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American women vs. foreign women.
this might be kinda long so bear with me :)
i have just realized that the main reason why i dont get along with girls my age and dont even get any of them, is not because of me, its because of how they are. i realized that american girls are pretty much sluts, stereotypical, materialistic, insincere, self-centered, and only care about a guy with eitehr a full-on sixpack, or a guy with a ton of money. (Sorry, american women, that's just my opinion.)
i know this might not matter to me, or it shouldnt, but im only 16 years old and in high school, but i've dont some traveling to different countries to see what its like, and what people are like. I went to thailand last summer and all i can say about the people, wow. The men are so patient and calm and peaceful, the women are even the same. they are sincere, always smiling, and always helpful instead of just giving you attitude and scoffing in your face and rolling their eyes.
I went to england and the people there are so civilized. its so different that its unbelievable. The brits dont talk out loud and dont have attitude and dont confront random people in the park about whats bothering them. Its really comforting to be around them, same with Canadians.
i KNOW that you guys might think im being superficial, and kinda stupid like (everybodys different, nationality does change anything) but teh truth is, it does. All of the TV shows in america like, the real world, jersey shore, rock of love, and all of those reality shows influence american girls to dress like the people they see on tv, AND, act like them. Where as in England or parts in Canada, the tv doesnt broadcast so many graphic things as they do in America, And its not only TV, its the radio, music, movies, etc.
i'm actually considering moving to england or to ontario after i graduate high school next year for this reason, just to be in a betetr surrounding, instead of being scared to death in my southern california home wondering if some crook is gonna break into my car.
Again, SORRY to you people who think this is directed to you, its just my opinion. i know this was long, but i appreciate some advice, and some comments. And dont try to talk me out of moving out of the country, ive thought long and hard about it and made up my mind. Thank you!
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I understand where your coming from. You don't get on with people and wonder why they can't be nice, sincere etc
but to tell the truth, i feel like that too sometimes.. when i go to greece the people are so friendly and stuff... i think it is true though what the other person said, its because your a foreigner
Not so much england though, if you were to move somewhere I sugest manchester lol sounds abit biased but thats where i am from and i can tell you while you can find the odd superficial immature person , overall everyone is friendly.
Being from america doesnt change how you are, maybe it's the way they have been brought up, the school you go to?
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I'm from America. I've lived here all my life, and I am not materialistic (or I try not to be.. because EVERYONE is too an extent.), I'm not a slut, stereotypical (try very hard not to be, and do a good job at accepting people, unlike you...), i'm certainly not insincere, self-centered, & i'm not really even attracted to guys with 'six packs' i actually find lanky guys more attractive. & for money..well, i'll admit, i don't want any ghetto gang guys from the hood, & i want someone who is as intellectual as me so we can relate..but after that, i could care less.
Don't you think you are being a little bit stereotypical yourself? How much of America have you seen? Have you ever been out of California? And visiting for a week doesn't count..
When you travel to other countries, of course people are going to be welcoming & nice! How do you expect them to act? When you see any foreigner you usually just act like that.. its kind of like a reflex, I suppose.
Where I am from, & I'll admit, I grow up in a very rich community, but all of my friends, don't do drugs, don't have promiscuous sex, & are probably some of the nicest people i've met. I really don't know too many people in my school (my school has 3000-4000 kids, one of the largest schools in the state.) who are even all that bad. Are there people in my school, like the ones you described? Yeah, of course, like they are in all communities..
You really can't judge all of America by one small place you live in. Also, think of all the positives America has. Whenever we have foreign kids, (a girl from Italy even sits at my lunch table) they always say how great America is, and how they hope to move here. We are so much more advanced in medicine and technology.
I just don't understand how you can make up these conclusions when you're only sixteen & really haven't seen much of America, & the small tourist places you went on vacation.
Also, your only 16, you really can't act like you know so much, when you haven't grown up yet, & really experienced a lot of different situations.
For the tv show, yeah I agree. I loathe MTV and all of its programs. Did you know they find the worst trashiest people they can find for their tv shows? So, for the tv thing, yes I agree.
But, I mean if you move.. what will it really solve? There will still be superficial, slutty, mean people where ever you go.
However, if you find this magical land where everyone is nice & loving, them please let me know, because I'd love to live there.
Some other cultures may be better, but just remember, they have there disadvantages as well, and you should make sure you are aware of them.
If you do decide to move, move to Denmark, I love it there. :)
Good luck, with whatever you choose.
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Welcome to the true reason why dating in high school really shouldn't be that big of a deal, and why sex between teenagers is discouraged.
Because, you're all fucking stupid.
There's about an 85% chance that when you are older, wiser, and more life experienced you will realize that you keep running into slutty insincere materialistic bitches because you're not all that different from most of them and you're gravitating towards women who fit into the worst stereotypes because just like them you're a 16 year old who's been trained to believe stupid shit about life and relationships and the opposite sex and don't really know your head from a hole in the ground.
In truth, there is some truth to the accusation of American entitlement and arrogance. And some truth to your perceptions about the rest of the world.
Also keep in mind, that in the rest of the world people see you and think "it's an American who's both intelligent and well off enough to travel". Foreigners always, always get a different treatment. You think British girls don't shit all over British guy's dreams of romance regularly? They're people, just like everyone else, and while cultures change people largely do not. We're all subject to the same biological desires, drives, and impulses. We've all got some level of innate personality that's going to shade everything we do.
And as someone who HAS dated foreign women, they aren't all that much different. The primary difference between American women and European women is how they view sex. American women who haven't had/had much sex view their virginity and sex in general as "a gift to be bestowed upon the worthy" where European women view it more as a fun activity to engage in with people you like.
In other words, they are generally much more level headed when it comes to sexuality. Also much more accepting of orientations and quirks.
Once sex is on the table and not an issue under contention though, things change. You can't pretend it's a magical gift to be doled out on the worthy when you're living with someone or in a similarly serious relationship. It's part of relationship maintenance, and it's normal at that point.
That's when things even out and become about the same. Then, you're dating a person and trying to function with them. There will be ups and downs, fights and love no matter who you're dating, and everything is mostly determined by personality and individual desire.
You're 16 amongst girls who have been taught materialism and to hold onto sex and dole it out like gifting life itself. Most 16 year olds are not capable of seeing much past the world presented to them as they can understand it. You really aren't any different.
If you're seriously looking for an adult relationship (it sounds like you are) then you have to date adults. Generalizing about the children you are among isn't doing you or anyone else any good. And you're not an adult yourself yet, so just be a bit patient.
A bit of hope for the future. Once sex and adult relationships become the order of the day, most girls grow up to some degree, and become more than the vapid cunts who won't give you the time of day. Also, by then, girls want more than appearance.
Think about it. You're in high school. What do girls have to judge you on besides appearance and material? It's not like any of you have accomplishments, or your own lives, or anything else that adults base relationships and attraction on.
College will be better. Just don't go to a shitty one that anyone can get into unless it's absolutely huge. Plenty of awesome women in college, plenty of girls who reinvent themselves into nice people with values freshman year, plenty of opportunities for you to figure out that you don't know shit about what you're talking about in any real sense.
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I really don't know what advice you need, since you didn't ask a question and you've already made up your mind about leaving, but I'll give you my opinion. Please don't think I'm being rude, because I'm not. I'm just going to be honest. First, you live in Cali, so I'm assuming you're an American, so correct me if I'm wrong. Does that make you a stereotypical materialistic, insincere, self-centered slut? No, it doesn't. Because it really doesn't matter what country you're from. Yes, the area you're raised in can influence your attitude and the way you act, but there are rude and violent people everywhere, in every country. That's why there are crimes in every country, not just America. I know you said that nationality does matter, but do you have any proof of that, or is it just an opinion? I'd like to direct your attention to this article from 2009: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). I'm not sure how accurate it is, but whether it's accurate or not, it should still give you an idea that these countries can be dangerous as well. If not, you can also look at some news websites for different countries to hear about some of the crimes committed there. I'm not saying these countries are more violent than America, I'm just saying that you get bad people and crimes everywhere. And I can say that I am certainly not a slut, or any of the other things you've mentioned. I hate that you've had these experiences, though, but can I recommend you visiting some other cities in states in America to see if you can actually meet some good people?
I'm not going to tell you not to move because if you're not comfortable in this country, then you should absolutely move somewhere where you will feel safe, but don't think that everyone here is rude and stuck-up, because not everyone is. Also, my guy doesn't have a six-pack or a ton of money, but I still love him and wouldn't want anyone else.
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"i KNOW that you guys might think im being superficial, and kinda stupid like"
Yes.
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If you think all American women are like this,and if you think you can stereotype them all this way, you will have a hard time finding any american woman that will put up with you. Move to another country.
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