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3rd wheel?
my best friend is not half as social as i am. i love to spend most of my time with her. but when im not with her i enjoy hanging out with other people. which is completely normal! but the problem is that she doesn't really have any other friends besides me. and i always feel bad when i want to spend the night out or attend a party of another friends without her because she isn't invited. or if she does tag along i fear she feels like a 3rd wheel. but than again i feel its not really my fault she doesn't have anyone besides me. don't get me wrong i love this girl to death. but i cant hangout with her 24/7! what do u think i should do?
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I get what you are saying. Is she not very social or something? I'm thinking that the problem is that maybe she hasn't really met too many people to be friends with. Maybe she is a little shy, but hey that's okay. I think you should try to introduce her to more of your friends. Maybe she'll find someone she really clicks with and have more friends. Or maybe you've already tried this. well if you haven't then you should. I've made a lot of good friends with people I have been introduced to. It's easiest for her to hang out with you because she will obviously feel comfortable. Sometimes being with people we don't know makes us feel awkward. If you do invite her with your other friends do the best you can to not make her feel like a third wheel. Include her in the conversation as much as possible and try to get her talking with the other people. If she isn't invited to a party then really, what can you do? It isn't your fault. Anyways I hope I've helped you out. Good luck! <3
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I think you should rest assured that you're doing everything you can do. You're right; you can't be with her all the time even if she is your best friend. There's nothing wrong with wanting to go out with other people sometimes. For all you know, your friend might enjoy spending half of her time with you and half of her time at alone. I've gone through long periods where I only hang out with one or two people and spend the rest of my time alone writing or painting. I enjoy the time alone to relax.
If your friend hasn't mentioned feeling like a third wheel, I wouldn't bring it up to her. If she hasn't thought that yet, bringing it up will make her insecure about it. Instead, when she is tagging along say something like, "I'm so glad you came with", that way she'll feel like you really like spending time with her and that she's not a third wheel.
Darby(:
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