Jehovah's Witness and really tries to convert me. I am Jewish as in heritage, but I've come to the conclusion that I am fine without a religion. I don't need to be led and that's final. If I tell her I am content with my religious choices...will she still be my friend? or should I just continue to turn down invites to her congregation...I've been there before, so I have given it a try. (link)
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It is hard to have friends of different religions, especially when they try to convert you. Yet you have to be honest. I remember my friend told me that she really did not need a religion at this point in her life because she wanted to figure out life in her own way, and I accepted that. What I mean is that you should tell her how you feel and as a good friend she will step aside and allow you to believe in whatever makes you happy. I actually used to be a different religion but when my mom switched to Buddhism, I really began to feel free. And that is exactly how everyone should feel, free to live the life that they want.
Anyways, I hope you are able to talk to your friend so that she can understand this unique side of you and support you in your time together.
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My Best Friend is a JERK!!! At least I think.
My best friend is a guy. We get teased a LOT about it, but whatever. He WAS dating this girl named Destiny. She's in 8th grade (we're in 7th.) She's a little bit of a slut, but I didn't say anything, even though I secretly have a crush on Koby, but whatever... The point is his OTHER best girl friend, Katie, and I saw Destiny dirty dancing and holding hands with a guy OTHER THAN KOBY!!! I was pissed, as you can imagine. Katie was too, so she texted Koby and was like,"Destiny's with another guy." And we took a pic of them holding hands. Koby texted her back,"How am I suppose to believe you? Are you tired of waiting for me to break up with her so you can have me?" Is he a jerk or should I forgive him? (link)
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I think that he is being defensive. He isn't trying to be mean but sometimes anger makes us say things the wrong way. He probably doesn't want to believe the truth, because he obviously likes this girl. I am sorry that your feelings for him are in the middle of your friendship, that always makes things difficult. You and your friend are being good friends for trying to help him avoid being in a relationship with a girl who is dishonest to him, so you haven't done anything wrong. Just continue to be his friend and try not to make a big deal about what he said. Hopefully I've helped. If you need anything, please write to me.
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Okay, well lately me and my best friend have been drifting apart.
She's been upset with me about protesting something a distant relative believes in, and she didn't tell me until she was ready to basically disown me as a friend. If I would have known I would have honestly given up the thing I was protesting for her.
Anyway, because of how upset she is with me it's been hard to converse with her. I try, but she sort of kills it.
We're still friends, and we hung out yesterday and we were fine, but it's online which really hurts. And we speak online more than real life so it's getting bad.
And just then, heaps of people were asking me why this certain girl who we both hang out with got moved to her number 1 on MySpace. I know it's just a stupid ranking on a stupid site, but it's basically a social structure and it indicates she now finds she's closer to this other girl than me. She's also been hanging out with her more and telling her more.
Oh, did I mention I introduced them both? I did, and now I feel kinda crappy they've grown closer to each other and distant from me.
I honestly don't care how close they get, but the fact that they're closer than me is really getting me down. I've been feeling depressed about a number of reasons lately and I don't want friendship to be on the list as well.
Now the question is, do I just let things flow or try to be her number 1 again? I can't make friends easily, and I honestly believe her friendship was a miracle.
So I'm jaded, and I need to know an answer before I cry over something as pathetic as this.
If I do try and become close to her again, how the hell do I do it? It isn't about the protests anymore, it's about her not wanting to be close to me right now, over something I thought she was supporting me in. (link)
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first off im not sure if you apologized already but if you haven't then you should do that first. explain how you didn't know and that you didn't even care about the protest as much as you care about her. also keep hanging out with the other girl as well.
i don't think the friendship should end because it would be a really stupid reason to end it. i know i've had several driftings with certain friends but in the end we end up friends again. it just happens sometimes where theres a fight or a misunderstanding but think of all the good times. they are much more important than a protest and she will realize that too. oh and i know myspace top friends suck but dont let it get to you. pretty soon you will all be able to chill together and drink so frappuccinos together at some coffee place. yay! just go with the flow because depression is useless and accomplishes nothing.
hope you are feeling better and ready to kick some social status but! =]
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do u know any lyrics or poems that explain this
"we argued like we were together
we changed for one another.
we were honest and we lied.
we were open to each other.
we had a guiding hand.
we never failed to be there.
we laughed and we cried.
we loved and we hated.
we put each other first when we say we didn't.
we climbed to the top.
we tried way too hard.
we did all we could."
i know thats a poem in itself.
but im trying not to make it obvious :-X
or can you reword it for me?
im unsure. heh thanks! (link)
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okay well i can try to rephrase it
we tried be there for one another
and be what the other needed
we tried to open our hearts to each other
and be the laughter that the other pleaded
it was wonderful and beautiful
climbing mountains together
utb somehow it all seemed too thought out
but all we could do is what we did do
I also thought of BUTTERFLIES by SIA but im not sure if it fits it exactly. =/
"We've been to the top, we've been to the bottom
We've known everything and forgotten, yeah
You've kicked me around, you've wrapped me in cotton
You've carried our load, and you've shot 'em
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
We've argued by the baggage claim
We've accepted and we've laid blame
We've drank Sangthip in monsoonal rain
We've felt separate and felt the same
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
We've shared joy and we've shared pain
We've shared guilt and we've shared shame
We've bought into the stupid games
We've freed each other and we laid claim
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Oh yes the butterflies are still there
Because we came from the same cocoon"
hope i helped!! =]]]]]
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