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My best friend and I are extremely close, we can talk about anything. our friendship is alot deeper than most friends. but anyways, her mom has breast cancer and she just found out. she talks about it to me alot, but most of the time i just say "im sorry" or something vague like that. usually we help out eachother through tough times like tht but this is so major, i have no clue wat to say when i talk to her abotu it. wat things are good to say that will make her feel better but not make her cry. thank u :)
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I had a friend a few years ago whose mother had breast cancer. I, like you, had no idea what to say or do to make her feel better. The truth is, there isn't really anything you can say. Just let her know that even though you want to hear what she has to say and that you want to be there for her like a good friend, you're unsure of what to say. She's your best friend, she'll understand. She's probably just gratefull to have somenone in her life she can turn to during this crappy time for her.
Just straight out say to her "Sally, I know that what your going through is aweful and I really want to do whatever I can to help you out. I love that you are coming to me with this and that I am some sort of comfort to you, but when we talk I don't really know what to say. So I just don't want you to take my silence as anything bad. You are my best friend and I absolutely hate what your mom is going through. --(if true add in that she's like a second mom to you and that you too wish this wasn't happening). I love you to death, you're my best friend in the world and I wish there was something I could do so you wouldn't have to experience this pain. All I know how to do right now is listen to you, and lend an ear and a shoulder whenever you need one. (If you are religious pray for them and let them know you're praying). I'll be here for you until the end of the world. Just let me know if there's anything I can do to help"
With a little bit of revisions from your end something along those lines might be helpful.
There really isn't much you can say other than "I'm sorry" to comfort her.
I hope everything turns out okay with your friend and her mom.
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Dear Cancer,
wow. that must be tough. i'm sure if i was your bff i would want y friend to be supportive and comfort me through it all. why dont you just say everything will be fine. help her through it. if she cries, cry with her. if you have any other questions then contact me. my mom had breast cancer also, so i know pretty much all you need too. i'll pray for her..
Hallie
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well most of the time people just need someone to talk to they don't really look for a response they just need to get their feelings out. Even though she probably knows just tell her that you'll be there. And that anything she needs you will help, that she can have someone to come talk to. Thats really all you can do.
jess<3
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