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My name is Abby. I'm 14. I am a freshman at DHS. I live in MA. I like to sing dance, write songs and poetry and I play softball.

I can give you advice on friendships, school, sports, things on your appearance, and relationships/love life.

I'm here to be honest, and give REAL advice. I won't lie to you to make you feel better about yourself, I won't tell you that you are gorgeous and perfect, and I will not judge you just because of some of the things you ask me advice about are sleezy and what not.

If you have any questions just come to my inbox. I'll be happy to answer them =]

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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my ex boyfriend jesse who is also 17 years old and I broke up,but we still like each other,the only reason we broke up is becouse his mom dosn't want us seeing each other anymore becouse she dosn't think iam good enough for him becouse my mom dosn't make as much money as she does his mom makes over 8 dollars an hour and she's always bragging about it and my mom only makes minimum wage which isn't very much at all so how can I make her see that the money dosn't make the person it's how the person acts?

If you love your boyfriend, money shouldn't be an object. Seriously, who cares about money. It's not you who's working at minimum wage. That's why kids go to school to better their lives, and get a career. Its not like you guys are married and you support him. I would talk to your ex boyfriend and tell him how you feel, and that you think this is unfair. He's 17. He can make his decisions on his own now. Especially when who he dates has nothing to do with his mother. Let his mother brag. She brags because thats all she has. MONEY isn't everything.

Try to improve who you are to impress him more. Tell her straight out how you feel. Call her up and talk to her. Really, it's your mothers life, not her. If she's supporting you and you are turning out fine what's the big deal.

You shouldn't have to prove to her your good enough for her son. And let her know that.

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im a female thats 14.I know a guy named robert that I knew since 4th grade.He's my bestfriend and I really care about him.Near the beginning of 5th grade I found out from one of his friends that he really likes me.Robert didnt know his friend told me and he didnt want me to know...yet.I just acted like I never knew he liked me and nothing changed.

A year later robert and i got to go to the same m-school,and we started to hang around more.robert was really shy for some reason and people started to tease for that.I stuck up for him and people stopped cause i was one of those people that every one called `popular`.he started to like me even more and he finally got the courage to ask me out.I said yes cause i started to like him too.

Now 2 more years later wich is right now weve been going out since then.I find out he's cheating on me with some bitch.and then i find out its true.I break up with him and tell him i dont even want to be his friend.he is pretty emotional so i find out from one of his guy friends that he was crying in the bathroom.im one of those people that hate when people cheat but im also a nice person that hates to see people cry.he ends up going to my house after school and begging for me to forgive him.i tell him ill think about it.now should i forgive him or not?

You guys went out for 2 years, that's really long for young kids. I'm 14 too. If I were you I'd invite him over, and ask him why he did it and talk to him calmly about it. I'm not telling you to go back to him but I think you should accept his apology, be a little more distant, and within time if you still love him and want to be with him than become friends with him again. Don't run back to him thought, let him come to you.

If you guys were friends that long he should have a reasonable excuse. I don't think cheating on anyone is acceptable but I deffinately think if you guys were best friends since 4th grade letting a friendship go to waste isn't worth it.

Just talk to him and try to get over him. If you can't then you most likely will want him back. Give him a second chance if you think he's worth it.

If he ruins your trust again then you'll know that you can't even be friends with him. He needs to know he was wrong so give it some time before you guys get back together or become friends.

Sincerely, Abby =]

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hey I am 13 almost 14 and over the summer i fell in love with this guy and he really liked me to and we finally planned a dat and everything and then my friend x friend now stepped in and old this guy all this bad stuff about me that isnt true and i was so mad so then he told me nothing could happen and we could only be friends .... But the biggest proboblem was he was my 1st Real love what do I do I cant stop thinking about him and when I do I cry .....I also find it hard to talk to him like I use to when we were just friends please help me!!!! (I am from Canada)

Talk to your ex friend. Ask her what she said, and tell him that seriously, everything she said wasn't true and she only said it because she was jealous and she is mad because you guys aren't friends anymore. I'm sure he stil has feelings for you, it's just because of something she said made it really bad.

If I were you, I wouldn't fight with your ex friend, blow her off and act like it doesn't phase you. You don't need that bitchy drama in your life. You deserve a better friend than that.

Also, tell this guy how you really feel about him. Tell him that you think it's unfair to not give you a second chance, and how he didn't ask you if any of it was true. He just went straight to believing that asshole.

Get him to like you again like he did before. Be completely honest to him about everything, and tell him the truth if he wants to know something. He needs to know he can trust you before having a serious relationship with you.

I really appreaciate you coming to me with your advice. If you ever need anymore feel free to IM me at BabyyGqirlx3

Sincerely, Abby

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ok i am 15 1/2 and my bf is 16 1/2 can my mom turn him for rape if we have sex? i live in california

No. He isn't 18. It's illegal once he is 18, but your mom could punish you and not allow you to see him anymore if she finds out. And you're 15, why do it until you know you are old enough, ready, and in love. If you know you are ready and you deffinately love him then do it, but is it worth getting caught and in trouble?

goodluck

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f/13
this guy is to younge for me to go out with and he was so flurting with me and i really like him should i ask him out??

yeah.. if you like him what's the big deal, age aint nuthin but a number. WHO CARES? it's your business not anyone elses. DEFF GO FOR IT.

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13/f
After the break up he seems to look at me alot.. and then ignores me, and then the 3rd day after the breakup he seems happier than i am. Alot of people says that he regrets it, and even my ex said he probably does cause its a guy thing. He aimed me and said that we can still be friends, but when i aimed him back he ignores me. AGAIN. i just found out today that hes 2 faced, and why he broke up wit me..
why?
okay.. well he thought that i was flirting w/ another guy.. when my sister says that shes sorry if i do cause i got it from her.. and thenn i just found out today by his friend.. he could of told me to stop so i could change instead of saying "its over." and he leaves me there wondering why and i try to be friends wit' him but he pushes me away.
i hope he regrets breaking up wit' me.. does he regret it?? if he doesn't, how can you tell.. that he regrets it. Aim:
: what happened?
him: mary
: ?
him: STFU!
: .............
: wthhhh?
PLEASE HELP ME.. ive never been this sad before, and its making me more sad.

OK? JERK MUCH... If you don't think you were flirting it was most likely innocent. And besides, he im sure has flirted with other girls, its natural. And if he looks at you, he does regret it but he's too stubborn to admit he was wrong. If he ignores you its because he is big headed and doesn't want to feel like he was wrong so he won't talk to you about it. Just IM him and say, wtf is your problem, I obviously liked you, and if I didn't I'd tell you, so why are you being a jerk, the least you could do is be MAN enough to tell me why you dumped me. Get your head out of your ass and grow up. - This way he will deffinately feel like a jerk and know he was wrong.

After that don't really talk, if you see him say hi, smile, and walk away. Act like he isn't important. Don't let him get to you because if he sees he is he will be happy.

TRUST ME.

good luck with it. I hope I helped

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I'm obsessed whith a boy who doesn't even like me anymore. He and i used to like eachother and we hung out everyday, talked on tha phone and stuff. But now we hang out like once every 3 days, & rairly talk on the phone. I try calling him but he always says "oh i have to do this i'll call you later" but he doesn't call. So then i'll start to think maybe i'm annoying him i should just give him some space, so i won't call him but then he calls me and asks me to hang out but i'm busy with someone else. and so the other day i was like wow we never talk anymore and he said oh it's cause your too busy for me..& so now all i want to do is sit at home and wait for him to call because i really really like him.but now i'm wasteing my summer waiting for him to call. please someone help me not be so obsessed because i know he doesnt like me as much as i like him and i just want to know what i should do?

Seriously, call him, tell him straight out the next time he says I'll call yo later be like, well I won't be home waiting for you just because you know I'd wait. And then say you either like me or you don't, what's it gonna be?

this really shouldn't be all on you because it's his fault that you're busy. You didn't do anything wrong and if he's not calling you back then he's an idiot. He knows exactly what he's doing. You can still like him but seriously, don't waste your summer because he's being a jerk.

Talk to him about it and if it doesn't change find some friends to hang out with more, and start talking to other guy friends that have potential.

GOODLUCK

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okay, well i went to this one school up until 5th grade. i moved to a bigger city, and believe me, I CHANGED. at my old school i was popular, but everybody was, because about 400 people lived in the city, and there were about 15 kids in every grade. i had a couple little boyfriends, but i was young and they moved away. Well, my new town was BIG and everybody only cared about appearace. well i was pretty, wealthy, but never really realized it cuz nobody really cared at my old school. (dont worry im getting to it!!) in middle school i was very popular and all the guys liked me!! but when i moved back at the end of 7th grade, none of the guys asked me out. im not mean, because i get along with them GREAT!! all my friends say im cool, pretty, fun, nice, etc. so why do the boys with high standards like me, but the boys with low standards dont?

Do you brag a lot sometimes... just talk to some of the guys... I'm sure they like you. They're probably just intimidated because you've changed. If you like someone then go for it. Who cares, the worst that could happen is if they say no. Just try it. You never know.

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Aight i liked this girl and we went out a couple of times to the movies and dinner but i dont know how or if i should make a move to kiss her. We go out to the movies a lot so when would be the perfect time to make my move???? PLZ HELP!!!

Well for starters, I'm a girl so I know that girls are very easy to please. Call her like all the time to make her feel important. Invite her to another movie soon.. Pay for it yourself, buy her a drink or popcorn, and tell her she looks beautiful.. If she smiles and says awww thankyou than you obv. know she likes you. So while your watching the movie put your arm around her, and if you guys walk around like after hold her hand. And at some point just kiss her. Look her into her eyes and tell her that you like her a lot. Then kiss her. Awww it would be so cute haha, I'm like getting excited for you.

GOODLUCK hun

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Ok, the thing is I've become pretty good friends with my crush. We've hung out many times, and I've brought my friends at times too and he's met them. But now school is starting, and I'm afraid of him meeting some of my other friends, because honestly, I'm afraid he might start liking them. A lot of them are prettier and have good personalities. I know it's an insecurity of mine, but it's really bothering me. I don't know what to do, any advice will be helpful.

I understand where you're coming from because I am very insecure. I have like 0 self esteem, and even though I know I am pretty, my best friend is WAY prettier than me, so it's really tough to get guys to like me. If a guy likes me right away he likes her too so it sucks.

What I think you should do is flirt with him more, show him the real you, let him no you like him, and get him to feel the same way without coming on too strong. Hang out with him as much as he wants to, or as much as you can. Do little things to boost your appearance and try to feel better about yourself because guys really don't like girls with low self esteem. But don't be conceided either!

Hope I helped.

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how do you break up with someone you`ve been dating for 9 months and what are some easy tips for getting over someone?
thanks.

well its not that simple.. why don't you want to be with them anymore? like since you weren't specific all I can say is, sit them down, tell he or she how you feel, why you wan't to break up, and that if you still can be friends, try to be.

To get over someone, start hanging out with new people, or friends that you had ditched out on while you were with that person, and obv. find soemone you can crush on.. don't really talk to your ex for a while, and try as hard as possible to forget about your memories with that someone.

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im not so sure how to talk to a guy. im gonna be a sophmore this year and im switching schools. there was no problem at my old school because i knew everybody since Pre-K. but im prob gonna see a guy i like and wanna go talk to him but wont be so sure how to. no scratch all of that. how do i talk to anyone i dont know. im afraid im not gonna have friends too. im not a shy person on friends but i dont know how like the girls are. mean snobs or whatever. i really dont have any prob with girls just guys. at my old school everybody pretty much liked everybody wasnt really any mean person. just like the same. i would like to make new friends though. am i just supposed to go up and say hi and talk to him and be like im new here and what if he is a jerk or something and like does somethin mean or whatever. now at my other school i would just do it but then again i knew him and like what he liked or whatever. i just dont know how to handle new ones. it would be nice if i could like learn how to get him to like walk me to class or sit with me at lunch but... any ways please give me good answers. most of the time they arent that great. thank you to anyone who helps. by the way i start next week.

Well, I don't know how it feels to go from knowing everybody since Pre K to going to a new school and knowing no one; But i do know how it feels to have to make new friends all the time.

To make friends, be nice, curtious, polite, funny, and obviously yourself. Introduce yourself to people. If you get lost ask someone where to go and when they give you your answer or show you, tell them about yourself, or ask about them. I'm sure someone will come talk to you if you look like a nice person. The key to gaining new friends is staying away from drama and keeping secrets. And most importantly, be yourself, don't lie to gain popularity.

It's easier to talk to a guy if you become friends with them. Get to know them better by talking about them. Then when he says something you like, tell him you like it. Like if his favorite sport is football, and its yours - tell him its your favorite too. It's really not that hard. Once he knows that you have a great personality, let him know that you are interested, without telling him. Flirt with him, boost his confidence. Be mysterious and leave him wanting for more. Compliment him A LOT. It's that simple.

If you are nervous and quiet no one will talk to you. Be yourself and don't be afraid. It's really easy. Hopefully my advice helps you!

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Ok..im 16 and ive never been kissed. Or lets change that..ive never "madeout" with anyone. And im talkin to a couple of guys and theyre askin me on dates n stuff and i wanna go but i know theyll make a move on me and then i wont kno what im doin! Im already behind..because im 16 and most ppl have madeout already. What do i do about this?

well im 14 and i never gotten kissed until this year, neither peck or make out. But if I were you I'd tell them that you havent because most guys like innocent girls and what not. You shouldn't be scared. All you have to do is let them make the move, and the massage their tongue with yours. I dont know.. it sounds weird but it works.... I WAS TOLD I WAS A GREAT KISSER first time i kissed anyone, if it helps. Dont be worried!

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why do we cry over a guy?
when i listen to a slow jam its always remind me of my crush and makes me cry so much hes a great guy but he didnt like me back do i really love/like him or just infatuation?
and when im around with my friends and when im sad but i pretend to be happy why?

I think its most likely that you really like him / infatuation. I do the same thing. It's because when I hear a sad love song it reminds me of all our memories and why things didn't work out. And for the reason of being sad but pretending to be happy, is because when you are with your friends you are supposed to be having a good time, but you can't stop thinking about the boy you like; but instead of ruining the fun you go along with everyone so that way you wont be alone and more upset.

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Okay- I'm 13/f and I know a boy who is one of my best friends and I really like him we had a relationship before but it didn't work out - we were like....9 so of course it didn't but I'm starting to get the feeling that he likes me. Like he stares at me until I look at him then he looks away- or hes always defended me but now that his cousin has come down to visit (he's not to nice) when he gets mean he defends me as much as I defend him- and he is starting to stand next to me when i around- he blushes when I'm around- when I sleep(his sister Is my BFF) over at his house(we all sleep on the floor its like a normal thing at their house) he tries to sleep next to me(blush)-and when we talk he looks deep into my eyes and acts like I'm the only thing in the world that matters. Do you think he likes me and Is to shy to ask me out? Because I'm to scared ask him.

I can't say it positively, but I'm pretty sure he likes you. When guys look in your eyes and pay attention to what you have to say, it's usually because they care A LOT about your opinions and/or whatever is on your mind. I think you should have his sister ask if he likes you, or if you are brave enough, ask him casually. Don't be scared because if you are shakey it could ruin the friendship. And even if he doesn't like you, he must really care for you as a friend. Just tell him how you feel. You are thirteen, what's the worst that could happen?

Hope I helped..

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So i really liek this kid thats 2 years older than me..and i think he might have an interest in me..but we used to be able to talk for hours and now..when he signs on i get a weird feeling in my stomach..and i can never get him off my mind. and now i dont know how to IM him. I really like him..and his one close friend said he did. But, i dont know if i should get more info out of his friend or not. Please help!

I think I've answered like 5 of these questions already lol; NO AGE ISN'T NOTHING BUT A NUMBER! If you think he is interested go for it! Who knows, he could like you. 2 years isn't a big difference.. Trust me, I know from first hand. Be available, but not desperate. Talk about him alot. Don't be shy though because guys hate that. Guys also don't like girls who are too quiet, too shy, or slutty. They like innocent girls who don't have too much experience. Be flirtacious with him, but at the same time let him know that if he doesn't like you, act like you don't care. Let him know he can trust you, and count on your friendship. Boost your appearance for when you see him as well! And be calm about talking about him.. think about it. He's just a guy! Yeah you like him, but if you get too nervous you will act extremely dumb!

Hope I helped!

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When I talk and flirt with a boy, he usually flirts back. Then I jump on the fact that he likes me just as much as I like him. How do I chill out, and idk, "play that game" where it doesn't seem like I'm desperate to be with him. Sometimes I can scare guys away like that, what should I do?

Guys like it when you fluff their style. Tell him that he looks good, smile and walk away or change the subject. Flirt lightly, but don't come on too strong. Don't touch them too much or act too available. Be available, but not desperate.. do you get what I'm saying? Well if you don't what I mean is, show him that you are interested but if he doesn't like you back, act like you don't care. HOPE I HELPED

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would it be wrong to date a guy a year younger than me. the thing is he lives in my neighborhood and me and his sister and others all hang out. would that be wrong.

Absolutely not. If he likes you and you like him whats the big deal its only a years difference, and age aint nothing but a number! Don't worry about it! GO FOR IT!

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14/f. i really don't want to come off as full of myself or anything because i'm definitaly not. but i've kinda started to notice that a lot of guys stare at me (in a good way lol), or check me out. like at the beach two REALLY hot guys were checking me out (and its not like i have a really good body or anything like that). even my parents noticed them checking me out. and i've been noticing this going on a lot lately. but the problem is that nobody even notices me like that at school. i think it is because i'm shy.

so my question is...do you think that the guys at my school don't notice me like the other guys do because they actually know my personality and they know that i'm shy? if so, what can i do to get them to notice me like other guys do?

Thanks

I'm 14/f too. I have the same problem. A lot of people think I'm pretty at school, and I have a good body its just they are intimidated by me because I'm smart and shy and quiet. Guys don't like quiet and shy girls though. They like girls that are funny, smart, pretty, outgoing, somewhat loud, and definately NOT shy. Guys want to be able to have a full conversation with a girl where she can look them in the eyes and not be afraid to be herself. If you think your appearance is fine, than just work on being more outgoing.

Hope I helped!

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i really need help, the other day i was really drunk and kissed another guy, and i have a bf..its completley killing me and i feel horrible..should i tell my bf, what should i do? has anyone been in this position before..thanks.

I think you should be honest with your boyfriend. Explain to him what had happened, and tell him that you didn't know what you were doing, and tell him that you don't have feelings for that other guy at all. Even if he gets mad he may trust you more for atleast telling him. You don't want him to find out from someone else.

Hope I helped!

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