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i really need help, the other day i was really drunk and kissed another guy, and i have a bf..its completley killing me and i feel horrible..should i tell my bf, what should i do? has anyone been in this position before..thanks.
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Hello , if you tell your bf , it might destroy your relationship,what ever you decide follow your heart.
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Faitheb
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yes but wat i did is i told my boyfriend and said if you love me you will forgive b/c i love you and then he will be like no you don't you kissed another guy and what you say is I WAS DRUNK!!!!! I DIDN'T NO WHAT WAS GOIN ON!!!!!! GOOD LUCK,
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Yes you should probably should tell him. Tell him that you didnt puposly do it you were just drunk and you would never hurt him. If he really cares for you he'll understand.
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Austin
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I think you should be honest with your boyfriend. Explain to him what had happened, and tell him that you didn't know what you were doing, and tell him that you don't have feelings for that other guy at all. Even if he gets mad he may trust you more for atleast telling him. You don't want him to find out from someone else.
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sincerely, Abby
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i would tell him before he finds out from somebody else and no longer trusts you at all
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I was in this same situation and I told my boyfriend the truth. We fought but he forgave me and didn't break up with me. The problem you will be facing now is trust. He will not be wanting you to go out drinking unless he is there. But if you really wanna be with this guy that shouldn't be too much of an issue! Always be honest...and wouldn't you rather have it come from you than someone else? Good luck!
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the sooner the better.... if you tell him the truth that you were really drunk and you feel awful and really sorry you would be better off... if you wait and he finds out from someone else it wont be pretty
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Well, Yes, you should tell your boyfriend, and mention that you were drunk, and tell him how you feel about him, obviously you care about your boyfriend, so don't let it get to you, you only kissed him, it's not like you slept with him, (or did you)? That would be another story if you slept with him. But what I'm curious about, is why were you drunk, I'm pretty sure you're underage, or why would you write an advice column?! If you didn't drink (illegally, or legally), that would of never happened, and you would be in the clear, you shouldn't drink, your lucky all that happened was that you kissed a guy, one of these times you are gonna get drunk and sleep with a guy, you are gonna get pregnant and you'll probably get a disease, too, there are so many diseases out there, you could get any of them!!! So my advice is tell your boyfriend, but STOP DRINKING!!! I know how it is, I used to drink and get into bad situations, even worse than that, (I'm 13yrs old), and I know how it is, my mom has given my this speech so many times so I know what to say, so you should seriously stop drinking, you lose all sense of judgement when you get drunk, and anything could happen! Really, drinking is a problem, maybe you should get help if it is a big problem, and if it was a one time thing, keep it that way! Thanks, and p.s. I wasn't ragging on you in this advice column, I was only trying to help you. I know what drinking can do to you!!!
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I havn't been in this situation but my friend has, it was this guy (lets call him B) and he was drunk and he snogged this other girl. (lets call her L) B told L not to tell anyone (when he was sober) because he had a girlfriend (lets call her M). L told some people, and they told some other people ...... and soon the whole school knew, including M.
M broke up with B, she said that if he had told her straight away that he was drunk and had snogged L and he was sory then she wouldn't have minded. But M didn't like it that B had tried to keep it all a secret.
So, what you should do, is ask your boyfriend to come over, then say 'I'm really sorry, but the other day I was drunk and I snogged this guy, I was drunk and I got silly and I didn't know what I was doing, I didn't mean to hurt you'.
Hope it goes well, xxx
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i yi yi, tell your boyfriend, because if you don't he's gonna hear it from someone else, and then they're going to change the story around so just tell him yourself. He may be understanding.
Ohhh yeah, don't blame it on the alcohol! Don't say "it's ok,I was drunk when I did it" Because usually what you do when you're drunk means it's something you want to do when you're sober.
Just tell him and get it over with.
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I've never been in this position before but my friend has. He has a girlfriend who he adores but one night he got drunk at a party and ended up making out with some girl. He woke up the next day overcome with guilt and feeling terrible. He made the decision to tell his girlfriend and they didn't see each other for a week, then his girlfriend decided to forgive him and all was well.
At the end of the day, as long as no one else was there and you haven't told a soul, your boyfriend will find out some way or another. That is why you should be the one to tell him. If he finds out from someone else then he will not only be upset that you cheated, but he will also be angry because you lied to him. It's vital that you tell him what happened as soon as possible. Keeping what happened to yourself will not only make the betrayal worse, it could also eventually destroy your relationship because of your guilt.
If you don't feel that you can tell him face to face then write him a letter or an email, that way you can ensure that he listens to everything you have to say. Make sure that you let him know that you deeply regret it and that you don't want to break up with him.
After that you will just have to wait and see what happens. The decision is in your boyfriend's hands and he could choose to break up with you, if he does he has every right to. Ultimately, drunk or not, you betrayed him and he may not be able to trust you again. Whatever he decides, learn from it and try and make sure that you don't make the same mistake again.
Good luck.
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you're gonna have to tell him otherwise he'll find out on his own and be more mad because you didn't tell him. I don't know how things are gonna work out..just say it wwas a drunken mistake.
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