Ok! So, I have this best friend called Lucy. We've been best friends since third grade.
Lucy met another best friend in 7th grade, named Kelly. I never really hung out with Kelly except when Lucy was around and even when Lucy was around we usually didn't.
We all went to the same high school which was a big deal because Lucy was supposed to go to Granite Springs and me and Kelly were supposed to go to Newland Heights, where all our friends were going. Well, Lucy was really upset and freaking out and she was going through a bad time with her parents so me and Kelly, being REALLY good friends transfered to Granite, even though Lucy was, like, our only friend there.
So then me and Kelly start to hang out, which I guess makes LUCY really mad, I guess. Lucy starts yelling at us that she never wanted to be our friend, lying that she's fine, trying to TRANSFER SCHOOLS, acting really awkward, stuff like that. NOw I guess lucy and me are ok, but kelly and lucy are still on weird terms. It's really awkward now, like this huge elephant in the room. We've tried talking about it which makes everything SO MUCH WORSE, and we've ignored it forever and ou can still feel the awkwardness. There is a lot of things that Lucy and Kelly are mad at eachother for, but Lucy would never straight out say anything. Also, she's mad at me for hanging out with Kelly WAY more, but I value both of their friendships so much.Please, tell me how to heal this fractured friendship!
Caught in the Middle
Well with kelly and lucy not being friend you just have to let them deal with that on their own. Even though you love them both and want to help it might just makes matters worse so leave it to them, don't get caught in more drama than you need to be in.
As for staying friends with both of them, just be as loyal as you can. Let kelly and lucy know that even though there not friends you still are friend with both of them, they cant tel you who you can and cant hang out with. Most likely everything will boil over sooner or later and things will go back to normal.
Jess
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My friends birthday is coming up and she has liek evrything!! she loves desigghner slothing and all that vintage stuff. she has amazing taste.
last eyar she spent 45$ on my preset so i am willing to spend 45-50 on hers.
what can i get her?
not make up or perfume.
when im not sure what to get for my friends i usually buy them a cute purse and then fill it with things, like jewelry and a shirt. or candy or anything random that they might like. They alway love it. If shes having a party buy her a tiara so she can wear it :)
Jess
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ok so i want this next school year to be the best year for me. it is my sophmore year. i want to make a whole lot more friends.
but im really shy. i normally wait untill people come to me. so how can i become more friendly?
or unshy? haha lol.
im the type of girl who needs to be comfortable around you..for me to be who i am.
so any help on how to make friends?
I was that way too. I found that i didnt feel confortable around people because of the way i looked. i wasnt confident in myspel, so i kinda gave myself a little makeover (hair cut, some new clothes) and then i found myself being more sociable. Dont get me wrong. Im not saying that you have to look a certain way to get people to talk to you. Im saying that you have to be confident and comfrtable with yourself in order for other people to be too.
If thats not the case, then its all kind of on you. There isnt much advice to a question like this. You just have to find the confidence and put yourself out there. When you go to classes sit with new people, just start by making small talk, its easy at the beggining of the year cause you can say hey hows ur summer and then that give you a lot to talk about and you can be more comfortable around them. good luck:)
Jess
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My friend's coming over tomorrow and I wanna
do something fun and not typical. She's only
staying from like 12 to 6 so it's not that long.
She's either going to my house or we COULD go
out. What do you and your friend do when your
together? And we are pretty much best friendss.
If me and ym friends are hanginf around someone house we usually take pictures, and make funny videos. Or watch movies. We draw sigs for eachother or play games. Take a walk. hang by the pool.
If we go out we like to go shopping, see a movie, have lunch, go bowling, go to the beach, go to the park. minigolf!
jess
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ok, well i'm REALLY bad at showing my personality at first,i'm mostly shy until you gett to know me. soo, my semi-friend is asking me to hangout with her on saturday(sleepover) but idon't know,because i'm scared its not going to be fun and i'll bore her! i'm not good with just hanging out with one other person, how do i get out of my shell? should i go? any tips on this?
ps-i've known her for awhile only from school. i don't know if i should go for it? thanks!
deffinatly go. because it will give you help on being more outgoiing. If you always turn people down thne your never gonna get exsperience and you wont change.
Obviously this girl likes you for you since she asked to hang out. Just be yourself. Be outgoing dont hold back. You will come to find that people like you more when your outoiing. trust me i use to be that way to and then i stopped because i hated being shy and i have made a ton of good friends.
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I have this friend, ok, lets call her x. And her boyfriend, J. X and J have been going out for a month. They are both 14. X is very primiscous and likes to make out and stuff, which is fine with me. Like, they kissed the first day they were going out. They go over to eachothers houses all the time. And x (my best friend) said she would never lie to me. She knows how conservative i am. I think having sex at 14 is disgusting. I told her that and she said, dont worry im still a virgin. Then, j's best friend told me that they have had sex like, four times since they started dating. I havent told her yet, cuz she'll get mad. I havent talked to her since i heard about it, i wanna tell her, but i dont wanna loose my bff. WHat should i do? HELP!!!
you deffinatly should ask her about it. Dont go and just accuse her of doing just go to her and say this is just a question but are you sure you havent had sex with him. If she says no then tell ehr that you heard from someone that they said you did. Bescause if she really didnt she will probably want to know why people are going around saying she did, you know what i mean. And if she really did, then yes your gonna be dissapointed but you still have to be there for her. Even if you think it was a mistake she will learn from them. good luck with everything :)
jess
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what does it mean when you avoid someone whos moving and you avoided them for a while because you were really sad that she moved and you gave her a gbye and a sorry letter why were u ignoring her and when you cried front of them she cheered you up but it didnt work so she left and after those happening doensnt respond IMs and refused to talk to you?
btw she already moved but she still refused to talk to me why is that?
Not to be mean but im sure you really hurt her so it is going to take her some time to forgive you. Moving was proably already hard on her, then loosing one of her good friends doesnt help any. She is gonna need some time to thin about it. Maybe since she wont respond to yu just write her a letter saying how your really sorry an you were just avoiding her cause you were upset, and you know it might take her some time to forgive you but you realy miss talking to her.
If she doesnt respond then you cant really do anything about it.
If she doesnt live to far maybe go visit her and that would show that you really care and she might forgive you. Good luck :)
Jess
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here is the thing.
lately i've been going through a hard time.
one of my friends (whos a guy) has been there for every step of the way.
i told him not to worry about me.
but he said because he knew i wasnt alright then he worried about me.
and monday he worried about me all day.
even though he was with his crush.
and i told him to just have fun but he couldnt focus.
i sent him an IM saying call me when u see this and an hour later i guess. he came home..and then a half hour later i can came back online.
and he asked what was wrong.
and i bascially was really mean to him.
and bitched and told him f-u and he got mad at me..and then i cleaned it up with something i wrote. then today i found out i had got my period.
which is probably half the reason why i acted that way on monday night. so now i feel really bad. but if i apologize idk if he will accept it.
because when i mess up i say sorry a lot. and im so lost. =[.
any ideas? should i flat out say i got it? we tell each other everything. any ideas on lyrics to kind of say sorry. i cant think of any sort of lyrics that fall into this situation. =[
thanks. sorry i know it may sound confusing.
First off you dont really want to blame it on the fact that you got your period. Even though it might have been part of the cause guys might not get it if you know what i mean, so he might just kind of think of it as am excuse. You pretty much just have to go out and and just say you messed up. Nobody's perfect and friends get in fights sometimes and when in the moment and are all heated up things come out that you dont really mean. If hes a real true friend then he should be able to talk to you about it and you can work it out. I hope it all works out in the end. good luck. let me know how it goes.
Jess
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I need help big time. but thing is if I writ it down be very long, I been having problem with couple of my friends and one guy friend. and yet that i had this problem over 2 years now. and i like maybe it ok i really like talk somone over email or yahoo offline chat, part of it is me beocuse I havea a huge habit.. thanks
id love to try and help you my e-mail is xfabulousx05@yahoo.com
Jess
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if i have unlimited texting
and i send pictures from my phone
to my email
does it cost still
or is it including in the unlimited?
You get charged for going on the internet, so yes.
Jess
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do you think that we dont realize how much a person meant to you until they are gone?
we dont realize how much a person meant to you until they are gone like for example when your friend is moving while your avoiding them because you dont wanna get hurt but next thing you know you getting hurt anyways? i mean i think if you distance yourself from that person or spend time with them hurts the same...dont you think? sorry im not good at english so its all mixed up
Yea i think alot of people feel that way. I know i do. Lots of people in life take people and things for granted and then when there gone it hits them that they cant live without it. You needto live everyday as it goes and tell people how you feel or be thankful for what you have cause when you no longer have it you get hurt.
Jess
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So at the end of the school year i because friends with this girl named alex.. me and alex became pretty close and we hang out alot... and talk on the phone liek everyday...In becomeing friends with alex i met this girl named Kelsey.. me and kelsey began to talk and it was one of those thiongs where it was liek instant trust and we started to tell eachother everything... well alex and kelsey got into a huge fight bacause alex said kelsey was to clingy..and there friendship kinda stopped... and when i told alex i was going to hang out with kelsey she seemed liek upeset about it and was like "shes goign to cling to you and shes goign to make it a battele between her and i to see who hangs out with you"
I kinda feel in the middle of this fight and i dont know what to do .... i really wanna be friends with kelsey.. but i kinda of seel that i have to be soly friends with alex because idont want to make any1 mad.. i would like to be friends with both of them but i dont know if that will work!!
What do i do!!??!?
Honestly they just need to accept the fact that you wanna be friends with both of them. You need to straight up tell them that you are gonna still be friends with whomever and if they don't accept then then there not very good friends. You tell them that they can hate each other as much as they want but your still gonna be friends.
jess
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Ok so here it is.
me and my BFF have been best friends for 7 years
I moved away from where I use to live like 3 years ago...so me and her live an hour and a half away but still are very close well I met this guy and we started going out and I love him to death but I think my BFF is kinda jealouse of my bf cuz he gets to see me all the time adn we do stuff together alot and I tend to talk about him alot I try not to but idk..anywayz...what should I do should I do should I stop hanging with him so much....and should My bff be close to me then My bf???.......PLEASE HELP
From my point of view i get how your friend feels. I have a friend that moved about 3 years ago too and whenever she gets boyfriends i feel like im being replace. I'm not saying stop seeing your boyfriend so much because of her but just show some more interest in your friend. Like when you talk to her see what she has to say first before you go off talking about him forever. You have to keep letting her know you still love her as a best friend the same. Being apart is hard.
Jess
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Okay, i'm trying this new thing were everyday i think of the good qualities of myself. And it seems to be working, i am more confident in everything! So then everything is great, until i get to school. I Love my friends. But all they do is put themselves down! One of my friends the other day, all she said almost all day was "Im Fat. I need to lose weight." and i kept telling her she doesnt. But when she keeps saying it, i feel the need to put myself down aswell, like say, "No your not, i am". And i want to be able to stop doing that. I dont know if this question makes much sence, but i tried. What im bascially saying is, How can i get myself to stop putting myself down infront of friends who put themselfs down.
lol that didnt make sence XD
Just don't make any comments when they say that to you. Or just say something simple like "your not fat." Its good that your trying to be confident in yourself. Help you friends try to do it with you maybe that will help!
jess
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i asked this before, but only got one answer and still don't know what to do. sorry if it's long, but PLEASE help, i really need some advice. okay, so first of all, my sister is dating my best guy friend n yeah. so one day, i was talking to him, and his cousin saw my myspace and said i was hot. i told him not to get his hopes up becuz i look better on myspace. so then that night, after i took a shower, him n his cousin came over. his cousin (andrew) then invited us to a party that saturday. we all went. that night we were all drunk n then i made out with andrew. the next weekend, we hung out at andrew's house again. when he was about to leave, we were just talking and kinda fast n quietly i think he said "you wanna be my girl" but im not sure. after that he said "wanna marry me" n that i hurd for sure. i started laughing. and i was like maybe. and he said yes no maybe sometimes? n i was like sometimes. n hes all okay. a week later, they all went to a kickback with me and my sister. (alan, my best friend, n other cousins n frends) so then we were talkin. (me n andrew) n he said for me to go on a walk with him. we went and ended up making out again. that night i slept over at his house, and he was telling me if theres any guys at school trying to get at me just be like na, i got a real nigga in my life. and i just laughed. and we made out again, but we didnt wanna get in trouble, so he slept on the floor. a couple of days ago, we went to another party and we all got drunk again. he hugged me a lot. n then he was like okay. im gon hook you up with some guy. n then beat him up. and he started laughing. but that whole night, he was trying to hook people up at the party. im guessing cuz he was drunk. i ono. also, at the party, when he was trying to hook people up, this one girl, his "sister" (not by blood, the just say it) was trying to hook us up. she was like so lemme tell you about my brother! and he kept cutting her off and telling her to shut up. anyways. what do you think this means? do you think he really likes me or is just messing with me?
Well its hard to know since mostly when you hang out your just drunk and people sometimes don't mean what they say. I think you need to chill with him 1 on 1 and just talk and get to know each other. If he really liked you maybe he will take a move to take the relationship further.
Jess
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i want to do something really memorable with my girl friends this summer. i have a lot of guy friends too and despite that they're my friends the guys just normally cause stress so i want something to do with my girls. there's about 5 of us and i want like a girls night out sort of thing, or something to do during the day, doesn't matter. i want it to be something that we dont normally do. we're 15 some 16 and we normally go to the movies or the mall or to somebody's house. so any ideas? thanks a bunch
Have a party! Invite all of your girl friends and guy friends. Have a bonfire. If you have a pool thats good to, order some pizzas or something. anything fun. that what my friends do all summer. Or take a trip to the beach, go to a drive in movie there really fun. Go mini golfing or bowling. Just do anything to get out of the house.
jess
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My best friend and I are extremely close, we can talk about anything. our friendship is alot deeper than most friends. but anyways, her mom has breast cancer and she just found out. she talks about it to me alot, but most of the time i just say "im sorry" or something vague like that. usually we help out eachother through tough times like tht but this is so major, i have no clue wat to say when i talk to her abotu it. wat things are good to say that will make her feel better but not make her cry. thank u :)
well most of the time people just need someone to talk to they don't really look for a response they just need to get their feelings out. Even though she probably knows just tell her that you'll be there. And that anything she needs you will help, that she can have someone to come talk to. Thats really all you can do.
jess
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ok i have this friend and she's really fun to hangout with but when theres guys involved she ignores me and she did stuff with this guy she doesnt even like i mean is she desperate or something or what cause i dont like her when she's like that and she's been talking to this guy i like and i dont want her to start likeing him because i know she has a better chance then i do cause he's kinda popular and i'm so not she's really pretty and skinny and i'm fat and ugly and me and this guy have talked at school and now it's summer so i was gonna add him but i'm kinda afraid to becuase his freinds are really rude and i dont like any of his friend except one guy whom i had a crush on
First off you need to boost your self esteem. Don't say your ugly and fat. Guys like girls that like themselfs too.
Second. Just go for it. I'm not sure what your talking about by adding him (like myspace? haha) But just keep talking to him and build up a better friendship. who knows what will happen ;)
And for your friend. Deffinatly don't keep it from her. Just tell her you really like this guy and is she is really your best friend then she will let you have him. Plus maybe she can give you some tips for talking to him and stuff, thats what friends are for.
Jess
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OK, so this is gonna be long but i`m so sorry but bare with me PLEASE i need help...
so there is this girl, "g" and we became best friends ever since the begining of the year. we were both new and she was still attatched to her other two BESTBEST friends, "E" and "A", so we hung out allll the time! and we went to the mall, EVERYTHING together. however, toawrds the end of the school year, she began ditching US, me and my other best friend "M" for her OTHER friends. we fought and then made up and THEN, yesterday, there was this banquet thing and she went to her friend "A"'s house and didn`t come to the banquet. But that day, when we were like, so youre ditching us for HER and she was like yeah. and i was like ok then youre saying we shuldn`t be friends AT ALL anymore? and she was like yeah.
and we were all WTF.
but today was the last day of school, and we were ok-ish, not bffs.
in two days, i`m having this little get together and i invited her.
but yeah, i still want to be friends with her but shes not coming back to my school next year and shes going to surf camp with two of her friends this year E & A.
PLEASE HELP;
i still wanna hang with her over summer.
thanks
She probably just doesn't care to be friends with you anymore because she isn't gonna come back to your school, but thats pretty harsh. Just wait, see if you goes to your party cause that will she she somewhat cares. Try to talk to her about what happened. If she doesn't wanna be friends then you might just have to let her go. She probably wasnt that good of a friend anyway if she is willing to just give up on you randomly one day.
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hey! my name is marissa and i'm 15. i live in michigan. i love to shop, especailly with my BFFs Theresa and Katie. Its so much funn! I love stores like abercombie, hollister, american eagle, forever 21, and hot topic. My mom recently got married. My step-dad, Greg, is such an ass! Before him, my mom would just give me her credit card and I could go to the mall and spend as much as I'd want. Now I have a ton of step-siblings, Timmy, Marie, Amanda, Megan, Michael, Mikayla, Paul, and Danielle. They all live with us. Now, I only get $200 each time i go to the mall! My parents say finances are tighter now that there's more of us! i can't stand it! i wanna just cutt myself!! I dont wanna live anymore! Greg is constantly cheating on my mom and she knows this, and shes ok with it! shes an alcoholic. my dad lives next door. hes married to some guy named Tj, and they have kids: kaity, taylor, michelle, erin, shawn. i have a boyfriend. he means the world to me. i have 2, actually. i lvoe them both the smae. arthur, is 19. hes not in college, so thats not a problem. he works at walgreens, so its not a problem to get condems and stuff. my worry is: is his penis a normal size? my period is irregular. im supposed to get it the first. sometimes, i get it the 31, 2 or sometimes the 30! im so worried. my other boyfriend live in connecticut. help pleaseeeee?!
Ojayy, first off consider yourself lucky getting 200$ a month. Most kids don't get anything and if they do they have to work. So maybe if you want get a job so you can have your own money.
Your mom is a grown up she is gonna make her own decisions. I know that it might be hard for you but she is gonna do what she wants to do. Maybe he will come around and be a good guy.
You have two boyfriends!? isn't that defeating the purpose of saying that you hate your step dad cause he cheats on your mom? your kinda doing the same thing.
There is really no normal size for a penis but im sure its fine. Periods can cause to be irregular because of stress so thats probably your problem.
Jess
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