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stupid man!
ok, i'm gonna tell you straight out, i have alot of money. I'm 15/f and my mother's family is very wealthy. I'm really not a snob or anything, i don't have fancy designer clothes, i'm down to earth and i do community service and donate time and money, and such. The problem is, there is this guy that works for my family. He is 27, and a few years ago he was hired to clean our house once a week. Well me and my sister go to school that is 30 minutes from our house, so a lot of days he also drives us, which is really annoying. For the past year, he works like full time for my parents, he cleans our house like EVERY DAY! he walks our dogs, runs errands, helps with landscaping. It's ridiculous! I hate it, plus he is a total show off and is always doing flips and handsprings in the yard! wtf. and everytime i walk downstairs he starts talking to me and commenting like "oh, your going for a run? i like to run" or "those peach yogurts are good aren't they?what other flavors do you like?"
It wasn't that bad during the school year, but now that school is out i just wanna go outside in my bathing suit and read and practice soccer in my sports bra and stuff, which wouldn't be a big deal, except that he is ALWAYS AROUND!
please help, it is totally ruining my summer!
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Honestly, from what you wrote, it sounds like you're overreacting a bit. This guy is swallowing his pride & doing chores for someone else to earn money. Your parents probably need him there because they don't have the time to do all of those chores, or don't like to. Why is it ridiculous that he's cleaning & helping around your house? If he's getting paid, it's just doing his job. Sure, maybe he bugs you when he asks you questions like you said, but he's just being friendly, I don't see what the problem is even though it's annoying. Like, imagine working somewhere where you couldn't talk to anyone. It would be extremely boring. He probably just wants some human interaction. All you have to do is say, "Yeah, sorry, but I gotta go" & walk away. If it's really bad for you that he's talking to you or being around, then why not try to go to friends' houses more often? Or simply just ignore him. I mean, if you're practicing soccer or reading outside, then do that. Don't acknowledge that he's there. Hopefully he'll get the idea that you're not paying attention to him & stop trying to get it.
But still, I don't think you should worry about it, he's just doing his job.
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Try to avoid this man. He´s just doing his job, but if he´s always around ask him to give you some space. If nothing works tell your parents that this guy is getting annoying because he´s hanging around you and won´t go away.
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Personally, I think you should just get used to it.
You see, for those of us without much money, we find work where we can. He's taken on extra work to make extra money. It's that simple. He's not doing it to annoy you, or ruin your summer. You have got to understand that other people do have to work for their money.
If him talking to you annoys you, try discussing his conduct with your parents. Ask them to set boundaries as to his communication with you. However, it sounds to me like he's just trying to be nice to you, instead of acting like a piece of furniture.
-- I'm not saying that you're spoiled... I'm saying that you have to realize that there may be other reasons for him working extra hours. Not everyone is looking to get in your knickers :P
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Tell your parent's, i mean they should be able to do something about it. And if you don't like him tell him not to talk to you. Its YOUR yard if you dont want him doing backflips and such tell him. Don't let him ruin your summer. Try to go someplace where he never is , and if he arrives there tell him to leave. Or just go outside and he starts stairing at you , tell you parents you think hes a creep. Mabe he has a crush on you :/
x'kaylaaaaa
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This guy is totally invading your privacy. What are your parents thinking? Now that you are home for the summer, you want some peace and quite and I don't blame you. I wouldn't like it either. Why is he around? Can't you talk to your parents about it? I don't think they want you to be uncomfortable, no matter how easy he makes their lives. You should come first. No I don't think you are being a bitch about it, or selfish. You want your privacy, and he invades it. Good servants, ( and I can only imagine, because I never had one) should behave as if there are not even in the house, and only be around when called on. They are not members of the family. Of course if they do a great job, that is with work and behavior) they should be well paid.
If your parents won't listen, can you arrange to spend the summer somewhere else? Can you tell him off and maybe he'll leave you alone? Does he talk to your mom like that?
If he behaves totally differently infront of your folks, then I would be worried. I would be worried that his intentions are not good. And it won't get better, who knows what he is thinking. What if he convinces himself that you are in love with him, and want him. (don't laugh, it happens) and makes a move. I know you would rather avoid that. Does your sister feel the same way? Together can't you get your parents to let him go. Offer to do some of the work yourself.
Well I hope this helps. But I think your biggest problem is that your parents have their heads in the sand. Servant or no, money or no, I would have a 27 year old man hanging around my house, where my two young adult daughters live.
I hope they see the light
Michele
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