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cutting
i have been cutting myself for about 4 months now, i dont know how to stop, but i dont want to do it anymore. how do i stop and deal with my emotions in other ways?
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you cant just stop and deal with it.. thats the worst thing you can do. you have to get to the root of the problem, and its hard to do that on your own. find someone you can trust and get them to help you. youre on the right path with "deal with emotions in other ways" try hitting or sreaming into pillows, or running, or even scribbling on a piece of paper. anything to keep you from hurting yourself. but definately get professional help.
good luck and god bless
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when you get stressed or depressed take a walk. or clean your room. look for the good tings you havein life. squeeze a stress ball
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work out, talk to someone, go running
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You could stop this by consulting a psychiatrist,be put into special therapy until you completely get cured from this.What you could try to do is stay away from anything that cuts such as scissors,knives anything that cuts so you won't feel the need to do so.You need to get the help you need as soon as possible before you hurt yourself or even someone else so please get help.Have you told your parents about this problem?If they don't let them know they have the right to know that is why there your parents to look out for you.
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4 monthes isnt that long, thats good. I did it for 5 years and it was almost impossible to stop. What I did was I targeted my anger and depression on something else. I used music to escape, I wrote poems, and then took up the habbit of smoking cigarettes to calm myself. Im actually doing almost 100% better. I havent picked up a razor since December, which is quite the accomplishment and I stopped in what you would call "cold turkey". Which is what you have to do. I know it will seem hard beacause once something goes wrong you`ll want to turn to that. But when something does go wrong, try writing out your emotions, blasting music, crying, falling asleep, running, or make plans to do something to get your mind off it. ANYTHING but cutting.
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um talk to people- you might need to go into like a support group...but before you do anything- you need to sit your parents down- and explain to them what is going on and why...just pour your feelings out...also TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS- they are the best way to vent anger about other people and things that are bothering you...also- if the issue is more personal or more painful to talk about...get a family member or 1 of your closest friends(its easier to talk to one person...fyi...) and if they are your true friend- they wont judge you or just dismiss your feelings...also dont be afraid to cry- its an awesome way to vent- just cry...
IM me if you need more advice- im always here
muchh lovve
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The 4 step method usually works. It has works for 4/5 people who ask me for help, so I'll explain it.
1. Admit that you are addicted to cutting. Yes, it sounds corny, as how can anyone be addicted to something that is internal? It's simply that your brain makes morphine to ease pain, and in high doses like with cutting, you get addicted. If you admit it, then you're a quater of a way done.
2. Tell somebody. You need a personal mentor to get through with this. Tell an adult, a teacher, a friend, or even someone else about your problem. If you want me, I'll be fine with this. sbloemeke2@yahoo.com
3. Support group. Find a group who will get you through it, and relate with their own experiance. They have one at www.teenhelp.org if you wish. Online support groups usually work better.
4. Stop and reward. This is always the hardest step (Surprising? No.) You use a method of rewards for stopping, as you have motivation. You make up the reward for it, like getting to go on a shopping spree or going to the movies, but it should not involve cutting. You go cold turkey. This means you stop cutting, starting at one day. During the one day, you use alternatives. I suggest beating a pillow if you feel angry, taking a bath for depression, or drawing with red pen if you want to see blood. After one full day, it's reward time. You'll be able to see it as easy, and do another day. Another reward. This goes until day 5. Then your reward days should be 7, 9, 11, 13, 15, 18, 21, 25, 30, 40, 50, 70, 90. Day 90, you're cured.
Never give up. If you feel like you cannot stop, go either to that person that you chose or to the support groups, they'll help you through it.
And you can never cut again, as you'll go right back into it.
Hope I helped!
-Steven
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I have a few friend's who do the same thing, and one went to a phycologiest (sry bout my spelling) and she has felt a lot better, and she has done better soshal wise. But dont feel alone, a lot of people do the same thing! So just go to a phycologiest once or twice and see if it helps.
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as an ex-cutter, i know that it's hard to tlak to ppl about it. my dad saw one of the scars & asked what it was. i just told him my cat strached me. & thank god he believed it. but cope with your anger/sadness another way. scream into a pillow. go outsdie & scream as loud as you can. write in a journal, or write a song or poem to express your feelings. call up a friend & tell them what you're feeling. there is so much you can do to stop yourself. don't think about it as much, you should be fine. if you need to talk or w/e drop one in my inbox or IM me. J0NNYS x GiRL. hope i helped hunn. good luck.
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get help from a therapist or counselor..talk to your parents about it
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You've already realized something important; that you don't want to do it anymore. That's a huge step right there. There's many more things you can do. Try just writing in a journal, tearing up paper, drawing, writing.. Have you ever thought of talking to a counselor? They'll be able to help you the most. Try making an appointment with a guidance counselor at school. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to IM me or leave one in my inbox. - Kristen
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Dont Cut !! Its not the soultions. But im glad that you want to stop you can :
- write down your emotions
- talk about them with your friends
- instead of cutting just let out a good cry
- throw away all your cutting objects
- listen to some music
- watch some tv
- take a nap to get your mind off things
ill add more later if i think of. but i hope these helped <33
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listen babe, cutting is bad, but there are many ways to stop it.
when you feel mad, go in your room or somewhere else quiet where nobody can bother you, lock the door(if you have a lock)and scream in a pillow or punch something that wouldnt break when you punch it. try to get away from commotion and listen to music. it takes you out of the real world and puts you in your own. calm down and BREATHE. stop thinking about cutting cause it doesnt solve anything.
when you're sad, just cry until you cant!! crying helps, trust me. im a very emotional person, and when i cry, i feel much better about things. try to think of other thinks besides cutting, sadness, and anger. such as happy things(i know it sounds corny, but it works) if NOTHING works, go talk to someone that you trust or a counsler. they will help you witht this problem
i hope i helped.=)
xOxoXXo~~~--AdRiiAnA
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write your emotions down, talk about them, see a therpist
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Greetings Emo Child,
I used to snap rubberbands. It hurts so don't do it unless you are a retard like hockeybob. Why don't you keep a journal or something? I'm sure your life isn't as bad as you think. There are people who live in third world countries who work in sweat shops all day and night without food or water, and they make like a penny a day. So think of that when you want to cut.
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put a rubber band on your wriste and when you get mad snape it
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i used to cutt like 8 months ago but i stopped like a week latter.. but what helps me stop is to get my mind off of it..like listen to music, watch tv, talk to some friends, go out some place, read a book, look at a magazine,, etc...if you dont want to cut anymore then you can stop if you are determined to and if you set your mind to it.. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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when you feel like cutting, talk to a friend instead, or like an adult you trust. if your parents know, ask them to take you to a counselor. or you can try to express you feeling in other ways like writing, punching a pillow, or anything
..if you need more help leave one in my inbox. good luck!!
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Talk to someone like a counselor or a friend (esp. if the friend is older). The counselor especially will be able to help you. If you don't want to talk to anyone, try writing poetry, writing in a diary or drawing pictures to get your anger out. I know several people who use this method and it works quite well.
Also, try to pinpoint what situations trigger you to cut, and avoid situations like that or learn to control yourself when in them.
Hope this works!
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There is a lot of good info to be found on this site. It gives tips on how to occupy yourself to keep from cutting, among other things. Hope you find it helpful. :)
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cutting wont sovle anything so try not to when ever you have an urge to cut your self call one of your friends or talk to your parents you dont have to tell them about cutting them selves but just tell them about your day and ask about thiers
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