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Friend Trouble. BIG friend trouble.
I have this friend, ok, lets call her x. And her boyfriend, J. X and J have been going out for a month. They are both 14. X is very primiscous and likes to make out and stuff, which is fine with me. Like, they kissed the first day they were going out. They go over to eachothers houses all the time. And x (my best friend) said she would never lie to me. She knows how conservative i am. I think having sex at 14 is disgusting. I told her that and she said, dont worry im still a virgin. Then, j's best friend told me that they have had sex like, four times since they started dating. I havent told her yet, cuz she'll get mad. I havent talked to her since i heard about it, i wanna tell her, but i dont wanna loose my bff. WHat should i do? HELP!!!
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well i think you should tell her. because if you keep that from her then you could lose your bff. just tell her that you heard blah blah. and say i just wanted to hear the truth from you. and see what she says. hope i helped. :]
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Ask her about it, be sure to include that you AREN'T accusing her but you heard it from J's friend. And if she is having sex don't yell at her, but just ask if she's being safe because you don't want anything bad to happen to her. Don't get mad at her for it, be calm, and if you want to voice your opinion say, "I just don't think it's a good idea to do this right now, you're young and I just don't want you to regret anything in the future."
That is, if you find out she actually is having sex, oh and also suggest that she get on birth control.
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you deffinatly should ask her about it. Dont go and just accuse her of doing just go to her and say this is just a question but are you sure you havent had sex with him. If she says no then tell ehr that you heard from someone that they said you did. Bescause if she really didnt she will probably want to know why people are going around saying she did, you know what i mean. And if she really did, then yes your gonna be dissapointed but you still have to be there for her. Even if you think it was a mistake she will learn from them. good luck with everything :)
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If you care about her, then you need to tell her what you heard. And you need to let her know that she can tell you anything w/out fear of being judged or labeled as something harsh. She doesn't need that from her bestfriend. You're supposed to love and support her THE WAY THAT SHE IS.Yes it may be against your better judgement to do so but it's her life, and she must live it the way she sees fit. It's not yours but hers, and I quite aggree w/ you.
Just tell her what you know and ask if it's true. Promise that you won't tell , and tell her that you won't criticize her if she has. Why would she be angry w/ u , unless you weren't able to come to terms w/ what she may have done? And if that's so, then maybe you should rethink your friendship. However, I don't think it'll come to that at all. I think you're stressing out too much. You simply have to let your friends live their lives the way they see fit and live yours the way you see fit. Just support her and don't criticize her. Accept her no matter how much snogging or etc. Bye.
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I know you're not going to like my answer, but you have to talk to her. Friends talk. Tell her what you've heard, and that you understand that it's her life, but you care about her.
If you need any more help, Inbox me. :]
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You need to ask her about it. She really
shouldnt get mad over that. Just ask her
in a way that shows you aren't discusted
because then she'll be able to admit to it.
And if she is still mad, then just tell her
its her life not yours and you'll be her
friend no matter what !
(:
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