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VISIT MY WEBSITE AT http://www.freewebs.com/abl90/index.htm !!!Hello. My name is Ashley. I am 17 years old with 2 sisters and 3 half sisters.. I love giving advice. All my friends come to me with their problems. I'm almost ALWAYS right when it comes to advice. Unfortunately, that does not include myself. If I have a problem, I'm usually clueless so I may have a few questions here and there but mostly I'm here for the readers. Hopefully someday I can be an advice columnist for a newpaper.
Please take the time to read, it can help a few of you:
So far my life has been really complicated, sure, I do have a great life, an amazing fiance, a wonderful chihuahua, yes she is my baby, and a pretty good family I suppose. In reality, I guess most everyone has a complicated life. In my life, I have been in the most depressed state to where I literally wanted to kill myself, but it never came down to it, it is all a test, not for anyone else but for ourselves, to see how strong we are, we all have hardships in our lives but we have to look at the good and remember that there ARE people who care about us, no matter how down we are. All of you can live a good, happy life, you just have to try and give it your all and remember you bring your own happiness.
For those who have LOST:
I have lost only one person in my life.. My brother, he was only my half brother, and I never knew him. He died at 47, he had 3 amazing sons who had a great life going for them and a beautiful wife. He killed himself on October 21 of 2004. I regret every single day that I didn't know him, nor did I try, I blame myself even though I shouldn't, that route goes both ways. Sure I could have tried to see him, but he could have to. The thing is, you should try with everything in you to know your family and to love them. I would give up a lot to see my brother for one minute to ask him why? Would didn't he think about anyone else but himself? And now I'll never get that chance. I went against God and all my beliefs and even tried to contact him through a Ouija. God forgave me but I didn't forgive myself. I just hope with all my heart that he forgave my brother as well.
Thank you everyone.
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Ok so i know you cant answer the question am I bisexual, but ok im 14, and have a bf, but like when i watch TV, like americas next top model, i feel like, Oh she's hot! not like oh she looks good, or i want to be like her, but shes smokin hot! Kinda like how guys would see a girl, but i also see guys like that. except guys a little more. I dont know its hard to explain, I feel kinda bad, b/c like when im with my bf and his freinds,and they say somethin about someone being hot, i feel like oh yeah she is, but i cant tell them that. especially with my boyfriend being there!!! its one of those things, that i will always keep inside me, even if i know i am bisexual, b/c i want to be "Normal" and not have to tell someone, and freak them out, b/c i know alot of people who hate gays. but then again my aunts are lesbians...
i dont know, its still hard to explain .but is this just a phase im going through, or what?
It could possibly be a phase, it might not. Some people grow out of it, and others don't. It's all you. I am engaged but I'm not afraid to admit when a woman is gorgeous, and no I'm neither bisexual nor lesbian. I'm just confident enough to say it. I understand how you feel though, when I'm around the girls, I don't say anything but when I'm with the guys, I'll definitely agree with them if I think a female is hott. If you feel attracted to the girl then there may be a slight lesbian or bi-sexual thing going on. I myself am not attracted to them but like I said I'm not afraid to admit the truth. Hope I helped.
If you need anything else feel free to visit my column or site.
ABL
im 14/gurl.
So..there is an upper classman i like and he likes me...i think. He flirts with me, tickles me. And I text him, but for some odd reason he will only at times text back for the first 5 minutes and quits. He isnt a good communicator really. And he recently told me there is something wrong. Like I have no idea what it is. He wouldn't tell me. He said it hurts too badly for him to explain. And I asked him if I could help. (This was on aim) and i think he got kinda mad and said YES and off. And he hasnt texted me in days. And I'm worried about him. I learned today that he isnt mad at me, but i am still confused and worried about him. I have no clue what do do. I mean I like him. And I think he likes me to certain limits. He wants to hang out with me but ive been kinda busy lately. I don't know if he even cares.
As for his problem, I think you should confront him in person, preferably alone we all know guys get weird around other people, and ask him what is wrong and be persistent, no matter if he gets mad. If he doesn't tell you, maybe there isn't anything wrong and all and he just wants you to feel sorry for him.
As for wanting a relationship, I wouldn't bother with someone who is older, they mostly cheat but if you think you can trust him and he wants a relationship, by all means go ahead.
I hope he confides in you and tells you his 'problem', if there is one. Not to sound mean about anything, I just have a lot of experience with guys who act like that and half of them fake it, half of them don't. Anyways, good luck and I hope I helped. If you need anything else, feel free to go to my column or my site and/or e-mail me. Info is on column.
ABL
Background Info: I have never had a boyfriend, but the reason is because the guys that HAVE asked me out have been known to be cheaters, and stuff, and the ones I WOULD say yes to if they asked me never do.
So I doo hook up with a lot of boyyss. But the thing is, I realllyy want a boyfriend. And all the boys that I do hook up with, I could imagine dating them. I like "fall in love" really quickly, and quickly fall for a boy. Like right now I like some kid I haven't even met yet, but we met through a friend on FaceBook. Oh yeah, and my friend is setting me up with her neighbor, and hes super cute, and I know he will hook up with mee (Oh yeah hook up as in like kissing no sexx) anyways I'm like already picturing after hooking up. THIS IS NOT NORMAL!! Ahhhhh hahha what should I do this is reallyy bad!
First off, be carefull who you hook up with. It is also perfectly normal to, I guess you could say, 'look forward' to what you think will happen. However, if you don't think he is looking for a relationship, I wouldn't bother, if all he wants is a make-out session and possibly more, don't do it. I know from experience if you go around making out with guys your just gonna get a bad reputation. I know guys, they will say they did even more.
If it's a relationship you want, go for the good guys not the ones who just want to hook up and if you think this guy wants more than just a hook-up night, then by all means go ahead and try it out. If he tries to go all the way with you, don't let him especially if it's not what you want.
Good luck, I hope this helped.
ABL
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Okay, my best friend sister is prego. she i guess 6-7 months.who really gives a fuck!.my boyfriend used to go with her.he 21.she is 18.he stay over there house.thats how i met him anyway.basically being over there cause thats the chill spot or whatever.believe me it is complicated and shit.her mom.everybody calls moms.she knew binky(marcus-my boyfriend) went out with her daughter in the past and shit.her daughter the prego one walked around talking bout him and shit she'd be like Binky and RENEE(his best friend-ride or die)is still fucking.she was telling me this when me and binky was together and shit.I didnt get why she would say that shit.but she did.She be like the only reason RENee would mean mug her is cause binky would stop paying attention to her.and end up focusing on ericka,cici,and alix(all sisters-thats where everybody hang out at.there spot).Alix is my bestie.So is Cici.Ericka cool.i guess.until mother fuckin now.Cause she'd be like.Why would Binky and Renee be arguing if nothing is going on?.Obviously there is becuase they wouldnt be fighting like a couple.Truth be told.Binky dont fuck with renee.i guess.cause they had something at first but then that shit just ended.it aint work out.or so he says.anyway.my friend just told me.binky talked to her mom about moving in with them so he could take care of ericka's baby.im like.for what?.he aint fuck her and get her pregnnt.some other dude did.the other day binky even asked her...DID YOU TALK TO DUDE AND TELL HIM YOU PREGNANT?.she said YEAH,I CALLED HIM.HE SAID HE WILL CALL ME BACK AND HE NEVER DID.well my saying would be.go find that nigga.!
best belive.no nigga would ever run from me like that.so, he aint tell me what was up.But everybody down there knows except me.Just cause im not there doesn't mean i should not know man.it should have been said to me.maybe i'd have a different opinion.but now that it wasnt said to me first.i cant trust him or her.my best friend alix is like.well she think it is good that a guy is willing to step up for another guy that aint doin his job.i told her yeah.if they was together.which they aint.binky is supposed to be with me.she over there defending him.she say she not.but she is.cause she tryna cover up with the shit like.he almighty for trying to raise ericka baby.yeah okay.im lettin that nigga go!.i dont give a fuck if he doest know if it is over or not.cause like i said before.no one told me shit when i just went down there.and the shit just happened today.make it so bad.im down there and he actin like shit aint out place.he had me fooled on some other shit.he'd be like DAMN I LIKE YOUR BODY.DAMN YOUR SEXY.DAMN I THOUGHT I WOULDVE NEVER GOT WITH CAUSE I THOUGHT U WAS WITH ANOTHER NIGGA.he had me played.i thought he was the one.when i fucked him he was like trust me and shit.i dont trust him now.and now i regret ever fucking him.im glad i aint fuck him friday.then he woulve thought he was the shit.i dont get what type of game this nigga playing neither.it bothers me.and im sure bout to approach him bout it.ima wait that shit out.and see what happens.I WILL GET EVEN.
then i talked to him.and i get why he is helpin out with the baby.
but he wants to move with them.and i dont get why.i mean.pampers,diapers,baby food.yeah okay that is helping.BUT MOVING IN? for what?.obviously he wanna be with her.that bothers me.i told him.ITS OBVIOUS YALL STILL GOT FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER.EVERYTIME I WALK UP iN HERE.YALL ALL SITTIN CLOSE.TOO CLOSE!.and he made it seem like it was nothing.he laughed cause im possibly jealous.why wont i?.not of her.eww hell no!.but the fact that she got her head layed up on your chest.lap.feet all layed across you.that bothers me!
i cant stand that shit.he was like TRUST ME.I MEAN U ACT LIKE IM FUCKING HER OR SOMETHING.IM JUST TRYNA COMFORT HER.and im like.what the fuck!.yeah if you was her nigga.
but you mines.not hers.her boo/baby daddy need to step the fuck up and COMFORT HER.not u.
I MEAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME THEIR OPINION.AM I STUBBORN AND SHOULD REALLY TRUST THIS GUY.OR JUST DUMP HIS ASS!.
Well, if I were in your shoes, I would feel the same way. In my opinion, there must be more going on with them, maybe he plans to date her in the future or possibly they are already having a sexual relationship behind closed doors, I belive you can have sex up until the 8th month, however I could be wrong. If they are ever alone in the house or just alone in a room together, it is definitely possible. There is also no need for him to move in and to help her, she clearly has family that is doing that and like you said the real father should be the one to do those things, which by the way she could sue him for child support if he does not pay it when the child is born. If he wants to help her so much, he could, I'm assuming he has a job, help buy her baby things(which is really not necessary in my opinion). It is not his place to do those things. If you want the best advice, I would say to drop him. You need someone who will respect you and understand how you feel and not be doing those things he is doing. If he really cared about you he would not be touchy-feely on her when you go over there. Like I said, dump him, its your best bet and try to find a better guy. I know you can do better, you don't need someone who is clinging to someone else like that. Anyways good luck and I hope all goes well and that you take my advice and drop him, I'm not telling you what to do I'm just saying he's not worth your time.
Once again, good luck. If you need anything else, feel free to message me again.
ABL
Thanks for the rating and yes I would love to be updated. I can read just about anything and understand it, lol. Sorry, this was the only way I could contact you back. Anyways, if you'd rather, you can e-mail me at skyyisbloo@aol.com to let me know what happens. Good luck!
Well me and my x have been talking latley and i am getting back old feelings that we used to have.
we just got back form a cheerleading comp and we flirted the whole time we both have feelings for each other but she has a boyfriend and it's been really hard for me because it's like everything that me and her used to share it's with them now and it's really hard to wacth that.she has not cheated. we have not done anything psyically we are just really good friends but i dont no if i can do that anymore because of me and her loving each other still. please i need HELP!!!
Don't be blunt with her, you will scare her off. The best thing to do is to get her to meet you in a private place where you can't be interrupted and you can freely talk without others listening in. I believe she probably still has feelings for you as well seeing as how she flirted with you. Be honest with her, don't hide your feelings and leave them in the dark. Tell her you still have feelings for her and ask her if the feeling is mutual.
If she says no.. Tell her your sorry and that you do feel the same way you used to you just thought she as well and you didn't want to keep that to yourself.
If she says I don't know.. Tell her that no matter what she decides you are there for her, which I'm sure you are.
If she says yes.. Tell her that she should tell her boyfriend the truth and that she wants to be back with you, if indeed thats what she wants which if she says yes I'm sure she probably does.
I hope I helped and I'd love to hear what happened so feel free to go to my webbie and leave a comment on my blog or email, everything is on my column page.
Good luck.
ABL
okkay. me and my x boyfriend went out for like 5 months in 7th grade and like 3 months in 8th grade. i still like him a lot and cant ever stop thinking about him. everytime i go on his myspace and hes talking to his x.girl friends or just friends that are girls, that i dont know i get so madd and sad and jelous. and i cant seem to stop caring or even stop thinking about it. its like im obbsesive and i cant or dont want to stop likeing him. he flirts with me a lot in 7th and 8th period but its not just me its my other back and forth friend. im pretty sure she likes him its pretty obvious. his personality is like that to and when he does flirt. im not even sure if he is or not. cause of the way he just is. but i dont want to even act like it bothers me cause i dont want him to think i stilll like him that much. and he just playy around with my emotions. but people always say you can tell he "sometimes" only does it to make me mad. i dont want to stop likeing him. but im pretty sure he doesnt like me or not as much anymore. so i dont want to waste my time. but at the same time i think hes worth it. (:
so i need advice about
how to deal with this kind
of situation.
thanks in advancee.
The best advice I could possibly give to you is to move on. It maybe be hard but you definitely can. Turn the tables around on him, make him jealous by doing just the same but be better and don't waste your time dating him again. You should try to find you someone who respects you are doesn't flirt with your friend, by the way, drop this 'friend' for good and tell her off for being such a lousy person, friends don't do that to friends.
As you said, you think he is worth it, but believe me, he is not. I've been with plenty who are just like him and it's not worth the heartache.
I hope this helped and if you need anything else just check out my column and message me. If you have the time, please rate my advice, I'm trying to widen my column with a good rating so I can help more people.
ABL
my boyfriend has been bringing me down ALOT lately. all he ever talks about is how much it sucks that hes gonna lose me someday..and the other day he was like "youre gonna fall in love with someone else and i cant do anything to change it" and no matter what i said he kept going ON AND ON about it! nonstop!! then last night i called him and he told me that he was talking to ex girlfriend (shes really slutty) about when hes coming to visit and she wants to meet up with him. i didnt wanna hear that at all. then he said "YOU DONT LIKE ME ANYMORE!im such a bad boyfriend and no one likes me!" which he knows isnt true. before we hung up i said i love you like i always do, but he didnt say it back..he said "k".
well today he apoligized..and today all hes been saying is how much he loves me and how awesome i am which is obviously to make up for last night.
what should i do? does anyone have any idea whats up with him?? thanks!
My advice: dump him. Simple as that. He's more than likely cheating on you, that, or he wants you to break up with him. He's probably planning on hooking up with her anyways. So... leave him. The next time he says something rude, say, "your right, I don't like you, it's over." Well.. that's what I would say. Good luck.
i can't even belive i'm in this catagory because truth be told...well i'm not exactly a girlie-girl. actually most romance makes me sick. love songs, valentines day, "pda", etc.. i like guys but i don't like all the crap that comes along with liking guys.
is that wierd?
and now i reeeeally like this guy that...um...i don't really like. ok now i know that's wierd. he can be a snob and a people pleaser and he never really acknowledges me other than how all his friends do and that's mostly just looking at me wierd. but he is so smart(which is important to me)and talented (a musician) and in one of my classes he acts so different and kind of shy(probably because his brother's in that class...band and his brother's the drum major) and i like that side of him probably because that's when he's not showing off to his friends. but like outside that class around other people he acts different. but i do still like him...even if i don't like him.
???
is that wierd?
Guys tend to act different around their friends then when they aren't. He's definitely not the only one. You should try talking to him in your band class, if he starts to know you, there is a possibility he won't act rude or anything in front of his friends, not making any promises though. It's probably not the best thing that you fall for a guy like that. But if you must persist, do as I advised. Good luck.
my best friend and her boyfriend just recently broke up mostly because they never talked. She really regrets breaking up with him, but realizes that he's not going to change. She keeps thinking that hes going to change, when they could go for LONG PERIODS OF TIME not talking. I don't think it's healthy for her to continually try and be with this kid because he doesn't do anything different and he's just period a waste of time, and a large chunk of her heart she doesn't need to break anymore. It hurts me to see her in such pain and I've tried talking to her about it and she listens but I think it would be nice for her to have some different options or opinions from other people. Please help her out. Thanks guys.
Well, I would have said that there is no one that can conince her more than her best friend, but... This girl I know that I am friends with says I'm her best friend, I of course have other friends but she's not like me. well, anyways... I've told her time and time again not to talk to his guy that just totally used her. She's white and he's black, I knew it wouldn't work from the start. Well, they ended up "attempting" to have sex but obviously, he's "big" and she's skinny so she doesn't have a wide.. "area". Well anyways, she still talks to him despite what every single one of her friends say. In fact, I think she still likes him. But that's beside the point. You need to tell her everything you said in the statement above. Tell her that more than likely he is cheating on here between the days that he does not talk to her. Believe me, I had a boyfriend like that, come to find out I was one of his other girlfriends. I definitely advice you to confront her about it as often as you can. She definitely needs a friend right now. Try to convince her that she will find someone else out there for her and that hes not worth her time. He's not giving to the relationship and neither should she. Good luck.
i have been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years now. and she loves me, and i'm not sure if i love her. am i in this for her? well i'm not happy with the whole relasinship, but i don't know if it's because we don't see each other much or what. and then there is this other girl, that i really like, and we have been friends for a long time. i don't know if i should dump my current girlfriend for my friend ro what?
Two years is a LONG time, to just throw that all away would be hurtful to your girlfriend and you could end up regretting it. Love doesn't just disappear or go away, it's always gonna be there, no matter how many more relationships you have.
There must have a been a point in time when you loved your current girlfriend or else you would have dumped her sooner. I wouldn't suggest dumping her because you more than likely will regret ruining a relationship that has last as long as yours' has.
Also, there is a chance that this girl you like may not even like you the way you like her. So therefore, it would have been all for nothing.
I would suggest that you give your relationship a chance. Spend as much time with her as you can but not too much, people often get bored of one anothers company after too much time together.
If things don't work out with you and your girlfriend, then sure, go on ahead and date your "interest".
Good luck. Hope I helped.
okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.
thankss
I've been in a similar situation. I dated a guy named Robert and we went out for about 2 monthes but he was a player and I couldn't trust him or anything. He begs for me to come back to him but I have a boyfriend now who means everything to me and thats all I can ask for. What I'm trying to say is that Lane is just using you.
More than likely he cheated on you throughout the relationship. I definitely advise you to just move on. It's hard to but you can. In fact, that reminds me.. Well, it's probably best if I tell the whole story so you can understand.
Well, Robert went out with my friend Christina, but only for a while. I gave Robert my number because I liked him and I couldn't resist even though I knew it was wrong. Well, we talked a lot that night and he told me he loved me, yeah right! Well, he dumped Christina about a week later for me and of course, I said yes.
After a while, his cousin, who was one of my good friends who had also liked me but was now dating my sister, told me that Robert was cheating. I didn't believe him of course but I was suspicious because he had a bad past. Well, I was with my friend Brooke, and Robert was with Brooke's boyfriend Preston and they were walking ahead of us at a strip mall and the next thing I know I see them checking out these girls and yelling at them. I yelled at Robert and said that it was over.
But of course, after a while he wanted me back and I said yes. We broke up and went back out constantly, it was a neverending thing and I couldn't take it. Well, I told him to never call me again b/c I was dating some other guy and this guy called him and cussed him out because Robert is pretty big and said he was gonna kick his "hiney" but by boyfriend was pretty big too so it would have been pretty interesting to watch but whatever, now I have nothing to do with either of them.
In other words, forget about Lane. Believe me, he's just dragging you along and is all for the make-outs and w/e else he can get out of it. Good luck and I hope I helped. Sorry it was so long.
Okay, so theres this boy in my school 'steve', hes a senior...and hes like a god {well u know what i mean} and we hang out sometimes and i really really like him, His cousin 'rob' is my age and he's best friends with steve. Rob tells steve to back off and not like me. Steve does sense they are best friends. I don't know if steve likes me..because he can have almost any girl he wants, and hes usually into blondes {i'm brunette} but i still think i have a chance. He's the kind of boy who expects BJ's after like a week though. and i'm NOT into that...any advice?! Should i ask him to hang out more or something?
My advice: drop him. If all he wants is sex, bjs, or any other "sexual services" he's so not worth it. Even if you are set that you won't do any of that and you do end up dating him, he'll be able to persuade you. I know how guys like these are. I dealt with one but thank god he dumped me(only a matter of time before I would have done the same). It seems to me as though Rob might like you. You should probably consider dating him, I know these types of situations and he might possibly be into you. Good luck. I know you wanted advice on how to get with Steve but believe me, in the end, you'll regret it if you do.
There is this boy named Nick, and I'll admit...I have a HUGE crush on him! I love everything from the way he talks, to the way he dresses. Him & I used to talk a lot during 8th grade but we kind of stopped last year. Why? Well, we didn't have any classes together. That, and the fact that I would get so shy around him. We probobly only talked once or twice because I would choke on my words. This year I decided to make a change. I have two classes with him and a lunch period. I've been trying my best not to be so timid. I use every opportunity I can get to throw in a little comment to let him know I'm not scared to talk to him like I was last year. Now, I'm noticing a change in him and I'm not quite sure what it means. Lately, he has been saying little comments to me too. Every time the teacher calls on me or everytime I speak, he says some little remark. For example, I forgot to do an assignment one day and he said "ooo, Allyson! I'm so disapointed in you". And then, today, I turned in that assignment and he was like "You Go Girl". Lmao, I love his sense of humor. Sorry. Annnnyyywaayyyss, something else happened today that I am confused about too. He was walking out the door to leave and I was still packing up my stuff and I swear to God he winked at me! There was nobody in the room but me. So if he did, it would have had to of been to me lol. What does all of this mean? I'm so confused! Also--what are some cute little things I can say to flirt and make casual conversation? I really want him to be my date to homecoming! Thanks in advance
It seems to me as though he has a crush on you too. Guys just have weird ways of showing it. Some ways I like to flirt are possibly when he is sitting next to you and says something, place your hand on his leg and give it a little squeeze when you reply back. It definitely turns them on and lets them know that your definitely into them. Casually bring up homecoming like "Are you going with anyone?" or "I'm so nervous I won't have a date." As far as flirting goes, give him little compliments like,"Your so cute/funny/sweet." Also, fish for compliments, in other words, try to get him to give you compliments by saying "I look so fat," he'll say no you don't. Good luck.
hi im a 15 year old guy (soph) and i like this im guessing 14 year old freshamn girl...i dont really no her at all but there is something about her that just draws me to her she is very attractive and ive talked to her 1 time for maytbe a minute online but thats it and she just seems like a really nice person..so i was wondering how should i approach it become friends with her first and get to know her or talk to her friends just to see what she's like then talk to her? thanks so much in advance
Hmm.. In this case, I would suggest that you talk to her a little bit more. Become friends with her. If you feel a connection when your talking to her like long gazes and such, ask her out to a movie or to eat or something simple like a game. It will go from there. Freshman definitely like the date older guys, somehow it makes them seem "cool" I guess. Anyways, good luck and blessed be.
me and my b/f have been datin for almost 6 months. hes means so much to me but a lot of the time she doesnt treat me that well. im a freshman thie year and was considering breakin up wit him b/c i never see him and just felt too tired dwon.but then i chagned my mind and figuared i really loved him. but today this kid who knows him and me came up ot me and said that he wasnt breakin up wit me because he wanted to move on...i was feelin the same thing but i like him so much still. i sent him a text saying that we needed to talk and he said ill pass! and i said..were over.ur friend jeff told me everything..and he said..yull get far listenin ot him...i mean i ended a really long realtionship wit this guy and im not sure if i should beg for him back or just move on....help me pleeeease =).thanks so much
Every couple has their fights/arguments. I have been dating my bf for 3 months, we have small little arguments but nothing extreme. If you feel like you really love him then you need to talk to him. You can NEVER trust what anyone says to you, believe me, from experience, I know. It seems that he respects you very little. You need to confess your true feelings to him, if he doesn't listen.. then it's his loss. Move on. You don't need him. You could definitely find someone else and if he doesn't care for your feelings then he doesn't deserve your time. Good luck to you and blessed be.
I have to choose between to people.
And now one of the boys, "A" I can see myself kissing him. We have went out before, kissed before too.
Now the other boy, "C". Who I haven't went out with before. I can't see myself kissing.
I actually like "C" more. But I can't see myself kissing him. Does that mean I don't really like him? Or is it because we have never kissed before?
Well, I see what your problem is. I went through the same thing but sex-wise. All my ex-boyfriends, I couldn't see myself going to the extremes of sex, but now I am with a guy I have had sex with. It's not that you don't like them, it's just you don't know how they are, what they kiss like, and other variables such as these. You should give "C" a try and see how things go. If he's not the one for you, then go to "A". Good luck.
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I've fallen for this boy but hes in 7th *im in 8th* and i know age is just a number but since hes younger than me and i never really talk to him except for in two classes, i dont really know about him like if he has a girlfriend or if he would ever go out with me. i dont rly have any friends in that grade that would know except for one. i could ask her but she would make a big deal about it. any advice?
Here's the deal, I'm 15, in the 10th grade, and my boyfriend is 14, in the 9th grade. We're definitely meant for each other so your exactly right, age is just a number. I would advise you to maybe ask him to hang out sometime, sure girls don't do that often, but it's worth it if you really like him. Being shy is pointless if that is your reason. If you don't really want to do that than you should try talking to him more. I would love to hear any updates on what happens so just contact me in some way. Good luck. :)
Right well this might be abit of a long one..
Theres this boy i like who is sooo lovely and sweeet and i have only known him a couple of months but we have everything in common and that!
Well a couple of weeks ago i told him i liked him through myspace and he was really ok about it and that and he said that we should talk about it when we see eachtother next
So on tuesday i went out and i see him and was hanging with him all day and he kept cuddling me and stuff
I really really like him buti have no idea if he likes me or not because im too scared to ask
My friends said that he really likes me and he smiles whenever they mention my name and he kept asking them when i was coming out and that when i was grounded and he kept talking about how ' kool' i was
The problem is , how do i find out if he likes me in a like like sort of way . Im soo scared to ask him and hes really really shy aswell
I really need help so PLEASE give advice back xxxx
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I would have to say that he truly does like you. If you shy to ask, just do it nontheless. I've been shy most of my life but now I'm so over that. Being shy is pointless, what is there to be shy about? My advice would be to hang out with him again, more than likely he'll ask you out and you won't have to wonder if he likes you and there won't be those shy awkward moments. So just hang out A LOT and see what happens. Best of luck you doll.
I have this guy friend that lives in another state. I have known him for about 3 years now. We were seeing each other a little bit (dating wise) when I went to visit him last year and we were both into each other but we have never made anything official because of our distance. After I came back home, we still continued to talk and he even told me he wanted to see me again when I could visit next. Well I got busy this summer and we haven't spoken in a few months. I recently have been trying to get a hold of him, but it is wierd. First, I emailed him asking him if he still used the email address. I waited a couple weeks but no response. Then last week, I called him and got his voicemail, then I called again and he picked up the phone and I said, "Nathan?" and then he goes, "I'm sorry but you have the wrong number." I called him from my new cell phone so I immediately assumed he didn't know it was me because he didn't know of the number I was calling him from. So I called him for the third time and got his voicemail again, but I left a message. I waited a few days, and still I got no response. Then a couple days ago, I texted him asking him if he got my message, and again, no response. I'm wondering if he is blowing me off. It is hard for me to believe he is, because that's just not how he is. I mean, he's 24 years old and really mature...so I don't think he would be deliberately doing it, but in the back of my mind, I suspect that maybe he is. And I'm really confused that he told me I had the wrong number, because I am confident that it was him who picked up the phone. I don't know what the deal is. I want to call him again, but I'll feel desperate. I didn't do anything to get him mad at me either...so I don't know. Should I try to contact him again?
My advice: don't try anymore. You may like him, but the guy needs to come to you. If it really was him, he'll come around. It may also be that he has a girlfriend and doesn't want anyone to get in the way or distract him. I'm sure he's moved on obviously, you should too. If he wants you back, then he'll call you. Otherwise, just hook up with someone else who is good to you.
OK well there is this girl i have known for four years now and me and her have been to hell and back as far as problems, people and everything else. Well right now she is going out with someone she met off the internet and well they been arguing alot lately. I been staying over at her house since like last thursday. Well in the weeks time i was over there me and her have had sex 4 times. I with another girl in the pic and 3 of them it was just us. I have wanted to go out with her for so long now and she told me if things dont work out between her and her b/f she pinky swears she will give me my chance. we both love each other and would do anything for each other. I was wondering if since me and her kinda like had sex 4 times if thats a good sign of us maybe hooking up.
Well, what you should consider is that she cheated on him.. she may cheat on you. You've known each other a LONG time and have been friends. Friends do tend to have feelings for one another but the thing is, it ruins your friendship if ever you should break up. I dated one of my good guy friends once.. Haven't talked to him since. Hell, he didn't even talk to me when we were going out, it was so awkward. I hated it and now we have no contact whatsoever and live right down the street from each other. If you truly think your relationship will last, then go ahead and date her but unless your willing to lose a good relationship if it does not work out then don't. The sex thing, pretty interesting. The cards are in your favor if her and her bf are having troubles. Good luck.