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what is something fun i could do for new years? im not invited to any parties and i cant have a party lOl and none of my friends know of any parties and it sucks that i cant drive anywhere or either can my friends..if i dont find something to do i think i might have to go to my grandma's with my family..but i DONT want to do that. please list some suggestions! i will rate 5's =)
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Have some friends come over and all hang out.
Get some party stuff, like silly string and hats, listen to music, stay up late and stuff like that.

Or go to a friends house and do the samething.

Just make your own little party with your friends. That's what I would always do when I couldn't drive. It's so much fun. Just stay up all night, get some sparkling cider and watch movies and all that stuff.

If it comes down to you going to your Grandmas, bring a friend or two along.

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

Happy New Years! && hope you have fun.

♥ Kourtney

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well my best friend is my cOusin. we have fun together! but then my brother who is 18 is like OH MY GOSH your so stupid! your best friend is your cousin? haha thats pathetic. i mean sometimes i think it is because i spend all my time over there! i pratically live over there on the weekends. buttttt i wanna start hanging out with other people too i wanna GO OUT and do stuff meet new people :) my brother pratically knows everyone im not even kidding! and im here..sittin at my cousins house and we are on the computeR..i wanna like still hang out with my cousin but i kinda wanna get away from being over there like every weekend and go out and do other stuff you know..but i dont have my license..and my parents never wanna drive me anywhere..my brother is NEVER home..and i dont know anyone that knows how to drive..and rarely my other friends parents dont like giving rides either..what can i do? i wanna become more outgoing! and then what do i do if i meet someone..and we talk on the computer..and she comes over to my house for the first time. what do you think we should do. i dont want her to be bored! i want her to have fun you know..but then we cant go anywhere since we dont have any rides..

anything will help hun!
thanks ♥

Hey sweetie.

Well, don't listen to your brother, he's just being a typical sibling and picking on you, my sisters and I do that ALL the time to each other haha, it's kinda funny though.

It's okay that you're best friends with your cousin! It's normal, my friend, one of his best friends is his brother (they're like 2 years apart). So, don't even sweat it that you're best friends with a cousin. A lot of people are actually.

If you still want to hang out with her and meet other people with her, bring her along. You could always walk somewhere and get there or invite people over. Try going to the mall and meeting people, or just hanging out with friends from school, going to a party or what not. Or see if you can hang out with your brother, just tell him you'll bring "cute" friends for him haha.

When someone new comes over to your house, just watch a movie, talk, swim/tan, walk somewhere, get something to eat, make something to eat, call some boys, etc.

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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this may sound really mean but seriously you dont know what this girl put me thru..
okay..
well im goin to this game for highschool on friday and im going to see this one girl that use to be my friend but not anymore because of what she did to me..but thats another thing. and i wanna like show her that im so much better than her haha sounds really bad i know but i just wanna seem like miss outgoing and i wanna say something to her that would make her jealous of me..i really wanna get back at her
any ideaS?..

Nope, doesn't sound mean =)

Girls do that to one another .. makes me so mad lol. High School drama.

But anyways, like you said, be outgoing. Talk to EVERYONE, wear a cute outfit, flirt with hot guys, and say right in front of her like "This really hot guy asked me out on a date!!!" or something like that. I'm not sure what would make her jealous because I don't know her or anything.

But, just do things like that. I hope this helps and good luck!! If you need anymore ideas, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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well im goin over to my friends this weekend..and what could i suggest to do..because most of the time we only sit on the computer..and i usually wanna go out and do stuff..hang out with guys and just have a good time!! but now we wont have a ride because yeah so i dont know how we could go anywhere? so any good ideas of what to do without a ride haha . thanks

Well, do you have any friends who can drive?

If not, you could always just invite people over. Girls and guys.

&& just hang out.

Watch some funny or scary movies and make a big bowl of popcorn. Play twister (so funny).

If you have a couple of people there, you'll think of more stuff to do, you always do!!

If there are stores around you that aren't far, you could always walk there and get some stuff, shop around.

I remember when my friends and I couldn't drive yet, we would walk up to Walgreens or something and get alllll this candy and some drinks (like energy drinks or something) my friend Ryan was giving me a piggy back ride. Just do fun stuff like that.

I hope this helps and if you still need ideas, just leave a message in my inbox.

Have fun!!

♥ Kourtney

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My best friend's birthday is in nine days. But my problem is that i have absolutley no idea what to get her! She has everything ! I need some ideas. Please help =)

I don't know about her, but, I like meaningful gifts. haha.

You could try making a Best Friend Scrapbook.
&& put all your inside jokes in there and stuff.

My friend and I did that.
It was so awesome.

Or you could take her to the mall.
&& take her in all these stores and just look, and see if she says like "I like this" or "This is cute" or whatever.

Or you could get her a gift certificate to the mall, or take her to dinner with some other friends.

I hope these help and if you still need ideas, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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ok- i'm organizing a secret santa thing for our orchestra... i can't think of anything else to put on the form you fill out about yourselves other then...
Name:
Age/Grade/Birthday:
Instrument:
Play any sports?:
Favorite:
Color?:
Animal?:
Candy?:
Sports team?:
Any additional information:

what else should i put on the form?? thanks
(easy 5's!)

I'm doing this with my friends too!! =)

Hobby?:
Music?:
What do you do in your free time?:
Favorite thing to do?:
Do you drive?:
(You could buy something for there car..)

Stuff like that!! I hope this helps, if you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox! Have fun and good luck!

♥ Kourtney

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my bestfriend and her boyfriend have been dating for 10 months now and they are both 15. my boyfriend is bestfriends with him and told me that he said they were thinking about having sex. i know that i cant do anything to stop her but its just that she has always said she wanted to wait until she was married. she wont do it unless he uses a condom but im just worried about her and i feel like she may be pressured into something she doesnt want to do because it doesnt sound like her. what can i do?

All you can do is try to talk to her. Not necessarily telling her she can't do it. But, just talking to her about it. After all, she is your best friend, you guys can talk about that. But, just be like "I know you've guys been dating for 10 months and don't get me wrong, I think thats great and I'm so happy for you. But, I heard you're thinking about having sex with him and you'll only do it with him if he uses a condom. Thats great that you'll only do that if he uses a condom. But, I always thought you wanted to wait til marriage..." And just talk to her about that and then be like "But, I also don't want you to feel like you're pressured into having sex with him because you don't have to if you don't want to. But, I just wanted to talk to you about this..." Just say something like that and just talk to her about it. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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well me and my best friend havnt talked for a a month and a half, and im just finding out now that he is mad at me because one of my old friends and i aernt talkin now, and he doesnt like me cus i dont like his friend, so now i lost a best friend, what should i do? oh and he hasnt told me any of this, my GF had to talk to him cus he is ignoreing me

You should try talking to him and trying to work it out. Or if he doesn't listen to you, maybe your girlfriend could help you out. But, if you don't want her in the middle of this, then I would suggest calling him up or talking to him face to face or on AIM/AOL. Just basically telling him the situation. Just be like "You're my best friend and I thought we were suppose to be for along time. Are you mad at me just because I'm not friends with one of my old friends who is your friend now? I mean if that is, I'm sorry that I don't get along with him, I don't want this to make us NOT friends. I don't want us to be arguing over something like that. I had to have my girlfriend ask you because you're ignoring me. And I just want to work this out because I don't want us to just forget about our friendship, I want to try to work this out..." Just say something like that and how you feel about this situation and stuff. And how you still want to be best friends and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay today has been 3 weeks since my best friend and i havent talked for..my best guy friend and he happens to be my crush thinks my worst enemy is hott..and wants to date her but thinks he has no chance n i think he deserves better and plus im moving..my life literally stinks and im going through major depression anyone wanna help??

I think you should try to talk to each of them and straighten it out before you leave. I know it must be hard, but you should atleast try, so it won't be so hard when you leave. So first, we'll start off on what to say to your best friend. You should say something like "It's been three weeks since we haven't talked and I don't like it at all. We're suppose to be best friends. I mean I want to work this out, I don't want us to be mad at each other, we need to work this out, we're best friends after all and we have to be forever. And I can't move knowing we're still not talking, do you think we could work this out...?" Say something like that to her. And then for your best guy friend/crush, say something like "You're one of my best guy friends. But, I want to tell you something. But, you know I'm moving and I just thought this would be the right time to say it, even though there would probably be no chance, but I just can't hold it in any longer. But, I like you more than a friend. And I also just want to look out for you, and I'm not just saying this because I like you, but that girl you think is hot, isn't the right girl for you, you could do so much better than that, I just don't want her to get hurt, that would be the last thing I would want..." Say something like that. Just tell them how you feel and that you don't want to move with her not talking to you and him going out with the wrong person. I hope this helps and good luck hun. Just stay positive and keep smiling. Life will get better, trust me hun. Tell me how it goes. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hi.Well I seriously need help! ASAP plz! Well ook I have a friend named *Kate who I was talkin to yesterday and told me about my best friend (which i haven't talked to in a long time) that *Lindsay is crazy bout her boyfriend and that said that Lindsay told Kates' boyfriend that "Kate won't have sex with you I will" Then she told me she also had sex with her boyfriend *Billy and that her dad raped her.. So I then asked my other friend *Sara about *Lindsay and so she had asked her and well *Lindsay came and IMed me and asked who had said that she had sex with her b-friend n I told her it was kate and she told me it wasn't true and I told Lindsay that I didnt believe Kate either.. Then me n her were talkin bout random stuff like old times then she put me on hold for a long time and so I dec. to put my away message until she got back but it was only a short time after I put my away message she came back then I IMed her again n we talked a lil n then shes like h/o again then signs off.. I go tom my other s/n and I see that she blocked me so I log onto my other s/n and IM her and then we started talkin bout random stuff and she said H/o BRB then signs off then I go to my other s/n and find that she blocked me again so I IMed asking why did she block me ... I don't think I did or said anything wrong to her she blocked my riight after I told her that I saved all our notes we wrote to each other... Can u plz tell me whats wrong??

Hi! Hmm, that's kind of odd. I'll try to help you out though! But, maybe you should try talking to her again and seeing whats up. Just be like "You know we're best friends and so I kind of assumed we were friends you know. I mean we were just talking about random stuff and then all of a sudden you kept blocking me. What's up with that? I mean did I say something wrong to you that affended your or whats the deal here?" Just say something like that to see what her problem is and to try to fix it. If she doesn't want to try to fix it, then I would try to give her some space and see what is wrong with her. You don't need to be dealing with her ignoring you for no apparent reason. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok my friend was talking to me online and she kept saying that she hated her life and wated to kiss herself and she said that she wanted to cut herself again and that she was fat and stuff and i dont know what to do and im scared for her!

You need to talk to your friend and try to talk her out of it. Just be like "I know people have problems in there lives, but I can try to help you through them if you want. If you ever need to talk, you know I'm here for you. I mean I know it can be tough sometimes, but killing yourself won't solve it, either will cutting yourself. And if you feel like you want to, you should try putting a rubberband around your wrist and snap it each time you feel like cutting yourself. And I mean everyone has a purpose for living on this earth, you're unique in your very own way. You may not think that, but you are. So many people care and love you and wouldn't want you gone. And you're not fat at all. I like you just the way you are..." Just say something like that and just try to make her feel better. Like tell her what you like about her. Tell her stuff like that. I hope his helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I always feel left out and out of place and I always wonder what life would be like without me. I know I have friends who love me but I always end up thinking what would happen if i died... would it make a big difference? I especially wonder what my ex-boy friend would say ... I just want to feel needed, someone who will love me back ... some how when i have a boy friend or someone close to me i feel like i have a purpose ... is that normal ... to want to be needed?

Yes, I've felt like that before. Like all you do is try to make everyone so happy but yet you just feel like you dissappoint people and you just want to be loved back. You don't want to be alone anymore. And you want to know who would really care if you were gone. Yea, I've felt like that. I went through a hard break up and it took me so long to just finally move on. I was giving up on trying to find love, I didn't believe in it anymore, but yet you saw me smiling but inside I was practically dieing. So, I know how you feel. But, you'll get through it. You might just be going through a phase right now. I got through it. Try talking to friends, family members, or one of us advicenators about it. They'll help you through it. Even if you need to complain, someone will be there for you. You'll get through it. I mean, even if it feels like you don't have a purpose to be here on earth, there really is, you just have to find it. You're unique in your very own way. And someone you don't even know loves you. You just can't give up, you have to be positive and live your life. After all you only live life once.. right? So, I want you to look at this:

*Always remember these*
1.) at least 5 people in the world love you so much that they would die for you
2.) at least 15 people in the world love you the same way
3.) the only reason someone would ever hate you is because they wanna be you
4.) a smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they dont like you
5.) every night someone thinks about you before they go to bed
6.) you mean the world to someone
7.) without you someone may be living
8.) you are special and unique in your own loving way
9.) someone you dont even know exists loves you
10.) always tell someone how you feel then they'll know

So, I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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My friend has a boyfriend and she says she loves him...she wrote i love him on her hand...but she says she also says she loves this other guy from a class she is in..i think this is wrong.But she obviously doesnt since she is always saying she loves both of them.Should i tell her boyfriend?Should i try and convince her that it is wrong?This is advice for my friend also...please anwser soon!!!

You should try to talk to her before you tell her boyfriend. Just sit her down and talk to her, just be like "You have a boyfriend and I think thats great, and you write that you love him on your hand and then you tell me you love another guy in your class. But, you can't love both guys, you either don't love them both, or you just have a crush on one of them. But, I think that's wrong that you're saying you love them both when you have a boyfriend..." Just say something like that, I mean say it nice so she doesn't get all mad. And just tell her that she might be hurting her boyfriends feelings when she does that, and you don't want to see him get hurt. Just say stuff like that. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hey,
theres a girl who's been my friend since i was 4. now im 13 and and shes my bff. well, she told her mom a bunch of shit and her mom got mad at my mom. she's been a good friend to me, but i know that she can be two faced. she can be my bff one minute, another shell be talking bout me. but the thing is is that we get along really good. should i still be her friend even though shes 2 faced?
plezzzz dont delete.

Hey! Well, maybe you should try to talk to her about this and tell her whats up. Just be like "We've known each other since we were 4, and we're now 13. That's a long time to be friends with each other. But, you told your mom a bunch of stuff and now your mom is mad at my mom. Why did you tell your mom a bunch of stuff that's not true? Do you not want to be friends with me anymore? Because, I mean we get along really well, but it's like one minute you're my best friend and the next you're talking a bunch of crap about me. I don't like that, I mean best friends don't do that to one another.." Just say something like that and how you feel about it. Just tell her whats up. Ask her what you want to know and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay so i smoked pot once and then i did it again for the second time. I told my friend and my friend said i broke a promise saying that i wouldnt do it again but i never promised anything, now i think my friends mad at me. what should i do?

Tell her/him that you're sorry you did it. Just be like "I'm sorry that I broke a promise, I didn't know I even made a promise about anything, but if I did, I'm really sorry, I didn't know about it, I don't want you made at me about this, I don't know what you want me to say in order for you to not be mad at me..." Just say something like that and how you're sorry you did it and stuff. And maybe if you want to, just promise him/her that you won't smoke again. But only if you want to. I hope this helps and good luck. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ron just asked me to go to the movies with him and his friend, Alex. Im bringin my friend Cayla too, so its like a double date. But Cayla doesnt like Alex and I think she's a little jealous of me and Ron. SOo0 should I say anythin to her or just wait n see if she likes Alex ?

Tell her that you wouldn't do that to her even if she didn't like your date (like you said) and just be like "Can you please do this one favor for me? You know I would do this for you even if I didn't like my date. I mean you never know you might have fun after all! It doesn't even have to be a date, just go with him as friends." Just say something like that to try to convince her. I mean tell her you don't want to fight over this and stuff but you would like it if she went with you. If she still doesn't go, maybe there is another one of your friends you could ask. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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my best friend and her BF recently broke up..she finnaly got another bf..but i don't think she likes him neather does anyone eles..he really likes her ..i don't want him to get hurt..i can't tell her that i don't think she likes him..because she would get really mad and i don't want that..what do i do?

-does she like him?

Try talking to her about it all. Just be like "So how are you and _____?" And then ask her just be like "So do you really like him? Do you think this one will last or what?" Just say stuff like that and try to find it out and see what she says. If she says she really likes him, then okay! Thats good to know. But if she says she doesn't really like him, then tell her she needs to break up with him soon because she wouldn't want to hurt him because he really likes her. Just say stuff like that. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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anyone have idea`s when there stressed.. or shitty mood and feel blahh how to cheer up.
any thing im out of ideas..

Being stressful really sucks! I hate it so much. But, when that does happen to me, I usually stay in my room and listen to music for hours and hours, I love music. And I'll clean my room and reorganize it, do stuff like that to keep things off my mind. Or I go running or swimming or I workout or I go to the mall with friends to get things off my mind too. I do anything that will keep me occupied and keep things off my mind pretty much. And sometimes if you're stressful, it helps to talk to someone and get it all off your chest. Just do something you enjoy, like sometimes writing things down and expressing your feelings help too if you don't want to talk to people about it. Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox. I hope things get better for you so you don't stress anymore!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?

Hi Jess! Well, since you don't like him like that, the whole jealousy might be that you're afraid of losing him as a friend. You might think that, that girl will steal him away from you and you two won't talk or something. I had that problem with one of my close guy friends. The girl didn't like me because we always talked, so she didn't like him talking to me. Long story, but to make it short, I talked to him because we had been in a fight all week about it. So, if you want, try talking to him and just being like "You know we've been friends since 1st grade and I don't like you like that, but for some reason I'm jealous that you have a girlfriend and I think the reason why I'm jealous is because I don't want this girl to take our friendship away from each other, I don't want her to be the reason why we don't talk or hang out anymore..." Just say something like that and go from there. Hope this helps. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok,i like this boy but were friends and all.Really good friends.But like everytime we talk i get so into the conversation and just want 2 blurt out that i like him.Should I??

Signed NEED HELP FAST!

I think you should tell him how you feel. I mean you can't control who you like, so just go for it. When you two are talking to just casually mention it and go from there. Just be like "I'm not trying to be random or anything, but I just want to tell you and I know we're friends and all and we always will be no matter what happens. But, I've began to develop feelings for you and I just want to know how you feel about me." Just say something like that and how you feel and everything. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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