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not real friends!
ok so i have been friends with this girl sence she moved her in fifth grade. and i have been frieneds with the other girl since like pre-kay and the sad thing is we got in a fight over the summer and in the middle of the school year we all made up were alll best friends well tahst what i thought but every time i wanna hang out with my best friend the one ive known since 5th grade well she says yeah and the day we are supposed to shes with my other best friend and they never tell me when were supposed to go see a movie they tell me im comeing with them but then they dont call me to tell me what time they are goign an dthen they call me in the movie and say oh we forgot about u sorry i forgive them and now shes like getting on my nerves adn its not fair how they ditch me every time and they are supposed to be my bfflas and they arent really??i have no clue what my question is but why are they still mad at m ei have not done wronge to them even in the fight it was them ganing up on me!some friends riight?
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most people dont remain friends with their childhood friends i only have one friend that i have known since i was 5. ive lost lots of friends but i have gained tons. so if these to girls are being a pain in the ass to you then they arent really good friends. From what you are telling me they dont seem to even want to hang with you and are doing it on purpose but thats just me. If you want to get down to the bottom of all this sit down just yall girls and if they refuse to talk about the problem then forget them and find some better friends because you dont deserve to be treated that way.
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It's a bit difficult to have to explain this..but the truth is that most people will not remain friends with their childhood friends throughout their lives. It would be wonderful if there was such a thing as 'best friends for life', but the truth is that as we grow and change, we become so different that the people we are don't always match with the friends we once had any more.
It sounds as though these friends are not just leaving you out of everything but they are actually trying to mess with your head for their own amusement. You could try talking to them about it, if you wanted. Take them somewhere that is neutral ground - a coffee shop or somewhere similar and just come straight out with it. Ask whether they still want to be friends with you because the way they have both been actin towards you makes you believe they do not. If they say they do, give them another chance. If they really are friends, they will come to their senses, apologise and everything will go back to normal. If they aren't....well....you will know.
Worst comes to worst, you may have to cut them out of your life as your friends. They may come back again later on, but for the time being they are only hurting your self confidence and doing their best to upset you. You don't need people like that in your life, so try to make some new friends who will treat you with more respect. Join a club or other group and you should make new friends quickly.
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i know how you feel. i went through almost the same exact thing when i was in 7th grade. i was best friends with this girl since 2nd grade. the summer before 6th a girl moved in across the street and we became best friends, until the following summer they basically did what your friends are doing to you.
the girl across the street basically turned my best friend against me and told lies about me, and my best friend didn't realize what she heard was wrong until it was too late. shes all "popular" now and we're kinda friends again, but we're never gonna be best friends like we used to.
i know it's really hard and you probably think you're doing something wrong, but chances are you're not. they're probably just bad friends. i would really consider talking to them seperately and telling them how you feel. if that doesn't help, you have to just realize they're not worth being friends with if they're gonna treat you like that and you can find better friends than them.
good luck<3briana
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bestfriends fight, forgive, fight, forgive.
try bringing another friend into yalls group because i'll just tell that three never works in any situation.
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You best bet is to drop these so called friends. I wouldn't trust them whatsoever. Ditching you nuemerous times is not something a friend does. I especially would not tell them any of your secrets, they seem to be the time that would tell everyone. I'm sorry you have not found a good friendship with these two, but you really should start searching for some elsewhere. I hope I helped and good luck. Let me know if there is anything else you need.
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