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Q: Hey Advicenators-
I was 10, and in the 5th grade. Then in January, some boy who I never knew noticed was in my dance/music class came up to me, did some freaky hand thing. I called him idiot, he gasped, and was left speechless. Since then, I have loved him.

After that, he did all sorts of things. If I was absent, the next day he would say "Oh, so you're here today." When our teacher told us to pair up with a boy, he asked me, and I said no and hid behind the wall, so I wouldn't dance with a boy. He asked me my name. I would never tell him. He found out, by grabbing my books. He walked me to class. I still never gave in to him. He got left back though, and me being in the top class, graduated.

I thought I wouldn't see him, since I went to Junior High (weird I know, we graduate in 5th grade instead of 6th). Our Junior High is only 3 blocks away from my elementary school. I saw him countless times on the bus. He went to sixth grade when I went to seventh. He always was looking at me, and I would look at him.

Now, I'm in 8th grade about to graduate in two days. After that, I don't have to come back to school, but I will. He has the same S.S. teacher as I did last year, so I'm gonna hang out with my teacher for the whole 4 more days of school. I'm gonna try to talk to that boy. Hopefully, he will still talk to me.

I still love this boy. I have loved him since 5th grade, for more than 3 years, and my love never dies, or wears off. Other boys I've liked come and go from my heart, but his spirit never leaves.

My questions:

1. Did this boy ever like me?
2. Do you think I have a chance with him?
3. If he does talk to me, how do I spill that I love him?
4. What do I do if he rejects my love?

Sorry that it's so long.
Please answer, and Alpha345 a.k.a. Ryan, please answer this question. You say you know what love is.

I rate high.

that is like one of the cutest storeis i've ever heard and coming from only an 8th grader! im jealous. you phrased it beautifully, but anyways to the point.

1. he liked you so much that he took the time to pick you out of everyone and carry you books so a definite yes!

2. i think you have a chance with him, but you'll have to work hard to create a relationship because you've been kinda ignoring him for the past years. but im 99% sure he'll forgive you for that and take you right away!

3. tell him, ive been nervous all these years so i havent talked to you. ive actually really admired you.

4. if he rejects your love, tell him maybe that you 2 still have a chance of being friends and can hang out. and when your friends you might blossom into more. who knows?

Q: ok well my boyfriends birthday is coming up like really soon but i have no idea what to get him.

guys are so hard to buy for and i need help plz! lol

well my ex boyfriend extremely like my gift that i gave him for his birthdayl. i got a plastic tall box that said popcorn and it was red and white striped. im pretty sure they're still at target. then i filled it to the top with his favorite candy like reeses and starbursts. then i got him a $25 gift card to harkins or the most popular movie place where you live so you can go see movies together. he loved eating the candy and then he got his movies paid for when we saw them together. finally i wrapped it in celefame and tied tons of colorful ribbons and curled them . it looks extremely cute at the end! hope it helped.

Q: i told a guy i like him over 4 days ago and we haven't talked yet! well, we don't talk on the phone becuase we dont have eachothers phone numbers but we talk on aim a lot. i have to talk to him soon because waiting 5 days for something that i wanted to know 5 seconds after i told him. Do you have any ideas about what to do. and i don't want to sound like a stalker. lol

ask your friends to ask him about you. not like completely randomly bring it up, but casually. don't let it get awkward between you two, just because you told him you liked him. you should probably be close enough to bring it up again. IM him online and just be casual, "hey, whats goin on. anything new?" type of thing. then kinda start saying yeahh i think your cool etc. you wont sound like a stalker at all because you havent even talked to him in 4 days! thats hard to last that long without talking to someone you like, trust me i know. he should've responded, but maybe it was an awkward situation. it might be even more awkward if it was in person, so maybe keep it to aim. maybe ask for his phone number so you can get to know him better and not just on aim. i hope this helps, boys are funny how they act so hopefully he comes around and tells you that he likes you! hope it works out!

Q: (f/17)k so lots of people think this is weird, but i am a lesbian and still want to have my OWN children. i am in the most amazing relationship, we are very open and honest and she clearly said she wants kids, but doesnt want to be pregnant, but she thinks it is a beautiful thing to watch(see the belly growing,etc)and we have lots of plans for the future, we even picked a name for a boy, DAMIEN and the thing i have to ask is...
how would i get pregnant without a man?
ive heard about INVITRO-FERTILIZATION..but how does that work??
thanks

invitro is when they take the "egg" out of the woman and insert the sperm into it and then put it back into the woman. i would personally go with another type, articifial insemination (of which i am a product of actually, (mom is a single parent-never married, and the donor is unknown)). i am extremely happy she did it, cus without it i wouldnt be here. sorry this answer is more on the emotional effects of it rather than how it actually works. but all im saying that babies made in any form are a miracle, and without artificial insemination, i wouldnt be here.

Q: I like this boy who is 4 years older than me. I am 13 years old.He has alot of respect for me and everyone else. I think he likes me. Today he gave me a heart from his fingers and was trying to hug me. He is really funny.He doesn't go with anybody.I don't know if I should go with him because of the age difference. Should I go for it or what?

i really dont think so. at 13, i dated a guy one year older than me, and even that was difficult because he was more experienced and since i was young "wanted to teach me things". he was super nice and sincere, but when i think about it, the age thing just made him seem more in control and i kinda just followed his every move. it doesnt seem like it would affect you, but you feel kinda like you ahve to follow his role and he knows more than you. especially a 4 year age difference-thts huge when your in teenage years. im sorry but i think it would be in your best interest for you to stay with your own age group. ps 18 year old goin out w/ younger could be like date rape.

Q: Okay so i like this guy and he came over tonight with 2 of my other friends. and they left early and it was just me and him alone. but he didnt even try to kiss me. How do you like you all of a sudden start making out. i mean what do you just out of no where start kissing i mean. what are some ways if your siting close to get him to kiss you.

wow sounds like me. i have this little "study group" and one of them is my ex whom i kinda like now. so my parents left and we were alone-and we wre talkin bout sexual things but we never did anything...kinda sucks huh? but anyways for advice. sounds cheesey but look into his eyes-people get the hint there. then lean in a little bit. start sitting in a tight space together so your bodies are pressed close to eachtother. also before talk about intimate stuff, like boyfriends/girlfriends. maybe mention you like him (if he already doesnt know). give him little hints by touches, words, and being close and flirty! hope it works!have fuN!

Q: My boyfriend just broke up with me because he said' " i dont think it will work because, you know im going into to high school & your still in middle school" because im in 8th grade and hes in 9th. Plus insead of me being in his profile now its about another girl. and im really reallly sad because i think hes cheating on me. is there anything i can do to make me feel better :( thanks. xoxo

wow that was kinda like what happened to me. same age thing. but no one broke up-it just kinda went off without us saying it officially. it really just takes time. i somewhat still kinda have a thing for him, but i think waht im really missing is having someonea always there for me at 3 am to talk to, or just someone to say i love you to me meaning it and its not family. once you get a new boyfriend or move on it will all go smoother. just remember your gonna move on to hs next year, and you can overcome this. talk to your friends, and listne to music. just remember that hes not worth your tears, and your better than him. just handle it well and dont be trashy to him cus your just not handeling it well then. and if youre goin to the same highschool eventually-come back and show him wow-i shouldnt have dumped her last year. hope this helps!

Q: 13/m. me and my girlfriend have been going out for two months now. but im a pagan which most people think is devil worship but thats really not the case. but the point is shes christian and i dont want her to think im a devil worshiper, cuz im not, and break up with me so should i tell her about my religion or keep it ro myself?? plz help me

you should never be ashamed of who you are. but *some* christians and maybe her parents are kinda closed minded and maybe dont want her dating you. if she really accepts you for who you are, she wont mind. if it comes up or she asks you about it, i would tell her and explain to her about your religion. also im not positive of your religion.it seems familiar to me but i really dont know anything about it. if you dont mind please write me something and send it to my inbox explaining your religion customs or practices or whatever. i think its cool that you are different than her but still try dating her. hope it all works out! please write back!

Q: I have a boyfriend but it is extremely hard to spend time with him since I am so busy in the summer, and have to spend time with family. I feel like we are growing apart from each other. Should I break up with him, or stay together?

usually what i do is breakup for the summer because you never know if hes lying to you because you dont see him as much. and he could be hooking up with someone on vacation. it really depends on your relationship though. if you havent been goin out for a long time, and you guys arent that serious, i would break up with him and give yourself a break and try to look for some new guys for the school year. but if you guys have been goin out for awhile, and you guys just feel like you dont have much time to see eachother, i would wait it out because if you guys go to the same school, everything will start rolling again and you'll have time to see eachother. trust your heart, if you feel like its not goin anywhere, just break up and be free. hope it works out!

Q: OK....i am like BOY CRAZY....yet sometimes i look at girs but i still really like boys and i get crushes on boys all the time...im confused does this happen to a lot of ppl?? PLz help i rate high!

im guessing your a girl. yes that happens to basically every girl. youre looking at those girls because theyre pretty, and you kinda wish you had some of their features. i mean you can tell a girl thts pretty, so you probably wana look at them. and plus im guessin ur a teenager-and a lot of girls are "curious" at that time. you like guys...dont worry. it happens to me-im a teenage girl. i love guys, but i look at girls-i know a pretty girl when i see one. im not into her or whatever, just wishing i had some of her features or whatever. hope this helps!

Q: Why are boys so... i dont even know what word to use.. i mean they tell you they love you just to get in your pants! and they are sooo confusing, they bring so much pain but i still want them! ... grrr, am i making any sense? all i truley want is this...
i want a boy---
who can wrestle with me
and let me win.
who i can talk to about anything.
who laughs at my jokes.
a boy who puts my cold hands
in his warm hoodie pockets.
who lets me use his sweatshirt
for a pillow.
who buys me 25 cent rings,
and sticky hands.
who says i love you & means it.
who will kiss me in the rain,
in the sunshine, and in the snow.
who calls unexpectedly.
who will have many inside jokes
with me and remember each one.
a boy who notices girl's haircuts.
who realizes that girls say things
but dont always mean them.
who i can go swimming with
on hot days.
who can tell me his problems
and let me help.
who will listen to me talk--
about the new nail polish i got.
who will bring me seashells
from the beach.
who will let me beat him up
when i get angry.
who writes love letters to me,
but doesn't send them.
who draws pictures and slips them
gently into my locker slot.
who saves his genuine, big smiles for me.
a boy with deep eyes,
that can see through faces into depths.

who wears baseball hats and
lets me wear his too.

who gives me his t-shirt to change into
and not expect to get it back.
who knows my favorite color, song,
car, vegetable, perfume and
the color of my toothbrush.
a boy who will shake my dad's handand look my mother in the eye.
who will call me by my full name--
first, middle and last.
a boy who will kiss me and
tell me i'm beautiful.
a boy who will let me cry to him.
who will squeeze my hips just right.
who suprises me and compliments
my manicure and plays with my hair.
who knows when i have a math test
or when i fail one.
a boy who smells like
he just stepped out of the shower.
who tells me i have a nice laugh,
and a smile that lights up the room.
a boy who's simply mine to hold."
that is exactly what i want!
why cant i get that?

holy god is that amazing. seriously if i had a guy like that...which idk if i ever will. but id be the luckiest girl on earth. hey guys like that-im single if your single.

Q: im going to a birthday sleepover party tonight for my friends (they are twins: one boy on girl) and after their parents go to bed the guys are going to hang with the girls and play a game called seven minutes in heaven.

my questions:
what the heck is that?
how do i play it?
and what do i do in the seven minutes?

WILL RATE

BTW: im 13/F

7 mins in heaven is a kissing game. theres many ways you can play it. like you can also spin a bottle and whoever it lands on you have to makeout for 7 mins. or people can just go with another random person and makeout for 7 mins. or the host pairs up the people to makeout for 7 mins. sometimes people go in closets to makeout also. and what you do in the 7 mins is makeout... if you're not ready dont do it. theres nothing worse than ruining your first kiss (if it is your first kiss) on a game that you didnt want to play. if the guys nice just tell him im not comfortable, or tell the host you just want to sit this one out. your 13, so most likely everyone will understand.

Q: my bf && i have pretty much made if a habit to talk everynight past midnight. i have my cell on vibrate (i have free min) & he calls from his house. we hadnt gotten caught after 3 nights of that but today when my dad woke me up, he saw the phone on my bed & asked why so i said it vibrates at night b/c i was still half asleep. i dont know what else to tell him if he asks! ok so we are on a plan that we share and he pays...will the time & number of the call show up on the bill? please help! any info is important!!

wow you sound like me. i kinda was with a guy older than me (only 1 year though), and we used to talk late late late into the night-sometimes until 5! and i also put my fone on vibrate and did exactly what you did. i just looked at my fone bill, im not sure if yours is different or not, but mine shows the time and the number of who called.but for time, it didnt say like 10:00pm -12:00 am. it just said 55 mins, or however long you talked, not the exact time from when to when. yeah i got worried so i took my phone bill without my parents seeing. so yeah just be careful. sry if what i said was confusing!

Q: is it wrong if you are 15 yrs old and have a 25 year old boyfriend??everyone tells me that its wrong..

sry to say but it is. most likely he is using you, maybe not, i dont know your situation. but a 10 year age difference is huge, especially when you are 15. you might want to take other peoples advice and date someone more around your age. no more than 18, because if you date someone 18 or older and they do something to you that you report, its considered "date rape." i hope everything works out!

Q: Girls: Do you think it would be cute for a guy to ask before kissing a girl? Would you find that cute or weird?

awwww the guys a cutie. depends on situation, but mostly it would be cute. dont ask a lot for sure, but especially if its her first i definetly think its cute!

Q: ok i have this g/f and i really care for her and i even love her but i dont think she understands exactly how much i care she is always flirtin with other boys and she gots mad at me all the time and i dont kno wat to do she says she really cares for me too and at times she shows it but at other times i fill like im not even datin her i have tried to tell her and talk to her but then she gits mad at me...please help me

if shes not giving her time in the relationship, you shouldnt be wasting your time. i know you love her and its basically impossible to give up a really good relationship. but you hve to realize that you deserve better than her, and she doesnt deserve your love. i wish guys were more committed in relationships like you are. she should NOT be flirting with other guys, and when you try to tell her that she should listen and really try not to flirt. i really hope you work out this situation and hopefully it will all go well. please tell me how it goes!

Q: okay heres the downlow. Whenever my boyfriend is around girls he always flirts with them, even if i'm right there. then when i talk to him about he'll either say i never did that or oh i'm sorry i won't do it again, but he never changes! I don't know what i should do. Part of me wants to break up with him and another part of me doesn't! So what should i do!!??

I'm 13,Female

what i would do is breakup with him. you definetly deserve better than him! if you're doing everything for him, he should be doing everything for you. not flirting with other girls! especially in front of you. hes not giving you his best, so hes just wasting your time. your totally better than him and he doesnt deserve your lovin. i was in a sim sit...the guy wasnt working as hard as i was in the relationship and finally i let it go because i knew i could get someone better. try to find the strength to let it go and find someone better. hope this all works out!

Q: Well i broke up with my bf after we dated for 7 months i felt like i wanted to experience more things so i broke up with him.. and now im dating him again and i dunno if i rly love him in my heart i see us starting a family together but i kinda feel like i want some1 new but im not for sure.. wat should i do??

im not sure if this is the most brilliant answer or the best, but this is what i would do. i would ask the guy if you can have a break because you want to explore your options. make sure to explain its not completely splitting up, because your just not sure if hes totally the right one. what your doing would just be confirming that if you kiss another guy, and its not the same as kissing him, its dull and isnt his kiss, it means that you really do like ur bf and he probably is the right one for you. since in your heart your not sure, hopefully he would understand that and give you a break. its not right to think about starting a family with someone who youre not sure if you want or have doubts. i really hope the best for you and hope everything goes well.

Q: okay i'm only 13 but i have a lot of problems. this guy asked me out like an hour ago. i kind of know him..but not that well...but he seems really nice and caring and he really likes me a lot. the problem is that i feel weird. i kind of like him, but theres some other people i kind of like too. he seems to care about a lot and really like me. should i give him a chance? i feel really guilty..but should i keep going out with him for awhile and give him a chance?

well you kinda like other people too, so id try figure out your top 3, and if hes in it, try to get to know him better since you "kind of know him." i think you really need to get to know the person before you start dating them. get to know all the people you like before so you know what their about and how they will treat you, but leave some room to figure out stuff about them while your dating them. id give him a..."not right now i just need to figure some stuff out" answer. then this week figure out who you like. then if he still likes you and you figure out hes the one for you, tell him your ready. hope this all works for you!

Q: theres this guy whos gonna ask me out on valentines day hes going to give me a rose and bear and a kiss. what shuld i do and what should i wear?

im not trying to be rude but isnt valentines day in february? and isnt that really really far away? ill answer anyways...when anyone gives you a gift, especially all those love gifts. just act really thankful and say how much of a good friend they are. be responsive and dont act like its nothing because its a big deal to them. for clothes...id just say go with a skirt and a cute top. if its cold where you live, go with jeans and a flirty top with a cute jacket. hope all this helps!

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