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alright alright okay so i havent had a bf for a really long time, but thats okay bc i ddint want one, i enjoyed being single and doing things with a lot of guys rather than just one.. but now i really just want a bf n im like getting depressed about it- the huge problem is, i dont even LIKE any guys, which really sucks... plus, homecoming is coming up but idc really if i dont have a date for it bcc i can go with mah guurrls but i waanna bffff soosososoo bad omgosh....HElp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Don`t sweat. Enjoy single, and one day (soon) youll find a guy and you'll go out. Don't try to rush things.. relationships cant be rushed. Just remeber to be yourself & have fun. Get to know some guys better, (you might end up liking them). Just always be yourself & have fun. Finding a guy is no fun AT ALL, if you dont have fun with it :]. Youll find him & you will be so happy.. just keep thinking that one day you'll find him. You cant make someone like you, but you can get to know someone better & dont be afarid to give guys chances. Don`t sick to one type. Try different types.. not all guys are the same, but if your not feeling him.. let him go... ALOT OF FISH IN THE SEA :]
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I like this girl at my school in Texas. But i used to like her friend and i asked her out about a month ago because idk i guess i was confused. So am i screwed or can i get this first girl that i like now to like me or go out with me. I know this is confusing but could u help me. Shes worth it.

P.S.

What can i do to make her like ?

Your not screwed over. You were confused - totally understandable. Talk to the girl you like, getting to know her better, just be yourself. Don`t try to make yourself be this amazing guy if honestly your not. Just have fun with her, make jokes but don`t be mean mean to her. Flirting mean is okay. If shes worth it like you said, then dont give up.. tell her you like her and explain to her that things got mixed up before, that you didnt know what to do and that you made a mistake.


You cant make someone like you, you just have to be yourself. Just ask her to hang out with you, and if she says she cant then deal with it. Dont try super hard (its a turnoff major) but putting in a little effort towards her will not go un-noticed. She will be flatered by it and think about how kind you are. Compliment her, compliments go a long way.. dont do stupid ones like "wow that shirt makes you look hott" no no no.. girls get that all they time, they think its stupid and its also a turn off. Dont try to cahnge yourself, let her get to see the real you from the start. Show her you can be fun, but yet searious at the same time :] Girls like when guys can joke but yet be searious. Dont be afarid to talk to her about her feelings eather. Girls have them & like to talk about them, but dont go girly on her. Just tell her how you feel & if she askes you a question about your feelings explain it to her. Good luck & if you need more help drop it in the INBOX :]
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Hi. You dont know me, but I NEED HELP! I am conerned that I may be gay, but I have a thing for girls as well.. so technically bi. I dont wanna tell me friends, because they said they wouldnt be friends with me if I was.. so.. Should I wait for a few years, or just come out? I am a 13 year old male

Considering (spelling) the fact you are 13 you could just be experimenting with different sexualitys. Alot of people go threw a phase of that, where they wonder about the other and same sex. There isn`t anything wrong with being gay or bi.


Are you 100% sure that you are bi. If so, then come out now. There is no shame in it. If people treat you different then you don`t need them in your life. If you are not 100% sure, then I would wait a few years. See if you sexuality changes.


It totally up to you. I would consider maybe telling someone in your family. Talk to them about it. They know your life better then I do. You said so yourself "you don`t know me". Talk to someone in your family, they are willing to help you :] Good luck & remember there isn`t anything wrong with how you feel.
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What do most people define as "hooking up"?

My idea of "hooking up" is doing something with other other. Making out and/or more. Most of the time, it depends on the person. Everyone has their own idea of what it means.. that's just my personal idea.
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ok..

so theres this guy whos liked me since 7th grade or w/e. and he wants to go out. but just today he said " well im only 16, i wanna experience a little more before i go out with you because i have a feelings we'd go out a long time, we have that chemistry" i said ok fine like a dumbass.. then i said id wait for him and give him time..

SHOULD I WAIT!?!?!??! or just be like either me or not.

If he likes you, he would go out with you. He doesn't want to hurt you, so instead he put you on the sidelines. It's honestly up to you. Do you want to take that chance and wait for him, and even have the idea of him NOT liking you after the wait, or do you want to move on & find someone who wants to be with you right here and right now ? Thats up to you, but my choice :: I wouldn't sit around and wait for someone who doesnt care about me enough to be with me.. I'd get out there and find me a real guy :]
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Is it more apropriate to tell a guy your home phnoe nummber or your cell phone number?

Cell number deff. It would just be odd if someone else answerd your house phone. It's more personal if he were to call your cell number. It's your number, not the whole families.
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Me and my friend have been friends for a while and recently she told me about her cusion. i met him and a couple months later we started going out. just last week he broke up with me suddenly because he said he wasnt ready for a girlfriend.(but i think it was someting else) then the next day he e-mailed me back saying he was stupid he did and he still really likes me a lot and misses me. now he is on vacation and he said when he comes home he will have made a decision about going out with me or not. I really really like him but if he ends up asking me out i dont want to sound easy and say yes but i really like him im just not sure if i say yes all of the time to him he is not oging to repect me. Also i've never made-out before and im dying to with him because he is the only one i would but now i dont know what to do!
help me please!
-confused-

You shouldn't be confused about liking him. If you like him, then honey you like him. Nothing you can do about that. If he askes you out, only you can say yes or no. If you feel as though it can work, and you and him are going to make an effort to see each other & fight for what you have. Then say yes, but then again.. you say you're not sure if he is going to respect you all the time. Honey stop right there, and think about that,.. if he doesn't respect you, then hes a jerk. All guys should respect girls, girlfriend or just friend. If you are worried about him not, then you should ask him about it. Tell him you're worried about him not respecting you, and that you want to make things clear. You WOULD NOT be easy for saying yes to him. You like him, whats easy about that. Liking someone is far from easy. Liking somone, is something you have no control over. No matter what you try to do, you can't stop yourself from liking someone.. even though sometimes we try. Just really think about things before you answer him. Heck, he said he would make a decsion about going out with you. Meaning :: he doesn't even know if he wants to go out with you or not. Keep that in mind while you're making your decsion. "He didn't even know if he wanted to go out with me in the first place, maybe he was just confused like me, or maybe he had to figure out if he liked me." You need to concider all that while you detrimen yes or no.


As far as the making out goes. If you are confused about what to do the first time, follow his lead. Don't think about it to much though, just relex and have fun. Nothing at all the be worried about. Just relex and have fun :]
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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer..

There could of been a reason that he said something to her. Maybe, you never know. I wouldn't break up with him over it, just yet. I would talk to him about it. Find out why he said it, and you should try to get him to say sorry to her. If you feel as thou. breaking up would be the right thing to do, then that is up to you. "Hoes before Bros". It mostly depends on where your thoughts are on it.
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Fourteen Female: I've like this guy for about six months and we've gotten pretty close but no one knows I like him(Greg). I am really good friends with Greg's best friend Mike. Mike told me that he thinks Greg likes me alot but is too afraid to admit it. He said Greg probably sees me as under his standerds because Greg is really popular. Me and Greg have been really good friends for a really long time and I don't want to ruin our realtionship but I would like to confront Greg on this some how. Does anyone know a good way to talk to him about this without telling him I like him?

If Greg see you as "under his standerds" then you don't need him. No one is too good for anyone. People are not perfect, and should never say they are better then someone else. Makes them seem a little to self-centered. You can always make a relationship work, and sometimes being really good friends.. is even better. When being good friends you guys already know alot about each other, and already have alot in commen. Bring up a question about it. Like, would you ever go out with me.. (not those exect words). Just bring it up in a converstation and if you feel it's the right time.. tell him.
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14/f
You`re gonna know who I am about 3 lines in.

I`ve been dating this guy for a little more than 4 months. He lives far away, and he`s at his mom`s house for the summer, and she lives REALLY far away, so I hardly ever get to see him. (Guessed who I am yet??) He treats me like sh!t, and I can`t take it anymore. Yea, he`s really hot, but I know now that looks aren`t everything. I wanna break up with him, but I can`t get ahold of him. His phone hasn`t been on for the past week. So basically, I`m left here with Mr. Looser who I can`t get ahold of to break up with him. What am I supposed to do?? Act like I`m single since I`m gonna break up with him, or still be "loyal" to him because technically he`s still my boyfriend?? And another thing, I`m a huge whimp and I don`t wanna do it myself, but I know I should, what should I say since you know who I am and my whole story?? =D Thanks Hannah!!

~A x3

Psh, honey I knew who you were by the title :]


First off, it's deff. not your fault if you want to break up. Feelings change & that's something you can't help. Now to the real point.


If anyone of your friends knows about BAD relationships,.. it's me. I'v had more buttmunches then I can even count. So I understand where you are comming from with the "He treats me like sh!t". You should not under any reason be treated like poop. You are an amzing girl, and he should be hecka'z lucky to be with you, but instead he is taking advantage of it. Thats stupid.


If you want to break up with him, there is nothing you can do to change your mind. You have problly. put alot of thought into this & there is problly. not one reason in the world to stay with him. I can understand if you don't want to break up with him yourself, but who else talks to him enough to do it for you. I personaly think you should do it. Just be like (if you want to be nice & not honest)" Hey %Oo*, I never really get to talk to you, & I feel as thou. you should have the freedom to go out with other girls that you would be more able to see. If you want to do it, the kinda mean, & more honest way you should just be honest with him tell him he treats you like crap, and you dont like it. Tell him that you have put alot of thought into it, and you relize that you don't like how the relationship is going and you want it to end. I'm 100% sure that things will be better if you break up with him, because no one else knows him the way you do, and no one else knows how you feel like you do (if that makes sense).


Now, as far as the, "when should you" & "until then sould i act single" thats up to you. The next time you talk to him, I think you should do it.. the sooner the better.. in my opion. If you want to hang out with other guys, and get to know some of them better.. then go for it. You arn't doing anything wrong. If you are just getting closer to guys, heck you chould just be doing it because you want more friends. But I really think the next time you get a change to talk to him, (when ever that maybe) you should break up with him.


Good luck & if you need more help IM me or drop one in the inbox.
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hi...
i like this guy a lot,(he says he has a gf but i dont believe because he says she is 15) but he is like 1 of my BFF and i already have a bf and i cant stand him right now. The guy i like has been so nice to me this year and we have so many good times, but my bf is sweet to me to but i dont feel a click. Please Help Me 13/f!

HeartBroken

Follow your heart. If you don't like your boyfriend now, and if you don't feel a click.. then break up with him. So what if that other guy have a 15 year old girlfriend, you like him and you can't help that.. you're not sopose too. You should tell the "15 year old grilfriend boy" that you like him, and you love how he has been so nice to you, and how you guys have so many good times :] good luck.. follow your heart !
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alright,
well i have a boyfriend that i really do like. But before we were going out i liked this other guy but he already has a gf. but he still liked me a little bit. well then i started going out with a guy but i still have feelings for the other guy. and i talked to him on aim and he wants me to break up with my boyfriend so we can go out once hes single. i really like him but i dont want to hurt my boyfriend plus i really like him too! i dont kno what to do, help if you can,

XconfusedX

I'v been in that same situation before.. the best advice I have ever gotten from someone was.. follow your heart. It knows what it wants.. and it's the only thing that really does. You can take the chance and break up with your boyfriend for the other one, or stay with the guy you have now, and hope the other boy finds a new girlfriend.


Only you know the anwser to this,.. It's up to you and your heart. You can always try to make a list. 2 column, once side of "boy" and one side for "boyfriend" and list why you like them. Which ever side has more at the end thats the one you should go out with, because that's the one you find you have most attrative. Like I said before thou, follow your heart.. It knows what you want :]
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I'm foureen female. Here's my problem: I like my best guy friend, but I don't know how to tell him I want a more than friends relationship. He waits for me after classes, when I'm scared he calms me down. He really isn't like that to anyone else. I mean there have been times where we've come close to kissing. We always hint and stuff too it's just he hasn't made a move, and I really want him to. So does anyone know cirtain things to say or hints to drop to get a guy to make a move? I'll rate five.

Guys... are really (like REALLY) bad at seeing hints. So if you want him to know you like him.. TELL HIM :] It's the only thing you can do.. that will work for sure.


Make sure if you tell him, NOT to write it in a note,.. notes are bad ideas.. they when written down everyone finds out. If you want him to know.. you should tell him over the phone or when you have just his attation. Or, if you don't want to tell him.. you could always just kiss him yourself. Sometimes thou, thats not the best idea :] Good luck & just tell him !!
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My girl friend, Trish, is so beautiful and I love her so much.
The problem is people say that she is ugly, & I don't think that at all.
I was just wondering if I could get all of your honest opinions. Do ya'll think she is ugly?

http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c54/TriciaxxxAnn/newhair.jpg

I'll rate 5s for all answers.

Everyone has different opions on different things. You can't try to change their opoion on something,.. beacuse that is just the way they feel about it.


Yes, I think the girl is pretty.
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ok so i've been told ure pretty good at givin advice... so ill ask ya. ok heres the scoop: this girl i like really likes me but she says if we go out then we'll end up breaking up to soon bc of the "changes" she claims will occur if we go out. and if we break ,according to her, we wont be friends anymore. the whole idea is confusing but PLEASE HELP ME!!!

- confused one

If this girl is scared of changes then you need to assure her that nothing bad will happen. Sure changes happen all the time, but who says change is always a bad thing ?


You need to reasure your friend that if you two do end up breaking up (which almost everyone does) that you guys will still be friends. Yes. sometimes after a break up remaining friends is hard.. sometimes its worth the fight.


haha, and if you ask the question once.. it still gets anwsered :]
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ok there is this friend (who is a guy and i am a girl) and he is so funny! but latley he has been calling me so we can hang out. And he keeps on saying on how much me loves me. I think he means it in a friend way but im not sure. And I had a dream when me and him were going out and it did not freak me out. Do you think i like as more then a friend or not? Anyone who can answer this is amazing!!!! I would love help!

It seems like you do, & if you relize you do.. then honey go for it. Girls always get crushes on their guy friends, even if it's just for one day.
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okay so i gave my girl friends the one eyed angry pirate i dont know know if your familure with it but its when: your fucking a girl in the ass and you spit on there back and then she thinks you came on here back. but when she turn around you pop her and the eye and kick her in the shin and she chases u around holding one eye hopping on one leg. so she all mad at me fore it and i wanted to know if i should forget her and fin somone else or aplogise. thanks

Oh yeah, you're cool. aplogise.. I guess.
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yeah .. okay so well like i like this guy and he really likes me too .. but theres this other guy who REALLY likes me and i like him and i mean i feel bad for liking two guys at once ya know and i just dont know what i should do !

I think I might know who this is, but I'll sHh.


It's not your fault if you like someone more. You can't control who you like and to what extent you like them,.. you're not sopose to. You should talk to the guy who REALLY likes you, and explain to him. Explain to him that you're sorry that you don't see him in that way as much as the other guy. You guys are (probablly) young, he can find someone who likes him ALOT.


Sure, you feel bad, but you shouldn't. You didn't do anything wrong. You like someone ALOT, just like how that one guy likes you ALOT. Everyone does that. Things will get better, but you are NOT doing anything wrong.. so please.. DO NOT feel bad about it, and if someone tells you are.. stll them to stfu, because they don't have a clue.


Just talk to the one guy.. explain that.. he can't control his amount of feelings for you,.. and you can't control your's about both of the guys eather. If he is a smart guy (which I think, if I'm right) then he will listen to you, and respect you anwser.


Good luck honey. Leave one in the INBOX if you need more help !

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if a guy you are making out with puts his hands on your boobs like ONTOP of your shirt, not under it, is that sexual harrasment or assault? what if while youi were making out he put his hands in the back pocket of your jeans and squeezed your butt? is that harrassment? thanks so much!

If you told him to stop.. then yes, but if you didn't tell him not to.. then it's not.. sorry.

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