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Social Anxiety
I'm 15 and I think I have social anxiety disorder. My parents keep urging me to get help from a counsellor.. but I can't. It's really pathetic but for me the idea of having to sit in a room with a total stranger and answer questions or something is pure torture. I want to get help but how can anyone help me when I can't speak to people?
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How can you say that its pure torture to sit and talk to someone? The point of being with a counselor is to explain your feelings and your problems you have in your life, and the counselor tries to help the situation, or just talks to you and gives advice. Its not pathetic, it will socialize you better to let out your thoughts, and you'll feel better about having somebody to talk to, and being comfortable after being there for a while. You need to give that a chance, your parents only want the best for you, and why not give it a shot? You can speak to people, you just have to start from one person that you know will talk back and help you. Just go to a few sessions and make sure that you tell that counselor how you feel when you talk to people. Take it from someone who actually is 15, and is seeing a therapist right now, it is not as bad as all of the other brainwashed teenagers make it out to be, trust me.
-TheTeenGirl
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Instead of someone you don't know, talk to a friend or trusted adult. It should be much easier! Good luck!!
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Seeing a counselor is really a very good idea. I know it will be difficult, that's part of the disorder.
I think if you ever want to be able to function around other people in a way you would enjoy, you have to bite the bullet and see someone.
Walking in the door is the hard part. Once you accomplish that you are the road to getting better. Go. :)
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Do it, even though it's going to be tough. I'm pretty sure I have it as well, though it has gotten better over the years, and talking about it has been the best thing to overcoming it. Even if you don't go for professional help, find a close friend and talk to them about it. It will help you wonders.
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your right , it is uncomfrtable to sit with someone in a room and lay everything out on the table . for you to get over this with out seeing someone you need to figure out what bothers you . do you think you'll say the wrong thing or people will think what you say is silly ? did someone or something contribute to this ? where you once embarassed because you messed up on a speach or something and now its hard for you to talk to people ? think ! you couldn't of just been born with this , humans are ment to talk and communicate . think what will happen if you talk to someone , most likely you'll get a responce and everything will be okay . when you feel tense talking to someone calm your self , when you tense yourself it puts a defencive wall around you because you are afraid of them . try this , say hello to 4 stranger in school who look like nice people , try someone in one of your classes and ask for the homework assignment or ask someone else for the time or say you don't get the assignment . try boys and girls . good luck.
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Why don't you consider consulting a psychologist online? There are plenty of psychologists out there ready to offer you their services through E-Mail or AIM, and it is apparently easier for you to talk through text instead of through words. You may even want to consider requesting that you can talk to him by going there, just ask if it could be possible to bring a laptop to IM him in.
Just a thought...
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Man tonight is full of tuff questions. Well, you did pretty good on writing a message about your disorder to like, the whole web. So it must not be too terribly bad. I think you should take little steps one at a time. Try making more friends. Talk more. Leave me a message if you want more info.
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You could try having your parents go with you to the counselor until you get used to being around that person. That may help ease you into the situation instead of throwing you in head-first. Another option is to try speaking to someone you already know and trust-a school counselor, your family doctor, your spiritual leader, etc.
Good luck.
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okay, well, I'm sorry to say this, but the counselor sounds like a good idea. I know that it sounds scary, but when you get in there, you can just talk about everything that's on your mind. Those counselors are NOT there to judge you and everything is purely confidential. They're there to help you, and believe me, they most likely can. So to get your parents off your back, and to help yourself, at least make a comprimise to see the counselor once. That will put your parent's nagging to rest, and you might see that it's not so bad! Good luck sweetie!
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Instead of talking to a complete stranger, try talking to someone you know and trust already.
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