It tends to be that either people don't want to hear what they already know (When people say "Don't tell me to..."), there is something in there which is triggering to them to hear about (Like, don't mention the act of throwing up...), or they don't want to decipher the anwswer because they need help that fast.
I personally tend to do what they want, because I disclaim on my profile that I'll help you how you ask to be helped... But, generally just mark them down and answer it however you feel like. If they give you a one or a two becuase of it, just file an abuse report or delete you answer.
They're annoying, but they are inevitable, unfortunately...

There are times when I just "know" things, and it is sort of abnormal. Like, I knew my grandmother was going to die this year, and I knew that every lie I ever told was going to turn true in some way or another. So, you aren't alone... ish.
I think the best way to not be sent away is to stop telling your parents that you can read other people's minds. They are definately a bit afraid of that, naturally, so just a little hiding of the turht would be a benefit in this case. Keep it as your hidden gift. :)

The best way that I have found you can avoid fights is to not get into them in the first place. Whenever anything with me starts to get into a fight, unless it is a class debate, I tend to change what I say a little just so that it stops being fighting words. The less of a stance you take, the less of a fight can be made.

First, do not seek proffesional help until you have tried stopping for a very long time. There are at home methods to stop, and proffesional help rarely ever works.
you need to understand why you cannot stop to realise how to overcome it. So, here's a brief overview on cutting.
When you feel physical pain, the pain eventually will go away. This happens because your brain makes something a lot like morphine to ease pain. Well, in cutting, it is released in high doses, and you do become addicted to it.
The only way to stop is a continual basis stop. You cannot relapse, you cannot do an every other day type thing, and you cannot use lesser methods to stop (Rubber band is commonly suggested, it never works.)
So, with a continual basis stop, it works in steps. You start by stopping for 1 day. And then reward yourself with something, anything really that does not include self harm. Then, go another. Go day by day for 5 days, every other day for 10, every 3rd for 15, Every 5th for 20, every tenth for the final 50. This is 100 days cut free. You should be cured by then.
Yeah, easier said than done. There are ways to solve this.
1. Tell somebody. Anybody really. Parents always work best, as they scream at you and you are scared of doing this, but most people opt not to do this (I wonder why? :P). I do not suggest a guidence counselor either, they just tell your parents and do nothing else. Generally, a teacher, or a peer that you find on the web, or an adult you know. Your friends usually do not know how to handle it, and get very emotional over it. I don't suggest them.
2. Find a support group. However much I hate the site, www.teenhelp.org has a cutting support group, so you may want to try there. Otherwise, you can look on the web for "Cutting Support Group", and you get a lot of hits.
3. Have alternatives. I suggest baths for depression, with bubbles (:). I added that. It's not neccassary. :P), punching pillows for anger, and drawing on yourself with red pen if you want to see blood.
4. Do not relapse. Never do anything near self harm, and it helps a lot.
-Steven

Mental abuse, also refferred to as verbal abuse, is when a man hurts you emotionally instead of physically. He toys with your emotions, talking of how terrible you are at life, or anything. He threatens you of possible future consequences if you do not listen to him. His lectures on how you are hurting him, and make you feel like the downwards side of the story.
-Steven

Why don't you consider consulting a psychologist online? There are plenty of psychologists out there ready to offer you their services through E-Mail or AIM, and it is apparently easier for you to talk through text instead of through words. You may even want to consider requesting that you can talk to him by going there, just ask if it could be possible to bring a laptop to IM him in.
Just a thought...

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What is social anxiety disorder?

Social anxiety disorder, also called social phobia, is a psychological condition that causes an overwhelming fear of social situations that require interacting with or performing in front of others. It is different than being shy, introverted, or experiencing the normal anxiety before public speaking—the fear is that you will somehow embarrass yourself with what you say or do in public. Social anxiety disorder causes relentless fear, often beginning days or weeks before an event, and often triggers physical symptoms such as blushing, rapid heartbeat, and difficulty concentrating. Social anxiety disorder significantly impacts a person's daily life. It may even cause withdrawal from social activities and missed work or school.

What causes social anxiety disorder?

Although the exact cause of social anxiety is not known, it may run in families either as a genetic factor or as a learned response developed after experiencing a particularly humiliating situation.

What are the symptoms of social anxiety disorder?

Social anxiety disorder has both emotional and physical symptoms. Emotionally, you may feel anxious, sad, irritable, and easily startled in anticipation of or during a social event. You may worry excessively or fear something bad is going to happen. This anxiety can cause physical symptoms, such as blushing, sweating, shakiness, rapid heartbeat, and difficulty concentrating.

How is social anxiety disorder diagnosed?

Social anxiety disorder is diagnosed based on your history of symptoms, a physical exam, and a mental health assessment, which involves an evaluation of psychological symptoms.

Blood or urine tests may also be done to rule out other medical conditions that can cause similar symptoms (such as an overactive thyroid).

How is social anxiety disorder treated?

Treatment of social anxiety disorder includes professional counseling and sometimes medications (such as antidepressants), depending on the degree to which your symptoms are impacting your daily life. Social anxiety disorder can be generalized—meaning you fear most social situations—or your fears may be limited to one or a few social situations. The more social fears you have, the more debilitating the condition, and the more difficult it can be to treat.

Substance abuse problems or depression often accompanies social anxiety disorder. When other psychological conditions occur with social anxiety disorder, additional treatment is needed for those conditions.


Symptoms:
Social anxiety disorder causes unreasonable, debilitating fear of being judged or publicly humiliated. You may avoid or severely limit encounters with other people—which can keep you from daily activities. You may develop physical symptoms such as a rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, or tightness in your chest when faced with a feared social situation.

When you have social anxiety disorder, common social situations can cause overwhelming fear and anxiety, such as eating in public, writing in front of other people, using a public restroom, or speaking in front of others.

You may be more afraid of people noticing your anxiety than of the actual feared situation. A vicious cycle can emerge of avoiding or worrying about the social event (such as speaking in public) because you are afraid others will see you as weak, anxious, or foolish—this, in turn, leads to more anxiety. This may lead to avoiding or limiting contact with other people.

Symptoms of social anxiety disorder may differ in adults and children. Adults and teenagers with social anxiety disorder usually recognize their fears of being publicly humiliated are unreasonable or excessive, while children who have this disorder may not. 1

Expressions of anxiety in adults or adolescents include:1, 2

Having persistent but unreasonable fear of a situation that involves unfamiliar people or being judged by others. The fear is that you will be embarrassed or humiliated by something that you say or do.
Developing severe anxiety or panic attacks when in the feared situation.
Recognizing that your fears are excessive or unreasonable.
Avoiding social situations that you fear, or enduring them with intense anxiety or distress.
Avoiding or anxiously anticipating feared situations so much it interferes with daily activities and relationships.
Worrying about being anxious.
Expressions of anxiety in children include:1, 2

Worrying about being embarrassed in front of their peers, but not usually adults or teenagers.
Expressing anxiety by frequently crying, throwing tantrums, "freezing" in social situations, or "shrinking back" from unfamiliar people.
Denying or not realizing the fears are excessive or unreasonable.
Fearing performance situations, such as having to speak in front of the class. This fear doesn't come and go; it is continuous and lasts for 6 months or longer.
People with social anxiety disorder often underachieve at work or at school to avoid the attention of a promotion or to avoid being forced to participate in a group. 1 They tend to have few friendships and have trouble dating or developing relationships. In prolonged or severe cases, many people develop other psychological conditions (such as depression or substance abuse). 3

Social anxiety disorder is among several types of phobias that many people experience, such as agoraphobia or specific phobia (fearing an object, like a spider, or a frightening situation, such as being stuck in an elevator).

No, you do not want to be a belimic. Making yourself throw up HURTS, and you do not want that pain. Even if you'll lose a few pounds, the weight loss does not offset the hurt. Many people have damaged the lining of their throats, stomach, and mouth by doing it. AKA, you'd probably have permanent problems, possibly lose a tooth. There are much healthier ways to diet than that. You should aim to around 5 pounds lost a month, for those diets are easier to keep. You can find one to use in the bookstore. Remember to exercise, that is what burns the calories.
As to not wanting to live, remember that there is more to life than just school and work. Work usually lasts from 8-4. You still have the rest of the day to rest and do whatever you want. Plus weekends. And, you strive towards retirement, which can come really early if you work hard enough. You also will have a family soon enough, and they will be another part of the good in your life. And work is not like school at all. You do something you enjoy all day long. And you get paid for it. Like I enjoy giving advice, so I may become a psychologist, and I enjoy playing trombone, so I may become of band teacher. You pick what you want to do, and you can have fun with it.
Trust me, life can be fun if you make it to be. It just needs to be lived to the fullest.
-Steven

If this is happening for no reason, then personally I think it is a disorder. I believe that you have a depression disorder, which is either Manic Depressive or Major depressive. Find a psychologist near you and he'll help you find out what you have, and HELP you.
-Steven

Tumors come from a piece of DNA splitting more than it's maximum 42 times. At that point, the fibers at the end are so thin that they break apart and multiply on their own. The only thing I think you can develop are other mental illnesses, schizofrania in particular.

And if it's any encouragement to you, I know a lot about what you are going through as I have chronic depression, obsessive compulsive disorder, dissociative identity disorder, and low self worth problems. :) It's what makes us unique.

What happened is that your body made morphine each time you cut in high doses, and you got addicted. You recovered, and were fine. Burning did the same effect as cutting, and readdicted you to those doses. Burning is another for of SH, and is directly related to cutting.
All I suggest you to do is tell your parents that you accidentally burned yourself with the curling iron and that triggered you to start cutting again. It worked the first time, it will work now.
I cannot help you with crying constantly, because I do not know why you do such. E-Mail me at sbloemeke2@yahoo.com, and we can talk about these problems.
-Steven

What you do is simply ask her to stop talking to you and bothering you. If she continues to talk and bother you, you file harassment charges on her. Make sure that you have hard proof showing when you told her to stop and how she continues to talk/harass you. That little bit will be enough to get her away from you.
-Steven

Bipolar disorder. It is a disorder where 1/2 the time, you are happier than a clown, and the other 1/2, you are manically depressed.
-Steven

Well, it may seem disturbing, but this is fairly normal. When people learn stuff, they want to experiment. And they usually do. I know a guy who had sex with his cousin when they were 12. It happens. Your sister is a bit better off than him, but make sure you are very careful. Let her know that there is a time and place for everything, and making out with your sister may be seen as very long.
It seems like she is a bit over-active though. You may want to let her get over horniness in other ways, if you catch my drift.
-Steven

Cutting is unhealthy because of a few reasons.
1. You lose blood. It isn't healthy to lose a lot of blood.
2. The repeated shock of it is not good for your body.
3. I have heard of countless tales of nerve damage and torn tendons because of it. The results are usually weakness in joints, or in some cases, inability to move it much at all.
4. You may cut too deep, causing death.

That is the physical problems. But a lot of it is mental problems. Such as:
1. You are put into a high dosage of morphine each time you cut. That can, and usually does lead to addiction.
2. High levels of a drug aren't that good, by the way.
3. You depress yourself by making yourself believe that cutting solves your problems. You lose the ability to find another way out of problems.

If at anytime you wish to actually stop, I am here. Drop one in the inbox or AIM at GMSB543, or even E-Mail at sbloemeke2@yahoo.com. I'm always here for you.
-Steven

The 4 step method usually works. It has works for 4/5 people who ask me for help, so I'll explain it.
1. Admit that you are addicted to cutting. Yes, it sounds corny, as how can anyone be addicted to something that is internal? It's simply that your brain makes morphine to ease pain, and in high doses like with cutting, you get addicted. If you admit it, then you're a quater of a way done.
2. Tell somebody. You need a personal mentor to get through with this. Tell an adult, a teacher, a friend, or even someone else about your problem. If you want me, I'll be fine with this. sbloemeke2@yahoo.com
3. Support group. Find a group who will get you through it, and relate with their own experiance. They have one at www.teenhelp.org if you wish. Online support groups usually work better.
4. Stop and reward. This is always the hardest step (Surprising? No.) You use a method of rewards for stopping, as you have motivation. You make up the reward for it, like getting to go on a shopping spree or going to the movies, but it should not involve cutting. You go cold turkey. This means you stop cutting, starting at one day. During the one day, you use alternatives. I suggest beating a pillow if you feel angry, taking a bath for depression, or drawing with red pen if you want to see blood. After one full day, it's reward time. You'll be able to see it as easy, and do another day. Another reward. This goes until day 5. Then your reward days should be 7, 9, 11, 13, 15, 18, 21, 25, 30, 40, 50, 70, 90. Day 90, you're cured.
Never give up. If you feel like you cannot stop, go either to that person that you chose or to the support groups, they'll help you through it.
And you can never cut again, as you'll go right back into it.
Hope I helped!
-Steven

Well, your idea will only offer temporary relief, as your problem will cause other problems. But, if you wish for him to understand, tell him that you know that you have a problem. And tell him that you are doing it because you have no choice. Let him know that ultimatums usually always increase the problem at hand, and that you are hoping that through his support, you can break it.
If that was all you wanted, then you can stop here. If you actually WANT to stop, read on.

If you wish to stop, then you have to realise which of your problems go hand in hand. See, I believe you have an unbeknowest Morphine addiction. Let me explain.
Each time you feel pain, your body produces a substance like morphine. In higher pains, it produces more. Having a lot of this can lead to an addiction. This addiction comes from such stuff as cutting, pulling hair, and starving yourself. They go hand in hand.
If you wish to stop one, you need to stop all 3. This is kind of complex and difficult to do, so I suggest that you visit a psychiatric ward for about a week, as it will help. Normally, I suggest a cold turkey-rewards method (Proven to work 95% of the time), but that usually only works for one addiction. After that week, you should be a week clean. You have a few things to do then. Eat. Don't cut. And don't pull. Sound hard? Each day you're free, give yourself something that you want. Eventually, you'll get more.
I am willing to personally mentor you through this, I have done others as well. sbloemeke2@yahoo.com. I will talk as long as you need, even if it is 4 years. All I need is what is the cause that made you start cutting? That is probably where we'll start.
-Steven

I really know exactly how you are feeling, I've really been feeling quite terrible this past day, feeling like not going on. All I'm doing is I'm thinking about my friends, and thinking of what their reactions would be if I did. I'm also thinking of my parents, and how awful it would be for them.
But, the main thing which I'm doing is laying out each problem that is causing me to feel this way, and trying to find a solution or a comfort in each. If you contact me at sbloemeke2@yahoo.com, I'd love to help you which each problem that is making you feel this way. Heck, I'll mentor you as long as you want, even... One girl and I are going on our 5th month mentoring.
What I want to advise you to do first is to just not do it. It's not worth it, as you still have an entire life to live, and it just gets better past the teenage years.
Just contact me, and we'll talk.
-Steven

I think you should play. If there was one thing I learned from my physical therapist, it is that it is more difficult to injure a knee a second time after treatment that it was at the beggining. The knee should not be a limiting factor, unless you are in excruciating pain when doing something (I.E., I couldn't do breastroke when swimming...)
Besides, you need an active life. It is obvious in your question when you told about the 6 months away from activity. You couldn't stand it, and if you get away from soccer, those 6 months become permanent.
And you're a teenager, so I'd definately suggest that you try to do as many activities as possible through this time, even if it seems like you have no time.
-Steven

It really depends. If this is the first time you've heard it, and it's disappeared, you probably were still half asleep. Those voices were from your brain in its relaxed state, and you know how dreams go. There are charecters in them.
Yet, it may not be that at all. You may be becoming a schizophrenic. The only way to tell for sure is by going to a psychologist. But, there are sites that show some of the other symptoms of it. If you want to look into it a bit more, go to http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/schizoph.cfm I found it, and it helped me in finding out what was wrong with me. (FYI, it was not that.)
Well, I hope this helps. You can always reply to this or send an E-Mail to sbloemeke2@yahoo.com
-Steven

THE PENGUIN RULES ALL! AHAHAHAHAHAHA! *Cough*
Hello! My name is Steven, and I am a mentor. Yes, that does mean that I help other people. I have helped over 1000 people to date, and have helped some individuals for over 1/2 a year. The miracle of my life occurred 17 years ago. I say miracle only because 1/4 babies survive to be born.
I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
Oh, and I'm a L1 moderator, which means I rate questions.

Don't hesitate to IM me, I'm usually on. If I'm not, just drop one in the Inbox!

Oh, by the way, I am liberal in everything. That means that abortion is a woman's RIGHT, and gay marriage should be LEGAL.

Ask away!
-Steven

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