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How do I ask him?
I really like my best friend. He's funny, smart, cute, nice, everything! But I'm not really sure how to tell him. I'm not really a person that likes her feelings out in the open, and I definitely don't like talking about them! So how am I supposed to let him know, or how to ask him out?
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do nooooot ask hmj ur a girl he asks u!!!! and if you dont want to come right out adn say it hint at it, starting flirting wiht hmand if he doesnt flirt back drop it cause guys wil flirt with anyone tht they might like, o if he doestn flirt back, ur screwed, srry bye:)
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Hello.
Well if you want to tell him, then you're going to have to get over not wanting your feelings out there. It's tough, I know, but once you take the plunge, then it'll be over. It's strange: we put all this effort into a crush that seems to drag on forever and are constantly wondering if the feelings are reciprocated. The most obvious solution would be to just say "hey, I like you." It's really really scary and nerve wracking to say those words, but it's much better to put all the effort that you spend crushing, on admitting your feelings. No matter what happens, you'll finally have your response. Sure, it might be a little strange and maybe even embarrassing, but that feeling will pass. The feeling that won't pass, is the feeling of regret for allowing this opportunity to pass you by.
Get your best friend alone (shouldn't be too hard since you're super close) and tell him that you have something to tell him. Tell him that you don't want it to affect your friendship. And then just tell him, or if you prefer, ask him if he would like to hang out sometime on a "date." It really doesn't matter how you say it, but only that you do say it. You'll feel much better afterward! It's very liberating to not have to bear the secret any longer! :)
Best of luck to you & take care.
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There really isn't a way to avoid directly telling a person. You have to be a risk taker and leave yourself vulnerable as we all do.
That's the only way to get what you want. He's your best-friend and as such won't make things awkward or unbearable if he doesn't feel the same way. You should ask him if he ever thought there could be more to this than just a friendship and go from there.
You could always try to invite him on a group date but likely that won't compute as you always take him along with the same crowd. I would just try what I said above or saying it outright as regardless it empowers you to take risks and go after what you want with relationships.
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