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My Best Friend: The JERK?
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My Best Friend is a JERK!!! At least I think.
My best friend is a guy. We get teased a LOT about it, but whatever. He WAS dating this girl named Destiny. She's in 8th grade (we're in 7th.) She's a little bit of a slut, but I didn't say anything, even though I secretly have a crush on Koby, but whatever... The point is his OTHER best girl friend, Katie, and I saw Destiny dirty dancing and holding hands with a guy OTHER THAN KOBY!!! I was pissed, as you can imagine. Katie was too, so she texted Koby and was like,"Destiny's with another guy." And we took a pic of them holding hands. Koby texted her back,"How am I suppose to believe you? Are you tired of waiting for me to break up with her so you can have me?" Is he a jerk or should I forgive him?
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To be quite honest with you, I think you letting Katie text him saying that Destiny was going out with somebody else was a bad move. True, she may be a slut, but he may love her all the same and the fact that he didn't accept the picture proves that to me.
I can understand that you were angry, but letting your emotions run you away is never good, as you may do things which you can regret later: this would be one of those situations as you've created dis-trust in Koby for you and possibly, may've created some hatred.
Plus, you don't really have enough evidence that she is going out with another guy. WAIT AND READ ON BEFORE RATING THIS. True, you did see her dirty dancing, and holding hands with somebody else, but you don't have evidence to prove that the picture was real. Before somebody breaks up with somebody, they need to have solid facts as to why they're breaking up. There would be no point in breaking up over something which wasn't true, then getting back together (and the relationship wouldn't work after that due to too much suspicion between the couple).
So you can see as to where I'm coming from. Koby isn't being a jerk, he's being smart. He won't jeopardise his relationship over some claim (and photo) that Destiny is going out with somebody else.
I noticed that you said 'At least I think', which tells me that even you aren't sure whether Koby's being a twat or being smart. That then leads on to make me think that maybe you know you did something wrong, not him.
I would suggest that YOU go and apologise, becasue if youv'e got any hope for going out wiht him, then you need to repair any negative feelings you may've caused him to feel about you. But say things like:
1) No, I'm not waiting for you to break up with Destiny.
2) I know what I saw, if you don't believe me, then you ask Destiny (and I won't be surprised if he already has asked her).
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I think that he is being defensive. He isn't trying to be mean but sometimes anger makes us say things the wrong way. He probably doesn't want to believe the truth, because he obviously likes this girl. I am sorry that your feelings for him are in the middle of your friendship, that always makes things difficult. You and your friend are being good friends for trying to help him avoid being in a relationship with a girl who is dishonest to him, so you haven't done anything wrong. Just continue to be his friend and try not to make a big deal about what he said. Hopefully I've helped. If you need anything, please write to me.
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