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making out
Alrighty my situation is: making out. I jsut DONT get it. It doesn't come natural for me. So EXACTLY what do you do? Explanations please, because, I feel stupid. And please, don't say "its hard to explain, it comes naturally, once you being you'll know what to do"...not for me.
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Take it Easy.
When it comes to kissing, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each other. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.
Tongue or Not?
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing... if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. When you are comfortable kissing your partner, experiment with different ways to taste and nuzzle his lips. Nibble his lower lip lightly (DON'T bite), caress his lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of his mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good his lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better!
The Eyes Have It.
As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.
The Most Important Lesson.
That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!
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Well, make sure you're relaxed. The best thing to do is just DON'T THINK ABOUT IT.
Then, be ready to do it. Don't have tight lips & make it awkward when he wants to put his tongue in your mouth. Part your lips a little & relax them.
Make sure your heads are comfortable. This sounds stupid, but make sure your heads are turned opposite ways; I've seen people try to do it & not get that & it just looks really awkward.
As for the actual making out part, every guy likes it differently. I mean, some like to ram their tongues down your throat & some like you to do that. Some just like it nice & slow. I guess it really depends on the moment. If you're doing it intensely, you're tongues are probably going to be stiff & forceful. If it's slow, you'll probably move it a lot slower in & out & I guess more passionately.
I know you don't want people telling you it comes naturally, but you just have to go with the flow. Don't force it or try too hard. You just have to move it in sync with his, in & out, around, etc.
If all else fails, just let him start & copycat what he does.
Sorry if that wasn't what you were looking for. I also addressed that as a girl making out with a boy so sorry if that's not the case lol.
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