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I want to break up with him
(20yr old female)
I like a guy (Kevin). I have been talking to him for a couple of years now, though I never met him in person yet. It has been inconvenient to meet with him, and I have parents who are trying very much to protect me and dont allow me to meet with guys at all (unless they have met him and have gotten to know him).
I am in a relationship with a guy (Qua'Nell). He has been my friend for a while and has always hoped for a more than friend relationship with me. He is really sweet. I have hung out with him without my parents knowing, and eventually we arranged for him to come over to meet my parents, which he did.
I am going out with him because for a period of time I had thought that Kevin didnt like me anymore and was avoiding talking to me. So I told Qua'Nell about how I was sad about that. And he seemed he was waiting for a similar opportunity so that some other guy wouldnt be keeping me from being with him.
I like him alot as a friend, and I have felt some romantic feelings toward him and we kissed when we hung out; so I decided to say yes to him asking if we could be boyfriend and girlfriend now. I thought it would be best to move on and not dwell on Kevin, and I thought being in a relationship with Qua'Nell would make me happy.
But, like, the next day after I said yes to Qua'nell, Kevin texts me and apologizes for not getting back to me sooner. I told him I felt like he didnt like me much anymore, and he said that was not the case.
So now I know that the guy I rreally want does also want me still... but I am in a relationship with Qua'Nell, and he is such a sweetheart and I would hate to hurt him with a break-up. I want to see Kevin and I think we could do that soon, but it would be wrong. And I'm not sure if my friendship with Qua'Nell will be preserved after I break up with him.... Or maybe it would be wrong to even talk to him while I'm with Kevin.....
What should I do and how should I do it...??
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In my own opinion, I'd stay with your current boyfriend. If you do have feelings for him and he cares about you, then why leave him for some guy you haven't met yet. You have known him for awhile but what if when you do meet this guy, he's not all he's cut out to be?
Then you lost your relationship with this nice guy and the other guy is a jerk?
That's not always the case but you never know what happens.
This is all your choice though. If you really don't want to be with this guy, then don't be with him.
I hope everything works out for you!
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follow your heart.
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If you don't want to hurt Qua'Nell with a break up
then truely don't i think you should stay with him
because finding a boy that is a sweetheart is hard to find seeing as every boy is different i think you should stay with him for your boyfriend's sake it wouldn't be fair if you were to break up with him for another boy it's Kevin's fault he didn't get back to you sooner even though he aplogized to you plus you'd have to start new if you were date to Kevin your parents would have to meet him if they haven't already you've been through so much in your relationship with Qua'Nell it would truely be a shame if you were to break it off with him and it probably took you a while to get where your at now in the relationship talking to Kevin while your in the relationship isn't a good idea it would probably cause problems(:
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