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14/f
I have this friend and we're going into high school and she just made out hooked up with whatever you want to call it with this soon to be senior at soccer camp. She's only had 3 boyfriends and only kissed 1 of them. I feel like she's taking it way to far way to fast she only just met the guy! Plus before it was like she never used to talk to guys now she hangs out with her sister's high school friends and likes older guys!
I mean it's fine to like older guys and stuff but i think she's taking it to fast and trusting people more then she should. What if she does something with her body that she doesn't want to do?
I don't know how you can help me but explain to me why she is doing this and am i loosing her as a friend? Is this some kind of cry for help!?
THANKS :)
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This isn't a cry for help. It is most likely her tired of not having talked to guys for most of her life and she feels like she's missing out on adventure so, naturally, she goes insane all of a sudden. I've seen this happen, actually it happened to me a while back. The important thing to remember here is that we are teenagers. Hook ups happen. And yes sometimes they go a little too far too fast, but I think the only thing you can do to help your friend is talk to her about how you don't want her to get hurt or do something she isn't ready for. Be there for her now and always. This is just her living a stage of her life and I promise you it will pass. Guys should never replace friends but if you ever feel her growing distant from you, just remember that she is going through a confusing time. High school can be fun or complicated-and I'm talking about clean fun here, not pot smoking and alcohol. Anyways I hope you have a great time in high school and make tons of friends this year. Take care.
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It very well could be a cry for help. She also may just be going through a phase. Sometimes girls have these really sudden bursts of so-called maturity [though I know there's a better word for this], and they feel like they have to do everything like those who are older. So they have to date older guys, "hook up" with older guys, etc., even when it would seem like they would never have done that.
It could be that she's entering high school, and believe it or not, but a lot of people change in high school. I'm assuming that it's because she feels like she has to grow up to fit in. Let her run her course, but maybe warn her of the dangers of just going crazy and trusting people too much. If she doesn't listen, there's not much more you can do.
--Jack
(16/m)
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