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how to help my friend who feels alone and ignored
My friend, who never talks to anyone about his feelings and is very hard to get to open up, has just told me that he's feeling ignored by everyone. He seems really down, (and usually he is pretty happy) and like he feels like no one cares about him.
He keeps saying that he'll just leave it, try to forget about it and let it sort itself out. But I know these things don't work, you have to sort them out.
How can I help him?
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You need to talk to him. And by that I mean have a real long deep conversation about what is bothering him. The best way to find answers is to first find the core of a problem. On the surface, problems are usually feeling upset, bored with life, angry for no reason, anxious, ect. But the real problems are harder to figure out, especially if you don't want people to judge you. In my own experience, I've always had self esteem issues but I would show it as extreme anxiety whenever talking to people and sometimes I would feel lonely and like I had no one to turn to. But I didn't know why, basically I just felt confused. However, my good friend told me that I had a problem. It wasn't easy to hear, because I don't like showing people that I'm weak. I used to pride myself on trying to be the perfect person. But then I found out how wrong I was. It turns out that ignoring the problem doesn't solve it, so you are right to want to help him. I hope that you can be there for him the way my friend was for me. It really does help so much when you know that someone understands you and cares about you. You should definitely try to work with him and try to find out the issues that are really bothering him, and then try to find solutions which he can use to gradually correct the problem. The most important thing when you are feeling down, is just to love yourself and to love life. When you look at life all together and see how beautiful it is, nothing else seems to matter anymore. I hope I helped you. :)
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It's not uncommon for people to feel like that every once in a while, especially if he's a teenager, since your hormones are going crazy at that time. The only thing you can really do is let him know that you'll always be there for him when he feels alone or needs to talk, & show him that you really care about him.
It's probably just a phase, though.
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