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This guy and i have liked eachother for like 9 months now. He is getting mad at me because i won't go out with him but i dont want to because of how he ahs treated his other gfs and he isnt treating me too well right now. Well I found out today he kind of likes this other girl and I am so upset! But then i am so sick of everything he is doing to me(like things like this) and it's like i don't even know if i like him. I almost don't want to. I still have feelings for him and I want him. What should I do?

wow. well it sounds like hes walking all over you, and its probally because your letting him. if shes treating you badly like you said he is, is it really worth going through all of this for him? he doesnt sound like hes even close to worth it.

and the fact that he likes another girl, well it does suckk but you guys really have no commitment it sounds like, so he has the right to do WHATEVER he wants with WHOEVER he wants. i know this is hard to hear, but it is true.

my advice to you, is to let the guy go. you said you "almost dont want to like him" then why like him? if hes not treating you right, he doesnt deserve you. i really hope this helped, i know its probally not what you wanted to hearr.

p.s. ive been in this situation a few too many times so if you have ANY other questions to ask about this, i can deff. help.

=)

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my boyfriends going to the movies with her old friend angelina, and angelinas friend who i dont know. he asked me if it was okay and i said yes even though i didn't mean it. i dont want to be stupid and be like no you cant go. the thing is my boyfriend use to have feelings for her, like a year ago and thats what worrys me. can anyone give me advice not to think about it? or something so i dont worry as much? i do trust him im just blah jealous i guess =/

you have a right to be jealose, and nervose about it.
and no, it is not okay.
he has a girlfriend,
and so he doesnt need to go to the movies with some other girl he used to have feelings for.
it would make sence if maybe it was a big group of friends, or if he asked you to come but you couldnt. but thats not the case.
he obviously stil has feelings for her. =/
so in my opinion, you have two options.
either tell him to changed your mind, and that its deff. not okay with youu.
orr.
you can just talk to him about it, ask him why he feels like he needs to go to the movies with some other girl, and if maybe hes not happy in your guys relationship..or if he has feelings for her. if he gives you the right answers, and invites you. then go. but if he doesnt invite you, or tells you he does have feelings for her. i would dump him.
its one thin just having him like another girl,
but its another thing to actually have him have a movie date with her, he obviously wanted something to happen between them, if he has feeligns for herr.

good luck =]]
i rlly hope i helped
id love it if you'd keep me updated.

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m/13 so if i saw a girl or a group of them anywhere that i didnt know. if i wanted to know them id go up and say "hey, my names___..... whats yours?" and if they replied id ask where they are from , what school do they go to. i wouldnt be scared or something to try it, its just asking them for their msn or phone number, and i only knew them for a few minutes. would they think i was a weirdo or something? if they gave me their msn id talk to them a bit and say that me and some of my friends are coming to the cinema. want to come? ive seen some random girls i dont know look at me for a while, whispering to each other, but not coming over. any suggestions random conversation starters/topics?

ohkayy well a guy did this recently to mee and i thoughtt it was really cutee.

me and my friend walked around them and then went and sat on a bench. then after a few minutes these two guys came overr and they were like heyy whats up and were like nott alott. you? and hes like ahh not muchhh. but you know it was obvious you wanted us to come talk to youu. and then the girl will most likly say well it workedd didnt it??

Then afterr a few minutess its fine to askk for their numberr or whateverr.

The key is confidencee. if you seem awkward, girls will feel awkward around you, and not wanna hangg. so make them feel comfortable. makingg us laugh alwayss works :D

as for the moviee thing. i wouldnt recomend asking a girl to hang out rightt after you get her number, youll seem desperate.

Call her atleast two times, just to talk. and thenn you can call her and invitee her to hangg with youu.

i hope i helped you :D
id lovee if youd keep me updated.

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how do you as your best guy friend who is an ex friend with benefits if he wants to start being friends with benefits again? i dont want to just kiss him or something and have him look at me weird like "what do you want?" because he knows i dont like him. i just like being friends with benefits with him.

ohkayy well the bad thing about friends with benifits is, it screws up relationships. at some point one persons going to have feelings, and ones not. so i dont recomend starting friends with benifits again. plus if you dont like him, why dont you find someone that you DO like to start a REAL relationship with.

but i guess if afterr reading that, you still want to be friends with benifits. i would just start getting a little flirtier that usual, sometimes guys arent very good at picking up signals soo you might want to say something..
maybee when you two are alone be like..
what would happen if i kissed you right now?
if hes like uhhhh? and sounds like he doesnt like you in that way anymore just play it cool. be likee hahaha i was just kidding.

alrightt well i hopee i helped.
love it if you'd keep me updated.

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Okay hey my name is nicole im 14 and i have a boyfriend of threee years. And we have never really made out but we do kiss.....ALOT! But i dont knwo how to give a hicky but he does how do you give hickys??
Thanks in advace!
P.s. i really need this advice befor 9:00 tonight.

ohkayy well youu pretty much just start with the kissing his neck really gently, and then you just start sucking really soft, if he gets into it you can try sucking a little harder (put make sure its not too hard because it can hurt) it may take a few minutes if you want to make an actually hickey.
hope i helpedd =]]

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This guy acted completely into me and than he does a 180 and ignores me, why?

wow, theres so many guys who do this and its the most annoying thingg everr.
they finally tell a girl they really really like that they like her.
he freaks out and thinks you may not feel the same (probally why hes ignoring you)
dont worry,
im sure he still likes you.
he just needs you to tell him you feel the same way.
soo for the next few weeks show him that your totally into him.
if he doesnt make his move, ask him what his problem is.



hope i helpedd
please keep me updated
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my bf said he likes to be kissed on the neck.. um, yeah.. how am i supposed to do that? haha

i usually kiss my boyfriends neck while were in the middle of making out, but you could do it while you hug him, like the girl below me said.

kisses on the neck are usually really gentle, not very long but a few of them right afterr one anotherr.
(you mightt wanna try giving him a hickey alsoo, andd if you dont know how to do thatt either you can ask me.)

hope i helpedd.
id love it if youd keep me updated =D



ohkayy well youu pretty much just start with the kissing thing that i already explained to you, and then you just start sucking really gently, if he gets into it you can try sucking a little harder (put make sure its not too hard because it can hurt) it may take a few minutes if you want to make an actually hickey.
hope i helpedd =]]

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Theres these 3 guys who all really like me. The bad part is I don't like any of them. I like one of their friends. The cool part is that all 3 hav completely different personalities. I don't know how I should tell them. One of them stands out the most to me and I was close to saying yes but changed my mind. I can't handle hurting them.

wow. lucky girl lol.
well the bad thing is, if these are the guy you likes really close friends. he porboally wont date you, just for the fact that he doesnt want to ruin his friendships. whichh really suckss for youu huh??

soo my advice to youu, is to try dating the guy that you said stands out the most to you, and if you were close to saying yes then you obviously have some feelings for him, but i could be wrong.

i really hope my advice helped you, and id love it if you'd keep me updated if anything changes. =D

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Ok, me and this guy i was friends with started going out. At point we decided it would be better if we were friends. Now me and him are dating other people and I think I like him again. I don't know if I like him for him or for the fact that he's dating other people. I don't know what to do. Please help me out!!!

well there's obviously a reason you two decided to just be friends, maybe you guys just arent a good match? but it seems like you guys are greatt friends, and im sure you dont want to screw that up. you also seem really confused, like maybe your not sure if you really like him, or your just jealose that he's moved on. soo i would wait a while to figure out your feelings. If you do realize that you really really like him, wait until hes single and then i might think about telling him.

hope i hepled =]]
id really love it if you'd keep me updated
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well theres this tottly hot guy that is in my class. i know he knowws who i am kuz he has my myspace cnad everything. but how do i get him to notice me as more than just some girl??

i would start by talking to him online, so when you do go up to him in person it will seem more natural and not as wierd.

after you talk to him onlinee, whatever you do dont ignore him when you see him in person. you dont have to go up to him and start a conversation. a casual smile or wavee will do.

good luckk =]]
please tell me how it goess.
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does anyone have a quote or song lyrics about a guy that you like who sort of likes you back but he likes someone else more?
thanks in advance! :)

the veronicas.
everything im not.

The truth is i've been lied to so many times,
i know i come second best to you. i'm not the one you think of & i'm sure as hell not the one you need. so why do you hold on to me? you're making things worse. you're the only thing i have. but to you i'm just the girl you've got cause you can't have the girl you once had. she's your everything while i'm just there. you close your eyes when you look at me to pretend you care. i'm not stupid ; i see it. but my heart just never wants to believe it. so go ahead ; tell me another lie. whisper in my ear & tell me how much you pretend to love me. tell me how much you wish i was her.



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Ok well i talked to him about it the whole cheating thing... He told me wut was happening and told me how he can see where im coming from.

We both started crying, and he really isnt the crying type.

Well "Billy" told me that him and "B" had just got into a fight and that "B" would tell me anything to believe it wasnt him. And now that i think about how "B" is. he would lie to me to get me off his back.

well i thought about what i had done and i really regret even thinking that he would cheat, those messages i get now that he explained it.

And he told me about this girl and her b/f kept messin with him and hiz cuz. And my name came out the guys mouth, and when it comes to people he loves- he would prolly kill some1. So he told me what happened and how if it wasnt for his cuzn he would have hit the guy, but he was going to tell me a different story because he knows i dont want him to fight anyone.

Well anyways i get it all now and i feel REALLY REALLY BAD!!
Because he cried and he was dissappointed in me, and thats the crap that gets to me. so i really dont think he did cheat because i dont think he would have cried about it if he did do it.(he didnt cry over just that, there were a couple other things that got to him)

So how do i bring it up again just to apologize?
i said it about 5 times and he said it wasnt all my fault but i want him to know that i really regret even thinking that. So how do i tell him that??
Thanx in advance

well its not your fault at all and it was wrong of him to make you feel bad. you had reason to believe that he was cheating, and you shouldnt have to feel bad about confronting him about it. i really dont think youu need to apologize to him.

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ok last night at my 13th birthday party i made out for the first time
and after i did it, for some reason i thought it was gross. but i didnt know if i did it right, and i know this guy has a lot of experience. and now im like paranoid this he thinks im terrible. but he knew he was my first.
how do i keep myself from not worrying about it and does anyone have like detailed pointers on the process of making out? haha

thanks in advanceee!

yeahh well alot of people find making out gross. the first few times i did it were horrible, but it'll get better, i promise =]

dont worry about weather or not you were a good kisser, theres nothing you can do now. im sure the guy that kissed you was just happy that he was kissing you (and how well he was doing) im sure he didnt think you were a bad kisser..

if im wrong and he tells everyone that your a horrible kisser..next time here's how you can prove him wrongg.

Take it Easy.
When it comes to kissing, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each other. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.

Tongue or Not?
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing... if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. When you are comfortable kissing your partner, experiment with different ways to taste and nuzzle his lips. Nibble his lower lip lightly (DON'T bite), caress his lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of his mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good his lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better!

The Eyes Have It.
As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.

The Most Important Lesson.
That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!

hope i helped =]

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14/f
I'm in love with this guy named "billy" and he has a history of bein a player. but i didnt know this until we got serious.
Well i went through his myspace last night when i was bored...
And he deffinately has a history of playen chicks.

Well we've been dating since 9-21-06..
And there was this on message in there from 4-10-07 and he asked his ex... "ill leave u alone bout it if u let us be friends wiff benfits " word from word of what he said to her!

And there is a bunch of other stuff suggesting he has messed around.

should i let it go because it was in april? and he doesnt really see that girl any way.

I asked him about it and he said "B" has his mysapce password and he said how he was going to get "B" for that blah blah blah. Well i asked "B" about trying to get to him before "Billy" could and he said hell no!

Then i asked if he was sure and i sent him the message he said no i didnt,and i really need to talk to "billy" and i cant let him play me like this...

And i dont know who to believe and i cant stop cryin! And me and "billy" have had lots of fights about this kind of stuff. and sometimes he sounds guilty and other times he doesnt.

I'd really like it if some guys answered this because they are guys and they can prolly tell if he is not more easilsy..or whatever.

I'm trying to stay strong and not worry about it but everything i do normally involves "Billy".
Passwords are his name. and his pictures are everywhere!

Please help me!! And thanx in advance!
If you have any questions about it please ask!
Any advice is helpful right now!
Thanx!! **Me**

unfortunatly, i have alot of experience in this subject, and ill let you know what when ever a guy gets busted for saying something he shouldnt have online, he'll blame it on his friend. (this has happened to me many, many times) soo im guessing it was him who sent the message, i doubt his friend would do that to him, and if his friend really did send it im sure he would admit it to youu.

even though it was a while ago that he cheated on you, you deff. still have a right to be mad.

my advice to you, dump him. he sounds like a hugee jerk. and if he cheated on you once, he's very likely to do it again..

hope i helped
i'd love it if you'd keep me updated =P

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Okay, well i am 13, turning 14 in august.. and theres this guy that i have been talking to online for 3 years. he is real, not fake becuase i have seen him in person, and he is my brothers friend. The problem is.. he's 16 turning 17 in august. thats a huge gap. hes going to be a senior and im going to be a freshman when school starts. The thing is, i love him so much. We make eachother happy when we talk to eachother, and things lately, havnt been so good. he one time told me he couldnt ask me out because of my brother. and that hurt me so much. although he did say to wait for the future...! and that was a year ago when he said that, now our converstations have been very short, i havnt said the words i love you for like a year. we still talk and its fun and my heart starts beating when we do. does he feel the same? whats goiing on? help me!

youu should just talk to him.
idkk if he likes you,
and you obviously dont either.
soo the only thing to do is ask him.
i would say something like...
im sure you already know what i have feelings for youu, and im just wondering if you feel the same way, because if you dont im ready to move on, and i'd be nice if you'd let me try..
something along thosee lines =]
andd if he says that he doesnt feel the same way, dont worry about it, im sure you'll find another guy (your age) that will like you as much as you like him. =]]
hope i helped..
i'd lovee it if you'd keep me updated.

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if a girl like never stops talking to me on msn and facebook sometimes until 1am or later does that means she realy likes likes me and wants to go out?

( i have already asked her out and she said she needs to think about it. but i can tell she has some strong feelings for me.)

what do i do?

it sounds like she likes you but shes trying to play hard to get, or maybe shes trying to decide if her feelings for you are strong enough. as for the long conversations if shes staying up tell 1 am to talk to you, she must really like you and will probally end up going out with you.
(i would try getting her number and calling her)
pleasee keep me updated =D

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OK, im doomed! I stayed back last year and they think I dont shower, im gross and all this stuff.Well I do have friends and I hang out with this kid named Steven, and I like steven. Now kids know I like steven but I dont want steven to know.. Its not as easy and I ask him out everyone would lauph and it and it madders to me. And it sucks because we have to do tis inventors thing and he's my partner and he does nothing! and its hard to try and concintrate next to the kid u like I really need a good grade so how do i concintrate on my work and not flirting with him??

well first of all..it sounds like he likes you too. when a guy first finds out that you like him and if he likes you back he'll start getting really nervose around you andd thats probally the reason hes not talking to you and not helping you with the project. as for flirting and working i would try working then your there and maybe asking him to hangg with you afterwards. make your move =]]

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Alrighty my situation is: making out. I jsut DONT get it. It doesn't come natural for me. So EXACTLY what do you do? Explanations please, because, I feel stupid. And please, don't say "its hard to explain, it comes naturally, once you being you'll know what to do"...not for me.

Take it Easy.
When it comes to kissing, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each other. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.

Tongue or Not?
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing... if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. When you are comfortable kissing your partner, experiment with different ways to taste and nuzzle his lips. Nibble his lower lip lightly (DON'T bite), caress his lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of his mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good his lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better!

The Eyes Have It.
As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.

The Most Important Lesson.
That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!
hope i helped =]

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Okay to start off,I'm going out with this guy Jason and he's told me I love you and all that and I like him and everything just not love.He always ditches me and never hangs with me or anything.And theres this guy Syd in my class and I think he likes me...I've asked him out already (recently) and he said no but me friend Heather said she overheard Nate (Syd's friend) saying that if he went out with me,he'd never talk to Syd again.That's probably why Syd said no.So me and Syd have had joke plans to you know *cough cough do it* and all this and we met to and we didn't have protection so I just gave him a h.a.n.d.j.o.b. with my shirt off.and f.l.a.s.h.e.d. him.We're not going out and we're both seeing someone.I know it sounds like a slutty thing to do :|.Also I put the .'s in cuz my dad has a keylogger and he can serch words so ya.And I'm 13 year old in grade 7 and he's 13 and PLEASE don't give me a lecture please.I know I shold have waited but I didn't and I already regret that so PLEASE no lectures.Thank you

im not trying to lecture you and i know this is something you dont want to hear. well your not a slut. but you really need to figure out what you want to do. you seem really confused and you really need to have some morals, seriously your only 13 and no matter what you think, YOU ARE NOT READY TO HAVE SEX. even if you really like this guy, its not worth it to have people think your a whore and totally ruin your reputation just for a guy, when you already have a boyfriend. it sounds like you have good parents that care about you if they care what your looking at and saying online, they WILL find out if you have sex. pplease dont do something your gonna regret. and

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Well I dated this guy for about two weeks before he left for a working vacation in California. He was my first boyfriend, first kiss, and first guy I almost fell in love with. Everything seemed so perfect until he left.

He stopped calling or talking to me online. I thought it was because of the time difference being a pain and he was working a lot and catching up with friends. Well, he was gone for about a week and, long story short, I found out that he was hanging out with this girl and talking about hooking up with her.

I asked him over MySpace if he wanted to date other people while he was gone because I was fine with it considering we'd only dated for about 3 weeks. He said he wasn't dating other people and had no intention of it. Time went by and the girl he was talking to kept IMing me and telling me some stuff. I didn't want to believe her, but it was obvious that he was lying to me.

I made myself miserable and cried for days. I was physically sick over it. I finally broke it off with him because he was 1) ignoring me and 2) acting like everything was fine and 3) treating me like I was the bad guy for not trusting him when it was so obvious he wasn't telling the truth. I wanted to be friends with him still, but it's obvious that's not what he wants.

I thought he was serious about me. Everything he did made it seem like he was REALLY into me, and it's possible that he could have been the whole time. But something happened between him leaving and now and he became a totally different person and is now officially dating this girl.

I'm trying really hard to get over him and I'm not crying and stuff over it anymore because I know it had to be done, but I still can't stop thinking about him and every time I do I get sick to my stomach. It just won't go away and I feel sick all the time unless I'm out with my friends. And I can't do that every day.

How can I get over him? All I want is to stop thinking about him and feel better, physically. Is there anything I can do? Will breaking up always be like this? I'm so consumed with this. Help!

well moving on isnt something that happens over night you have to make sure your really ready to let go. but untill you are its okay to think about him and miss him theres nothing wrong with that he had a big piece of your heart and obviously still does. so dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace him because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy;; hope i helped

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