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my mom is driving me crazy.
17/female my name is Rachel and my mom is driving me crazy.when my mom has these mood swings she takes it out on me and I can't take it anymore and I feel like moving,but I can't becouse iam to young.I want to move with my cousin michelle i've already asked her about it and she said of course she's 36 and she's getting a room ready for me right now,but I told her not to do it yet becouse I have to ask my mom first and I know my mom would go pysoco if I asked her becouse the last time I did mom trough a stool at me and luckily it missed is that child abuse what should I do and then my mom started pulling my hair what should I do?
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I suggest you tell her that you are moving out instead of asking...make sure when you do this you would have a ride to get to your cousin's house right away... I think it would be best if you had michelle pick you up and call you when she is in the drive way if she has a cell phone... pack your bag ahead of time and when your cousin calls you tell your mom that you are leaving and that is final. You should tell her the Emotional and Physical abuse is too much for you and you need to get out until she see's someone about her problem and gets better.
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I can relate. While my mom isn't abusive, she does have a tendency to have these crazy mood swings and get really angry with me for things that are totally out of my control. When I was younger it was worse, luckily my Nonie lived right across the street from me, so I always knew I had somewhere to run if things got out of hand. It sounds to me like you need to get away from your mother, she's causing you phusical and psychological harm, and there is never a good excuse for a parent to do that to their child.
Now, I'm not saying you should litterally wait around for another explosion from your mom, but try explaining to her how you feel about the way she treats you. With a little luck, she may see the error of her ways and try to change. If, however, things don't go so well, leave. Try leaveing early in the mroning, before she's awake, and leave a note explaining to her why you left. Let her know where you are, and as was advized before, it doesn't seem to me that the police or child services can touch you, as long as you tell them your side of the story.
So best of luck to you, I hope this was helpful to you.
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You aren't too young, just make sure you tell her exactly what you are going to do in a no-nonsense way beforehand. Just be simple and straightforward. Tell her you can't deal with her anymore and you need to leave. Tell her exactly why as well. If she gets crazy, simply walk out the door.
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i wouldn't even ask your mom if you can move out... i would just do it if i was you!
-Bess
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First of all at 17 you can move out, if you don't mind damaging your relationship with your mom further, I would just tell her that her verbal, and at times physical abuse is not ok and you have had enough. Also if she threatens you with sending the police simply inform her if she does you will explain to them why you moved.
At 17 Children's services recognize that you are capable of making some decisions for yourself such as where you live. As your cousin is 36 and I am assuming has a job/career, they are not going to force you to return home. It may get messy for a while but I can pretty much guarentee you that once your mom realizes that she needs to get help for her own issues and that by filing a complaint will get her no where she will drop the issue.
I wouldn't ask your mom I would tell her, also if she gets physical call the police and report it this will also help you to have a report on file.
I wish you the best if you ever need to talk let me know.
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