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Eating Disorder mania
I could probably answer my own advice, but I want someone else's opinion.It started 3 years ago when I was 16. After my boyfriend and I broke up I started downing myself alot. I felt I let the situation go out of control and I had always since my childhood let others get the best of me and control me, I think around the time my boyfriend and I broke up I developed my eating disorder. I have also had other problems like with cutting, trichillomania, anxiety, and depression. I am like a VERY nervous person and it's hard to control my moods and all. Everyday is a struggle to be perfect sometimes i just wish i could cure this disorder and move on and know that being thin isnt everything, but when I see someone thinner than me or someone on tv I am triggered and feel so bad whenever I do eat. I will literally starve for 5 days, then binge the next two days and then starve again then binge and purge and the cycle continues. My question is I feel worthless and like I have lost all hope on getting better, my boyfriend that I broke up with 3 years ago well we are back together and he knows about me being bulimic and anorexic, he yells at me because he hates that I do that to myself and he has even said 'you either choose me or the disorder.' he doesnt understand, i love him so much and i would do anything for him but i cant stop doing this too myself, it is so much in my head to stop. He always says Im too skinny but never really tried to help me, sometimes he even makes negative comments to me even when he knows that makes it worse. What can I say to make him understand? Its so awkward that he knows my biggest secret.
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tell him that you are going to get help from a professional (because you really should) and that you want him to know that you still care about him
if he still doesn't understand than try to just be friends...good luck
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Maybe the next time he says something to you about your disorders say back to him that you dont need his comments on what you're going through.. you just need his support to get better. Tell him how you feel about the things that he says because if you don't tell him, then he'll never know. I also think you need to keep in mind that NO ONE is perfect. Everyone has their own flaws and insecurities. When you hang out with people, watch how they act and try to find out what they're insecure about( don't say anything out loud though! lol). That might make you realize that you dont need to feel guilty about not feeling perfect. Be confident with what god has given you because you cant change who you are. I really hope things get better for you! :-*
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Well, your idea will only offer temporary relief, as your problem will cause other problems. But, if you wish for him to understand, tell him that you know that you have a problem. And tell him that you are doing it because you have no choice. Let him know that ultimatums usually always increase the problem at hand, and that you are hoping that through his support, you can break it.
If that was all you wanted, then you can stop here. If you actually WANT to stop, read on.
If you wish to stop, then you have to realise which of your problems go hand in hand. See, I believe you have an unbeknowest Morphine addiction. Let me explain.
Each time you feel pain, your body produces a substance like morphine. In higher pains, it produces more. Having a lot of this can lead to an addiction. This addiction comes from such stuff as cutting, pulling hair, and starving yourself. They go hand in hand.
If you wish to stop one, you need to stop all 3. This is kind of complex and difficult to do, so I suggest that you visit a psychiatric ward for about a week, as it will help. Normally, I suggest a cold turkey-rewards method (Proven to work 95% of the time), but that usually only works for one addiction. After that week, you should be a week clean. You have a few things to do then. Eat. Don't cut. And don't pull. Sound hard? Each day you're free, give yourself something that you want. Eventually, you'll get more.
I am willing to personally mentor you through this, I have done others as well. sbloemeke2@yahoo.com. I will talk as long as you need, even if it is 4 years. All I need is what is the cause that made you start cutting? That is probably where we'll start.
-Steven
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hey if oyu love your boyfriend and his the reason you do this maybe you need a break.anywaymaybe you need serious help like going to rehab and taking a break from your life until you get better.if yourr boyfriend cared he would try to help you.also do this for yourself.
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You should help yourself with this situation you are the only one to stop this disorder do for yourself and your boyfriend who you care a lot about.Tell him on how it is very hard for you not to stop and that you just need him to help but not by telling you negative things to you because it isn't helping and makes things much worse.Also in order to understand this problem he also should understand that you need to cure this disorder you have by taking some action not by talking like taking you to a psychiatrist I advice a lot to seek one for problems like this.You have to stop this even though you say you can't do something that will keep off the idea of making yourself starve to death and if you keep on with this one day you may even get a disease of disorder so for your own good you must not continue on with this.
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