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I have Social Anxiety Disorder, look it up if your not fond of that. I've been actually recently getting it. have you? it makes me feel like im not alone on this, that's why i asked the question. What are some ways you tried relaxing and it worked? (link)
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I've had this diagnosed since 7th grade (I'm in 10th now). & yes it's really hard to find people who share it. but you're not unusual.
when I have an anxiety attack, or feel like I may have one due to a certain situation, I just breathe. simply breathe. I try to get my mind on another subject by like, walking around or talking to someone. this sounds weird but when my dog is around it helps to pet her. so if you have a dog or cat, you could use them as comfort.
If you get symptoms in public, like speaking in front of a group, focus on one thing & get through with it. your heart probably pounds & you shake, but just get through whatever the situation is & worry about the rest later. it will save you from looking awkward in front of groups/classmates, which I know is something I really fear.
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what is it?? like ive heard of thme but what are they??
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basically ribbed tank tops, with about 1-2 inch straps.
they come in all colors.
kevin federline is most commonly seen in a white one, haha.
there's a brand of them called lipsticks I think.
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15/f
I have some really strange things that I do.
I'm constantly talking to myself (but not really talking out loud, just sort of just mouthing what i would say if i were talking to another person.)
And If I've just walked away from having a convo with someone, I keep repeating what i've said to myself for like 20 minutes after.
I can't focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard I try and I'm always oblivious to everything.
I always isolate myself in social situations because it's the only thing I feel safe doing. I never say anything to anyone because I know that they won't want to talk to me.
I feel like people are watching me when I'm alone and I worry that people can hear my thoughts. I know that's irrational but it doesn't make it go away.
I'm also in some kind of negative mood all the time- be it sad, mad, upset, lonely, etc. I never feel happy and when I smile it's fake unless I'm laughing at something.
I'm always horny and I can't stop my sexual behavior even in public.
so just tell me what you think is wrong. am I schitzophrenic? (sp?) (link)
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My best advice would be to talk to a parent or person you trust.
You might want to see a therapist.
You might have a personality disorder, or an anxiety disorder.
From experience, it sounds a lot like social anxiety disorder. But it may not be that extreme.
Talk to someone who can help you directly.
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to start off
i'm 14/f
almost 180lbs =/
and about 5'5"
what should my weight goal be?
i would really like to be a size M in shirts.
i'm XL now.
advice on how to lose the weight would be helpful too.
thanks! (link)
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I'm just going to be quick cause you already have a bunch of amazing answers.
but after puberty [about your age]
5'0" should be 100 lbs.
with 5 lbs. added per inch.
so at 5'5" you should be about 125-130.
but I would shoot for about 140. then lose more if you don't like how you look.
but if you don't mind how you look, seriously, lose 15 pounds. it's your body, & maybe you want a little meat on your bones.
just do it healthy.
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im 14/f and in the 8th grade
does anyone know any books that have like making out or sex in them without hinting that in the title? thanks soooo much!!
%% ;-) (link)
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gossip girl series
the it girl series
the a list series
the clique series
the insiders series [about boys instead of girls]
sisterhood of the traveling pants series has some of that
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hey im 15/m and i am trying to choose which girl i want to date.
1. this girl is a skateboarder just like me. She's kind of a hippie and she stands up for like animal right and stuff. shes not an outcast though, she wears abercrombie just like all the other girls. she is always helping people and giving money to charity and she plays guitar and is into the same music as me. shes friends with a lot of guys and shes into video games but she can also be girly. she laughs a lot and likes to party but she doesnt do anything too bad like drugs and heres her picture:
http://i191.photobucket.com/albums/z34/jamesboy0123/milena.jpg
2. this girl is different by a lot. she dates a lot of guys and she likes rap and shes very girly. she knows more people than the first girl but ive heard a lot of rumors about her which i dont think are true. shes rich and hates the outdoors but she has a good sense of humor. she likes to party and she loves cuddling. she does gymnastics and shes very small heres her picture:
http://i191.photobucket.com/albums/z34/jamesboy0123/jaci.jpg
i need advice i dont know who to pick! (link)
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well it depends on who you feel a better connection with.
but by reading what they're like, I would pick the first girl. you have a lot in common which is always good. you have things you can do together. she sounds like a really good person also.
good luck!
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okay . so , me & my current bf have been dating off & on , for around 3/4 months . anyways , about a month ago he broke up with me , then the next day i found out he was going out with my bestfriend in 5th grade(caitlyn) [that he knew because she went to his school now,] and he said he only went out with her because he missed me . which didn`t really make any sence at the time , so i took him back . then today i talked to the girl he wen`t out with [caitlyn] on the computer then she said "your bf didnt want me to tell you , but i will anyways . before he "broke up" with you , he was going out with me" then i said "so he was cheating on me?!" then she goes "yes , for a day , then he broke up with me because he really liked you" so i started crying , and then i called him to get the details and i told him the whole story what had happend . he said that caitlyn still liked him & that wasn`t true at all . he said that they had started talking about going out , but never accually did . and now i`m stuck in the middle & i don`t know who to belive . my friends pretty much hate him because i`ve gave him a lot of chances . and idk . i reallllyy love him , he was my first real boyfriend , my first kiss . and idk what to do , i`m just stuck in the middle . (link)
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I think you should dump the guy simply because he hasn't been a steady boyfriend, & he dated someone you knew the day after you broke up. That's just pretty low & it's obvious that they'd been either talking or hooking up WHILE you were dating. They couldn't have just made a connection & decided to go out in less than 24 hours..
& don't listen to the girl either. Whether he cheated or not, she probably is just mad cause she likes him, or cause she got used, since he did date her when you broke up & then dumped her right away when you took him back. So even if he did cheat, she's probably just mad anyway or she wouldn't have told you.
Just dump the boy & forget the girl. There's plenty of other boys that won't be like that to you.
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Whats the best one? I sweat a lot, and I'm sick of being embarresed of it. Thankss so much =] (link)
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I use degree ultra clear & it always worked best for me.
However, if it's a big problem, your doctor can prescribe you this stuff called drysol that rolls on. That would be a good thing to look into, it actually works.
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i have a really good friend jon. he is one of the hottest guys in the school and pretty nice. i never even dreamed of dating him till just a week ago. i would ask him out but what if he denies and it ruins our friendship. what if we broke up and it did the same thing? and, he has one flaw: he cheats on his girlfriends. he has never had a girlfriend that he hasnt cheated on.
help! thanks for everyones advice. 14/f (link)
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Well honestly, I wouldn't date him. Mostly because he always cheats on his girlfriends. Why would you put yourself in that situation? I would only do it if you think you'd for sure make him not want to cheat on you. Which, with a guy like that, he'd probably need to like you a lot. So if he does, maybe you should try it, but if it'd be just kind of a normal relationship with not much there between you, then don't.
Also, if he found out you liked him & wanted to date him, at that age, he might just avoid you if he doesn't feel the same way. Which would probably ruin the friendship. Boys that age are usually pretty immature about those things, & the friendship is almost always ruined.
But in the end you have to follow your heart, but take those things into consideration before you go for it.
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ok, i'm gonna tell you straight out, i have alot of money. I'm 15/f and my mother's family is very wealthy. I'm really not a snob or anything, i don't have fancy designer clothes, i'm down to earth and i do community service and donate time and money, and such. The problem is, there is this guy that works for my family. He is 27, and a few years ago he was hired to clean our house once a week. Well me and my sister go to school that is 30 minutes from our house, so a lot of days he also drives us, which is really annoying. For the past year, he works like full time for my parents, he cleans our house like EVERY DAY! he walks our dogs, runs errands, helps with landscaping. It's ridiculous! I hate it, plus he is a total show off and is always doing flips and handsprings in the yard! wtf. and everytime i walk downstairs he starts talking to me and commenting like "oh, your going for a run? i like to run" or "those peach yogurts are good aren't they?what other flavors do you like?"
It wasn't that bad during the school year, but now that school is out i just wanna go outside in my bathing suit and read and practice soccer in my sports bra and stuff, which wouldn't be a big deal, except that he is ALWAYS AROUND!
please help, it is totally ruining my summer! (link)
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Honestly, from what you wrote, it sounds like you're overreacting a bit. This guy is swallowing his pride & doing chores for someone else to earn money. Your parents probably need him there because they don't have the time to do all of those chores, or don't like to. Why is it ridiculous that he's cleaning & helping around your house? If he's getting paid, it's just doing his job. Sure, maybe he bugs you when he asks you questions like you said, but he's just being friendly, I don't see what the problem is even though it's annoying. Like, imagine working somewhere where you couldn't talk to anyone. It would be extremely boring. He probably just wants some human interaction. All you have to do is say, "Yeah, sorry, but I gotta go" & walk away. If it's really bad for you that he's talking to you or being around, then why not try to go to friends' houses more often? Or simply just ignore him. I mean, if you're practicing soccer or reading outside, then do that. Don't acknowledge that he's there. Hopefully he'll get the idea that you're not paying attention to him & stop trying to get it.
But still, I don't think you should worry about it, he's just doing his job.
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Umm... I think I'm obbessed with my b.f. Zac! I go over his house almost everyday but not right now because I have mono. I check his messages on myspace to see if he's been talking to another girl. Plus I call him whenever I get the chance and I can't stand to be away from him for even a day! Is this healthy ???? (link)
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It's certainly not unhealthy. You're just infatuated with him & you like him a lot. That's okay, you're a girl & he's a boy, you're dating, you're supposed to like each other ;]
On the other hand, if you start noticing him feeling distant or seemingly annoyed by your attachment, tone it down a bit. Or just ask him if you're being too clingy & he should be honest about it. But if he still wants you to keep doing it, just do it. There's nothing wrong with being with your boyfriend a lot. But make sure you're still spending time with other people that may feel neglected by you.
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my best guy friend and i are writing in eachothers yearbooks tomorrow and we each
are writing a whole page for eachother
what should i write? (link)
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Write about how glad you are that he was there for you this year, or something to that extent.
Reminisce about the good times you've had this year.
If you're moving on to different places, write about how much you'll miss him & how you hope to keep in touch a lot.
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what would i be if i wore skinny jeans, converse, random t-shirts ex. wet seal shirts and skate shirts?? (link)
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You'd be considered a skater/punk.
Or you could just wear whatever you like & be considered YOU. Don't worry about fitting into a stereotype!!
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okay , so i've been going out with this guy for almost 4 months now. i really like him a lot and he likes me too . he was my first kiss. and he doesnt know that. but i can tell that i wasnt his , and he is wayyy more experienced than i am. he's madeout with a bunch of girls and everything , and i'm going with him to sixflags on this weekend . and he was asking me all these things like "will you makeout or kiss me me on 'blahahah' ride ?? and i was like 'yeahhh ,,'
but the thing is , im ready to makeout , but i dont know how . will it just come naturally? or do i need to know how? i know im ready though . i really like him . i just dont know how to . advice please? (link)
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It WILL come naturally. It doesn't take any experience at all, but some people are too aggressive or too timid & it makes it bad. You can be a good kisser, but if you're just going with the flow you won't be bad. Copy what he does. Don't try ramming your tongue down his throat or anything weird like that.. just let it flow. Don't be nervous. Just let it happen naturally--after all, everyone [even your guy] had a first time making out & they get through it fine. You'll eventually learn tricks or techniques I guess that your guy will like & you'll complement each other in that way.
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how do girls masturbate.. (link)
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They pleasure themselves with their fingers, a tooth brush, a dildo, anything they want to put up there.
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okay im having a pool party for my bday next week...and i think i may be getting my period around that date. ughh. lately, ive been getting it every two weeks. (its happened 3 times already) its so annoying, and im terrified of using a tampon, but im considering it because i will not just sit out of the pool at my own party. i have a few questions because im super scared about using one..
1. how far does it go in?
2. does it hurt when putting it in?
3. is it uncomfortable the first time wearing it?
4. is it okay to use one? ive had my period for almost a year.
also, is there any type of medication or something to help delay a period that i could ask my doctor about? just anything...i really dont want to be having my period during my own pool party..:( (link)
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Just wear a tampon. Like you said, you don't want to sit out at your own party. & there is NO other way to swim on your period, because you risk being embarrased by blood dripping & such, it's just not an option. Tampons are actually A LOT better than pads. You will probably like them & want to wear them all the time. I will try to answer some of your questions so you understand.
1. The applicator goes in all the way until the ridges [finger grips] are just outside the opening. Then, you push the skinny part [where the string is hanging] all the way in & the tampon just goes in. Don't worry, it won't go too far & get lost or something. The string is really long anyways, & doesn't break by just pulling.
2. It should never hurt when putting it in. If it does, stop, & wiggle it around until you find the right spot. You'll know where the right spot is because it'll just glide wright in & you won't feel it at all. You might feel a little tingling but that's just because you're not used to it. So if it hurts, you've just got it in the wrong spot, so don't force it if it does.
3. No, it shouldn't be uncomfortable. You will probably be nervous about it so you might be like, really aware that it's there since it's your first time. But otherwise, it just won't be noticeable. If you feel it whenever you move, it may not be in all the way & if it hurts you definitely need to take it out & use another one.
4. Of course it's okay to use one. Some people wait a long time to start because they are afraid, but then start to wear them all the time. They're really not anything to be afraid of.. they're not detrimental to your health & they're usually pretty good at preventing the blood from getting on your clothes. With a pad, you might be shifting around, & you can easily get it on your underwear or clothes, but with tampons, just think of it as plugged up.
The only medication I know of is birth control, which regulates your period. If you seriously want that, you'd have to get it with an adult because I assume you're not 18. There are medications that will make your period come about 4 times a year, but doctors usually prescribe that to girls who have serious trouble with their periods, like very heavy, always bleeding through clothes, etc. But as you get older your period will become more regular, so I would just deal with it for a bit.
Tips
*Make sure you change the tampon every 4-8 hours, closer to 4 if you have a heavy period [like the first couple days usually]
*Don't wear it to bed unless you know you'll be getting up in 8 hours or less.
*Read the box because they usually have diagrams or small booklets so that you understand better. Or look some diagrams up online.
*Ask a mom, friend, sister, aunt, etc. if you're having trouble. All girls deal with it so it's nothing to be embarrased by.
*Use a mirror if you're having trouble with where to put it in.
*RELAX. It will become 10 times harder if you're nervous & tense!
Hope I helped you out, good luck.
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I'm trying to take a screenshot with my mac, and it says command+shit+3. I don't know what my command button is! Can someone let me know? (link)
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I believe it's the Apple button. At least, that's what I use to do those things; it's similar to the control button on windows.
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Well, im going into middle school but im not really sure what to expect and im a little scared. is it really different than elementary school? im scared that on the first day of school, i wont know where to go or ill get lost somewhere. any advice on what i should do and not do? (link)
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OK, even though you might be underage, I'll help you out anyway.
I think everyone is at least a little nervous about their first day in middle school. Most people have never had to move around for all their classes, or they've never had lockers, etc. So it's usually a totally different experience.
A good idea is if you get your class schedule early, check it with friends to see if you have at least one person you know in all your classes. This helps a lot because you have someone to walk with, someone to sit with the first day, etc. However, after a while, you'll become friends with new people, so be open to that.
Do you have a registration? If you do, take your parent around with you to find each one of your classes. This way you'll have a little memory of where everything is.
On the first day, your school might have something where they take a tour with all of the new students. If not, the teachers will not be mad if you're a minute late to class because you couldn't find it. They'll understand, so don't be scared!
Most schools have the grades generally separated in middle school; like the sixth graders' classes will be in the same area. So if you're a little scared of the "big kids", that's usually not a big deal.
Your school will have plans to integrate you into the system so you don't need to worry too much. Hope I've helped.
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does anyone know how i can get adobe photoshop on my computer?? (link)
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you can probably get a free trial off of adobe.com
or buy the software
or have someone send it to you by file upload or over AIM [THIS IS ILLEGAL!]
or download it off of a website that's providing it [ALSO ILLEGAL]
but there are plenty of those sites.. & you could google it.
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I have never been exposed to sexual fluids, and I have never been sexually active. I was wondering, could I have been born with an STD or AIDS?
I kind of want to get tested just in case. I don't want to have sex for the first time without knowing 100% that I am healthy. (link)
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You dont have an STD unless your parents are keeping it a secret from you.
& I am also pretty sure that when you're born with AIDS you only live to about age 12 or so. So if you're past that, then you don't have AIDS.
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