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VISIT MY WEBSITE AT http://www.freewebs.com/abl90/index.htm !!!Hello. My name is Ashley. I am 17 years old with 2 sisters and 3 half sisters.. I love giving advice. All my friends come to me with their problems. I'm almost ALWAYS right when it comes to advice. Unfortunately, that does not include myself. If I have a problem, I'm usually clueless so I may have a few questions here and there but mostly I'm here for the readers. Hopefully someday I can be an advice columnist for a newpaper.
Please take the time to read, it can help a few of you:
So far my life has been really complicated, sure, I do have a great life, an amazing fiance, a wonderful chihuahua, yes she is my baby, and a pretty good family I suppose. In reality, I guess most everyone has a complicated life. In my life, I have been in the most depressed state to where I literally wanted to kill myself, but it never came down to it, it is all a test, not for anyone else but for ourselves, to see how strong we are, we all have hardships in our lives but we have to look at the good and remember that there ARE people who care about us, no matter how down we are. All of you can live a good, happy life, you just have to try and give it your all and remember you bring your own happiness.
For those who have LOST:
I have lost only one person in my life.. My brother, he was only my half brother, and I never knew him. He died at 47, he had 3 amazing sons who had a great life going for them and a beautiful wife. He killed himself on October 21 of 2004. I regret every single day that I didn't know him, nor did I try, I blame myself even though I shouldn't, that route goes both ways. Sure I could have tried to see him, but he could have to. The thing is, you should try with everything in you to know your family and to love them. I would give up a lot to see my brother for one minute to ask him why? Would didn't he think about anyone else but himself? And now I'll never get that chance. I went against God and all my beliefs and even tried to contact him through a Ouija. God forgave me but I didn't forgive myself. I just hope with all my heart that he forgave my brother as well.
Thank you everyone.
If you ever need help, feel free to contact me at skyyisbloo@aol.com and please title the e-mail as Advicenators advice and I will try to get back to you ASAP.
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I posted a question a while ago about telling my parents I want to move back to England to finish school when I'm 17 and how I should tell them..
Well, I decided to type everything out just to see how it sounded and so I didn't miss anything out and I had the idea of printing a copy of this one for each of my parents and sitting down with them, explaining the situation to them but then saying ''The details are on the paper I've given you'' and letting them read through the thorough explanation while I'm there..
I thought this way, they couldn't interrupt me or cut me short and there's no way I'll get nervous and forget anything or get too emotional and start crying halfway through my explination.
I've included all the details from prices to schools to transport to areas and at the end there's a little emotional plea.
Is this or is this not a good idea? Should I tell them straight up and risk missing bits out or being interrupted or just give them the paper and then let them ask the questions?
HELP!
I think your idea was amazingly brilliant. I definitely think you should give them the paper. Parents always worry about their kids, I know mine do. You just need to catch them after a good time. Perhaps after a family dinner or something. Tell them you need to show them something very important and hand it over.
I hope the best to you.
Good luck.
Need anything else feel free to go to my column.
ABL
Ok so i know you cant answer the question am I bisexual, but ok im 14, and have a bf, but like when i watch TV, like americas next top model, i feel like, Oh she's hot! not like oh she looks good, or i want to be like her, but shes smokin hot! Kinda like how guys would see a girl, but i also see guys like that. except guys a little more. I dont know its hard to explain, I feel kinda bad, b/c like when im with my bf and his freinds,and they say somethin about someone being hot, i feel like oh yeah she is, but i cant tell them that. especially with my boyfriend being there!!! its one of those things, that i will always keep inside me, even if i know i am bisexual, b/c i want to be "Normal" and not have to tell someone, and freak them out, b/c i know alot of people who hate gays. but then again my aunts are lesbians...
i dont know, its still hard to explain .but is this just a phase im going through, or what?
It could possibly be a phase, it might not. Some people grow out of it, and others don't. It's all you. I am engaged but I'm not afraid to admit when a woman is gorgeous, and no I'm neither bisexual nor lesbian. I'm just confident enough to say it. I understand how you feel though, when I'm around the girls, I don't say anything but when I'm with the guys, I'll definitely agree with them if I think a female is hott. If you feel attracted to the girl then there may be a slight lesbian or bi-sexual thing going on. I myself am not attracted to them but like I said I'm not afraid to admit the truth. Hope I helped.
If you need anything else feel free to visit my column or site.
ABL
ok so i have been friends with this girl sence she moved her in fifth grade. and i have been frieneds with the other girl since like pre-kay and the sad thing is we got in a fight over the summer and in the middle of the school year we all made up were alll best friends well tahst what i thought but every time i wanna hang out with my best friend the one ive known since 5th grade well she says yeah and the day we are supposed to shes with my other best friend and they never tell me when were supposed to go see a movie they tell me im comeing with them but then they dont call me to tell me what time they are goign an dthen they call me in the movie and say oh we forgot about u sorry i forgive them and now shes like getting on my nerves adn its not fair how they ditch me every time and they are supposed to be my bfflas and they arent really??i have no clue what my question is but why are they still mad at m ei have not done wronge to them even in the fight it was them ganing up on me!some friends riight?
You best bet is to drop these so called friends. I wouldn't trust them whatsoever. Ditching you nuemerous times is not something a friend does. I especially would not tell them any of your secrets, they seem to be the time that would tell everyone. I'm sorry you have not found a good friendship with these two, but you really should start searching for some elsewhere. I hope I helped and good luck. Let me know if there is anything else you need.
ABL
For Valentine's day, I was thinking of getting M&M's in red and pink and personalized. Well I went on the website, and the total comes to $47. I looked and it's so expensive because it automatically orders you a quantity of 4 7 oz. bags. Has anyone ordered personalized M&M's and know what I'm talking about? Is there any way to just get 1 7 oz. bag? Thanks for the help!
I tried to go on there as well and buy some myself. However, you cannot buy anything less than 4. It says the minimum amount is 4 bags, which really sucks because I don't want to spend 47$ on candy, I wouldn't even need but half a bag so there is really nothing you can do except buy all 4. Sorry it wasn't what you wanted to hear.
ABL
what does it mean when a girl "queefs" ?
I hate to say something like this because it is rather digusting to me but.. Well, from what I've been told, it's when a girl, I guess you could say, "farts" out of her vagina. I could be wrong, but I only know what I have been told.
Hope I helped.
ABL
I have extremely short hair, but with the way I got it cut, it didnt look like i wanted, and now it resembles a bowl cut, which is icky, considering i'm female and 14.
ok, well, i want a cut similar to the one i'll post below, except my hair's a LITTLE too short for it, not like extremely short, it'll be long enough for the cut in about a month, but i need suggestions on a hairstyle similar to it until then. any ideas?
the pic;
http://a258.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/103/l_bd060f9f3b981fb342a70ec29458c431.jpg
Some hair suggestions I found:
1. http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/a/h/short15.JPG
This one I like except for the weehoo she has sticking out, it's a simple hairdo and easy to manage.
2. http://www.hairstylesdesign.com/gallery/fiche.php?id=65
I like this one a lot, if your bang is long enough, I'm sure it would fit you.
3. http://www.short-hair-style.com/keira_knightley_short_hair.html
Keira Knightley's hair looks good styled this way.
I hope this helped, I looked through a bunch of sites and these were the three best.
Feel free to e-mail me, info is in my column, for more help.
ABL
im 14/gurl.
So..there is an upper classman i like and he likes me...i think. He flirts with me, tickles me. And I text him, but for some odd reason he will only at times text back for the first 5 minutes and quits. He isnt a good communicator really. And he recently told me there is something wrong. Like I have no idea what it is. He wouldn't tell me. He said it hurts too badly for him to explain. And I asked him if I could help. (This was on aim) and i think he got kinda mad and said YES and off. And he hasnt texted me in days. And I'm worried about him. I learned today that he isnt mad at me, but i am still confused and worried about him. I have no clue what do do. I mean I like him. And I think he likes me to certain limits. He wants to hang out with me but ive been kinda busy lately. I don't know if he even cares.
As for his problem, I think you should confront him in person, preferably alone we all know guys get weird around other people, and ask him what is wrong and be persistent, no matter if he gets mad. If he doesn't tell you, maybe there isn't anything wrong and all and he just wants you to feel sorry for him.
As for wanting a relationship, I wouldn't bother with someone who is older, they mostly cheat but if you think you can trust him and he wants a relationship, by all means go ahead.
I hope he confides in you and tells you his 'problem', if there is one. Not to sound mean about anything, I just have a lot of experience with guys who act like that and half of them fake it, half of them don't. Anyways, good luck and I hope I helped. If you need anything else, feel free to go to my column or my site and/or e-mail me. Info is on column.
ABL
Background Info: I have never had a boyfriend, but the reason is because the guys that HAVE asked me out have been known to be cheaters, and stuff, and the ones I WOULD say yes to if they asked me never do.
So I doo hook up with a lot of boyyss. But the thing is, I realllyy want a boyfriend. And all the boys that I do hook up with, I could imagine dating them. I like "fall in love" really quickly, and quickly fall for a boy. Like right now I like some kid I haven't even met yet, but we met through a friend on FaceBook. Oh yeah, and my friend is setting me up with her neighbor, and hes super cute, and I know he will hook up with mee (Oh yeah hook up as in like kissing no sexx) anyways I'm like already picturing after hooking up. THIS IS NOT NORMAL!! Ahhhhh hahha what should I do this is reallyy bad!
First off, be carefull who you hook up with. It is also perfectly normal to, I guess you could say, 'look forward' to what you think will happen. However, if you don't think he is looking for a relationship, I wouldn't bother, if all he wants is a make-out session and possibly more, don't do it. I know from experience if you go around making out with guys your just gonna get a bad reputation. I know guys, they will say they did even more.
If it's a relationship you want, go for the good guys not the ones who just want to hook up and if you think this guy wants more than just a hook-up night, then by all means go ahead and try it out. If he tries to go all the way with you, don't let him especially if it's not what you want.
Good luck, I hope this helped.
ABL
If you need anything else check out my column and go to my webbie and if you'd like to e-mail me.
Okay, my best friend sister is prego. she i guess 6-7 months.who really gives a fuck!.my boyfriend used to go with her.he 21.she is 18.he stay over there house.thats how i met him anyway.basically being over there cause thats the chill spot or whatever.believe me it is complicated and shit.her mom.everybody calls moms.she knew binky(marcus-my boyfriend) went out with her daughter in the past and shit.her daughter the prego one walked around talking bout him and shit she'd be like Binky and RENEE(his best friend-ride or die)is still fucking.she was telling me this when me and binky was together and shit.I didnt get why she would say that shit.but she did.She be like the only reason RENee would mean mug her is cause binky would stop paying attention to her.and end up focusing on ericka,cici,and alix(all sisters-thats where everybody hang out at.there spot).Alix is my bestie.So is Cici.Ericka cool.i guess.until mother fuckin now.Cause she'd be like.Why would Binky and Renee be arguing if nothing is going on?.Obviously there is becuase they wouldnt be fighting like a couple.Truth be told.Binky dont fuck with renee.i guess.cause they had something at first but then that shit just ended.it aint work out.or so he says.anyway.my friend just told me.binky talked to her mom about moving in with them so he could take care of ericka's baby.im like.for what?.he aint fuck her and get her pregnnt.some other dude did.the other day binky even asked her...DID YOU TALK TO DUDE AND TELL HIM YOU PREGNANT?.she said YEAH,I CALLED HIM.HE SAID HE WILL CALL ME BACK AND HE NEVER DID.well my saying would be.go find that nigga.!
best belive.no nigga would ever run from me like that.so, he aint tell me what was up.But everybody down there knows except me.Just cause im not there doesn't mean i should not know man.it should have been said to me.maybe i'd have a different opinion.but now that it wasnt said to me first.i cant trust him or her.my best friend alix is like.well she think it is good that a guy is willing to step up for another guy that aint doin his job.i told her yeah.if they was together.which they aint.binky is supposed to be with me.she over there defending him.she say she not.but she is.cause she tryna cover up with the shit like.he almighty for trying to raise ericka baby.yeah okay.im lettin that nigga go!.i dont give a fuck if he doest know if it is over or not.cause like i said before.no one told me shit when i just went down there.and the shit just happened today.make it so bad.im down there and he actin like shit aint out place.he had me fooled on some other shit.he'd be like DAMN I LIKE YOUR BODY.DAMN YOUR SEXY.DAMN I THOUGHT I WOULDVE NEVER GOT WITH CAUSE I THOUGHT U WAS WITH ANOTHER NIGGA.he had me played.i thought he was the one.when i fucked him he was like trust me and shit.i dont trust him now.and now i regret ever fucking him.im glad i aint fuck him friday.then he woulve thought he was the shit.i dont get what type of game this nigga playing neither.it bothers me.and im sure bout to approach him bout it.ima wait that shit out.and see what happens.I WILL GET EVEN.
then i talked to him.and i get why he is helpin out with the baby.
but he wants to move with them.and i dont get why.i mean.pampers,diapers,baby food.yeah okay that is helping.BUT MOVING IN? for what?.obviously he wanna be with her.that bothers me.i told him.ITS OBVIOUS YALL STILL GOT FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER.EVERYTIME I WALK UP iN HERE.YALL ALL SITTIN CLOSE.TOO CLOSE!.and he made it seem like it was nothing.he laughed cause im possibly jealous.why wont i?.not of her.eww hell no!.but the fact that she got her head layed up on your chest.lap.feet all layed across you.that bothers me!
i cant stand that shit.he was like TRUST ME.I MEAN U ACT LIKE IM FUCKING HER OR SOMETHING.IM JUST TRYNA COMFORT HER.and im like.what the fuck!.yeah if you was her nigga.
but you mines.not hers.her boo/baby daddy need to step the fuck up and COMFORT HER.not u.
I MEAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME THEIR OPINION.AM I STUBBORN AND SHOULD REALLY TRUST THIS GUY.OR JUST DUMP HIS ASS!.
Well, if I were in your shoes, I would feel the same way. In my opinion, there must be more going on with them, maybe he plans to date her in the future or possibly they are already having a sexual relationship behind closed doors, I belive you can have sex up until the 8th month, however I could be wrong. If they are ever alone in the house or just alone in a room together, it is definitely possible. There is also no need for him to move in and to help her, she clearly has family that is doing that and like you said the real father should be the one to do those things, which by the way she could sue him for child support if he does not pay it when the child is born. If he wants to help her so much, he could, I'm assuming he has a job, help buy her baby things(which is really not necessary in my opinion). It is not his place to do those things. If you want the best advice, I would say to drop him. You need someone who will respect you and understand how you feel and not be doing those things he is doing. If he really cared about you he would not be touchy-feely on her when you go over there. Like I said, dump him, its your best bet and try to find a better guy. I know you can do better, you don't need someone who is clinging to someone else like that. Anyways good luck and I hope all goes well and that you take my advice and drop him, I'm not telling you what to do I'm just saying he's not worth your time.
Once again, good luck. If you need anything else, feel free to message me again.
ABL
Thanks for the rating and yes I would love to be updated. I can read just about anything and understand it, lol. Sorry, this was the only way I could contact you back. Anyways, if you'd rather, you can e-mail me at skyyisbloo@aol.com to let me know what happens. Good luck!
Well me and my x have been talking latley and i am getting back old feelings that we used to have.
we just got back form a cheerleading comp and we flirted the whole time we both have feelings for each other but she has a boyfriend and it's been really hard for me because it's like everything that me and her used to share it's with them now and it's really hard to wacth that.she has not cheated. we have not done anything psyically we are just really good friends but i dont no if i can do that anymore because of me and her loving each other still. please i need HELP!!!
Don't be blunt with her, you will scare her off. The best thing to do is to get her to meet you in a private place where you can't be interrupted and you can freely talk without others listening in. I believe she probably still has feelings for you as well seeing as how she flirted with you. Be honest with her, don't hide your feelings and leave them in the dark. Tell her you still have feelings for her and ask her if the feeling is mutual.
If she says no.. Tell her your sorry and that you do feel the same way you used to you just thought she as well and you didn't want to keep that to yourself.
If she says I don't know.. Tell her that no matter what she decides you are there for her, which I'm sure you are.
If she says yes.. Tell her that she should tell her boyfriend the truth and that she wants to be back with you, if indeed thats what she wants which if she says yes I'm sure she probably does.
I hope I helped and I'd love to hear what happened so feel free to go to my webbie and leave a comment on my blog or email, everything is on my column page.
Good luck.
ABL
My club is trying to raise awareness about teen homelessness and we are planning to build a cardboard home as a display. do you have any ideas or suggestions on how we can put it together?
Hello, I'm glad you are doing this, it is such a great project. I have a few websites that I suggest you try:
Here is one idea: http://www.southernmomsonline.com/craftsdollhouse.html
It is a doll house but it has instructions on how to build it and such and it seems good enough, unfortunately no examples.
Here is another:
http://familycrafts.about.com/cs/homecrafts/a/blmodularhse.htm
I hope this helped you, if not try looking in your search engine for cardboard box houses.
Good luck with your project.
ABL
i go tanning in a tanning bed and i put lotion on before i tan, not lotion that helps me tan but just regular lotion. so i was wondering if i did this everytime, would i get darker faster?
Honestly, I do not believe that regular lotion will help amplify your tan. Lotion(regular) is for moisturizing the skin whereas tanning lotion is to help tan you quicker and to last longer.
Check out this site, they have great tanning lotions but are rather expensive: http://www.lotionsource.com/topsellers.html
I would suggest however not to buy a tanning lotion with bronzer in it, it will only make you appear orange.
Good luck and I'd really appreciate it if you rate my advice. Thank you.
ABL
okkay. me and my x boyfriend went out for like 5 months in 7th grade and like 3 months in 8th grade. i still like him a lot and cant ever stop thinking about him. everytime i go on his myspace and hes talking to his x.girl friends or just friends that are girls, that i dont know i get so madd and sad and jelous. and i cant seem to stop caring or even stop thinking about it. its like im obbsesive and i cant or dont want to stop likeing him. he flirts with me a lot in 7th and 8th period but its not just me its my other back and forth friend. im pretty sure she likes him its pretty obvious. his personality is like that to and when he does flirt. im not even sure if he is or not. cause of the way he just is. but i dont want to even act like it bothers me cause i dont want him to think i stilll like him that much. and he just playy around with my emotions. but people always say you can tell he "sometimes" only does it to make me mad. i dont want to stop likeing him. but im pretty sure he doesnt like me or not as much anymore. so i dont want to waste my time. but at the same time i think hes worth it. (:
so i need advice about
how to deal with this kind
of situation.
thanks in advancee.
The best advice I could possibly give to you is to move on. It maybe be hard but you definitely can. Turn the tables around on him, make him jealous by doing just the same but be better and don't waste your time dating him again. You should try to find you someone who respects you are doesn't flirt with your friend, by the way, drop this 'friend' for good and tell her off for being such a lousy person, friends don't do that to friends.
As you said, you think he is worth it, but believe me, he is not. I've been with plenty who are just like him and it's not worth the heartache.
I hope this helped and if you need anything else just check out my column and message me. If you have the time, please rate my advice, I'm trying to widen my column with a good rating so I can help more people.
ABL
so i was being impulsive and well, i went on this website and wasnt exactly well behaived. should i forgive myself and move on or what? because pictures of me are on the web and i dont know what to do.
thanks.
First important question, are you underage? As in under 18. Also, did you give out any information about yourself such as where you live or your name or number? There are a number of sexually perverted people out there who will try to find you or contact you if any information was given out.
You should try to delete those pictures off of the website. If you cannot do it yourself, try to contact the website owners. It is important that you get those pictures off of there because they will only come back to haunt you, you may not think a friend or someone you know or even family will stumble across it but they most definitely can.
I'm not trying to be mean, but from experience you should never ever take nude pictures of yourself, like I said they will come back to haunt you, they did for me and my WHOLE family saw them, yeah didn't turn out so great. However, you can prevent this by understanding what I'm saying. It is dangerous to exploit yourself on the internet.
I hope this helped and please contact me back as to refer to my questions and I'd really appreciate it if you rated my advice. Good luck and be careful what you do.
ABL
My bf and I have been together for a bit over 2 years. We are both 20 years old. We have had a really good and healthy sex drive up until about 6 months ago. He used to be able to have sex multiple times in one night, even after he orgasmed. Now he can go once, maybe, and then that is it. And when we do have sex, sometimes he has trouble keeping his erection.
Also, recently he tore his frenulum (the skin that goes from the shaft of the penis to the head - he is uncircumsized) during sex. So now it is even more difficult to have sex, if we have it at all because it is not fully healed yet.
I am a very sexual person and this is very frustrating. We have been doing other things but it is getting old and I don't know what to do. I want to bring it up but I can tell it bothers him a lot when I do. Our sex lives just aren't the same and I feel I am too young to be so bored in my sex life already. I have only had sex with him and am not interested in just breaking up with him and going out just for sex. Any advice on what we can do? I just don't know how long I can put up with this.
Men, especially young men, are very uncomfortable talking about their sexual problems. I suggest that you talk to him, embarassed or not it will help him in the long-run, and ask him to go to a doctor. There may be an underlying problem that can be much worse than you think.
It is also very possible that he may have ED, erectile dysfunction, YES, young men can have ED. The following is an article about ED in young men, http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/20061101/erection-problems-may-affect-young-men
You really need to be persistent about him seeing a doctor. I would have recommended that he go to a doctor when his frenulum tore because they would have given him medicine to help the healing process quicken.
Good luck and I hope you can convince him to go to the doctor.
Also, as for the sexual frustrations, I suggest you go to this site, http://www.discreet-romance.com/
It's great, ;)
ABL
14 F 8th grade
so theres this g uy at my school.. yeah i guess he LOOKS okayy and he comes to me with his friend every lunch to "buy chocolate" and i think TALK with me.. i just met him last week and since then he's been coming there with his little buddy along with him and try to talk to me.. and he smiles/laughs a lot because.. i dont think i think he thinks something is funny for whatever reason...
his friend keeps on saying this to me "he likes you he likes you" even right in front of his face and he doesnt care and says "will ypu mack with me?" then starts laughing with his friend. i dont know if it's a joke or what his deal is, but im tired of being confused with everything..
Does he LIKE LIKE me or what! cause i dont know what to believe! what if he was just dared by a friend and then laugh at me if i "Flirt Back" (which i probably doubt becaus ei really kinda think its a joke) theyre never serious about it.. then his friend says "give him a chance!" and many more trying to convince me to go out with him..
then the guy says "i like your butt" and "your hot.. you look like tila tequila"
by this you can tell that he likes me because of my LOOKS!?
i mean come on whats the deal here?
does he like mee or WHAT
i wanna know now!
because i do not know what to do with this guy..
oh & i asked his friend if he had a gf and he did.. and i saw him trying to hide frm her & his frnd says that he doesnt like her anymore!! And the guy agreess and nods!!
by this, you can tell that he a cheater?
Telll me what to do! help me! what do i say?
ps. i dont have a love like and i am bored with my life if your wondering
Personally, he is NOT worth your time, and you should definitely let him know it, if he cheats on his girlfriend by saying thiose things to you, you KNOW he will do the same to you. Don't risk it, especially with someone who does not respect you. You need to tell him off, personally I would go with 'Why would I waste my time with a pathetic loser like you who has no idea what he wants and doesn't have the looks to even consider flirting with me?' Thats just my opinion, however the decision is yours alone. Good luck.
ABL
17 years old/female.
i last had sex when i was on the pill in early september, i came off the pill at the end of the packet month wich was in october.
since then i have had my period twice, but i havent had my period for two months now, i get bloated every now and then, but no sign of my period.
why is this? am i pregnant?
I myself am coming off of my birth control, by the way. I found no matter what kind I use or how long I use it, it does not really help.
Anyways, to the important part. Have you had sex since coming OFF of your BC? IF so, it is very possible you are pregnant. If you have not, then it just may be your hormones or stress. Sometimes our bodies just get out of wack. Also, if you have not had sex and are still not having a period you should consult a GYN. Once I didn't have a period for over 6 monthes, yes, it worried me but I knew I wasn't pregnant.
Anyways, good luck and hope to hear an answer back soon.
ABL
ok so my best friends going out with my best guy freind
and she wants to break up with him bc she wants to fool around with other guys
and my guyfriend keeps asking me if his gf is mad at him and i told my best friend i wouldnt tell her bf but i cant lie to him ahh
should i tell him or tell her that she needs to break up with him now!??or both plz help bc i cant lie to my best friend!
First off, your friend is wrong for doing this to him, no one deserves to be treated like that, no one deserves to be lied to, therefore, I believe the best way to handle things however would to be to talk to your girl friend first. You must tell her either to break up with him or you will tell him what she is doing.
If your girl-friend does not want to tell him and therefor does not, you must be a good friend and tell your guy-friend what is going on. A good friend never keeps a secret.
Also, you should help your girl-friend, I strictly advise you to guide her to not want to fool around, there are many diseases and unwanted things you can catch from 'fooling around'.'
I hope this helped.
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my boyfriend has been bringing me down ALOT lately. all he ever talks about is how much it sucks that hes gonna lose me someday..and the other day he was like "youre gonna fall in love with someone else and i cant do anything to change it" and no matter what i said he kept going ON AND ON about it! nonstop!! then last night i called him and he told me that he was talking to ex girlfriend (shes really slutty) about when hes coming to visit and she wants to meet up with him. i didnt wanna hear that at all. then he said "YOU DONT LIKE ME ANYMORE!im such a bad boyfriend and no one likes me!" which he knows isnt true. before we hung up i said i love you like i always do, but he didnt say it back..he said "k".
well today he apoligized..and today all hes been saying is how much he loves me and how awesome i am which is obviously to make up for last night.
what should i do? does anyone have any idea whats up with him?? thanks!
My advice: dump him. Simple as that. He's more than likely cheating on you, that, or he wants you to break up with him. He's probably planning on hooking up with her anyways. So... leave him. The next time he says something rude, say, "your right, I don't like you, it's over." Well.. that's what I would say. Good luck.
i can't even belive i'm in this catagory because truth be told...well i'm not exactly a girlie-girl. actually most romance makes me sick. love songs, valentines day, "pda", etc.. i like guys but i don't like all the crap that comes along with liking guys.
is that wierd?
and now i reeeeally like this guy that...um...i don't really like. ok now i know that's wierd. he can be a snob and a people pleaser and he never really acknowledges me other than how all his friends do and that's mostly just looking at me wierd. but he is so smart(which is important to me)and talented (a musician) and in one of my classes he acts so different and kind of shy(probably because his brother's in that class...band and his brother's the drum major) and i like that side of him probably because that's when he's not showing off to his friends. but like outside that class around other people he acts different. but i do still like him...even if i don't like him.
???
is that wierd?
Guys tend to act different around their friends then when they aren't. He's definitely not the only one. You should try talking to him in your band class, if he starts to know you, there is a possibility he won't act rude or anything in front of his friends, not making any promises though. It's probably not the best thing that you fall for a guy like that. But if you must persist, do as I advised. Good luck.