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i've never felt so alone?
so for the first time in a long time, i really feel like all my friends have moved on from me. they either got bored, or found someone better. i am usually very confident and happy, i'm just shy with new people. i'm not sure what to do with myself anymore. also, i'm drifting from all my best friends; especially one that i've had for 11 years. (i'm 15 , shes 17). i feel like i can't relate to anyone anymore, many of my friend's changed. if anyone has gone through this, what did you do to cope? any help on this would be appreciated, thankyou so much<3
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Coincidentally I'm right now dealing with this, though I've dealt with it in the past as well. Its actually really hard to cope with this kind of thing, and being shy about meeting just makes it harder. I know, cause I have a weird phobia against people I don't know. We all have to understand change will always happen, for better or for worse.
But sometimes you just have to figure out a way to get out of your comfort zone and meet new people. Its hard, I know, but relating to someone isn't just what being a friend is all about. If you can believe in the concept "Opposites attract" than you can sort of relate to more people than those who are like you. Variety is a far better thing than straight line relations. The best way I find to cope with this, is still try to be friends with whom I still have, and still make other friends. True friends will never drift away, and even if they become separated their memories still remain in their hearts.
This is really the only way I've found to deal with losing friends over time. That, and I just learn to move on and accept life for what it is. Let the past be the past, and focus on today and tomorrow. Those are the times when things count most.
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I understand how you feel to some extent. Last year I switched schools from all of my close friends and felt like i had absolutely no one. And I think my sadness made me kind of isolate myself from everyone else. Like I feel like they only saw that sad alone part of me rather than the real happy fun person that I know I truly am. For nearly a year I did nothing about it. But that was a huge mistake, think of all the stuff I missed out on! So I thought to myself, "I have to show people the real me. I have to forget the mistakes I've made because I can't change them anymore. I have to accept that I am no one else bu myself, and I have to be the best version of myself as possible."
So when I started school again, I talked to everyone in my classes. I tried to get more involved in clubs that really interested me and took electives that I thought would be fun. Suddenly I go from hating school to looking forward to each new day. Now, I still don't have super tight friends, but I am working on it. It's only been a week, after all. But I am trying to show people who I am, not who I think they want me to be. It took me so long to figure that out and now that I have I can honestly say that I have found happiness in myself. I hope you can do the same. The key is to do what you love and show everyone who you are. Being shy isn't really an option. Try to initiate conversations and make new friends. It will take a while, but at least know that you aren't alone, because I'll be doing it too.
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