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I'd rather be left alone...
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I'm usually pretty quiet. I have a small group of "closer" friends, maybe 8 or so. Then I don't really have any other people I would consider "friends". More like "acquantices"[sp?].
In school, I'm really shy and I probably just appear unapproachable because I'm not really social. At home, I LOVE it. My dad is amazing and he's really involved in my life. If I had to choose between him or my friends, it would definitely be him. Well, most of my friends are pretty social. They have a lot of friends and hang out with people every weekend. I'm always invited to stuff, but I always make up excuses not to go... but any time I DO end up going to the mall with my friends, I have fun. However, I'm always a bit reluctant to make plans with people. I just feel better staying at home and watching tv or reading or something then I do hanging out with my friends. I can't really understand why I'm so reluctant to have fun with my friends, but when my dad wants to take me some place, I really want to go. Isn't it usually the other way around with teenagers? You know, they want to spend as much time away from their parents? I don't know, I just feel really antisocial. Like, I don't have as many friends as some other people... I don't want to miss out on the highschool experience because I'm off spending time with dear old dad...but I just have more fun. Sorry, I got a little off track, but how can I become more social? Like make some new friends, hang out with them more and stuff?
Thanks!
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I know how you feel. I'm kind of the same way because I have only a few close friends, but that's okay. I enjoy spending time at home too, and don't always want to go places. There is really no need to compare yourself to everyone else. You live your life the way it makes you the happiest. :) So, it's okay to not want to go out, you want some solo time. However, since you do like being at home maybe you can invite a friend over sometime and watch movies. Sleepovers are fun. Going to the mall is fun too, or bowling! (I did that last week) :)
It is hard to be really social at school sometimes but you don't have to be super talkative. Just make an effort to speak up and talk to kids around you in class. You can ask them what they did last weekend or maybe tell them a funny story or something. I'm sure that you are an interesting person who can carry a conversation. If you open up more people will naturally gravitate towards you and pretty soon you'll find that you are a lot more social. I hope I've helped. No worries, you'll have more friends in no time.
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Well for one, there's nothing wrong with you because you're closer to your dad than your friends. Hanging with your dad is your comfort zone and getting out of it would be pretty tough to do. For one, you should try not to cancel plans with your friends. Although you might prefer to stay home, you have to ease your way into hanging with them. The first couple of times would be uncomfortable but in the end it will help you become more social. You need to ask yourseslf what the specific reason is that you don't like hanging out. Is it because you're scared of what your friends might do? Is it because you feel they're pitying you? Other than that, try what I suggested and see if it works for you. :D
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