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i still like him.
okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.
thankss <3 -Amber
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half of my responce involved reading that 4 times.
I'd play the hard-to-get,roll. I have a friend who is just like this Lane guy, and the more uninterested I act in him, the more he begins to appreciate me and want me.
Letting him makeout with you[get down your pants??] may have been a mistake, if he doesn't know that you're still hurting, he thinks all is well. Guys have the emotions of a peanut.
And for your friends, you need to listen to them, but you don't need to let them rule over your decision.
YOU ARE YOU. Not Addair,Ceala or Taylor.
I think you make him wait for a 2nd chance with you. Talk to him, get him interested and wanting more, keep him on his toes for a while, make sure he knows you have self respect and refuse to go through that again.
And then date him.
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Don't start going out with him again. Not for a while anyway. He obviously isn't mature enough to handle a girlfriend, he said so himself and his actions prove it. Why risk him hurting you again? If he wants you, he's going to have to earn you this time. You can even tell him that you're sick of his games and he'll get a second chance but only if he lives up to it. If you run back to him, how is he going to learn that you're a special girl? He'll keep tossing you out and retrieving you whenever he feels like it and -that- is -not- okay.
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Well I think this boy is up and down more than a roller coaster. Sounds to me like he doesn't even know what he wants. You don't need that in your life. I think that you should tell him to take some time and decide whether he wants to be with you or not, and that you aren't going to keep waiting around for him. If he can't change his ways, I think you should be done with him. But it also sounds like you really like him, so maybe one more chance wouldn't hurt. Follow your heart, not your friends. I hope things work out, keep me posted <3
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Look, you seem like the type of person who gets a lot of guys and usually doesn’t have problems with their boyfriends.and you probably dont wanna hear about my past and all but im just going to say i can totally relate.. and no matter how bad you want to not like him something is always still there. well i know it will be really hard, and you probably REALLY wanna take him back but the past is just gonna come back and the same thing will happen again. as much as you dont want to you are going to have to move on. and find a boy even better for you who doesnt mind the way you dress and wont bail on you and will be there for you. there are PLEANTY of fish in the sea.. you just gotta go out there and show them your bait. lol... and no matter how much you wish he'd change so things could be perfect truth is, things wont really change. now i know for a little while you will regret it if you turn him down but in the longrun things will turn out a whole lot better then they would have if you went back out w/ him and he ended up breaking your heart again. well i hope i helped
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alright, if i dont get back to you tonight, i'll talk to you tomorrow
oops i accidently deleted my answer
--sorry
any updates ?
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Wow that was long lol.
Anyway Im not sure where to begin or even how to answer this. Im sure you dont want me to say this but it is really up to you. You have to really think if YOU want to and stop asking other people. Personally when I thought if that was me in your position I wouldnt go back out with him. I mean look at what he has down to you in the past, acted like a jerk on PURPOSE, didnt hangout cause what you were wearing, then a day later starts making out with you. What happens if he just loses interests again? Its probably going to hurt you even more than last time or just as much.
Im not sure of what else to say so goodluck!
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I've been in a similar situation. I dated a guy named Robert and we went out for about 2 monthes but he was a player and I couldn't trust him or anything. He begs for me to come back to him but I have a boyfriend now who means everything to me and thats all I can ask for. What I'm trying to say is that Lane is just using you.
More than likely he cheated on you throughout the relationship. I definitely advise you to just move on. It's hard to but you can. In fact, that reminds me.. Well, it's probably best if I tell the whole story so you can understand.
Well, Robert went out with my friend Christina, but only for a while. I gave Robert my number because I liked him and I couldn't resist even though I knew it was wrong. Well, we talked a lot that night and he told me he loved me, yeah right! Well, he dumped Christina about a week later for me and of course, I said yes.
After a while, his cousin, who was one of my good friends who had also liked me but was now dating my sister, told me that Robert was cheating. I didn't believe him of course but I was suspicious because he had a bad past. Well, I was with my friend Brooke, and Robert was with Brooke's boyfriend Preston and they were walking ahead of us at a strip mall and the next thing I know I see them checking out these girls and yelling at them. I yelled at Robert and said that it was over.
But of course, after a while he wanted me back and I said yes. We broke up and went back out constantly, it was a neverending thing and I couldn't take it. Well, I told him to never call me again b/c I was dating some other guy and this guy called him and cussed him out because Robert is pretty big and said he was gonna kick his "hiney" but by boyfriend was pretty big too so it would have been pretty interesting to watch but whatever, now I have nothing to do with either of them.
In other words, forget about Lane. Believe me, he's just dragging you along and is all for the make-outs and w/e else he can get out of it. Good luck and I hope I helped. Sorry it was so long.
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Oh WOW, well first off this kid sounds like a big jerk!
He wouldn't have out with you because of what you were wearing? that is VERY low you are right. Sure you and Lane will probbaly always have a little something, but going out with him again.. if he is going to treat you like this and play with your feelings? I don't think you deserve that one least. You guys have tried it and as you can tell it's not working out. You and Lane might just need sometime away from eachother by the looks of it. You need time to gather your feelings and see if you really do like him or not. I can control your feelings or tell you what to do, these are your feelings and your heart. If you think it's love, go ahead. But to me i think you and him need to not see eachother for a while. Then you can really think and see if you miss him, or your life is easier without him.
Hope this helps, and good luck (=
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did you send me this question twice? haha..
well anyways! hunnie boys are deff. confusing as you have noticed and the same thing kind of happened to me! so there was this guy that had a girlfriend and they broke up and hes always been really attracted to me and wanted to hangout and stuff but then sometimes he would totally ignore me! and then later he would be like telling me im so beautiufl and all this crap and then just me and him went to the movies and he kissed me and we started making out and stuff..and then him and his girlfriend went back out..how messed up is that?! leading someone on. but what i am doing right now is letting things cool off and just see what happens! i wouldnt really like talk to this lane kid for awhile and see if he calls you, see if he asks to hangout with you and if he doesnt then he's not worth your time and he's playing games with your mind. but if he calls you and talks to you and asks to hangout with you then i would and see how things go from there! guys act different around their friends which sucks but there isnt anything we can do about it! trust me ive been in the same exact situation as you before and i just left things alone and let the guy do all the working.
this quote reminds me of things i went through with guys and kind of sounds what your going through too..
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"he can be so nice, then so mean... he can care and protect, make you laugh, and at the same time play games with your head and after he's done with that, he'll tear your heart out, rip it into the smallest fragments known to man and leave it on the floor, while all you can do is stand there, not being able to cry because you're so numb, because you thought that there was something there, when really there was nothing but a wayward boy out to break a poor girls fragile heart, because he didnt know what he wanted"<br><br>
sweetie. guys dont know what they want! they have mixed feelings just like girls do. if you want to try things again then go for it but just watch out for YOURSELF and what YOU want. make yourself happy and dont listen to others, make your own decisions that you think will help you out in the end. but be careful with your decisions because i dont want you to get hurt in the end..but remember sometime you have to take chances and see how things work out!
i hope i helped out some and if you need to talk about any of this you can i/m me on " yeah UR the ONEx " because i can help you out more since ive been through just about everything with guys..♥
GOODLUCK.
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Goodness, That seems like a mess of a problem.
I can't tell you exactly what you should do, because I don't know you're every feeling on this.
In my opinion, I don't think you should go out with him, because he's hurt you so many times. . & he seems to be way confusing. But you know, If you really like this guy & he askes you out, and you feel like you should say Yes, Than say yes. Doesn't matter what me or your friends say. Its more important to go with your heart.
He seems like the kind of guy you'll always be pretty confused with. But you never know, he might seriously be sorry, & things will go back to the way they were. Good luck!
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