Q: I'm going to become sexually active soon. Its inevitable. I'm 17 (turning 18 in March). I'm in college, I'm responsible etc.

My mom and I don't really talk about sex. I never got the birds and the bees talk, but its semi-comfortable to talk about my period and puberty stuff with her.

I want my mom to be supportive and I don't want to hide things from her. I'm not saying I want her to be jumping for joy because I'm going to be sexually active, but I want to come to her for advice or support.

How do I get both of us comfortable to talk about stuff like that?

By the way my friend said that I should say "Mom, I think I might need to go on the pill," but I already am (my mom knows). Its to regulate my period.

Q: Heres the scoop. I have a boyfriend. We have been dating for about a month. My rents are "old school" and seem to think that if you have a boyfriend, you cant have boy friends. So, i have to choose between my boyfriend (which means losing all my guy friends) or my guy friends (which means losing my boyfriend). I dont know what to do. What should i do

Q: Before i got my computer i would always use my moms and my brothers. Everyone was always telling me to get off thier computer and that it was theirs, and not mine. So finally, a couple of months ago, my garndpa got me a laptop!
Now that i got my laptop, i wouldnt have to use anyone elses. Now people use it without asking, and when i need my own compuuter, or say no (like they did to me)
They throw a hissy fit. I needed my computer for studying today, and my brother pushed me when i told him no i need it for finals, becuase the study guides are online.
what do i do
theres more problems too, but im just confused because now i have my own, for me and me only (and i also dont even mind sharing but they abuse it!)My brother takes it from me just so he can lay on his bed
help

Q: My best friend's dad did something that really offended me, and we've normally gotten along really well. I wrote him a letter to try to express my feelings. Should i send it? or let it go? If yes, can you suggest any changes?

Here it is:
Mr. ****,
I feel the need to express my feelings over the incident yesterday. I value my friendship with Sascha very much, and the relationship I have with her parents is obviously a big part of that. Frankly, the way you communicated your displeasure over me failing to call you back really offended me.
I have done my best over the course of Sascha’s and my friendship to maintain a good relationship with you and Mrs. ****, and I feel that I have done a pretty good job of doing so. For example, when Sascha sprinted out of your house the first time and ran up and down the bike path, she had called me. I talked her to her, made sure she was okay, and let her vent a little to get her emotions out and allow her to begin calming down. Immediately after that, knowing how worried you and Mrs. **** must be, I called your home, and spoke with Mrs. ****. I let her know where Sascha was, that she was okay, and that she planned on coming home soon. Another time, even though many teenagers would feel very intimidated talking to an adult myself included, I put aside my fear and came to you asking if there was anything you thought I could do to help Sascha through the difficult point she came to in her life. I wanted your take on the situation, so I could help Sascha without doing anything that would either offend you or cause you be reluctant to trust me with your daughter. I definitely do not take this trust for granted. When you trusted me to take Sascha to a party whose host you had never met or talked to, everything I said about the persons attending the party and how the party would run checked out when you came to pick her up. It was very safe and fun. I believe that these cases and many more throughout the course of our friendship have really shown that I have taken special care to maintain a good relationship with both you and Mrs. ****, and that I really do have your daughter’s best interest at heart.
When Sascha ran to me again a little less than a week ago, I handled the situation in the best manner that I could. You have to realize that I was in a very tricky situation—do I go against my best friend and call her parents or do I support her and give her a way to let out all of her emotions? Most teenagers would have chosen their friend, and completely disregarded the parents completely. Though I did choose to console Sascha, I did not disregard the fact that you and Mrs. **** would be very worried about her. Calling you right away would have seemed like betrayal in Sascha’s eyes, so I did what I felt was the next best thing. I called my mom, let her know that Sascha would be over, and that she needed to vent for a while. If you or Mrs. **** needed to know where she was, I believed that you would eventually call my mother, which you did, and then find out what you needed to know. Yes, I could have asked my mom to tell you where Sascha was, but just as before, this would seem like betrayal. I did not answer when either of you called because Sascha asked me not to specifically for the same reasons. I was planning on calling both you back as soon as Sascha had calmed down. However, my mom informed me that Mrs. **** had called her and that she had let her know exactly where Sascha was. The reason I had been planning to call before was to assuage your worry, and as that had already been done, I did not see any reason to call back as it might cause Sascha to feel that I was not “on her side,” if even just a little bit. She needed support, and I gave it to her.
Though I did not call in the heat of the situation, I knew it would be important to talk to either you or Mrs. **** about the circumstance so that I could explain my actions and clear the air of any misconceptions. I did this the morning after, thinking that it would give everyone a chance to cool down. I talked to Mrs. ****, brought up what had happened, apologized for not picking up the phone, and explained my reasons for doing so. She seemed to understand completely and explained that I should not feel like I need to put myself in those uncomfortable situations. Then we both hung up the phone. In my mind, the whole fiasco had been resolved, and I had felt good as I had handled it in the best way I knew how. To me marriage is a complete partnership. If I talk to one member, they will share it with the other. If the other member still needs clarification or something of that nature, I feel that they will take it upon themselves to speak to me about it.
Because it has been clear that I really do do my best in every single situation I have been put in throughout Sascha’s and my friendship, I feel extremely offended in the way you expressed your feelings. You made it seem as though me not calling you back was a serious conscious error on my behalf, when obviously my past actions show that I do everything in my power to not disappoint either you or Mrs. ****. You made an extremely big deal of a mistake I wasn’t even aware I made, and completely demeaned my very very hard efforts to make this ordeal end on a good note. As opposed to calling me right away and letting me know that although in most cases calling one member in a marriage would be fine, you would like to be called back as well, you let me sit for a couple of days thinking everything had worked out and then decided to shell shock me. I feel this was completely uncalled for. For one, I am just a kid. I’m still learning the right way to do everything. I understand making such a big deal out of something if I had made the same error before. However, this was my first offense. Presenting it nicely would have been more than enough. As I’ve said before, I have a good track record, and I feel that with that I deserve to be treated with respect.
I’m extremely sorry if anything I’ve said in this letter insulted or offended you in any way. It was not meant to do so. I only wanted to express my feelings so that our whole families could maintain the good relations we have kept in the past.
Sincerely,
*******

Q: What is the legal age you can move out of your parents house? Some people have told me 18 and some have told me 17. I'm in South Carolina if that makes a difference. Also, how would you tell your mom you were moving out without hurting her feelings?

Q: My parents and I moved here from Russia. It was hard for us at first. My dad worked and my mom was in school, training to be a nurse for 7 YEARS(she couldn't speak english).

Now she has a job. She's a nurse and gets paid WELL. We're living pretty good. But I barely see my parents, and that is a problem.

Ever since my mom began working, she became OBSESSED with it. She's cancelled so many plans with me and broke so many promises because she would much rather work.

I'm only 14 years old/female, and I never really had a great relationship with my parents. They've always been TOO BUSY. I missed out on so much as a kid. and I am turning 15 next month. and I feel as though my mom would rather make extra money than spend AT LEAST one day with me.

I am bulimic and I have bad mood swings and I am so so so sad, and I am losing many of my friends. I want to be able to at least talk to my mom of all people. It's just so hard. :[
what should I do or say?
I need somebody, especially a mom.

Q: All day my sister has been stratching me pinching me hitting me and kicking me. Everytime we have the littlest arguement which is litally every 2 seconds, she has to hurt me in some way. She even bites me! I have marks all over my skin from everytime shes ever hurt me. My arms and legs are covered in stratches blood marks and brusies from her. I know all sisters fight with eachother but sometimes I feel like it gets outta hand. Today, she got mad at me and stratched me and she wouldn't stop I kept yelling get away from me and stuff and she wouldn't stop so I pinched her so she would get the fuck away from me. One little pinch sends her into tears and she runs to my mom and of course no matter how much my sister hurts me, if my sister is in one little pain of discomfort and blames it on me my mom will always take my sisters side. I showed my mom all of the marks, and she goes good I'm glad she does that to you, if you got hit by a bus right in front of me it would be hard for me to PRETEND like I actually care. I never care what people say to me but when it's my actual mom I break down crying because I hate knowing people don't care about me. My sister pinned me down on the floor and handcuffed my hands with my dads old handcuffs (he used to be a police 20 years ago) and she started kicking me so hard and pinching me I couldn't move I felt like I was going to burst and just die. My mom was 2 feet away watching all of this happen and kept saying hit her harder, hit her harder. My mom doesn't care what happens to me. So I was still pinned down in hand cuffs so I tried to kick her with my leg to get her away from me but I was closing my eyes and by mistake I LIGHTLY kicked her "bad arm" to make her stop torturing me and she starts balling her eyes out. Of course my mom yells on the top of her lungs "GODS GOING TO GET YOU DONT YOU DARE TOUCH MY BABY YOU USELESS PEICE OF SHIT GO SLIT YOUR WRISTS." I said "mom did you see what she was doing to me she had me pinned down in hand cuffs what did you expect me to do just sit there." And she goes "I don't care what she does to you I hope you die." and she walked away. I ran up to my room crying. And then about 20 minutes ago my sister got mad because we were playing a ps2 game and she lost so she pulled my long hair so hard a huge chunk of it came out and I didn't cry but I tried to hit her but she ran away so fast so I popped her balloon that she got 3 days ago from a restaurant. My sister told my mom (but of course left out the part about her pulling me hair) and my mom started yelling at me and threw me on couch and just started beating me she hit my head so hard about 9 times it still hurts and she tried to choke me with the balloon and tried to stuff it down my throat. I managed to get away and I ran up to my room. I'm 13 and my sister is 10 so of course she never gets in trouble. My sister gets so much clothes and toys and cds and anything she wants she automatically gets no matter how stupid it is. My parents don't buy me any clothes I have to wear the same clothes from 2 years ago that don't even fit me any more. They don't buy me any nice things and when we go out to eat they don't even let me buy a drink and make me order off the kids menu when I'm 13 and I'm skinny but I eat A LOT and I finish the kids meal in 5 minutes and I'm starving while my sister 3 years YOUNGER then me is munching on a huge steak with 3 sides. I hate it!!!! My sister never gets hit and I always do. My mom throws me against walls and she even does it infront of my friends!!!! I can't stand this my sister always hurts me and I always get in trouble. I tried the police, but my mom lies so much so of course they believe my mom. My friends help me out so much and make me feel so much better but if they arn't at my house they can't see whats happening to me and its up to me not to get myself killed because no one else cares.

What do I do? I'm sick of living like this. My mom and dad won't even let me have a talk to them about it.

Q: ok so my little brother is 9 years old and he always wants me to play with him. he doesnt understand that im older and have things to do. whenever i try to explain this to him, he gets upset and thinks i dont want to play with him so i feel really guilty. how can i explain to him that im busy a lot and dont really have that much time to play with him?

btw 15/f

Q: I really want braces because I need them. My parents say I'm not mature enough though. I dont see how I'm not. I mean, they trust me for hours at a time by myself everyday. They even leave me responsible for my nephews when they come over. Plus, I'm 15 turning 16 in like a few days. And they make plenty if money for me to get them. We own like a 110,000 dollar house. Sometimes they claim that all our money is being spent on that but that's a bunch of bull. If my dad wasn't an alcoholic and spent all the money on booze. How do I handel this situation?

Q: 13/f

okay well for a long time now (about 4-5 months) i have been telling my parents and my grandmother that i need like a counselor or something i used to have one before and my mom made me stop going because she didnt like the idea that someone was telling her she was wrong for some things. so what do i do if my parents wont help me and my grandmother wont either?
-thanks-

Q: Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and I think my 13 year old cousin tiffany might have anorexia and iam really worried.my cousin tiffany weighs 100lbs and is only 5 foot tall and thinks she's fat all of her family including myself try to tell her she's not fat,but she dosn't listen right now she's going on a diet in which she only eats one meal a day and iam really worried is this crash dieting and these meals are mabey like a bowl of soup or something is she anorexic?please help me.my cousin and I are like sisters even if she is only 13 and iam 17 age dosn't matter how do I get her help?

Q: my uncle just passed away a little over a month ago on his motorcycle at the age of 20. i need a really good song or poem about death. songs i already have are ..

carry on by tim mcgraw
time for me to fly by REO speedwagon
the dance by garth brooks
please remember me by tim mcgraw
slipped away by avril lavigne

i would really like some poems though.

thanks in advanced

Q: Well, every single day, i'm left all alone at my house. My mom goes to work, and my brother is at camp, and my other brother is in the army.

Since i cant get a job, and my friends can never hang out, i was wondering, what are some fun things that I can do while i'm alone.

Q: 14/f

Ok, before I give you the actual question, I'm going ot give you the background.

Here it goes,
It started yesterday, it was my dad and I, watching Jeapordy, and he was making fun of all the contestants, so I hit him in the arm, but then he hit me back, I don't think he realized how hard he hits, but it's very hard. So I hit him back again, and so on, and so on. But at one point he slapped/hit my leg so hard that it left a huge hand print, and I got so mad. My mom wasn't home at the time, I tried contacting her, but she didn't answer. So I took a picture of the mark. It was ok, after that, seeing how I got out of the house for a couple of hours with my friends.Then he and my brother, came to pick me up, we decided to go rent a movie. After that was over, this is going to sound childish, but we were arguing over who got the front seat. And my dad always takes his side, so I was frustrated, so frustrated, that when I got in the back, I said "I hate you both". My dad went "Hate is an awfuly strong word." Then I went "Fine I loathe you, I despise both of you." And it was a quiet car ride after that. When we got home, I had a serious attitude, and my mom wanted to know why. That's when I showed her the picture of my leg[from earlier]. She got really mad, and started hitting my dad. Since I was just as mad, I went upstairs to cool off, and watch the movie I had chosen. When it was over, I wasn't quite as mad, and we[my brother, dad and I] watched the other movie. That was fine.


But, when I woke up this morning, I woke up an hour late, so I jumped in the shower, and while I was in there, my dad comes in and goes "Your too late, Your too late." I have no idea why, but it irritated me. So I snapped back at him; "I can still take a shower!". After I got out, my mom came in and started telling me, that she was going to leave my dad, that we don't get along, and she's leaving us both behind. She asked if I deserved the hit on the leg. Then she goes that stunt you pulled, really screwwed things up.[Refering to showing her the picture, to get my dad in trouble.] And I wasn't allowed to go, where I had planned on going. So I slept. When I woke up, my dad was leaving for work, and he said "Bye." I said "Bye." And he goes, "I hope your happy." And as I sit here now, I can't help, but believe that I was responsible for my family falling apart. My parents have been otgether since they were 14, and I feel as though I ruined it all. That I was some sort of mistake. And I don't know what to do. Does anyone know how I can fix things? I'm feeling very depressed right now,and I have no idea what I'm going to do.

Thanks for anyone who tries.

Q: ok so my mom is an alcoholic and shes gotton 2 DUI's and she's gotton in a drinking and driving accident and shes gone to rehab and goes to alot of AA meetings but she still drinks aout oncce or twice a week and the only peoeple in my house is my mom and my little sister and me, since my dad died of cancer a few years ago. and since im the oldest i have responsibilty for the family since my mom cant really take care of me and my sister. i really want to talk to her and try to live a normal life but i dont know how. i just need advice on what your opinion would be on waht i should do.

Q: my dad left my mom about 3 years ago.. I don't hang out with him or anything.. and when I see my friends with their dads having a good time..I always get jealous and wished i had a dad to have a good time with..I also watch shows and get jealous to..what can I do to not get jealous of people cause they have a dad and I don't? It ain't no way I'm spending time with my father.. I don't like him..

Q: So my dad tells me how nobody in reality is going to respect me because i have a tongue ring. I thought respecting somebody wasnt because of how they look [as in having a tongue ring] and because i have 17 piercings. I swear he is embarassed of me and he wants like the perfect little daughter or something

Ew. he makes me so mad. blahh

Q: I'm just curious. About how much money does an average parent spend on his/her child per year, including food, insurance, school, clothes, furniture, everything?

Q: 17/female my name is Rachel and my mom is driving me crazy.when my mom has these mood swings she takes it out on me and I can't take it anymore and I feel like moving,but I can't becouse iam to young.I want to move with my cousin michelle i've already asked her about it and she said of course she's 36 and she's getting a room ready for me right now,but I told her not to do it yet becouse I have to ask my mom first and I know my mom would go pysoco if I asked her becouse the last time I did mom trough a stool at me and luckily it missed is that child abuse what should I do and then my mom started pulling my hair what should I do?

Q: For the last couple of years my parents have been figting more and more. I don't really get along with my dad but I get along with my mom like we are best friends! So... my mom has this friend and we tell my dad we are going to dance class , but we are really going to his house! He is a really nice guy! My mom says that my dad and her will be divorced soon, and that we will move in with this other guy, but they will not get married. I really like this guy and I know that he will be better for my mom! Buy the way my dad hates this guy. Should I be worried about what my dad might do when he finds out we are living with him?

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