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Best friend verses Boyfriend
Ok so here it is.
me and my BFF have been best friends for 7 years
I moved away from where I use to live like 3 years ago...so me and her live an hour and a half away but still are very close well I met this guy and we started going out and I love him to death but I think my BFF is kinda jealouse of my bf cuz he gets to see me all the time adn we do stuff together alot and I tend to talk about him alot I try not to but idk..anywayz...what should I do should I do should I stop hanging with him so much....and should My bff be close to me then My bf???.......PLEASE HELP
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From my point of view i get how your friend feels. I have a friend that moved about 3 years ago too and whenever she gets boyfriends i feel like im being replace. I'm not saying stop seeing your boyfriend so much because of her but just show some more interest in your friend. Like when you talk to her see what she has to say first before you go off talking about him forever. You have to keep letting her know you still love her as a best friend the same. Being apart is hard.
Jess<3
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Maybe you should plan a double date or a get togethor. If that doesn't work or one of them don't agree with it, then just talk to your friend about your relationship with your bf and find out more about how she feels. I hope I helped!
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Well, I disagree with the responses above. While your BFF may seem like she is jealous, and you two are farther apart than you and your boyfriend, a true friend should be able to support you if you are happy in a relationship. While they may not always want to know the cute little things that little Johnny did if they don't have their own significant other, they should at least be able to understand that you have someone new and important in your life. Time will balance things out between bf and bff time, as the relationship gets a bit deeper and less new. Don't make your bf suffer because your bff is jealous, because that isn't fair to him. You should not have to choose between your bf and your bff, any friend who tries to make you choose isn't worth your time. While distance is a factor in problems like these, it can be minimized. Let me give an example from personal experience. My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, and when we started, her current bff was afraid that she was going to lose her friend and tried to kinda push a choice on my girlfriend. My girlfriend decided to stay with me and be friends with her bff. Over the next few months, her friend's treatment toward her became worse until it came to a boiling point. The friend tried to play the drama queen and push it off on my girlfriend, trying to make it her fault, when it was really her (the friend) that was having the attitude problem. Long story short, bff doesnt always mean best friend forever. So you have to do what you ultimately think is right. If you think your boyfriend is worth it, dont let your friend's jealousness drive you to spend less time with him. Just remind your friend that you are still there for her, but you do have someone that you consider special in your life now. If she is a true friend, she will understand, and you two can go from there, if not, then she is not worth the effort. Best of luck to you, and I hope everything works out for you.
P.S.: My girlfriend and I will have been together for 20 months on the 18th of this month.
Jordan
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Always remember bestfriends over boyfriends. Chicks before dicks. Etc you know. Friends should always come first, now your boyfriend has the advantage by living close to you. But your best friend was there for you before your boyfriend came into the picture correct? You shouldnt stop hanging out with him, he you love him, keep the relationship strong. Just dont let your friendship with your BFF go to waste. Make time to hang out with her, explain to her that gas is expensive, and living an hour and a half away is still expensive. But really she just needs to deal with the fact that you've moved away, maybe not that far, but now you are closer to someone else, and just because she is jealous doesnt mean she should stop you from hanging out with your boyfriend.
Good luck!
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Well I always believed your best friend is more important than your boyfriend. However, just put some time aside to just talk to her and see what she feels about everything. Try not to talk about your boyfriend so much when you're talking to her, I myself get annoyed when people just blather about their boyfriends or girlfriends on the phone. Cut back a little bit from hanging out with him, NOT a lot just a little and try to see if you and your bff can arrange to hang out somewhere. She's just as important as your boyfriend.
hope that helps.
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