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juvenile emptyness.. :/
Im 16. female. my friends have bfs. its killing me because i have been practically begging for one. im not desperate though, i mean i have standards and stuff. my friend calls me picky and i know i wont be able to find a perfect guy...but i dont want a perfect guy, just somone who is perfect for me. i just want one so bad. it seems like a juvenile problem i know, and i know i have plenty of years ahead of me for that but this yearning wont freaking stop! i want someone to love me and make me feel special. but there is no one around me that i want. so...i guess what im trying to ask is either how to get rid of this empty feeling i have and depression, or something. i dont really know. (ps. ive been asked out before. ha i kinda made it sound like no guys have ever liked me but they do. i just havent liked them back.
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You are not alone in wanting to have someone in your life who is special and who is into you and you are into. However this will happen when you least expect it to happen.
You have to figure out what you don't like before you know what it is that you really like. I always thought I wanted someone who did what I do and was taller than me and was jock and not into hunting and fishing and all that. However I went out with the guy that I'm now married to. He isn't what I thought I was looking for but he is the perfect person for me.
So go out there and meet all sorts of guys to find what is your 'Mr Perfect'.......go have fun with your friends and don't settle for anything less that what you deserve.
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I agree with you completely and I think that is the worst feeling in the world. about a week ago I gave up looking and felt like it wasn't going to happen for me. then this really amazing guy I've known for a while but never really thoght of him that way asked me out, when I said yes is was completly amazing. My advice would be to stop looking and just be yourself, you will never know if I guy likes you for who you are unless you can be yourself around him and he likes you anyway. Good things happen when you least expect it. :)
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I think everyone has felt the way you feel. Its a universal feeling. But as much as you might not want to hear it, at your age you really shouldn't be yearning. I don't think the problem is so much to do with wanting a boyfriend, but maybe a insecurity issue. You should focus on being happy by yourself without anyone else. Because that is the most true and permanent love of all. Boyfriends come and go. Love for yourself stays.
About getting a boyfriend...I have found that the best ones are always the ones that you just happen upon and you don't force anything. It just happens. Wheb you go out looking and searching for a boyfriend you get so wraped up in having one that you overlook the things you really look for and love in a person. The best things in love are the things that come most natural. The things that just kind of happen with fate. Those are the real true meaningful relationships.
So learn to love yourself before needing someone to love you. Don't make it a quest to find a boyfriend. And take everything as it comes and don't be too picky. Just go with the flow and enjoy yourself
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I know exactly how you feel. I never had a boyfriend for a really long tine because I invisioned this perfect guy. I would
only like guys who were lanky, tall, dark hair, green eyes, and pale. Oh an I preferred if they were artsy or musical. ..I know there is that kind of guy out there..but their are not very
many and not many guys fit that criteria. So basically, what I'm saying is stop trying to find this perfect guy. When someone asks you out next time, say yes. Just see what happens. I was set up with this one guy and I did not want to go on the date at all. Like fifteen minutes before he was suppose to come I was thinking of saying I was sick. I ended
up going and I'm completely in love with him now. He's the exact oposite of what I've wanted. Blonde hair, blue eyes, and a soccer player. Don't judge people right away, you never know what couldn happen:)
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