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Q: I babysit a 5 year old boy. Sometimes he's very sweet and polite, but a lot of the time he's very obnoxious. He hits me and never listens to me. If he's doing something he shouldn't and I tell him to stop, he'll say, "You're not the boss of me," or, "I can do whatever I want," and tell me to "get out." His parents let him get away with a lot and he's kind of spoiled. He always throws things around and if I tell him to pick it up, he says, "Leave me alone," and hits or kicks me. I talked to his parents and they told me to make him go to his room if he acts like that, but when I tell him to he doesn't listen and yells at me. I really don't know what to do.
slap the kid. NO just kidding!
haha. sounds like you have a lot of patience.
you should probably threaten him a lot.
like "i'm gonna tell your mom"
or instead of him getting away with going to his room i would walk him to his room then stand out side the door to make sure he doesnt come out...
if all else fails really talk to the parents about them needing to disipline him better.
if they're not willing then politely tell them to find a new babysitter

Q: i'm babysitting these two kids on tuesday, one is a year and a half old, and the other is about 3and a half years old.
this is my first time babysitting so i don't have a rate and i'm almost 15 years old.
how much should i charge per hour?
like 5 or 6$?
thanks
well from all my babysitting experiences (it's been 7 years since i've started) no one really asks you how much you want to get paid. they just kind of pay you.
but if they do ask then yeah about 5 or 6 dollars an hour is a good wage. i babysit 2 times a week for 10 hours each day and get 6 dollars an hour.

good luck!

Q: My Daughter is 11 and she tells me shes old anough to babysit but i dont know if she should. I started babysitting when i was 11 but i want to make sure its a good age. Please help!
Honestly, 11 years old is still a child to me. In fact I babysit an 11 year old. I think it is way to young to start babysitting (it was probably different when you were younger) I wouldn't want to leave my children with someone who is still a child themself. I think around age 13 or 14 is a good age to start baby sitting.

Q: I babysit a 3 year old and she makes a lot of messes! After we complete one thing she is already on to another mess before I'm even done cleaning up the first one. Any ideas? Also if you have any fun games to do that wouldnt take long or wouldnt make a mess! that would be great! thanks!
I baby sit a 3 year old too and he understands if i tell him to help clean up he will before he moves on to the next game... 3 year olds understand things like that. They might not listen but then you have to tell them they will get a time out.
hope this helps

Q: i have to baby sit 2 kids. ages 6 and 9. my parents are best friends with their parents so my mom doesn't want me charging them a lot because our families are really close and they live next door. they are pretty good kids - if you put them in front of a tv they're perfectly quiet for 2 hours. how much should i charge an hour for the both of them?

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since they are so close i think it would be good for 3-5 dollars an hour or you could always ask them whatever they feel comfortable giving you!

Q: I babysit an 11 year old boy and an 11 year old girl 3 days a week for 4 hours a day. The boy is very sweet, but the girl is a brat. She doesn't listen to me and always does mean stuff to me. She has poured water down my shirt and refused to help with stuff. She trys to make my job very difficult. I don't know why, since I'm very nice to her and I try to help her and do what she wants to do. My family is in a lot of debt so we need the money a lot. What should I do?
I think you should give her 2 warnings and on the third one take her to a place where you want her time out to be... like maybe in a room facing the wall or on the steps try not to pick a place where there are a lot of toys for her to play with because the point of it is thinking what she did wrong

talk to her in a FIRM voice get down to her level and look her in the eye. if she turns away turn her back twords you and hold her shoulders but dont do it in a controling way like you want to hurt her because that isn't good.

Warnings:
1)Don't do that again
2)If i tell you one more time
3)tell her what he did wrong and take her to a time out place and tell her he has to stay there for 11 minutes (1 minute for every year old they are)

make sure to check back every few minutes with out her noticing like you can casually walk by

if she actually stays in her time out place then go back after 11 minutes and tell her what he did wrong and tell her if she does it again you will tell her parents and she will be in BIG trouble


hope this helps!!!

Q: Ok,I'm 13(gal)and i babysit 2 boys 3 times a week for about 4 hrs. There 1-1/2 & 6 yrs. old the 6 yr.old will NOT listen, i tell him not to do something and he still does it. Every time i have a problem i tell the dad when he gets home,but he never does anything.I have been babysitting for around 3 years and I've never run into this problem before. I'm thinking about starting a discipline plan.If he acts up i will tell him to go to his room,if he doesn't do that I'll tell him were not going outside that day etc.(i say what i mean and mean what i say).Then if it still doesn't work after a few days I'll tell his mom i cant babysit him anymore.I just cant handle him.I just need to know if other babysitters like me think this sounds good. thanks.
I think you should give him 2 warnings and on the third one take him to a place where you want his time out to be... like maybe in a room facing the wall or on the steps try not to pick a place where there are a lot of toys for him to play with because the point of it is thinking what he did wrong

talk to him in a FIRM voice get down to his level and look him in the eye. if he turns away turn him back twords you and hold his shoulders but dont do it in a controling way like you want to hurt him because that isn't good.

Warnings:
1)Don't do that again
2)If i tell you one more time
3)tell him what he did wrong and take him to a time out place and tell him he has to stay there for 6 minutes (1 minute for every year old they are)

make sure to check back every few minutes with out him noticing like you can casually walk by

if he actually stays in his time out place then go back after 6 minutes and tell him what he did wrong and tell him if he does it again you will tell his parents and he will be in BIG trouble


hope this helps!!!

Q: I'm babysitting this demand child. How can i get her to shut up?! Omg. shes so annoying. please help
Research and study...
find out what kind of things she like and find some quiet things around the house... like a puzzle or movie...

Pick out two things and do this

(her name) you have the choice of (this game) or (this movie) and if she doesn't want either than say if you don't choose one and you are going to throw a fit then you are going to your room or sit on the step for (this many minutes) (if it is day time) or go to bed (if its night time)

Q: hey, ive been trying to babysit my neighbor forever. my mom has been asking them for me to babysit. i mean im going into the 8th grade.. im deffinetly old enough by now. shouldnt there be a reason why there avoiding it?
Maybe they don't think or old enough or Immature and not responsable. They might not trust you with their kid. Or maybe they have another babysitter or just don't need one yet.... they could also think that you are too needy and not reponsable enough because you were having your mom ask instead of confronting them and asking yourself.

Q: if u r babysitting wut r the phone #s u should have on hand

like umm dunno. ok 911. um pest control? no..um posion something or other?

i should know how to do first aid right? btw what is first aid - like help a choking person with the heimlich manuever and like CPR??
You should have :
The Parent's cell numbers
The number of the place the parents will be at
A neighbor's Number
Poison Control
obviously 911
and the number of a hospital near by

you should know first aid.... for babies and children there are different heimlic maneuvers than for adults so you would need to learn them also first aid is treating injuries...

you should also have a list of allergies and medicines they could use... make sure you know where their fire extinguisher is, flashlights, band aids and stuff you think you might need incase of an emergancy

Q: I want to start babysitting again so I'm making a flyer. I only babysit for kids who are potty trained. How do I put that on a flyer and still sound professional?
Personally if I read a flyer for my kids saying babysits kids who are only potty trained i would think of that as someone who doesn't know what they are doing because they don't know how to change a diaper.... but thats just me i would just want the best care for my kids and most people do

you could just put
I only baby sit potty trained children
or
babysits (ususally 3 will be a good age) 3-(whatever age)

Q: I lose my temper a lot when i am babysitting. I am making good money, but this girl is so annoying. I dont get that mean, but I just want to tell her to SHUT UP. I try to be nice and act interested in what she is saying, but she drives me crazy!

Does that make me a bad babysitter?
I would just tell her to take some quiet time and watch tv or draw or do a puzzle or something quiet. just dont loose your temper because she could tell her parents and you could loose your job.

Q: I'm watching my friends kitten from saturday to wednesday. I'm going to have to keep it at MY house. I have to feed it, play with it, and all that stuff. How much should I charge?
It is kind of rude to ask for money from a friend that you are doing a favor for... you cant always expect money for doing a good deed. I work with animals and it is not good to play with them when they are being moved into a new home it is too stressful for them and it will make them sick expecially since it is a kitten and it is still young. So unless it comes to you wanting to play then give it that attention. other than that i would just feed it and change its littler dont really mess with it too much because you dont want it to get sick.

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