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a little freaked out
okay me and my boyfreind have been going out for about 4 months and i really like him.at around the second month i told him i was a little uncomfortable with him telling me he loves because i know he didnt meen it because where to young to know what love is.(where both 13).well last night he told me he needed to tell me something and i was like ok and he started off by saying do you remember that time you told me i was to young to know the meaning of love is and i was like yes and then he said well i love you and ive never felt this feeling befor and i love you with all my heart and i want to spend the rest of my life with you.and then he asked me is my heart beating really fast and i was like no and then he said because mine is beacause i was afraid to tell you that i love you. at this point to tell you the truth i was a little scared because i think he was really telling the truth.dont get me wrong i like him alot but i dont think i love especially not as much as he seems to love me.im just so confused on what to do.i really dont want to brake his heart and tell him that i dont feel the same way.should i just end it befor it gets way to serious?please help me.i badly need some advice,
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I cant belive that your only 13. Personally i dont think your ready for that kind of commitment. Tell him you like him, but dont love him yet. Tell him youre just not ready for that kind of commentment like lovee. If he really loves u, he'll understand. i promise he will if he loves u.hope it all works put for u!
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Hi, the best thing to do is tell him how you feel. Don't string him along because that can make it worser. Daniel.
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well you dont wanna break his heart but tell him he needs some slowing down tell him your not ready for a fast relationship that yall need to take things morte slowly
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You proabbly feel like this because your rushing into things. Just tell him you want time for your feelings to grow stronger.
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Yes he likes you.
No, you do not have to end it just keep telling him what you have been about being to young to know.
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if you like him a lot. you keep telling him you aren't comfortable with saying that or you dont know what love is. say you want to be with him though.
he's just a silly boy who cares about you.
in a few years... your feelings may change about that but just hold onto him now.
he sounds like a sweet guy.
if he loves you, he'll understand that you're not ready for that.
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the kidd probably does really have feelings for you.. but i highly doubt its true love like you would have at an older age.. but to some extent he probably does love you.. it doesn't matter what age you are.. you can love someone to a certain extent.. and it probably can feel like true love.... and i mean i'm not ruling it out b/c my grandparents started dating at 12.. and are still together.. so its possible.... but i wouldn't say that its is actual love yet... and as far as ending it.. just tell him that ure not sure what ure feelings are... yet.. b/c it seems like your not.. and if he really feels that way .. then he'll stick with you.. and give you time to figure things out..
hope things work out for you
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NO, he doesnt love you, dont worry about it. He's feeling a strong attraction which is making him want you. Really he probably just wants sex.
***edit****
For the record, I'm a guy. I've seen many many many times that a guy would play a girl like that. But it is nice to see that you are young and naive. Most idiocratic teens these days cannot distinguish their own feelings. hence alot of psyche issues.
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Well, I say that at 13, it's not so much that you don't know what love is, but that your maybe not really ready. I mean, you've only been going out 4 months.
I think he sounds sincere about his feelings. However, I do think that at age 13, a person can know how to love another, but it's awfully young to be deciding who you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I think, as long as he's a nice guy and he treats you right, you should consider sticking with him for awhile. If he does love you like he says, he will listen and respect your feelings, being that you aren't ready to say you love him and the relationship is moving a bit fast for you. That would be the truth of it, and when in a relationship you shouldn't lie about your feelings.
I think if you tell him your true feelings he may be hurt a little, but not for long. It would break his heart for you to break up with him because of his feelings, or to lie to him and say you feel the same.
However, I would end it if he doesn't want to slow it down. If he does love you, he won't want to push you into moving your relationship forward at a pace that makes you uncomfortable.
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First off, age is nothing but a number sweetie. You`re never too young to be in love. Some people just find love sooner than others.
I can tell this guy is telling the truth based on what you said. Guys don`t usually open up as much and it sounds like you have a great guy. But if you aren`t in love with him then you should break it off. I know you like him a lot but if he loves you, and you don`t love him then maybe it`s better to end it before you really hurt him.
Trust me when you fall in love you`ll know it. And from the sound of it you don`t. Let him know you like him a lot but you don`t feel the same about him as he does with you. And that you think it`s best to end it before it gets to serious so no1 gets hurt. If he truely loves you he`ll find it in his heart to forgive you.
Good Luck Babe!
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Although you feel uncomfortable when he tells you he loves you, I would stay with him. He sounds like a really sweet guy and if he truly loves you the way he sounds like he does, he will understand if you dont love him back right now. If he is truly in love with you he will be happy with the fact that he is dating the woman he loves. Continue in the relationship and continue making it grow..who knows..it might grow into something serious and you may love him one day.
A friend of mine was 16 before she got into her first real relationship. In the beginning of it she would tell me how he is taking it real serious talking about spending their life together and she doesnt see it that way. She doesnt see them going out after high school. The update? They are together for almost 10 months and wow she is really in love!
So dont set limits on yourself or your relationship is my advice sweetie. Its definately fine that you dont love him yet because you are really young still! Stay with him because he sounds awesome and its not like you dont like him..you like him a lot you said. So it sounds like you got yourself an awesome bf who is treating you great. Thats a thing many many people wish they have. So stick with him and who knows whats in store for the future! :)
<33 Melissa
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Wow this guy sounds really intense. If you don't feel the same then you need to tell him and you should tell him that he is making you really uncomfortable by saying this stuff to you, if he continues then I would end it. It is not fair to him or you if you guys are in different places. You are right however that 13 is way to young to be announcing things like he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
I do have a question as well, whats his home life like? Are his parents loving and caring? Maybe he is latching on this severely because he does not feel loved or wanted anywhere else?
Hope this helps
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Wow, trust me a lot of girls would KILL for a guy to say that to them, including me. I say that if you like him, keep continuing the relationship and don't throw it all away just because he tells you he loves you because it seems to me, that he means it. Maybe if you give it a try, you might start to like him even more but if you really feel that you'll never feel the same way about him, then talk to him about it. Don't just dump him because talking to him wouldn't hurt him as much.
Best of luck!
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