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Getting Over Him
Well I dated this guy for about two weeks before he left for a working vacation in California. He was my first boyfriend, first kiss, and first guy I almost fell in love with. Everything seemed so perfect until he left.
He stopped calling or talking to me online. I thought it was because of the time difference being a pain and he was working a lot and catching up with friends. Well, he was gone for about a week and, long story short, I found out that he was hanging out with this girl and talking about hooking up with her.
I asked him over MySpace if he wanted to date other people while he was gone because I was fine with it considering we'd only dated for about 3 weeks. He said he wasn't dating other people and had no intention of it. Time went by and the girl he was talking to kept IMing me and telling me some stuff. I didn't want to believe her, but it was obvious that he was lying to me.
I made myself miserable and cried for days. I was physically sick over it. I finally broke it off with him because he was 1) ignoring me and 2) acting like everything was fine and 3) treating me like I was the bad guy for not trusting him when it was so obvious he wasn't telling the truth. I wanted to be friends with him still, but it's obvious that's not what he wants.
I thought he was serious about me. Everything he did made it seem like he was REALLY into me, and it's possible that he could have been the whole time. But something happened between him leaving and now and he became a totally different person and is now officially dating this girl.
I'm trying really hard to get over him and I'm not crying and stuff over it anymore because I know it had to be done, but I still can't stop thinking about him and every time I do I get sick to my stomach. It just won't go away and I feel sick all the time unless I'm out with my friends. And I can't do that every day.
How can I get over him? All I want is to stop thinking about him and feel better, physically. Is there anything I can do? Will breaking up always be like this? I'm so consumed with this. Help!
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well moving on isnt something that happens over night you have to make sure your really ready to let go. but untill you are its okay to think about him and miss him theres nothing wrong with that he had a big piece of your heart and obviously still does. so dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace him because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy;; hope i helped <33
alright i already answered this ? but after i did i found this thing and my magazine for you
start small--
ine day this week take yourself off the market and do whatever you want to do without even thinking about the guy relating ramifications will your outfit get his attention who cares you like it so your wearing it will more guys be at the skate part of the mall who cares you fgeel like lying out on your deck and reading a book by bedtime you'll realize that the day wasnt a total wash just because you didnt flirt with any guys and you'll remember how fun it is to tune into your random impulses and favorite habits without worrying about anyone else..aka your bf
reconnect with friends--
hanging out with your girls actually releases maegadoeses of oxytocin a bonding hormore in your brain that helps you feel connected sure you see your friends every day but its important to make time for those super intense sessions where you really talk to eachother about something other than boys so get dressed up and split appetizers and desserts at a chichi resturant and go ahead and order extra onions on your quesadillas- no boys to kiss tonight so its okay!
see guys as people--
of course you dont have to cut guys out of your life altogether your next step is to begin thinking of them as more than just date material start by giving your gull attention to whomever your talking to regardless of wheather its someone who could be a crush or someone you'd never consider going out with. now that your just simply being friendly you dont have to limit yourself to the guys that are your "type" and when you do meet someone you like which is bound to happen since youve gotton to know your senf bettwe and youve washed off the stink of desperation there is no reason the two of ou cant becomre better friends give it a few more weeks and if it turns out your really into him that is breaks over! when you feel like you want a bf rather than feeling like you need one its a good sign that your ready for love again So once your happy with your own like your next relationshop doesnt seem so stressful because you know if it doesnt work out you can still be content with yourself...
alright i really hope that helped because it took FOREVER to type lol so u better keep me updated <33
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it will feel like that most of the time hate to say it but its true and it's not very fun either. your always feeling sick and upset and depressed. i was like that after my ex boyfriend schuyler and i gave everything i had to give to him if you know what i mean....but yeah i felt like that for almost a year and i still do i loved him i gave him my heart and all i got in return is pain and suffering so yeah...it sux if you ever want any help with relationships i'm always her ok!!!!!
Katie
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