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I always feel left out and out of place and I always wonder what life would be like without me. I know I have friends who love me but I always end up thinking what would happen if i died... would it make a big difference? I especially wonder what my ex-boy friend would say ... I just want to feel needed, someone who will love me back ... some how when i have a boy friend or someone close to me i feel like i have a purpose ... is that normal ... to want to be needed?
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i used to feel the SAME way as you. when i would fight with my parents or get mad at a friend i would always tell myself nobody would care if i died, so why am i still in this world? (immature, i know.)i would always think about who would care and who wouldnt. and when i got my boyfriend (the only one ive "really" loved, idk for some reason i havent thought about it since.) maybe the same will happen with you. good luck. *Bethers*
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Totally normal! I feel like that all the time. Even when I dont have a boyfriend and my guy friends like this guy nick or tony hug me or something it makes me feel like if they let me go I would fall and break to pieces. I love that feeling ang that feeling is totally normal!
Later*
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yes it is normal.. it happens when u really wanan have a boyfriend or someone that really loves you or cares for you... i feel like that a lot too..
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I say it's pretty normal to think what would it be like if you were gone. I think about it all the time. But be positive about it! Of course it will make a difference. Maybe not to the world, but yes, to your true friends, 'n your family. Hope I helped!
-tori
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that is normal, don't worry about it because i'm the same way! a lot of people would be heart broken if you died and don't ever question that. you always have a purpose, but sometimes when you have a boyfriend, they make you feel important because of the way you feel when your with him.. i felt the same way about one of my ex's. keep your head up, there's someone out there for everyone. =)
xoxo` Rinny
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First, I believe it is normal to wonder what would happen if you died. A lot of people have thoughts like this. It's natural to want to feel important to someone (or needed as you put it). I think you should keep in mind though that there is no way for you to comprehend the impact that you have already had on this world and even bigger, the impact you are going to have in the future.
Every interaction that you have with people makes an impact on our world. I know that it feels good to have someone close to you and to feel needed, but please remember that even when you don't have a boyfriend, there are people all around you every day that could benefit from your smile, your shoulder to lean on, or your random acts of kindness. Trust me, you are needed. I know it's tough to get past the sappiness of my message, but if you make a little effort every day to put out positive energy into this crazy world, you will be amazed by what you will ultimately get back in return.
To sum up: there is nothing abnormal about the thoughts you are having, but don't forget that you are an important piece of a big and complex puzzle and there would be a huge void without you. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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Yes, I've felt like that before. Like all you do is try to make everyone so happy but yet you just feel like you dissappoint people and you just want to be loved back. You don't want to be alone anymore. And you want to know who would really care if you were gone. Yea, I've felt like that. I went through a hard break up and it took me so long to just finally move on. I was giving up on trying to find love, I didn't believe in it anymore, but yet you saw me smiling but inside I was practically dieing. So, I know how you feel. But, you'll get through it. You might just be going through a phase right now. I got through it. Try talking to friends, family members, or one of us advicenators about it. They'll help you through it. Even if you need to complain, someone will be there for you. You'll get through it. I mean, even if it feels like you don't have a purpose to be here on earth, there really is, you just have to find it. You're unique in your very own way. And someone you don't even know loves you. You just can't give up, you have to be positive and live your life. After all you only live life once.. right? So, I want you to look at this:
*Always remember these*
1.) at least 5 people in the world love you so much that they would die for you
2.) at least 15 people in the world love you the same way
3.) the only reason someone would ever hate you is because they wanna be you
4.) a smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they dont like you
5.) every night someone thinks about you before they go to bed
6.) you mean the world to someone
7.) without you someone may be living
8.) you are special and unique in your own loving way
9.) someone you dont even know exists loves you
10.) always tell someone how you feel then they'll know
So, I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.
xoxo Kourtney
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dont forget your family and friends. who cares what your ex would think? every one goes throught this though dont wory
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yes it is..everyone wants to be loved and have some1 to be there for them...tell you ex (if you do) you want him back! or go and get you another man!!
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everyone sometimes has thoughts about this kind of thing what would happen if you were gone what would happen if you were never there but you got to think of something of all the things youve done of all the things you said to comfort people to help people it wouldnt have been there if you werent there and think of what would happen if you werent? its always normal to feel needed its not a want but need to feel... what im trying to say is that if you werent there in their lives as well what would they have done without you? they would be very sad and a lot of other feelings they would feel but since you are still alive and since you have friends i would suggest to enjoy live to the fullest and go and fulfill your want or need to feel needed. I hope i helped
~Dom
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