My name is Rae. I live in Colonie. I go to CCHS asa freshman. I'm 14, my birthday is October 7th (( tomorrow from wen im writing this lol )). I help my friends out with advice ALL the time and i'm pretty good at it. I keep an open mind and make sure i give people as many options and opions that i have for them. I'll try to come on here everday, but if i dont i may have computer problems, charging my laptop, working on a website, or currently dealing with my own problems. I want to open up to you guys and relate your problems to mine. I may be young but i have gone through a lot in my life, as well as seen people i'm very close to go through the same problems you are. I'm actually really bad at solving my own problems... which is probably why i'm good at solving other peoples.
There are a lot of useless random info about me and i dont want to bore you anymore haha. but if ya wanna no more e-mail me, IM me, or jus ask a question lol. thanx
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15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering. (link)
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omg. i looove wen guys when obsession for men by calvien klein. but its too much money lmao. otherwise axe. omg. i love it. haha. it doesnt remind girls of their older relatives. if you did they wouldnt go near you in the first place
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Hi,
I’m going to try to make this brief since I know you don’t have time to
be going through pages of my problems. You see, I am love with this guy
DJ, I have been since I was in 6th grade, when we started off as being
friends. That eventually grew into being best friends, and before I
knew it, he liked me. But I didn’t see it because at that point I didn’t
know what it was like to be liked by a boy. When he liked me, I was
going through stages of struggling with makeup, getting my first period,
desperately trying to learn how to shape my eyebrows (which always ended
up being pencil thin), and trying to figure out where I belonged in my
social circle (at the time I was more in the “gangster” kind of
clique).
He was my first love, and no matter how hard I’ve tried, I could never
get him out of my head, nor my heart. I’ve liked other boys, but he had
always been in my heart, and there was not a time in my life that I was
definite that if he asked me out I would say no. He was (and still is)
a very handsome boy that all the girls swoon over. When I was in 6th
grade we were very close, until something happened at the end of the year
which caused us to part. In 7th grade, things were very wishy-washy,
meaning that we weren’t very good friends, although we didn’t exactly
hate each other. We talked every now and then if something bad happened
between one of our friends but nothing other than that. I felt things for
him on and off, and he remained in my heart, but I knew that the way
things were going, that it would be pointless to try to get us together.
I told him during the year that I liked him sometimes, but of course,
since we weren’t very good friends, he didn’t care very much. And there
were also times that I told him that I didn’t like him anymore which
was always a lie since he was always in my heart. A few days ago he
instant messaged me saying that he felt stupid for walking out on me, and
that he regretted it because he realized that I was a good friend. So we
are now best friends again, and I’d have to say that I’m pretty happy.
I want to tell him how much he means to me, that I dream about him at
night, and that I am overally just completely in love with him. The only
thing is that as I am in love with him, he is in love with this other
girl Casey, the one that he was going out with in 6th grade, when he
liked me, but he cared for her more so wouldn’t leave her for me. He had
told me that at the beginning of the school year that he would ask her
out again, which is coming on September 6th. I feel that my time is
running out, but since we have only just became being best friends again, I
don’t want to rush things, because I don’t want to mess things up and I
want us to have a relationship.
I need some serious help on what to do from here.
He means everything to me and I only wish that I meant the same to him
in his eyes.
Please help. I’d appreciate it so much you have no idea.
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I know how it feels to love your best friend. But ever think maybe he is feeling the same way your feeling right now? Sometimes in friendships they do that. So when your thinking he doesnt like you, then he could be thinking you dont like him.
The only way to do it is to just tell him how much he means to you. Do you want to spend the rest of your live wondering "What If?"
As friends, even if he doesnt feel the same way hell know that you do. And maybe someday hell realize he loves you too. I really hope you tell him. Its the only way to do it.
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yeah, this might be long, and from my viewpoint its pretty confusing so leave now if you want...
okay, im a sixteen year old male to begin with, and ever since i can remember, ive had five best friends (and i mean BEST, these five people mean more to me than anything else in this world). these five friends consist of four girls and one guy (the guy has nothing to do with this so you can forget him). Well, the problem is that near the end of last year, the girls all started fighting with eachother, even though theyd all been the best of friends since forever. the group ended up split apart, with two girls on one side, two girls on the other, and me and my guy friend stuck in the middle while still being best friends with both sides....so here comes the complicating part...for the whole time i can remember, ive really liked one of my friends (lets call her girl 1). well, girl 1 has always acted like she doesnt want to be more then friends with me. so now one the girls from the other group (girl 2), has told me that she likes me...so i asked her out and weve been going out for a month now. well, ever since i asked out girl 2, girl 1 hasnt spoken to me at all (by the way, the two groups of girls hate eachother a LOT)...so ive been trying to find out why girl 1 hasnt been talking to me...and it turns out that girl 1 really likes me....which sucks because im already going out with girl 2....i want to talk to girl 1 again because i love her to death, but i dont know how to do that...she wont answer her phone when i call, ive sent her emails, text messages, and even stuff through myspace...im about to just go to her house and show up with some flowers or something to show her that i still love her to death, and that the only reason that i didnt choose her is because she acted like she didnt like me....but im afraid that my girlfriend (girl 2) will find out and be mad at me for somewhat obsessing over getting my friend back....what should i do? any help is appreciated... (link)
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You just found out that the girl youve liked for like ever likes you. I think you should break up with girl 2 and try to start something with girl 1. But have one of your other friends make sure she really likes you, and isnt just trying to break you and 2 up because she hates her. If your in the middle all the time you should tell both groups that it sucks, that you all used to be friends and just because they cant get over something doesnt mean they should ditch you because you have ties with both.
If 1 really does like you, and youve liked her for that long. Go with it, and tell 2 that you like her but as friends, and youve always liked girl 1. Shell prolly be hurt, but if shes a TRUE friend, then shell undrstand and want you to be happy. Or maybe not, since its the girl she hates, and if thats the case then shes not a good friend.
well I hope it made sense.. good luck
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what are the signs of being in love with a boy??? (i'm female of course)sorry its schort but that's all i need to know...thanks! (link)
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Uhm... If your in love youll know it, and you wouldnt have to ask what it is youd just know. Its when you feel special around this guy, like hes the best thing in the world. He makes you feel likee your floating and you never wanna leave his side. You feel different about him than you have with anyone else, and you cant describe the feeling. Like, I cant even try to describe it to you. Its like fireworks, or... idk. But when you get it youll know babe.
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lately ive just been so FED UP with my appearance i hate looking in the mirror because its not what i want to see =( everyone else is so much prettier than me or thats what i think. my hair bugs me it never stays right i wish i was tanner i wish i was everything else..
i know im not DEPRESSED or i dont think so but maybe just jealous of every other girl. and i really like this kid but he has a girlfriend and it kills me everytime i hear her name because i know that i cant have him
also my parents have been telling me that i need to go do other things rather than come home go on the computer go to my cousins (my best friends house) and then when i get home get back on the computer! they are telling me i need to get out of the house and go with my other friends but the only problem is i dont have many OTHER close friends i can hangout with..
my life just seems to be going completely wrong.
ahh! what do i do? i cant live like this anymore.. (link)
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Hun, there is beauty in ever imperfection and ever insecurity. Just because you dont like your hair, doesnt mean someone else doesnt. If you wake up and your hairs a mess, then go with it. People will respect the fact that you are confident and dont care what others think, even if you do. Wanting to be like other people isnt healthy. You should respect yourself and what you look like. And know that you are pretty whether other people are willing to admit it or not. I`m not the most gorgeous girl in the world, but I wake up every morning, look in the mirror, and come up with one thing that looks ok. And it starts off the day good, and I feel good about myself. And that makes others look at you a different way too.
Start talking to more people you meet, or go to a local hangout and start talking to people you know from classes and stuff. That way you can make new friends and hang out with them. Or you can just do things outside by yourself like jog, or walk, and stuff like that. That can help you get tanner too =]. haha. Or you can take up a new hobby, join a camp. Stuff like that.
I know exactly how you feel, my life was like that too. I wanted to be skinnier, tanner, prettier. I even started getting drastic by dying my hair and all this other stuff cause I thought it would help. But I realized I`m fine how I am. And if other people cant appreciate that then fuck them! Learning to accept every part of yourself is the epitomy of courage.
If you ever wanna talk
AIM - loca1 x cel3b
yahoo - x3candiigurrrl
hope i helped babe
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i think i like a gay guy. i would ask him out if only he wasn't gay. hes cute but wears the same tight jeans that look like he got them out of the womens department everyday. i have no idea why he would wear that in the summer anyway. also with that outfit, he would wear a black shirt, black sneakers, volcom cap, and checkered belt. also only on one day he wore a different outfit. it was a marun (however you spell it, and if u don't no what i put, its that dark red and purplish color) shirt, plaid shorts, same belt and hat, and green sneakers. it looks like he took a pair of shorts out of my dad's closet. i don't know if hes gay or if he just doesn't have style. what do u think? and also i would like him if he wasn't "gay" and had better style. what should i do? thanks-♥ (link)
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Ugh your really stereotypical. Grow up and give up with the stupid labels. Just because he dresses like that doesnt mean hes gay. Maybe he just likes to dress that way. And if you like him then go with it. You shallow little girl. Just because you think he has no style doesnt mean you should ditch him like that. Go ahead and rate me a 1... ur pathetic
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Could someone please give me some long distance relationship tips.. he'll be driving in 6 months.. if that helps any.. We love eachother and ahve been together twice and will see eachother in less than aweek.. but yea, idk the next time we will before he gets his licence and i may start dating him soon! please hlep! (link)
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Your question needs some more details like age, how far away you guys live, where you met him.
Long distance relationships almost never work out. Its so hard to get in contact, and you can never be sure if the other one is being faithful or not. Not to mention the fact that you might start liking people in your area. When you date someone you wanna be with them, not have to talk to them on the phone and computer. Trust me im experienced with is.
My tip for you is dont do it. Being friends is cool but theres so much discomfort with long distance.
It takes a strong girl to deal with it. so good luck
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About 6 weeks ago I was dumped over the internet by my long term bf. He did it in a very cowardly and cruel way with no explanation- pretty ignorant for a 3 year relationship. Everyone is telling me I'm better off without him. When I first met him I thought he was mr. right- he was caring, attentive; and charming. But then I saw his true colours. He would yell at me for no reason; get extremely jealous when I talked to his male friends; constantly put me and other women down; was a womanizer and cheated on me; and had a porn addiction. The meanest thing he ever did was stick his face in mine and yell "I"M SO SORRY"! after I told him his friends at a party were making me uncomfortable. I started writing a list of all the crap he did to me to make me feel better. But there is still a part of me that misses him when he was nice. Does anyone have any methods for how I can get over this jerk? And why do I still want him after everything he did? (link)
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When you love someone its hard for you to see all the bad when you WANT to see the good. Keep telling yourself that he was abusive, which is what he is, and that you deserve better. Its natural to take a while for people to get over someone they love especially after they date for a long time. Make sure you spend a lot of times with friends and go out as much as possible. That way youll have so much fun you wont be thinking about him. But try to stay away from places you and him went a lot. Cause then unwanted memories will come back to you. Try dating some new people to, or just flirt with random guys at places you go. Itll make you feel better about yourself, and you might find someone new.
If all else fails. Get sum Ben and Jerrys =]
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okay me and my boyfreind have been going out for about 4 months and i really like him.at around the second month i told him i was a little uncomfortable with him telling me he loves because i know he didnt meen it because where to young to know what love is.(where both 13).well last night he told me he needed to tell me something and i was like ok and he started off by saying do you remember that time you told me i was to young to know the meaning of love is and i was like yes and then he said well i love you and ive never felt this feeling befor and i love you with all my heart and i want to spend the rest of my life with you.and then he asked me is my heart beating really fast and i was like no and then he said because mine is beacause i was afraid to tell you that i love you. at this point to tell you the truth i was a little scared because i think he was really telling the truth.dont get me wrong i like him alot but i dont think i love especially not as much as he seems to love me.im just so confused on what to do.i really dont want to brake his heart and tell him that i dont feel the same way.should i just end it befor it gets way to serious?please help me.i badly need some advice, (link)
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First off, age is nothing but a number sweetie. You`re never too young to be in love. Some people just find love sooner than others.
I can tell this guy is telling the truth based on what you said. Guys don`t usually open up as much and it sounds like you have a great guy. But if you aren`t in love with him then you should break it off. I know you like him a lot but if he loves you, and you don`t love him then maybe it`s better to end it before you really hurt him.
Trust me when you fall in love you`ll know it. And from the sound of it you don`t. Let him know you like him a lot but you don`t feel the same about him as he does with you. And that you think it`s best to end it before it gets to serious so no1 gets hurt. If he truely loves you he`ll find it in his heart to forgive you.
Good Luck Babe!
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ok..so..i like this guy..we'll call him kv. well he turns out to be my brothers best friend..i eventually told him, and it didn't bother him at all. i told my friend jordan, who was kv's age (they r 2 years older then me)and kv's friend, and asked her if i should ask him out. she told me no, because he had a girlfriend, and his grifriend was her best friend. i had absolutly NO clue kv had a girlfriend. i immeadiatly felt emmbaresed. i remembered his old girlfriend (lets call her dee)dee, and wondered if they were still together. she moved to florida. i found out they were still together... a couple days after i told kv, he IM'd me and told me he needed to tell me something that was private, and not to be said to anyone else. he told me that he really liked me, and his girfriend, and he was confused. he told me that she would be coming back to where we live on june 21st to visit. he said they would probobly break up...but i'm not sure if i believe him...what do i do???
-conufsed.. (link)
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Just wait it out. If he doesnt break up with her then back off for a little while, and make sure you like him too. If he does then you guys should go out especially since this guy said he liked you. Just remember that dating your friends brother has its pros and cons... like if you break up it could ruin your brothers friendship with this guy.
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well i really like this guy and he is real nice including really HOTT. Well i want to do some thing with him because ive not got to hang out with him out of shcool. but im not alowd to have him over. eny ideas were we could hang (link)
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Tell him to meet you at the mall or something. And its summer so why not tell him to meet you at the local pool. You could go to the movies or something to. The ideas are likee limitless
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hello, this is Jackie here. I have a problem. I am confused... there is this boy, I like him and from what I can tell, he likes me. I am 14 and he is a little older. This weekend this boy, my sister and another boy went to a community swimming pool. We sat next to eachother, he put his arm around me, and we held hands. after that I went home and soon I got a call from some girl saying that she was the boys new girl friend and that I need to stay away from him now. and I'm not sure if she's for real, or just being mean? I think that it could be this girl who's friends with him, that I made a comment about me not liking. So maybe she found out and knows that I like him, and wanted to get me back. I'm not sure. what do you think? Please help i rate well
*jackie* (link)
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Shes just messing with your head. If he had a girlfriend he wouldnt be macking on you. And she obviously saw you guys hanging out or she wouldnt have known to call. ew a total stalker right? I think you should tell this guy that she called and what she said so he can handle it. If they really are dating then back off from the guy, cuz that means hes a player anyway. And if not then hell probably wanna deal with the girl whos claiming to be his.
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Okay, so I have the boyfriend, he's not the best. & I want to break up with him. Another reason why it because it's almost summer, I want to be free for summer, and maybe date some other people.
The only problem is, HOW? I mean, I'm not the type that does it herself, right in front of everyone in the hallway. But I also don't want to be the one that has to ask her friend to tell him for me. I don't think I can do it in 3 days before school ends, So it's going to have to be over the phone.
I just do want to break him down emotionally. I want to let him down easy, but either way he might be in tears. I don't want to make him sad, but I know that I have to break up with him. It's going to be so awkward. Please help.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Well you seem pretty cocky. He might be in tears. Dont think so highly of yourself... it kinda leaves people with a bad taste in their mouth.
Let him know that it's not working and you want to date other people during the summer. That you dont want to cheat on him because you found someone else.
And doing it on the phone is the worst thing you could do. Stay after and do it, or do it outside when there arent a lot of people around. But on the phone shows thats your inconsiderate... would you like being dumped on the phone?
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ok, I've been goin out with this guy for a little over 3 months, he's 16 and he can drive and I'm 15. It's summer so he's always tellin me how he's really buisy, I never see him anymore b/c he says he's always gone... in someways he sounds a little "overly" buisy. He lives like 8 minutes away from me, and he's only come to see me one time ALL summer. When we first started goin out I liked him sooo much that I made the mistake of telling him i would never break up with him... Things aren't working out and I don't feel the same about him, but I don't want to hurt him and I don't know how to break up with him in the right way. I don't want him to think I'm a liar and I regret tellin him that cuz I should have known it wouldn't last forever... What should I do? (link)
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The best advice in life: Dont EVER regret something that once made you smile. And dont EVER regret something because at one point you wanted it. Telling him you would never break up with him was what you wanted and believed, and im sure it made you smile. You cant go back in time.. so dont worry about lying to him. When you tell certain guys you love them, then you break up and hate him... is that lying to him?
It might not make a lot of sense.. but the point is: dont worry about him calling you a liar. But if things arent working out you shouldnt be held down by something you said 3 months ago.
I think you should talk to him. Let him know its not working and that you NEED to see him more often. If he says he cant and gives you a lame ass excuse like OH IM BUSY.. well then the jackass needs to be busy with his GIRLFRIEND.
If nothing works and he STILL isnt around, then tell him you think you should take a break, or tell him you're better off as friends. Let him know that you cant be in a relationship where you barely see the other person.
hope i helped
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I'm so confused about my boyfriend, I mean he's the nicest guy, but he's so shy. He's forgetful too so he doesn't call all that often. The only things I seem to focus on about him anymore are his faults. I really do love him but sometimes I just get the feeling that he doesn't know what he's doing. Yet sometimes he does cute things (like grabs my hand which guys don't seem to enjoy) but usually only when were around my friends that are couples (I'm guessing he just copies what they do?) When were alone it's completely different, we talk about everything and nothing yet it still seems awkward; We don't go to the same school so that can account for being a bit awkward around each other since we don't see hangout as often. I want a bond with him like all my friends have where they play fight with each other, talk about their relationship and call each other just to say "Hi"
I don't know how to show him that I'm really into him and want to step it up a bit. Any advice? (link)
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My friend is having a problem like this. And I told her what im gonna tell you. Communication is the MOST IMPORTANT in a relationship. Let him know that you need to hang out more, and that you want what other people have. But a relationship isnt a one way street. Why not start calling him yourself just to say hi. Why dont you FLIRT with him like hes your crush and not your boyfriend. Hit him kiddingly but make sure he knows its ok to hit you back. Look him in the eyes as much as you can, use humility around him, brush your hand against his, and make sure you say his name at least 3 times in a conversation with him. It makes people feel loved and important.
Good Luck Babe
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just to warn you, this COULD be long... im really sorry but i DO need help so please keep reading and help me if you can.
i just got back from a cruise where i met a FANTASTIC boy. ...well thats what i thot. his name was matt. we had a mutual friend on the cruise named tyler that was closer friends with him but me and him were friends also.. well me and matt were like always together and we hooked up a few times on the cruise too.
when i got home, me and matt still talked on the phone and stuff but we live like 2 hours from eachother so we dont see eachother. well matt actually asked me to his prom and i told him i would ask my parents. so a couple days later i was talking to tyler online and i told tyler that matt asked me to his prom. tyler acted REALLY surprised so i asked him wutsup. and tyler said that matt didnt really like me.. he actually had a GIRLFRIEND while he was on the cruise.. and that matt just kinda considered me a bootycall. well, this is what tyler said. so i was obviously PISSED so i talked to matt about it, and he denied the whole thing telling me how great i am and how much he likes me.
so i told matt that i believe him, but its still in the back of my mind that tyler was telling the truth, just because i dunno why he would lie about something like that. and now im just really confused.. i dunno what to believe. any opinions? please help. (link)
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hmm this is a tough one. I dont think tyler is telling the truth, only because he randomly decided to tell you the "truth" about matt in stead of telling you on the cruise. Besides, why would Matt INVITE YOU to prom if he doesnt like you and he has a girlfriend?
If I were you id forget what tyler said... most guys our age lie and stuff to trick people just for fun./
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A boy is going to ask me to a school dance. I dont want to go with him. what should i tell him to let him down gently?
I'll rate 5's. (link)
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Tell him that you wanted to go by yourself or with a group of your friends, or if you were hoping someone else might add you tell him that someone might ask you if his parents let him go. Or you could just tell him you dont like him like that, but make sure you let him know you like him as a friend, or a brother =]
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15/f, i like this guy whos in 11th grade and hes on the track team with me. we're friends, and he always calls me his "bestest bud" and always hugs me when he sees me, and teases me, and well when im near him he always puts his arms around me, around my waist or shoulders. and when we are out like, eating at a restaurant with the team (team dinners) he always has me sit next to him, or just pays attention to me. well its obvious to you readers that i like him a little, it may just be a crush but hes sweet and hes nice and cares, we just talk and well i feel good when im with him. soo do you think he likes me, what should i do around him, because track season is almost over (this wed.) and we wont see eachother as much, maybe like 1 time a day for like 1 minute! soo i dont know what to do, hes just someone i want to stay in my life, even if its just as a friend! help, any advice??? I WILL RATE 5'S!!!!!! (link)
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Just keep asking him to hang out after school and stuff. That way your friendship will stay there instead of fading along with your jerseys. Based on how he acts around you he either REALLY likes you, or hes like that with all his friends. I suggest going for it, if he just wants to be friends at least your gonna be with him
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mean she tells me she loves me all the time and all but when we got together we always spent time together and all but now we dont we used to talk on the phone for hours but now we might talk on the phone 5 mins and she says she will call me back in a min but she never does and she basically lives with me shes never stayed away from home but she stayed wit me for 2 months now and she say she misses her family but ive told her to go stay at home and she stays anyway but she makes excuses to get a way from me and when i call her phone she tells me her phone bill is real high bu tshe talks to other dudes for along time and she goes to another room to talk to them she wont talk to them in front of me what should i do (link)
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im not sure what your talking about. im sooo sorry... but if u send me another question explainging better than id LOVE to help
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i have a girlfriend and we have done smooches and physical contacts. but she isnt ready to do sex. tell me what shud i do to make her do so with me?????? (link)
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You cant MAKE her do anything you jerk. if she isnt ready she isnt ready, and you obviously dont care about her if you want to force her into it.
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