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Hiii everyone (= im Brianna but people mostly call me bee & im the sweet 16. i was born 9 - 9 - 90. i have two younger brothers which makes me the only girl and the oldest. im in 10th grade at HAHS. i plan to either be a pediatrican or an accountant. i have a problem trusting boys. just boys in general. i think because of my past relationship, it made me realize how easy it is to believe a lie. but dont get me wrong, i will give a boy a chance, i just learnd not to believe everything someone says unless its proven to me. i dont really have a best friend actually i consider my mom my best friend. i tell her everything and i cant picture myself hiding something from her. i plan to get married eventually but no kids. im a unique person and i could be trusted with anything. i like to help people out and make them realize things from a different view. so thats what brings me to this site. if you have any questions or need help with a situation, im here (=
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I want to let you know this might be long...
I just moved to a new town and made a bunch of friends, there is this one in particular(JADE) that I really connected with.
So around Decemeber she found a note in my backpack that had all my thoughts on it, like the stuff I'm going through like self esteem issues, frienship issues all the stuff I havent told anyone ever.
So i was mad at her but eventually we smothed things over. Our frienship was going alright for a while but lately she has been acting weird.
She won't talk to me as much, she seems a little disconnected with me. Not just all of her friends becuase she still talks to them and does things with them just not me.
I tried to talk to her about it but she just pretended like i hadn't asked.
I'm really confused as what to do becuase I want to talk to her about this and see whats going on but that dosent work very well becuase I have tried before.
I hope you can help, if you have any questions about anything just ask me! Thanks!
Well i guess to start things off, the thing i ask myself in the beginning is why was she looking in your backpack ? she had no business to be in there AND take something from it to read. but since yous` patched things up, it shouldnt really matter.
I think she is acting like that because now shes actually thinking about what the note said. like everything that you wrote, shes realizing what it all said. which is making her " turned off " & maybe making her see you different.
I know you already tried to talk to her but i think you should try one more time. Maybe ask her to sleepover or call her on the phone, or even take a walk. which ever way is easier for you, but make sure its just you two, then you can see how she reacts and you have a better chance of getting the truth.
Start by bringing up the day she found the note but try not to say it like " member the day you went into my backpack " just say something like " im glad you found the note in my backpack " let her know that something like that should bring you two closer. friends need friends especially in tough situations. tell her that you wish she could explain how she feels. maybe you two could switch stories about your life so it wont be awkward ?
If this time is still not working and shes paying no attention, im very sorry, but i dont think she wants to be friends anymore. and all you can is at least i tried. if shes going to be stubborn and not want to understand that everyones` life is not perfect, then she is very stuckup and she needs to find friends like her because your not like that. there are so many other people out in this world that will be there for you without having to lie and not spending time with you.
-sorry that this was so long, i really hope that i helped. good luck & take care.
I'm a 16/f and one of my really good friends, Matt, is a 16/m. Now, I became really close with him last year, and now I sit at a lunch table with him and 8 other guys (I'm the only girl). Well, at my lunch table, there's this other guy, Tyler, that is also in my homeroom. I've become pretty good friends with Tyler this year, but no where near Matt and My relationship. Now, Matt has a girlfriend of over a year, but a lot of my friends are convinced we have something going on. But my friends also think that Tyler and I may develop into something, and I'll admit that I've been thinking about Tyler a little more romatically lately, but I swear I don't show it.
So today I told Tyler that I got him a shot glass in South Carolina (because he asked me to). And Matt looked at me and said "You've Changed so much since last year." and "you used to be so nice to me, you're just so different" (I'm never mean to the kid at all) and he was like "You're all over Tyler. You should just date him already, its not like things would be different" (no one was listening, so he didn't call me out in front of everyone or anything). Then I asked him if he was mad and he was just like "I don't know.." and looked away. He seemed more hurt than mad. And It broke my heart because I adore this kid, and I don't know what to do.
So my questions- What do you think brought all of this on? & How should I approach him about this tomorrow? Thanks so much for your help.
Honestly what i think is matt is jealous. i really do. i think he liked having a real close relationship with you. but maybe when matt got a girlfriend you two came apart not alot but alittle. thats what you might not realize especially when you have someone else on your mind. matt just has to realize that he has a girlfriend, and you cant spend your time up his a^^ all of the time. i mean after all you deserve a love life of your own right ? those words he decided to say, were out of jealousy. maybe he didnt mean them but i can tell thats what hes feeling. tomorrow confront matt ( private ) and tell him that you both deserve your own love lives although that doesnt mean you cant talk about it with eachother, just that you two are really good friends and if you end uhp with tyler, it wont change the relationship you and matt have. which brings me to my next advice, see how things go with tyler. get to know him more and dont push him away. you never know what could happen! best of luck.
I have this friend Jessica. She used to be my best friend, a few years ago, and I was always good friends with her until recently because I've realized she is just not a good friend... I've always known she wasn't the greatest friend but I still liked hanging out with her before. I'm friends with mostly guys, and her and a few other girls are my only girl friends really. So whenever I hang out with my other girl friends she gets mad at me. And whenever I talk to my guy friends she thinks I'm flirting... she has no idea what flirting is obviously? She's so annoying... I mean she gets mad at me if I don't call her to invite her somewhere. She shouldn't expect me to invite her anywhere. First of all, I never invite anyone anywhere, I just go along with the plans I hear from my friends (and I tell her this all the time), and second, she is always such a jerk! She literally asked out the guy I said I liked the same MINUTE I told her I liked him. I was shocked. I'd never do that to anyone, let alone my "best friend". She disses a lot of my friends too, who I love to death, mostly my best guy friend. I tell him everything and he's really important to me, but if he just gives me a hug or something she'll be like "oh my gosh stop raping her!" WTF?? She also tried to convince me to get back with my ex boyfriend who just used me, and was pretty much the definition of an asshole, after it took me so long to break up with him. I know I am the kind of person who lets people walk all over them, I know I am too nice, but I don't want to change myself. I can't stand hanging out with someone who gets mad at me every other day for no reason, insults my friends constantly, and can't watch out for me correctly. I don't know if it's jealousy maybe? I have a lot more friends than her because not many people like her, and I am not trying to be conceited in any way, but I've heard plenty of guys say I'm hot and I don't think she's ever heard a guy say that to her. I never get mad at my friends, I watch out for them, I love them and I'm always there for them. I expect my friends to do the same, and she has been really ridiculous lately. I can't keep ignoring her calls and blowing off our plans because she keeps getting angrier and my whole life would just get thrown off balance and everything would be really awkward because our parents are friends and since we were good friends before we've had a lot of traditions. I just want her to know that she can't expect me to trust her with my secrets and to hang out with her every chance I get if she's going to be such a bitch to me and all my good friends. Really, none of my friends like her... she thinks they do... it's kind of sad. I feel bad and I guess that's half the reason I don't completely ditch her... I don't want to leave her friendless. She's the type of person who will not take anything as a lesson, she only hears what she wants to and she thinks she's better than everyone else in every aspect, and if she isn't she'll be mad. She asks me for advice, and when I tell her what I think but it isn't what she wants to hear she gets mad. I'm so sick of it. I can't tell this to her face. I have no idea how to go about this. Help?
Sorry that was so long!
This happened to me a week ago, not to long ago huh ? i hated being in this situation and i was so torn for the longest time. i dont really talk to alot of girls neither, maybe two or three, the rest are all boys. and i think of them as brothers honestly. ive been pretty close with this girl for two years now. i slowly realized her changing this year. everything i did, she had something to say about it, and it wasnt nothing nice. everything i said, she had to add something to do it. & if i didnt do something a certain way, i would get criticized. i started talking to a girl who i used to hate but just kinda grew uhp and realized that i shouldnt be holding a grudge well turns out my best friend didnt like her and was telling me that she is a sl^t and that i should stay away from her. i honestly think she is trying to control my life. also i started likeing a boy and when we got together, she laughed in my face and told me how its gonna be a disaster and how he is just going to break uhp with me. i couldnt deal with her anymore. i couldnt deal with her snotty comments or her bitchy remarks. i didnt even tell her that i didnt wanna be her friend anymore cause she doesnt listen. so when i started to do is not picking uhp when she calls, not answering her ims over the computer and not hanging out with her. i still say hi and bye when i see her but thats it. and i refuse to be consider best friends when the relationship we had was nothing close to best friends. i really think you need to get away from this girl. she is going to cause you even more stress if you keep putting uhp with her crap. i should really get this girl to be best friends with the girl that i know. then they could realize what type of person they are. really people like this are rediculous. the only thing that i can tell you, is stop talking to her. stay away from her the best you can. i hope she will get the hint, she may not get it right away but hopefully soon! im so sorry and i really hope i helped. i wish you the best of luck.
Aright I have this friend and we get in aruments ALOT were fine by ourselfs but not around our other friends i dont know why it's so gay... and people tell us and i know its gonna get worse in our middle teens... please helpā„
Thanxs
Me and my best friend well ex best friend i guess always had this problem. when we would have sleepovers with just us two, things would be fine. we would laugh, smile but nothing close to arugeing. but when it came to being in school @ lunch sitting with our other friends, we would argue, pretty much about anything and everything. mostly stupid little things though. what happened to me was eventually i couldnt take it anymore, i couldnt stand arguing and all though sometimes i do miss the times we had together, i cant stay aruging everyday of my life. and i know what you mean by it only getting worse. thats what i told myself and thats why i did what i did. i just keep distance from me and her. i mean i still talk to her because i could never have the hear to just drop her like that especially since we were such good friends, but when you look at it, you cant spend everyday aruging especially over stupid little stuff ? its just going to cause stress and eventually make one or both of you cry & someones` feelings will get hurt real bad. just try and look for someone else that you have a lot in common with. im not saying get another best friend or something like that but you can never have more then one friend!
I have mass friends at school, but recently I come to find out, several of them are getting pregnant, and having kids. It's not like they are twenty or something. Otherwise, I wouldn't care because they're old enough (I think). They are ranging from 14 to 17 years old.
I find it seriously ridiculous that my friends are just having sex like it's nothing, and end up getting pregnant. In fact, a few of those people are Christians, and told me so many times they would never do that and it's pathetic. Months later, they find a guy, have sex with them, and they leave my friends. Later on coming to find out they are pregnant and have the kid.
If it was like 1 or 2 people, I would understand. But it's becoming an epidemic almost at my school. Approximately 10 girls are pregnant (whom are my friends), and another 5 had their kid within the last year.
Don't criticize me of my opinion though because I really can't help it. I am a Christian, I love my friends, I still pray for them, and support them. But I just get so mad thinking about it, like they basically ruined what was going for them. A friend of mine wanted to leave her house (family problems) and become a Vet. Now she got pregnant, and she is stuck there in poverty. Can't even afford a decent meal for her and her child, since her family is stuck on welfare and social security for paying for other things. Her boyfriend like left her, so there is very little for her and her son. She is battling for the father to pay for child support.
Please don't get me wrong to whoever has been in that situation of getting pregnant at an early age. I can see the struggle in it, and the effects, but seeing my friends make bad choices just angers me because I want them to have self-respect, and do something successful. I am quite prude, so don't judge me on that, and you can't blame me at some extent. I feel guilty for basically not trying to understand the reasons why it happened, and the circumstances. It's hard to understand.
So, my question is, how can I get over this?? I've been trying for a long time to get over it, but more people getting pregnant, so my anger comes back.
Please remember I am not here to judge, criticize, or offend anyone here, so don't take it personally. I just need advice, please. Thanks!
You are no where near wrong on having your opinions. everyone has their opinion on something, thats what makes the world go round. to be honest, i agree with you. Its something that happens alot in my school, and its not because of an accident, girls actually want a baby at their age and to me its not right. to keep you from getting into situations you dont want to be, keep your opinions to yourself. but everything you said, i can relate to. ive never been kissed or had like any sexual intercourse so believe me i know what your saying. like to me, girls should have alot of respect for themselves and realize they have a whole life ahead of them to do that stuff. but some just dont get it. and i dont think nothing will change their mind. cause look they see it happened to other girls so why arent they learning ? its just one of those situations that they need to find out on their own. i know their your friends but all you can do is sit back and watch. in the end, it will make you so much stronger, i believe in that 100%. maybe try writing also, to get your thoughts out. if you can think of anything else to help, notify me too. since i feel the same exact way. good luck with everything and always remember you are your own person and you have your own thoughts.
well i've been friends with this girl name elizabeth since kindergarten after alittle while i got mixed up classes and had a new friend name victoria we play basketball together football we go to the movies and all the bff stuff victoria is also friends with elizabeth me and her dont want to hang with her because she dosent want to do what we want to do what should me amd victoria do
Well for one thing, i really dont think that you & victoria should leave out elizabeth. especially since your best friends with her and no one deseverd to be ditched. my suggestion is maybe ask elizabeth likes to do, ask her what she would like to do one day and since yous` are all friends do what she wants one day and then the next you and victoria pick what yous` three are going to do. by taking turns, no fights should occur and no one will be left out. maybe yous` will learn to like what each one of yous` like to do. good luck!
i've liked a guy named .. dan, scine i was in 2nd grade, we went out when i was in 4th through 5th grade. but then 6th through 8th [until now, im in 8th] grade, i was over him. and last weekend we hung out, flirted. he lives next store to me, so were on the same bus and today he sat with me and we listened to his ipod. my plams got all sweaty, and my plams never get sweaty. i was nervous about like what to say and stuff. i neverrr get nervous with other guys! i wanna like .. make a move on him. i dont know like how i should. how should i? how should i let him know i like him?
obvisiously you still like him. & honestly i think he still likes you too. i deffaintly agree with you that you should tell him so i think the best way would be when you two hang out next. it`ll be better with just you and him so he could honestly tell you how he feels and it might be easier for you to express how you feel. the next time yous` hang out together bring uhp like the past and say something " i dont think my feelings ever went away " and see what he says. from there, be the bigger person and kiss him (= surprise him. im sure he wont mind. hehe. good luck and i hope i helped.
my best freind is getting on my last nerve and she had been eversince we got back from christmas break.she takes everything way to seriously and she thinks shes sooooo hilarious but shes not funny at all. shes just sooo annoying sometimes and its getting on my last nerve! how do i get her to stop? ive already talked with her but shes still doing the things itlkd 2 her about and she hasnt stopped doing anything at all!!!!!!!!!!
omg! this is what i went through with my ex best friend! i went through the same exact situation. and as of right now i dont consider her my best friend anymore. my best friend thinks everything she does / says is funny and when she doesnt like something, it could be so little, she can be the bitchest person ever. so what happened was that one day she messaged me on the computer and told me how she doesnt like how i dont say hi to her in the halls but when i told her why she just blew it up and made the situation worse and made it into a bigger deal then it already was. and this wasnt the first time cause i can take a certain amount of stuff but its all of the time. thats it. i did exactly what you did and told her about it but when i did, she just told me how it was my fault and that she isnt doing anything wrong. so i just distant myself from her as much as i can. i mean im still her friend cause i could never drop her like that but i dont consider her my best friend. my point is that best friends arent supposed to be like that. especially when you tell them whats wrong and they dont listen, that proves how much your friendship is truely worth. maybe once you distant yourself from her she will realize how shes acting and will change until then, you are your own person and it could only make you stronger.
My best friend in the entire world is going out with a guy that I liked..At one point in time I liked him and he liked me..but I never went out with him because my best friend liked him.. I dont know whether or not I should tell her this because, well they look really cute together, but the thing is, is that I think I still like him..
Clueless here..I dont know what to do..
i went through that situation alot of times, and it is hard but i got over it. i mean my best friend means everything ot me and im sure your's does too. i would be lost without her, and the same goes for you. my point is that you and your best have a bond that no one could ever have. not even a boy and you. your best friend and u have been through so much hard times and great memories, and im sure you dont want to risk that over a guy. buys will be guys and theres alottt of them out there. i kno its going to be hard, my advice to you is dont screw everything up over a silly little boy. maybe ask your friend to go boy scouting with you =] hehe. i hope i helped and good luck sweetie
My friend just got a boyfriend awhile back. He's a really sweet guy, but he always flirts with me & my other friend. At a dance last night he kept touching me! I told my friend that he's bad news but she didn't think much of it. I know she deserves so much better than him. What should I do?
he deff doesnt sound like good news, and i think your friend should find out before he does something to hurt her. i think you should just come out with the way your feeling and tell her, "your really one of my best friends, and i would never do anything to hurt you, its just that this boy isnt good news." explain to her what hes doing and how you dont feel comfortable with her being with him. She'll understand just because you two have been good friends. & plus friends will always choose their friends over boys. i hope i helped you and good luck!
I know this is wrong but i got myself into some serious mess.My bestfriend has a bf and they been together for 9 months and the other day me and him saw each other at this one place and we ended up in his car doing things.I feel really bad i don't know if i should tell her or not.I dont want to but i dont want her finding out from anybody else because i love her so much she is like my sister.IM confused plz help!
well i went through this with one my really really close friends. i had found out the hard way, from lots of other people, even people i didnt know. i kno its going to be hard, but you just have to come out and tell her. You two are probably really close and when you tell her, yes she'll be upset but your being honest and your telling the truth. Explain to her how sorry you are and how much she means to you. & besides she cant be with a jerk like that anyways. obvisiously he wasnt a very good b/f. i hoped i helped you and i wish you the best of luck!
i think im really feeling my friend right now. we dont know each other like so so much but we know some things about each other. we talk, but hardly about us. he smiles a lot and sometimes he flirts, but i dont no. somethings are movin kinda slow. i mean school will be over in two and a half months. what do i do because he talks to me sometimes and sometimes he doesnt. not unless i say something first. i dont no if he really likes me like that, but i want him to. and i just feel right around him, ya know. so what do i do?
well this is my first time trying this so im gunna take a shot mmk here it goes... i think you should sit him down and talk with him. like question him does he feel anything for you, does he think you 2 will be together. dont over do it with the questions, but if he gets distracted on that then he obvisiously doesnt care about anything. just sit him down and tell him how youve been feeling and see what he is feeling. you might miss out if you dont speak soon! hehe , i hope i helped and good luck with whatever you do!