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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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Ok so theres this guy in my class that i think likes me. There's this one incidence were i was talking to friends and i saw him look at me. When he comes into class theres a garbage not to far away from me but its not infront of me its on the other side of the room and he walks infront of me to the garbage and when i was talking to my friend he was looking at me and then walked away but he doesnt do this all the time. It's rarely.
Maybe, or maybe he is just looking in your direction. Don't think about it too much. Next time he looks at you, smile. This if you like him. If he smiles back or even looks surprised, you know he was looking at you. Then, things will go from there :)
my ex moved last month but we only broke up cause she was moving. any i didnt have her number but one day i was playing on my xbox and after an hour of playing a random match with her we relized we knew each other and now i got her number and i found out we still love each other but now she lives states away. her phone got taken away but she text me on her friends phone. i know long distace relationships dont work out but i trust her with my life.
Nick-13
Well, long distance relationships usually don't work. Even if you do trust her and like her a lot.. How will you ever be able to see her? You are too young to drive, and she doesn't even have a way to communicate with you consistently it seems.
I think you should ask yourself if it's worth the hassle. If you think it is and she agrees, go for it.
You are only 13 however, so you have plentyyyyyyy of
time to date. I remember being 13 and liking and 'dating' lots of boys. You wrote this like a week ago, maybe you already like someone else by now...? :)
Whatever you decide to do, I'm sure it will work out
I'm going to try to make this as short as possible. Its a very long complicated situation. Basically, i was dating this guy. he never acted like he cared about me though. I was talking to this other guy on facebook, right? Ok. my bf didnt go to my school, and this other guy does. Of course, I started falling for him. I talked to him for five or six hours one night. as my status, i put part of a song, and he liked it and sent me the rest of it through chat. we had been talking about how everything happens for a reason, so as my status i put "sometimes its the smallest decisions that can change your life forever." then he said "do you like my status?" and his status said "....but its the biggest things that can ruin your life forever" I loved it. And he actually seemed into me. Two nights later, I ended up telling him that i was having a problem deciding between my boyfriend and this other guy. he asked who the other guy was, and i told him i wouldn't tell. so, when i told him he was like "ohhhhh." so I told him basically, that if he wasnt into me like that, then i wanted him to just tell me the truth. he told me that he was kinda into me, but having an "in school" girlfriend would distract him. I thought it was just an excuse, right? He told me that he was being completely honest about it though. He also said that he needed to get to know me better as a person before anything would happen. His exact words: "dont get me wrong i mean having a cute face and a hard body is fucking hot, but i need to get to know you better first, you know?" So, that made sense to me. then when i had to go, he said "goodnight cutie(:" The next day in school, he looked at me everytime we saw eachother in the hallway. He does this cute nod/smile thing when he sees me. (hes so cuteee!) He also kept staring at me in lunch, to the point where his friend asked "what are you staring at?" then turned and looked at me. I mean, I thought he liked me. So, after school that day, I got on facebook, and he was online. so was my boyfriend. long story short, my bf broke up with me. i was upset, obviously. so i was still talking to this other guy and i said "i dont know if you're busy or anything, but i need someone to talk to. could we talk? please?" he said nothing. he completely ignored me for the rest of the night. the next day in school, he still looked at me and everything, just like he had always done. on facebook later that day, he ignored me again. then finally, today in school he looked at me maybe... once or twice in lunch, and ignored me in the halls. maybe he was having an off day... maybe not. I know it sounds like hes not that into me, but i told him to just tell me the truth, and he did. He swore it was the truth. I dont know how to confront him about this, if i should at all. I really like him, and at one point, he really liked me. Also, sorry if you cant understand this too easily.. im in a HUGE hurry.
I think he was being honest, and I think you might be coming across a little too pushy. It sounds to me, like you guys were just in the very beginning of getting to knowing eachother and you were pretty forward it sounds like. He was obviously attracted to you, but I think you kind of freaked him out.
Basically, back off. Don't IM him or text him first, wait for
him to talk to you. If he likes you, he'll make the effort to talk to you & get to know you.
I know what it's like to be in this situation, a matter of fact, I was just last week. I know it sucks, waiting & you just want to ask to see what's going on, but it's just better to wait!
Good luck :)
I have been seeing this guy for about a year. It all started as a drunk hook up with him, an acquaintance back then, and after that we started seeing each other more and more, until we became best friends and developed feelings for each other. I have had a rough year and he has stuck by me through it all. During the summer, I wanted to start a relationship. I told him that I didn't want to just be friends with benefits anymore, I wanted to take the next step and make it official. He was hesitant, but he agreed. We were official for three months. During that time we fought a lot, so we decided to take a break because it seemed like things were better when we weren't officially together. He told me that the reason he agreed to a relationship with me was because he didn't want to lose me, but I could tell that he didn't truly want to be in one. So we did the unofficial thing for another few months, nothing changed except we stopped fighting and grew even closer. Yet in the back of my head it really bugged me that I was not good enough for him, that he's just using me for the benefits of a relationship without having to put in any of the work himself. I talked to him about that a few times, and he said he just feels more comfortable being what we are now. So last night I finally decided to end it because I was beginning to resent him for that, I don't like waiting around and catering to him whilst he finally decides he wants to be in a relationship with me again. I told him that we should just be friends without the benefits. He said alright let's go for it, that he understands.
I do really want to remain friends, because we do have a really beautiful friendship, but its painful at the same time because at the end of the day I still love him and want to be with him (I'm not sure if he knows that though. I've been pretty emotionally distant from him the past month or so). And I know he still cares about me but he just doesn't want an official relationship.
Did I make a mistake? Should I have stayed and waited some more? I really saw us getting married and having kids someday (he was even vaguely bringing it up), and I feel like I screwed it up. Should I tell him I think I've made a mistake?
When I've asked him why he doesn't want a relationship, he says its because of the obligations. He feels like he's obligated to spend time with me, so its forced on him. However, when we're not in a relationship, he spends time with me because he wants to. And what he said held true: when we were together, I rarely ever saw him and he didn't really pay attention to me. When we're not official, he's obviously happier and loves spending time with me. But what bothers me is that he's had girlfriends before so obviously that wasn't an issue in his past relationships.
The biggest reason why we fought while in the relationship was because I rarely saw him because we weren't taking any classes together, and I didn't have a car. Now we see each other every day because we have a class together and I got a car. So I feel like we won't have the same problems if we get into a relationship again.
Ugh. What should I do? At the end of the day I'm happy with him regardless if we're official or not, its just something that bugs me and eats away at my self esteem and makes me resent him. Did I make a mistake? Should I just talk to him about it some more?
We are both in college, and we have been exclusively seeing each other since we met.
No you did the right thing. If he truly cared about you, if he respected you enough abd liked you enough he'd want to be in a relationship with you. If he wanted to have kids with you one day, then he'd want to be dating you and only you. He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you because he wants to see other girls. And what kind of bullshit answer was that.. "I feel obligated to hang out with you." ummmm yeah, the reason people get in relationships is because they wantto get to know that person better and spend significant time with them. And yeah of course he is happier when he's not in a relationship with you he's happier because he hooks up with you and then goes over to another girls house. Honestly, I don't belive him. He's getting with other girls. But, I think when you guys are official there is some kindness in him not to cheat on you.
You deserve better. I'm sure your really pretty an have a great personality, abd lots of guys would love to really date you. He's playing games with you. And I think you realize all this too because it's been bothering you.
I know your worth more!
Hey you guys I just wanted to know if you think I am freaking out or not! ok so everytime I text a boy (that I like) and he don't answer or when I say heyy and he says hey but than don't answer back I freak out and I think he don't like me. Am I over reacting? I also freak out and think they don't wanna talk to me when I say hey and they reply hi, am I over reacting about all of this? -thanks Madison 13/f
I mean, your quite young, so boys are very shy at that age and don't really know how to talk to girls just yet. Next time you say hey and then they say hey, say like what's up or whatever you want to talk to then about. If they dot really respond or it's a one word answer and you think they should have answered more, then they probably aren't interested.
so to answer your question, yeah your freaking out for nothing ha see what happens after you try to make conversation.
Good luck!
ok. so last week i went and attended a gig in a club, in which a small local band was playing. i had been talking to the lead singer since the week before the gig and he told me to make sure i came up and said hello. but once i got there, and he was on stage and we were looking at each other i realised just how nice and gorgeous he is. i kept saying to my friend "hes so out of my league.." anyways i went up and danced, he came down off stage and high fived me ahaha not even high fiving my friend next to me who had her hand up. anyways we went to the bar and we were standing there looking and smiling, but i started blushing so i turned around. nerves get the better of me i guess. Then my friends came over and i went outside. i told myself if he comes outside that i will go up and talk to him. i was in direct view of the staircase leading to the outside. The guy walked halfway down the stairs, looked at me and walked back inside. he continued to do this 3 times. i was confused as to why he didnt walk down. anyway we left, me still not having said a single word to him. i sent him a message on twitter that night saying "sorry i didnt come talk, i was waiting for you outside" to get a message back saying "aww im sorry too, i was trying to come outside and say hi but i get to nervous around pretty girls hehe next time for sure though?" now im going to his gig tonight and i am absolutely freaking out! because i dont know if hes interested and what not. it will be interesting because i told him i couldnt make it but now i can, i havent told him ill be there now so im using the element of surprise. so when i go up and get the guts to talk to him atleast i can say i had a change of plans and could make it :) do you think i should go for it? he seems so nervous and set on me making the first move. but im even more nervous! help?
Aw band guys are my favorite!:) anyways, it defineitly seems like he is interested in you and wants to get to
know you! Be confident and talk to him, it sure seems like he wants to get to know you and is a shy nice guy. I've felt with band guys before. Since he's local, he isn't realy famous yet and probably doesn't really have a large fan base or groupies yet, and band guys who are only looking for sex, are straight to the point. They'll tAlk to you for a little bit, and then be like "hey wanna come check out the tour bus" sadly, my friend and I have both had this happen to us, but it's whatever, it happens. Usually only bigger bands will have the balls to do that. Bu local guys usually they don't. He seems nice, go for it:)
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Hey, well.. what kind of things are on this facebook group? is it sexual things you've done? or just secrets you've shared?
Sometimes the sex stuff they don't realize its even a big deal. I mean maybe instead of like playing games with him, just tell him that you know about the facebook thing and whatever else he is hiding, & just come out and say it. If i was in this situation, I would be mad too but I'm not sure if I would break up with him. I think you should just try talking to him, and just telling him how you feel about everything, and see what he says. If he doesn't come clean or doesn't apologize, then I think you should consider ending the relationship.
Hope this helps!
Okay so there is this guy i was set up with by one of my best friends. We finally met up without her and to both of our surprise it wasn't awkward at all. We were totally comfortable and had so much in common and think the same way. Ten minutes after my good friend called me and said she talked to him a second ago and he was raving about me and how he had never met anyone like me. This was great to me. He immediately texted me and for the past week we've been texting throughout the whole day every day and he always wants me to text first and said he wudnt treat me like shit like the rest of them. i am worried though like every girl ill be used, what are some signs that he wants a relationship?
Well, signs he is using you or is just trying to get in your pants..
-he calls you late at night and wants you to come over and "cuddle"
-he doesn't take you out on dates.
-he just wants to hang out at his house all the time just the two of you alone in the house
-he says I love you right away
-he tries to go too far with you too fast
-he doesn't want to stop kissing or whatever and tries to talk you into things.
-he doesn't call you often
-you guys don't hang out often and you know he is going out with his Friends (I don't mean like once, I mean like every weeked he cant hang out and makes excuses everytine you ask)
-he asks you out on dates and you do sexual stuff but he never asks you to be his girlfriend.
Basically, if he takes you out, seems interested, and you guys have a good time, it should be good. It seems like you guys have a good connection, so I wouldn't worry about it
Hes only a year younger than I am & I was hoping if i stay close enough to him that I could possibly ask him to prom which will be in May. I wouldn't ask right away of course.... How can I stay close with him? We are friends but now we both don't have one class together this year making it difficult.. He also has never had a gf before so shes shy & wouldn't ask me to hangout.. How can I take charge? Should I ask him to hang out as friends & see where it goes & have him get used to hanging out with a girl. I need suggestions. Thank you in advance.
I had a similiar situation as you do. Freshman year of high school, there was this beautiful boy who I found out was a junior. He was new to the schOol and sat alone at
lunch. I was shy and h didn't have any friends for them to introduce us or something like that. So me abs him would
make eye contact a lot, and one time he even came up to me. But neither of us said anything, haha. Then my sophmore year I was determined to talk to him. I thought of all these schemes ad tricks to make it work, and finally by the end of the year, I just went up to him and said hi and gave him a compliment. After that, we dated for a year and a half. We just recently broke up because he is going three hours awayfor school, and I didn't want to hold him back. He always told me how he was happy I made a move because he's so shy, he's not sure if he ever would have.
So my advice, is just be forward, I hate being forward and win the one to approach but sometmes you have to. Do you have his number or talk to him on facebook? If you two like the same band, text him o whatever and say "hey did you see so&so have a new song?" that's always a good way to keep things going. Compare your schedule, maybe you cab walk with eachother.
Shy guys always take more work!
Good luck.
Alright, well I am a seventeen year old female. I recently relocated back to my home town. The guy I had been crushing on from elementary school all the way up to 8th grade when we moved finally admitted to me that he liked me to when we came back. I've only been here about three weeks. When he found out I was here we hunng out a lot and he broke up with his girlfriend. He would call me just about everyday. Well last weekend we ended up sleeping together, kinda fast I know. Anyway after that he called me the next day and I wasn't home so that night I went over to his house and there were a few people there, I'm not sure who they were but I only stayed about 15 minutes. He acted very distant towards me. While I was there my ex boyfriend said some things that upset me and I was kinda quiet, I didn't mean to be. The day after that a bunch of people including me went swimming. He was there and barely acknowledged my presence. He said maybe two words to me. Then the next day he pulled up in my yard and revved his engine and then sped off. But hasn't said anything to me since that night. I know that if he calls and I'm not home he usually doesn't call again unless I go see him, he kind of backs off for some reason. I really like this guy and he said that he liked me to. What's going on and what should I do? I haven't heard from him in like 3 days.
To ve honest, I think since you had sex with him so fast, he got what he wanted and is done with you. Sadly, that's usually how some men are. I've seen it happen a million times. Sex is kind of like a game to guys. The lobgeryou
nake them wait, the harder they try to work for it. I'm sorry that happened to you. Move on abd try to find a nice boy who respects you.
okay so i have thought this guy was really hott for like ever but he is like older then me kinda by a lot. im 17 and he is 24. well one day he texted me and told me he thought i was hott so we hung out one day and we hooked up. well he has a fiance but he told me that they were bout to break up because they fight all the time and they do. she left for like a week then came back because her friend didnt want her there anymore. but then i got a wedding invitation in the mail so i asked him bout it and he told me he was done with me and everything so i have ben ignoring him but i see him like everywhere cause he like lives next door. so he texted me and told me that he still wanted to hang even thou he is getting married and i told him i cant do that he is getting married and he was like dont worry bout her? like what am i suppose to do. i know he is like only using me but he is sooo hot. and he told me he oesnt get a long with her and i know he doesnt cause i have scene it. but he is still gonna marry her anyway. what do i do? should i hang with him still?and how do i make him not get married if he doesnt wnt to?
You can't force him to do anything, first of all. You can give him your opinion about it but that's about it. I get he is hot and all but he is clearly just using you. Even you seem to realize that. There are plenty of other really hot guys who will like you for you. Respect yourself and your body. You can get any hot guy you want, one who will respect you :)
What does it mean for a guy to say you are naive when it comes to relationships?
You don't have much experience when It comes to relationships.
heres the deal, its been like 2 years i like this guy, but he always told me he didnt like me , it was very clear, so i turned for another guy who liked me before, and now dosent ,but i do..the thing is, he knows i love him, its not a young childish thing. So we became ''fuckfriends'' so i could get close to him , thinking it could help me, we did things that couples did, he used to hold my hand when i was sad, always be there when i wasnt feeling right, always cheering me up, saying he cared, saying i was beautiful, anyways the perfect thing...then when i told him i loved him more and more, he told me we couldnt do stuff no more, it hurted me so bad, more the fact that i think he dosnet really wanna see me no more. Hes the kind of guy who just wants sex, but still..i told him we were like a couple and he said no, and when i said why he cared so much, he said well were friends...but it dosent make sense..how can u be so close to a person, without loving him...(her, me) i try to go to other guys , i try to go back to the other one, i try to date, or do ''stuff' i just cant..i just have him in my head..i cant do nothing. and i already had eating disorders and stress problems, and i feel like there coming back cause im loosing him, he used to help me alot, anyways im going on and on..the story cant stop:P, i dont know what to do no more, moving on? tried...keeping my feelings to myself , tried, being a bitch to him so he could get it, tried...i tried everything! someone do somethoing;...!!:( im not dumb and young , 17 and being a girl...is really important...(it said to put our gender!:)
What you need is confidence and self respect. You need to believe in yourself and believe your beautiful. If you don't believe it, nobody will. Also, getting a boy to like you, especially horny little teenage boys, you def don't want to sleep with them. That makes them think you are easy, and once they get what they want, they lose interest. You need to walk away from this guy who used you. He isn't a good
person, and you should find someone who loves you and respects you. If you have an eating disorder, you need to get help. My friend almost died. I was with her and had to rush her to the hospital. She is still very sick and has a lot of health problems, but improving.
I hope everything works out for you, good luck
I've been seeing this guy for a while now. For eight months we were just friends with benefits, during these months he became my best friend, and then I realized I liked him. I admitted my feelings for him, he said he liked me too (but I already knew that because of his actions). A few weeks later I mentioned a relationship. He said no, he doesn't want one, because it might ruin our friendship, and he doesn't want one, but he still likes me and cares about me, and still wants to be exclusive.
Okay I said, I can understand that, I don't exactly agree with it, but I'll deal with it. But now my feelings for him are just steadily growing, and I want him to be an official couple with him.
I don't want to be wasting my time, and I know I'll only get hurt in the end. It hurts because my feelings are at a point where I am ready to take the next step, but I don't think he is. But its confusing because I know he cares about me. I just don't understand.
What do I do? I'm kind of at the point where I have to give him two options: I'm in his life as his girlfriend, or I'm not in his life at all.
I'm 19, he's 23. And we had this relationship conversation about two months ago, so I don't know if his feelings about that have changed, yet if they have, I would think he'd take the initiative and ask me.
A couple years ago, I had this exact problem. I realize now I should have never agreed to friends with benefits. I liked him way more then he liked me. And he said the same kind of thing to me as that guy said to you. I think he just likes using you. If he really liked you, he would want to have a relationship with you. The point of doing sexual things with someone, is to show them how much you love and care about them. That's the problem with friends with benefits it always causes confusing feelings. You told him what you wanted, and he said no. I think you should just walk away. It's not worth your time, and even if you gave hm an ultimatun, even if you do that though, he could say yes because he still wants to get some from you and then he might cheat on you because he felt obligated to be in a relationship with you. Date someone who respects you.
this might sound weird. but is it okay to make out with your best guy friend? because i read a lot of stories on yahoo answers about people that make out with their best friends but they arent going out. I want to do that with my best guy friend. so maybe if we do that. we might become bf/gf. unless it is wrong to do. but if its okay how would i start it?
please help. than you in advance.
Thaw not a good idea. I've done that before and I
lost my beat friend from it. The problem was was I was just wanting to fool around with him and did not want a relationship at all. He did. It just sends a lot of mixed feelings and stuff. If you really want to do that then you should ask him if he wants to have a friends with benefits relationship but no strings attached. Or if you like him more then a friend and want to have a real relationship you should tell him you like him.
Hope I helped:)
thanks for your advice. ive been told that before but its just hard. and to tell you the truth since ive never had a boyfriend (...or given the guys a chance) im a liiiiittle bit scared.) i know it gets easier later when you actually are used to haveing a boyfriend but i dont want to wait. im scared but anxious and these 2 things do not mix well with me. it really sucks and then i get depressed because my friends are all lovey dovey with their boyfriends. makes me envy that kinda connection they have. ahhh i hate my liiiife! haha just kidding, but it does get a little bit depressing sometimes.
Once again, I really know exactly how you feel. I remember some of my friends had boyfriends and I was so jealous, I wanted a boy to look at me like the way they looked at them. I had so many expectations. I thought they should be like those really romantic guys in movies. I remember getting kind of sad too. I distance understand why I couldn't find this perfect guy. I always thought "oh I know I bet the perfect guy will be in a coffee shop and I'll know he's the one" haha. I went to this little local coffee shop for a month straight. And I met a few guys there, and for some reason I'd push them away. They were either too smart, too artsy, too into themselves, too silly, too old, etc. Just excuse after excuse I would make. Some other advice I'll add is just wait. Don't really go looking. Love/relationships happen so fast. It's just when it's meant to be, it's meant to be. And once you get pretty involved with someone..it's very hard to get out of.
Good luck:)
Im 16. female. my friends have bfs. its killing me because i have been practically begging for one. im not desperate though, i mean i have standards and stuff. my friend calls me picky and i know i wont be able to find a perfect guy...but i dont want a perfect guy, just somone who is perfect for me. i just want one so bad. it seems like a juvenile problem i know, and i know i have plenty of years ahead of me for that but this yearning wont freaking stop! i want someone to love me and make me feel special. but there is no one around me that i want. so...i guess what im trying to ask is either how to get rid of this empty feeling i have and depression, or something. i dont really know. (ps. ive been asked out before. ha i kinda made it sound like no guys have ever liked me but they do. i just havent liked them back.
I know exactly how you feel. I never had a boyfriend for a really long tine because I invisioned this perfect guy. I would
only like guys who were lanky, tall, dark hair, green eyes, and pale. Oh an I preferred if they were artsy or musical. ..I know there is that kind of guy out there..but their are not very
many and not many guys fit that criteria. So basically, what I'm saying is stop trying to find this perfect guy. When someone asks you out next time, say yes. Just see what happens. I was set up with this one guy and I did not want to go on the date at all. Like fifteen minutes before he was suppose to come I was thinking of saying I was sick. I ended
up going and I'm completely in love with him now. He's the exact oposite of what I've wanted. Blonde hair, blue eyes, and a soccer player. Don't judge people right away, you never know what couldn happen:)
this might be kinda long so bear with me :)
i have just realized that the main reason why i dont get along with girls my age and dont even get any of them, is not because of me, its because of how they are. i realized that american girls are pretty much sluts, stereotypical, materialistic, insincere, self-centered, and only care about a guy with eitehr a full-on sixpack, or a guy with a ton of money. (Sorry, american women, that's just my opinion.)
i know this might not matter to me, or it shouldnt, but im only 16 years old and in high school, but i've dont some traveling to different countries to see what its like, and what people are like. I went to thailand last summer and all i can say about the people, wow. The men are so patient and calm and peaceful, the women are even the same. they are sincere, always smiling, and always helpful instead of just giving you attitude and scoffing in your face and rolling their eyes.
I went to england and the people there are so civilized. its so different that its unbelievable. The brits dont talk out loud and dont have attitude and dont confront random people in the park about whats bothering them. Its really comforting to be around them, same with Canadians.
i KNOW that you guys might think im being superficial, and kinda stupid like (everybodys different, nationality does change anything) but teh truth is, it does. All of the TV shows in america like, the real world, jersey shore, rock of love, and all of those reality shows influence american girls to dress like the people they see on tv, AND, act like them. Where as in England or parts in Canada, the tv doesnt broadcast so many graphic things as they do in America, And its not only TV, its the radio, music, movies, etc.
i'm actually considering moving to england or to ontario after i graduate high school next year for this reason, just to be in a betetr surrounding, instead of being scared to death in my southern california home wondering if some crook is gonna break into my car.
Again, SORRY to you people who think this is directed to you, its just my opinion. i know this was long, but i appreciate some advice, and some comments. And dont try to talk me out of moving out of the country, ive thought long and hard about it and made up my mind. Thank you!
I'm from America. I've lived here all my life, and I am not materialistic (or I try not to be.. because EVERYONE is too an extent.), I'm not a slut, stereotypical (try very hard not to be, and do a good job at accepting people, unlike you...), i'm certainly not insincere, self-centered, & i'm not really even attracted to guys with 'six packs' i actually find lanky guys more attractive. & for money..well, i'll admit, i don't want any ghetto gang guys from the hood, & i want someone who is as intellectual as me so we can relate..but after that, i could care less.
Don't you think you are being a little bit stereotypical yourself? How much of America have you seen? Have you ever been out of California? And visiting for a week doesn't count..
When you travel to other countries, of course people are going to be welcoming & nice! How do you expect them to act? When you see any foreigner you usually just act like that.. its kind of like a reflex, I suppose.
Where I am from, & I'll admit, I grow up in a very rich community, but all of my friends, don't do drugs, don't have promiscuous sex, & are probably some of the nicest people i've met. I really don't know too many people in my school (my school has 3000-4000 kids, one of the largest schools in the state.) who are even all that bad. Are there people in my school, like the ones you described? Yeah, of course, like they are in all communities..
You really can't judge all of America by one small place you live in. Also, think of all the positives America has. Whenever we have foreign kids, (a girl from Italy even sits at my lunch table) they always say how great America is, and how they hope to move here. We are so much more advanced in medicine and technology.
I just don't understand how you can make up these conclusions when you're only sixteen & really haven't seen much of America, & the small tourist places you went on vacation.
Also, your only 16, you really can't act like you know so much, when you haven't grown up yet, & really experienced a lot of different situations.
For the tv show, yeah I agree. I loathe MTV and all of its programs. Did you know they find the worst trashiest people they can find for their tv shows? So, for the tv thing, yes I agree.
But, I mean if you move.. what will it really solve? There will still be superficial, slutty, mean people where ever you go.
However, if you find this magical land where everyone is nice & loving, them please let me know, because I'd love to live there.
Some other cultures may be better, but just remember, they have there disadvantages as well, and you should make sure you are aware of them.
If you do decide to move, move to Denmark, I love it there. :)
Good luck, with whatever you choose.
I went out with this guy in 8th grade for a few months and we really liked each other. I don't remember what happened but I broke up with him, let's call him Jim. Freshman year was the first time Ive ever fallen in love. We dated for a long time, we'll call him bob. Bob broke up with me because it was gonna be summer and we wouldn't have any contact due to the fact that my grandma doesn't like him. We ran into eachother a few times after and everytime we would end up making out whether we were taken or single. In late October I ran into him and we were both taken but we hung out alone for like an hour, we ended up making out and he told me how he still loves me and he wants to get back with me. I ran into him on Friday (we both are taken once again) and he's friends with my boyfriend Jim, well now ex. We were with a group of friends an Bob kissed me and told THEM how he's still in love with me. He told me he wants to hang out with me but I'm not sure because both of us love each other an who knows what will happen..now back to Jim, we kept in contact since 8th grade (I'm a sophmore now) and he told me he used to always tells me how he loves me. I went back out with him again for like a month and I broke up with him on Friday night. He was "depressed" and he's been trying to go back out with me this whole weekend. Well today I found out he already has a new girlfriend! Now there's one more guy.. Before I went out with Bob I had feelings for another guy, I'll call him Chris. He had feelings for me too but I had more feelings for Bob. While I was dating bob, Chris liked me on and off. We were best friends for a little over a year. We would talk everyday and he'd call me every night. We started growing apart when I got expelled from our old school and we barely talked. I haven't had a long conversation with him for like three months. Lastnight I was on myspace and he randomly sent me a message. We were talking for a few hours and now he wanta to hang out with me. I'm so confused about all three guys. I font know what to do anymore :( Im kind of mad at Jim, I rarely see Bob even though we will always have a spark. When I'm with him it feels as if it's only the two of us and nothing bad could happen. It's weird. And I'm just not sure about Chris. I don't have a specific question I just need advice on what to do with all three guys..
Just go back with Jim. Throughout the past 3 years or whatever, it seems you just keep going back to him.. might as well try for a real relationship. If your family doesn't like him, then have him over or something to meet the family, & show them how great he really is.
Keep Chris as a friend, and make sure you tell him you just want to be friends. Bob is just upset that you guys broke up, and probably doesn't understand the sudden break up (if it was out of no where.) & just give him some space, he'll get over it.
or maybe, if that doesn't sound like a good idea to you, maybe you should just kind of distance yourself from all three, & decide which one you can't imagine being without. :)
good luck with whatever decision you choose!
18/f
with 18/m
How ridiculous is it for two 18, almost 19 year olds to move in together in our own apartment? We've been dating for a year and a half. I have problems with my parents but they seem to think there's nothing wrong but its bothered me enough that it stresses me out when I'm living there, so I spend 90% of my time at my boyfriend's house. Anyway, he wants to move in together but I feel like my parents would flip...I KNOW they would flip out. I was just wondering from an outside point of view, do I have a valid argument or is moving in with a teenage boyfriend completely ridiculous?
I wouldn't say it's the best idea. I mean I'm 17 (18 in 2 months) and I can imagine living with my boyfriend. When I first saw your question, I was like "yeah go for it, sounds fun!" but then when I really thought about it, I was like no I couldn't do that. First of all, if you did move out.. How responsible are you? I mean can you handle paying bills, buying groceries, etc. Personally, I couldn't haha. I mean I'm responsible.. But not that responsible. My one friend and her best friend got an apartment together and they forgot to buy so many little things like kitchenware and toiletries. Also, moving out isn't going to bring you and your family closer together.. I don't know how much importance that is to you, but something to consider.
Also, what are your plans for your future? Or what are you doing now? Are you in college? Do you plan to go to
college? Do you and your boyfriend both have steady decent paying jobs?
If your not in college, and you plan on it.. I strongly don't reccommend moving out. College is so expensive and living at home would allow you to save up some money.
If your not in college, what kind of jobs do you guys have? I mean if your working at mcdonalds or minimum wage.. I dint think moving out is in your best interest.
I think the people below me covered everything else.
But yeah, these are questions you should ask yourself, and i mean if you are very wealthy & don't care about your relationship with your family, then I would consider moving out!
Hope everything works out:)